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How to Get Started Improving Your Looks

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By: Darius Bright

This article is inspired by a superb piece Chase wrote recently: “How to Get Started at Picking Up Girls”.

Indeed, just like with pick up, it is quite easy to get overwhelmed by the amount of information that is supposed to help you improve your looks.

You will read advice like “make sure your clothes fit right”, “wear monochromatic colors”, “wear bolder colors”, “add contrast”, “avoid contrast”, “choose colors based on your skin tone”, “invest in a good pair of shoes”.

And if you’re brave enough to step into online communities that focus solely on men’s style you’ll find an even more confusing situation of names dropping and brand obsessing that for an outsider might seem even a bit snobbish (and indeed it sometimes is).

The funny thing is, such advice (even if it seems contradictory) is often technically correct and can lead to great results in certain situations.

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But the problem is that unless you had some positive and style-savvy influences in your life – friends, women, etc. – who can show you what actually looks good on you, how proper fit should feel like, what colors go well together it is a very daunting journey to start on. This is especially true for guys who live outside fashionable cities, in locations where wearing basketball shorts and flip flops is considered an “okay casual look”.

I tried to address this issue in the last article “6 Outfits That Will Help You Look Sexy” and Chase wrote a superb primer for men’s style that covers most important points.

Today, I’d like to fill one more gap in the knowledge – the part that goes before you go out shopping or decide what you’ll be wearing on a night out. We’ll cover mindsets and healthy habits that should be developed.

But don’t be fooled, this won’t be a feel-good article that you will read and forget the next day; I will invite you to do some hard thinking every step of the way, so that by the end of this guide you will clearly know what needs to be done in your unique situation.

Over-Gaming, and Losing Girls You Should’ve Got

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By: Chase Amante

over gameOne topic I’ve found coming up a lot recently in discussions with guys on the boards and in real life is that of avoiding what I call ‘over-gaming’... when a guy just spends too much time trying to convince a girl he is attractive enough, or that she should come with him, instead of just leading and making it happen.

If you’ve fully internalized some of the basic concepts on here already, like:

... there won’t be much new for you in this post.

However, if you’re still not firing 100% on all cylinders, this’ll give you another perspective at looking at an issue that guys in the intermediate level on up run into quite commonly.

How to be Optimistic: 5 Steps (You Must Take)

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By: Colt Williams

Last week I wrote a post about How to be Passionate. That post was focused on becoming passionate with women, with work, and with life in general by generating an internal understanding and system in order to bring about greater awareness, curiosity, and appreciation for life.

So it’s only natural that I follow that post up with one on how to be optimistic. It seems that optimism has taken over the general zeitgeist of the West (perhaps even to a fault), and that literature, teaching, and educational/inspirational talks are all focused on the power of optimism and how to become optimistic yourself.

How to be Optimistic

Although I do not believe that optimism is a cure-all for any state of existence, it has been proven that people who are optimistic tend to be more successful in life and generally healthier in body as well. And it doesn’t really hurt to have the ability to look at a situation and learn and grow from it.

So today I want to talk about how to become optimistic. And don’t worry, this won’t be one of those “feel-good” kinds of posts where I just stroke your ego and tell you how special you are. We will discuss real practical steps and mindsets (as I always do) in order to boost your sense of optimism and general life satisfaction.

How to Get Threesomes with Girls You Know

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By: Alek Rolstad

Today we will be talking about one of my favorite topics: threesomes. I will share some basic principles that are key in making one happen: we will discuss some inner game issues, requirements, and the pre-work necessary for such an endeavor.

Threesomes

Keep in mind that this post is only an introduction to threesomes, so it will only cover the basic principles. I will in the future write more advanced posts on the topic. But for now, this post is suited for intermediate to advanced players.

What we will cover in this post is how to set up a threesome. We will not discuss spontaneous threesomes, such as when you meet two women at the pub and hours later end up in a threesome with them, as that is more advanced and we need to learn how to walk before we can run. If you still would like to read more on spontaneous threesomes, check out my threesome report here.

After covering the basics, I will use a real life example to discuss the steps to making a threesome happen. And you’ve already guessed it – the real life example is the continuation of my last lay report, the one where I used a sexual frame to get crazy sex from a woman fast.

In this post we will continue the story as I met with Tessa and her friend for a potential threesome. I will of course explain the process step by step.

Enjoy!

Want Dates? Then Approach Girls

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By: Chase Amante

I’m staying with Colt out in Denver right now, and we had an interesting conversation yesterday in which he mentioned that some of his friends read Girls Chase religiously, then go out to bars and refuse to approach girls at all.

The way he phrased this to me specifically was to ask me: “What do you do when you have friends who are trying to go the whole James Bond GC approach and look super cool but never approach?”

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So, yeah, I get this. Approaching’s no fun. It opens you up to potential public embarrassment, since you’re going to get rejected more often than not. Worse, if your ego’s feeling a little fragile, or there are people around you’d like to think well of you, that ego or that impression might take a hit if you go out there, walk up, say ‘hi’, and get shot down.

