Insights from the Mind of a Seducer

Compassion as a Weakness, Compassion as a Strength

One of the most important journeys of the more experienced seducer is reaching the point where he embraces true compassion for women.

This is different from the emotion less experienced men feel, where they want to suck up a girl into their world and take care of her and provide for her, and it’s different from the emotion you feel as a more seasoned seducer, when you want to provide her with leg-tremblingly incredible sexual experiences.

It means to be able to do those things when appropriate but also recognize when NOT to do them.

A less dogmatic and more intuitive understanding of what her life is like as a woman requires the ability to differentiate between doting on a woman, and helping her be independently happy; to stop overruling her own thoughts and desires simply to fulfill yours; to stop being inflexible with your frame, even when you might actually be wrong. Truly compassionate men pay attention to these details, and they don’t push them off to the side for an easier journey.

Learning to mind this balance – being the powerful, effective man who is able to bring the things and women he wants into his life, to provide incredible experiences to the people around him, and to command and demand attention, while at the same time being mindful of the power you wield and developing the ability to wield it responsibly and judiciously – is one of the greatest lessons for the advanced student of the social arts.

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Today I will be introducing you to four rules that will help you identify the fine line between real compassion in seduction and pretense.

The “I’m Glad I’m Not the Only One Who…” Conversation Starter

By: Mateo Navarrete

The #1 thing men ask me when it comes to meeting girls is, “I don’t know what to say! What should I say to get a girl intrigued enough to even want to have an interaction with me?!”

When it comes to attracting a woman, you may be familiar with the phrase, “It’s not so much what you say, but more how you say it that matters.”

This is why I attempt to focus on the “how” (read: “fundamental” behaviors) and “why” (read: “fundamental” beliefs and strategies) of communication and attraction, albeit sometimes the concepts may seem rather abstract.

Some of the ideas I share start off very abstract in the beginning, and over time become more concrete, while other concepts start off very concrete and then become more abstract over time.

On this note, to prepare us for what we are about to learn today, let’s quickly review what we’ve learned so far:

We hold the moral-high ground so there’s no need to feel ashamed of approaching a woman who attracts our attention (Creep-Shame Culture). No (eligible) woman wakes up thinking, “I don’t want to get swept off my feet today”, so there’s no harm in making (inevitable) mistakes when attempting to do this very thing with a woman to whom you are attracted.

Discovering the answer to 3 simple questions (The 4 Types of Women) gives us an effective destination towards which to guide the interaction. Obviously the first step in getting somewhere is knowing where to go!

An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, so by focusing on our fundamentals and essentials (in regards to voice, eye contact, body language, etc.) the occasions when a woman doesn’t look at us will become less frequent. We understand why it occurs, as well as how to handle the situation (Looking at Women, and Getting Them to Look Back) by appealing to her other senses (besides just her sense of sight) in order to successfully gain her attention.

Now that we have all those abstract ideas internalized, let’s focus on something more concrete and fun: learning EXACTLY WHAT TO SAY to a girl when you first approach her!

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Today is Part One of my Basic Conversation Outline series. In this article you are going to:

Discover why building a conversation outline is important to your success
Acquire a conversation starter you can use right now
Learn how to customize it to fit any situation you happen to find yourself in

Let’s get right to it!

“Get Laid on Tinder” System Available To Own NOW

By: Chase Amante

laid on tinder I’m really, very, extremely excited to let you know that Colt’s Tinder system is now available for purchase, and his final presentation on his methods (and the system itself) is up:

↬ Colt’s Tinder System + Final Presentation

Just in case you haven’t been following along:

