Note
from Chase: Richard is one of
our more active members
right now on the Girls Chase discussion boards.
He recently put a post up on expectations that was quite good, and a
number of other members of the boards suggested he submit this to the
article side of the site - and I agreed. If you like Richard's writing
and would like to see more from him, please let us know in the comment
section below.
I give you Richard.
Men new to seduction will frequently fall
short of their expectations of what is to come, at first anyway. Chase
touched on this concept in his article on lowering your standards. Now,
aspiring ladies' men often create, or set
very high, expectations for themselves early. Goals like "nail a perfect
10 early on", or "only approach perfect women" (or seemingly
perfect,
anyway). Most guys hear about the prospects of pick up, hear about the
glory, the stories, the seduction of pick up, and hear about how it
easy it can be, and immediately set high expectations.
Rather than propel them to the
vaunted halls of legendary success in their dating lives, though, these
early unrealistic standards can hem in and hobble them.
I fell to this tendency and could not
have even begun to have told you about how crippling this truly is
until today,
now that I’ve moved past it and understand the inner
workings of this twisted phenomenon, but that’ll come later.
When you set high expectations for yourself early on without having
the
proper skill to acquire them, as you start to fall short of your goals,
depression
sets in, and, oftentimes, you start to work on approaching girls and
working to improve with women less and less, and may even quit
altogether... like a couple of people I
know have.
The remedy for this though, is to step-stone
your way up to your expectations. Create smaller goals for yourself,
and work your way up that ladder. If you want to nail a 10! Start with
5s, then 6s, then 7s, and so and so forth.