The new Chase Amante Girls Chase courses on charisma, how to touch girls, and building a bachelor lifestyle are almost here. Sign up now to know when they come out.As you may (or may not) be aware, we've got some new courses due out in just a few weeks.
I've got three of them coming out, in fact:
Each man forms his opinions on women from the women he meets. Yet not every man meets the same sorts of women — so selection bias shapes his opinions.I've talked about this a bit here and there. But today I'd like to highlight it specifically (and clearly).
You (yes you, the reader) are suffering from selection bias in the women you date.
Your opinions about women form from a subsection of all women that is almost certainly not comprehensive.
Further, even if you've experienced a broad cross section of women over time, if your seductions of late have been limited to a smaller cross section of women (and any chunk of your seductions across any discrete chunk of time will likely have been), selection bias has crept in whether you realize it or not.
Selection bias is subtle but sometimes insidious. It can lead men to sweeping, inaccurate beliefs about women they don't realize are inaccurate at a broad scale.
Right now, I'd like to highlight how selection bias in dating works, to help you be aware, and allow you to shield yourself from the downsides of this mental glitch we all possess.
Dominant, sexually attractive men take up space in their environments and touch the things around them. They look cool, comfortable, and confident where they are.I was at the gym yesterday (my condolences to those of you in areas where they have barred your gyms and locked you in your homes). In between workouts I was doing my usual arm movements to stay limber, or leaning on equipment/benches for a breather.
I noticed a lot of guys in between sets would just kind of stand around, or maybe sit somewhere. The effect was I ended up commanding more of the space around me than these guys commanded around them.
This wasn't something I was doing intentionally. I don't really care if people think I'm an ALPHA MALE in the gym. The gym I go to is fairly hardcore and there aren't a lot of women there (so it's not like I'll be picking up there... though I do also like gyms that are good for pickup).
The observation got me thinking about something I always tell guys to work on with their fundamentals, but hadn't talked about in a while: take up space and touch things in your environment.
This is something that all dominant men do, usually without thought.
It is a very visible cue to a man's personal feeling of comfort in and control over his environment. You can just look at whether a guy is doing this to very rapidly figure out how 'at home' he is wherever he is and whether he feels like it's 'his' environment.
Women look at this too, and it influences their attraction to you.
Real time strategy game (RTS) and seduction have some surprising overlap. Success in both comes from strategy: both macro and micro.Hey guys. Welcome back.
Today I will share an interesting but different article. I think it will be a fun read and quite useful.
I’ve always loved Real-Time Strategy (RTS) video games, like Age of Empires, Starcraft, and Warcraft III.
This article and its successor will focus on the lessons I’ve learned from playing those games. Plenty of lessons from RTS games apply to seduction. If you read through this article, you’ll see what I mean.
So, whether you’re an RTS nerd like me or not, you’ll find this a pleasant and insightful read.
Disclaimer: In no way am I advocating guys stack pizzas and sodas on their gaming desk and indulge in RTS games in their parents’ basements in the hope of becoming great seducers. That’s not how the seduction game works. Lack of socializing will negatively affect your success with women. You must still go out and meet people, especially women. There is no other way to get good at pickup and seduction.
In this post, I’ll share a parallel with RTS games that exemplifies the importance of field experience and actually doing it (playing in RTS games and meeting women in seduction).
What's it take to succeed at online dating? A simple opener. Concise messages. Movement toward the date. Plus 4 other crucial steps.Hey guys, welcome back!
In this follow-up to my original article, I’ll discuss how to make online game work for you.
If:
You’re practicing cold approach but can’t figure out how to fit online game into meeting women
You’ve tried online but didn’t achieve much success
this article is for you.
If you take her from the setting you seduced her in to one that’s very different, you risk disrupting your seduction. Keep an eye on environments as you pull/change venues.One of the biggest mood-killers in a seduction is when the setting changes.
Every guy who's been around the seduction block has encountered this during transitions.