Tinder’s just about the most promising, fruitful place to meet women we’ve seen in ages
Tinder’s also a NEAT place to meet women because it doesn’t just have the crazies and bargain-barrel chicks on it like you see with most online dating sites / dating apps, but – because it’s “trendy” and an “in” thing to do – it actually has scads and scads of attractive, sexy, regular girls on it too. And while some of these are looking for Instagram followers, many of them are extremely curious about seeing what all the noise is about and going on some Tinder dates (and a lot of them already are doing this)
Colt plowed 500 hours last year into decoding the rules of the game on Tinder and building a complete end-to-end system for himself (and now you, if you want it) to basically pipeline women by the dozens off the app and out into person, and from there into his bed
I’ve been working with Colt since last May or so on fleshing out the details of the program, and the past month has basically been nothing but Tinder for me – I personally pulled out all the stops to make sure this was as useful, and also beautiful, product as we could possibly create for you

Is She Interested? 8 Signs She Definitely Is

By: Colt Williams

People in the seduction community make a lot of talk about IOIs, or “indicators of interest”. Indicators of interest are subtle hints that girls may drop – often subconsciously – in order to demonstrate their romantic and/or sexual attraction toward a man.

But the term “indicator of interest” makes this whole process sound entirely too scientific, as jargon in any niche field can. At some point, in order to master any craft, you have to get past the jargon and get back to what is simple. And in the case of women, what is simple for men is asking themselves the question: “Is she interested?”

At the end of the day, that is all we want to know. Is she interested or not?

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Many men waste a lot of time on girls who lead them on, are attention whores, or are just too nice to reject them directly.

Because, as we know, most of us men need very direct communication – i.e., firm rejection – in order to relinquish our pursuit of a girl we fancy. But once we get that firm rejection, or are pretty certain that she is not interested, then we usually will move on.

However, most girls are far too nice to deliver such a blow. Or at least they think they are being so. So it is up to us to figure out if they are interested. And although it may seem somewhat difficult at first, it can be much more obvious than it appears once you learn to look at the signs. And once you become more attuned to the signs, you will be able to pick up on them without even trying. You will even be able to observe them in the dynamics between other people.

So is she interested? Well, by the time you’re done with this post, you should never have to ask yourself such a question when thinking about a girl you like. You will just know. And what is more: you will not only know, but you will also have the power and confidence to act. So let’s get to it.

Deep-Diving and Childhood Regression

By: J.J. Jones

Childhood stories and memories are some of the most ingrained, pleasing thoughts that a person’s mind can evoke in life. It is merely human nature to attempt to relive things from a distant past that were pleasurable or peaceful. Although we have but a vague recollection of these events at the surface, they’re rooted far into the depths of our unconscious.

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It is for those reasons that spurring a woman to recall all of these old feelings and thoughts will arouse deep-seated emotions in her that will not only spin her off into fantasy land, but will also create a very strong connection between the two of you.

And yes, I am aware that when we talk about psychoanalytical things and relate them to attracting women many guys shake their heads in disbelief. But, before you cast this one off as mere “hocus pocus”, I recommend giving it a thorough read-through and letting it digest first.

There is truth in science, and why not learn a bit about the dynamics behind deep-diving a girl on her childhood experiences?

How to Host an After-Party (That Gets You Laid)

By: Alek Rolstad

Hi there, how is everybody doing? Today I will write my last post on logistics for a while. Previous posts in this series can be found here:

Although I find the topic of logistics very interesting and useful, I feel that it is now time to change it up and discuss something else. I will round it off by continuing on from last week, where we discussed how you could screen for good after-parties and get laid at them. Today we will discuss how to host an after-party (and one that gets you laid, at that).

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Different “attraction building” techniques – i.e., techniques for making women attracted to you at after-parties – will not be the topic of this post because the techniques for making women attracted to you are the same for most situations. So most of the techniques taught by me or anyone else on this website can be used.

Yes, there are certain “special” techniques you can use at after-parties such as funny group games and so on, but I have decided to make this post only about logistics, as this is where after-parties differ from other types of game.

Trust me when I say this: logistics are often more important than building attraction.

If you have your basics in check, it is almost guaranteed you will get laid with the strategy I am about to give you.

It is recommended, though not required, to read my previous post on after-parties. Some of the points listed there can be useful when applying the system I am about to share. It might also be wise to check out my other posts on logistics as well.