But if you want girls, you have to approach girls.

The “super suave James Bond who just chills at the bar sipping a martini and just waits for girls to open him” is a kind of funny seduction myth that it’s nice to imagine yourself inhabiting.

However, it’s a myth, and no more. Not even Bond himself does it – his approaches are cool, and smooth, but he makes them.

This is something I see guys who are newer and even guys a bit more advanced doing. Most guys fall into it sometimes. I fall into it sometimes. “I’ll just wait here until girls gravitate to me and then dating and sex will happen.”

But nothing happens if you don’t approach.

When You Should React vs. When You Should Not

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By: Chase Amante

Being unreactive to challenging situations is often the strongest option available to you. When a girl is testing you hard, someone is publicly belittling you, or things are just generally going crazy and spiraling out of control, the most nonplussed, nonchalant man typically wins: he shows dominance, control, and unflappability.

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However, sometimes the calm of unreactiveness must be set aside, and situations simply need dealing with.

Sometimes the girl testing you needs to be set straight; sometimes person belittling you needs to be put in his place; sometimes the crazy situation requires you to place both hands on the wheel and make things sane again.

If you react in situations where remaining unreactive is ideal, you violate the Law of Least Effort and appear tryhard; yet, if you fail to react in situations where your reaction is sorely needed, you seem weak, fearful, and indecisive.

That makes things necessarily a bit trickier, because there isn’t a perfect one-size-fits-all response to every situation; sometimes it’s better to not react, other times better to react.

To know which one is called for, you must have a read on the specific situation... and you must be able not to bow to social pressure.

How to be Passionate

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By: Colt Williams

The big mantra in the West is “Find your passion”. Every person is constantly telling you that if you don’t live and work passionately then you will never have a truly fulfilling life. However, living a passionate life can be harder than it seems.

How to be Passionate

People who live with passion seem to have some sort of secret to vivacious living that other people do not.

But rather than this being a post on how to find the work you’re meant to do, we will instead be examining why passion is so highly valued to begin with. It’ll answer the question: why does everyone laud passion and passionate people to such a high level?

And after that we will outline how to be passionate in every area of life – especially with women.

The Trouble with Mega Clubs

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By: Chase Amante

One of the first places guys seem to go when they decide they are going to really knuckle down and get good at night game is to the local mega club.

These places beckon like the meccas of pickup: the hottest girls, the wildest crowds, the biggest DJs, the coolest atmospheres. They’re virtual smorgasbords of women dressed to the nines just waiting for the right man to come along and sweep them off their feet. And if you’re a guy with any social status in the nightlife scene at all, you have to be here.

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In most of the cities I’ve traveled to and lived in, these tend to be the places where most of the guys who are looking to pick up girls head to. And most of the guys you ask about venues will point you their way:

You: Where should I head to if I want to meet a girl tonight?

Guy: To XYZ Mega Club, of course!

Yet, there’s a problem you will notice if you spend enough time in these places.

That problem is that they are absolutely brutal venues to meet women in, and you will almost always fail – and quite miserably, at that.

Picking Up a Girl in a Gay Bar: A Report

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By: Alek Rolstad

As promised, here is a lay report for you to enjoy. I have in the past shared two reports, one about a hard night out resulting in a lay and another about a “one-night threesome”. The post is a hybrid between being a guide and an entertaining story. People seem to enjoy these reports so I figure, why not keep writing them?

Keep in mind, in this post you will see how I do things. Again, there are many ways to seduce women and each method has its pros and cons. It all comes down to:

  • Your personality: Some methods fit better for some personalities than others.

  • Your situation: Where are you picking up women and what type of women are you most likely dealing with?

  • Your goals: Are you seducing women for a bang only, or do you want a deeper relationship with them? Or maybe you are like me and only seek the best sex?

In this report I use strong sexual game. This is the way I do things. You will see how it all works out. I will also in this report explain why I do certain things and give you rational explanations for all my moves. Hopefully this will exemplify what a successful seduction looks like (in the “sexual game” style) and hopefully you’ll learn a few things from it!

5 Beliefs of the Successful Player

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By: Drexel Scott

successful playerBefore I begin, it is necessary for me to clarify what type of guy this article is intended for.

There are those on the path of wanting to learn Game to find their ideal girlfriend or wives.

Then there are those on the path of wanting to enjoy many women over the course of their lives, maybe upgrading a few to “relationship” status as time goes on.

This article is for the latter; guys with a high sex-drive who wish to indulge fully in as much sexual variety as their circumstances and skill levels allow. This won’t be about how to pick up girls in terms of things to say or do or what to wear. Rather, this is an exploration of the beliefs of the successful player: what’s going through his mind – the foundation on which rests his entire approach to seduction.

After my last article about what it means to be a Man in our society, many of you indicated that you’d like to delve deeper into that concept – that concept of reclaiming our lost masculinity. Well, part of being a Man is thinking like a Man, and successful Men share similar beliefs.

These are in no particular order, as they are each as important as all the others. Here we go…