You meet a girl somewhere (let's say at a bar), and the vibe is great. She's connected with you, laughing with you, the flirtation is strong. There's a strong sexual vibe.
Then you take her out of there. You go to a diner. The two of you chill. The vibe comes down.
You head out onto the street to hail a ride back together. "You know what, I'm just going to go home I think," she tells you.
You try to get her to stick around: "No, no! The car's almost here. We'll just go back for 30 minutes. It'll be a great time, I promise."
But she bails anyway.
What happened?
You know (you could feel it) that if there'd been some way to shag this girl in the bar you met her at, she would absolutely have been yours.
However, there wasn't. You tried taking her to the diner, then home, and somewhere along the way things lost steam.
This will not always happen. Sometimes you can maintain the vibe across settings.
Nevertheless, if you want to maximize your odds to get the girl, keep the setting constant.
When your girlfriend (or wife) starts bringing up feminist talking points, you need to know how to respond. Here’s how to defuse these and get your relationship back on track.This is going to be a somewhat in-depth article, with a deep look at the full (i.e., millennia- and civilization-spanning) history of feminism.
The purpose is to give you a broad, complete, and meta-view of what feminism is, how it arises, and what its function is in a civilization, so you can break out of male-female power struggles and get the women in your life to take a sweeping historical view of feminism as part of a natural cycle, rather than a more basic/low level "Fight the patriarchy! Permanent progress for the first time ever!" view.
Before we get to the real history of feminism though, first let's talk about why you'd need to talk a girlfriend or wife out of feminist leanings.
No matter your political beliefs, it is a self-evident fact that there is a certain branch of feminism that is toxic to male-female relations.
Some feminist views are fine, and not all of it is bad. However, there is a very vocal chunk of it that is acidic to happy relationships.
There are two tried and tested ways to approach a mixed group. One is to wait for the opportune moment. The other? Mystery Method.Hey guys, welcome back.
Last week we discussed mixed groups and the tendency guys have to immediately assume that any men interacting with girls must be part of their group, when they could have met the girls that same night.
You can’t assume all men in a club will spend the entire night idle. Some approach girls eventually (especially after binging booze — if you’re able to do the same somewhat sober you’ll enjoy a significant advantage).
In my experience, most men don’t cold approach much (unless drunk) in bars and clubs, but it still happens. Cultural differences can play a part. In some more social cultures, men walk up to talk to girls more often.
What if you happen to belong to a culture where that is not the norm? It could be that the guys with the girl you fancy know each other. But does that mean they’re part of the same group?
Your first time in bed goes a long way toward determining whether a woman sees you again. But it’s not about your technical performance. It’s about how you make her feel.I'm seeing a lot of cases recently where guys are laying girls, giving mediocre performances in bed, then not being able to get those girls out again.
They message them for a while, and the girls message back less and less enthusiastically, less and less frequently.
Eventually these girls drop off their radars altogether.
There are some common themes I'm seeing in both why these girls drop off and why the guys in question can't get them back.
I started this article wanting to talk about follow-up strategies, and I may get around to that.
But as I got into it, it occurred to me that really the core problem is how guys are behaving with women in the bedroom.
So instead, in today's article, I want to give the reader some tactics he can use to reverse this trend in his own seductions, in the bedroom, and retain more of the women he takes to bed.
Plan a date together, before you leave her side, to raise the odds she shows up for it later. Use a few date-maximizing tricks to stack things in your favor.Usually when we talk about how to ask a girl out, I tell you to keep it as simple as possible:
The reason is because in general I think the simpler your processes are, while still being effective, they easier they are to learn, the easier they are to remember, and the easier they are to stick to when there's a lot of other stuff going on.
However, what if you're a more intermediate guy, or advanced?
What if you want another way to reduce flakes and up the odds girls show up on dates with you?
Enter joint date planning, a surefire method to slash your flakes and up your date turnout.
Best of all, it's not something you need to fumble your thumbs with doing over messages -- you'll do it right there in person with the girl when you meet her, before you ever leave her side.