Now, let us begin with some basics.

Looking at Women... and Getting Them to Look BACK

By: Mateo Navarrete

In my experience, the power to command the attention of all eyes in a room is more a learnable skill than a natural talent.

And in reality, you can effectively internalize any skill and turn it into a “natural” habit. So the argument that “either you’ve got it, or you don’t” is simply inaccurate.

Just to be clear: if you don’t have it (yet), you can still get it (soon).

However, commanding the attention of everyone in the room is outside the scope of this article, and although that skill would indeed be helpful, in this situation we will focus on how to gain the attention of one person in particular: that beautiful woman who has enamored you, and, for whatever reason, is not returning your gaze.

looking at women

To deal with this situation of how we look at women and get them to look back, we break it down into two parts:

Pre-Interaction Communication
(During the) Interaction Communication

Let’s start by taking a closer look at what we can do before this situation even occurs.

How to Handle Awkward Girls (Who Get Nervous and Antsy)

By: Colt Williams

awkward woman Chase’s amazing year-in-review really got me thinking about my own year. It was a fantastic year of growth, development, lessons… and women. I always find it to be a very interesting exercise to look at my year through the lens of women. “Which girl was I hanging out with this month? What challenges did we have? What adventures did we go on? What did I end up learning from the situation? What did I learn about myself?”

These are all valuable questions that seem to arise somewhat naturally when engaging in this exercise. So even if your year only saw two girls, and even if you may have done nothing but make out with them, still, think about how you changed and grew because of these situations.

Going into the year, I knew that one of my greatest challenges was dealing with a certain type of girl. I have a pretty strong personality; I like to make my presence known and I am not afraid to be loud and silly. So I tend to look for girls who are strong, independent, and quick-witted. That being said, I have learned that you can find these attributes in girls who are not necessarily the most extroverted.

So in thinking about how I could improve my seduction skills, I really wanted to challenge myself to see how I could be better equipped to deal with girls who possessed these attributes yet who just happen to be awkward.

I have never done well with dealing with awkward people; mirror neurons are some powerful things, and when you can clearly tell that someone is made somewhat (or fully) uncomfortable by one’s presence, no matter how socially adept you may be, it definitely starts to make you somewhat uncomfortable as well.

But some awkward girls are attractive, smart, and genuinely nice people. So I really asked myself over the first few months of last year: how can I overcome this challenge? How can I better connect with awkward girls who are not so socially savvy?

I asked many friends and colleagues about my challenge. And as I found myself in various social situations throughout 2014, I endeavored to push through my discomfort and actively engage with awkward girls as much as possible instead of excusing myself from the interaction as I had normally been accustomed to doing.

And the results were certainly interesting. So how do you deal with awkward girls? This is what I learned.

Tinder Webinar #3: Post-Sex Retention

By: Chase Amante

Colt Williams’s Tinder Webinar #3 is now online (and if you’re on the launch list, you should’ve already received the link). This is the last short webinar before we release the complete Tinder system presentation and open up the cart this Tuesday, January 20th.

How to Use After-Parties to Get Laid

By: Alek Rolstad

Due to all the great feedback I have received in my previous posts on logistics, I decided to keep writing about the topic. It was requested that I write a post on after-parties, so that is what we will be discussing today.

For all of you who haven’t checked out my previous threads on logistics, you should do so:

Logistics, although not always the most interesting topic in seduction, is one of the key basics most men struggle with. Many men know a lot about seduction yet don’t get any results (that is, they don’t have sex with women) and in many cases, this is due to their lack of logistical knowledge and control.

Put it this way: you can easily get laid if you are not attractive when you have good logistics, while it is hard to get laid if your logistics suck.

Today, we will be discussing after-parties. And as promised, this post is not about hosting after-parties in a “college” context, but in all types of scenarios. This post will give you a few key pointers on how to host an after-party, but the main topic of this post is how to get laid at after-parties.

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For those of you searching for a comprehensive guide on how to host after-parties, be patient, as it is the topic of my next post.

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