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Study: Women Are More Swayed by Compliments When Non-Fertile

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women swayed by complimentsWomen in their luteal (non-fertile) phase are more swayable by some types of compliments. Which ones, why, and why not for single, fertile women? Read on…

I realize genuine interest is out of fashion in the seduction community of late (probably an overcorrection due to neo-direct). Nevertheless, this study’s too interesting to not relate.

We often tell guys “It doesn’t matter what you say. Just get talking to her!”

For the most part it’s true. For a guy who’s hung up on what opener to use, who as a result is NOT opening, it’s DOUBLY true! This guy will get way more girls using any opener than he will standing around, twiddling his thumbs, trying to come up with the perfect opener, missing girl after girl he could have spoken with.

But for guys who’re actively approaching – who were going to make the approach regardless – the opener can make an impact. It can influence how a woman receives you on the open, and even have ripple effects later on into the interaction.

That’s what we’ll discuss today.

If you’re not talking to enough girls, this article should NOT matter to you – it’s just splitting hairs in your case.

However, if you’re active in the field, it may just be of interest.

How to Transition Vibes While Seducing Girls

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transition the vibe in a seductionThe transition between vibes trips up many a man mid-seduction. But why is this so? It’s because vibe transitions must be mutual, and the man has to lead.

A short while back I wrote about transitioning from a social or sexual vibe to an intimate vibe. In the comments, Xander asked about vibe transitions in general. He gave as examples some of the difficulties he’s had trying to transition between different vibes:

Chase,

I wonder how to properly balance the use of intimate and social vibes. I have this "problem" that when I express one type of vibe, I can't do another at the same time, that is, it's very difficult when I try to combine them. Cases go like this:

1. I have a great, fun and bonding conversation with a girl. There may also be some spontaneous sexual tension. She friend zones me after all that. Since I'm already in the friend zone, further attempts to build an intimate vibe are unsuccessful because none of them want to go out with me, but a superficial acquaintance.

2. Strong sexual tension/chemistry is felt before I approach her or at the beginning of getting to know her. Because I'm so horny I can't bring myself to be super social and reach the hook up point when approaching, so interactions with these women are short lived. Also, if we are far away I can't start touching her and if we are close to each other she starts touching me "accidentally" for a while or we both start touching each other "accidentally" before she pulls away and puts up barriers.

3. After some time in the conversation, I manage to show an intimate vibe, so there is everything and an initial good conversation and an intimate vibe. However, when she feels my arousal, she starts to push back towards platonic conversation and thus destroys all sexual tension.

I have read the article in detail, but it is still not clear to me how should we balance these two vibes. Should we give preference to one? Are they used first one and then the other or both at once or both at once and then only one etc.? And most importantly, how do we create a mental state so that we can easily move from one to the other?

Xander’s problem is a common one. It’s among the more frustrating sticking points guys will have once they’ve gotten active in the field and with dating. There’s a certain vibe – a certain feel – to the interaction you’re in… but you want to change it to another.

Except when you try to do that, you fail! Or perhaps you don’t have much of an idea how to do it in the first place.

I’d like to go into a bit more detail about vibe transitions here. Let’s take this tangled, ephemeral subject and make it a bit more concrete.

Tactics Tuesdays: Personalizing Your Conversations

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personalizing conversationConversation feels flat when it stays impersonal too long. But personalizing conversation can be tricky. These 5 tips let you personalize things SMOOTHLY.

Want to build an emotional connection with someone?

You’re going to need a personal conversation to do that.

Sure, you can debate local politics or the state of Lithuanian culinary arts with your friends and have a nice, stimulating conversation. It won’t create or deepen an emotional bond, though.

Emotional bonds stem from personal topics: those about you, and those about your conversation partner. The more direct and intimate the topic, the deeper the bond you create. Yet even topics that are fairly superficial yet nevertheless still personal to one of the interlocutors do the trick.

This one weird trick (actually, I’ll show you five tricks!) for personalizing your conversations can make such a sea change in the way conversations go for you that you’ll almost never want to talk to people any other way.

The BEST Long-Term Contraceptives for Sexy Men

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best long-term contraceptivesYou’ve got a girl, but you don’t want to keep using condoms, and you don’t trust the pill. Use these 3 solutions to avoid an unplanned pregnancy with her.

Sooner or later you’re going to get into a long-term relationship, if you’re not in one right now.

When you do, you are going to run into the question of, “How do we shag a whole lot, without me always having to use rubbers, yet NOT get pregnancy scares?”

Because we can all agree: condoms suck. Nobody LIKES using condoms. It feels way better raw dogging a girl. It feels even better blasting a full load of ejaculate deep inside her at the end.

But if you’re not trying to knock her up right now, how do you avoid accidental pregnancies (or even those deliberate pregnancy traps sneaky gals will try to lock you in)?

There are various options for long-term pregnancy avoidance, but today I want to talk about the best, in my opinion, for our reading audience: sexy, powerful, self-made men.

As we shall see, the best contraceptives for sexy guys are very different from the best contraceptives for unsexy guys – interestingly enough.

How to Talk to Beautiful Girls: 2 Game-Changing Tips

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how to talk to beautiful girlsMost guys’ knees turn to jelly when they meet a gorgeous girl. There’re two secrets to talking to beautiful girls: be chill about beauty and SHOW you are.

There’s an old Mystery line that goes: “Beauty is common. What’s rare is a great energy and outlook on life.”

The line works splendidly, especially for the types Mystery most often used it on, because these types were/are in environments where they held status and were drowning in drooling male suitors. Most of the male attention they receive is men fawning over their looks. So when a cool guy casually dismisses looks as important, and challenges them to qualify themselves on something else, all of a sudden, the pattern they were in has been interrupted – and often they respond by qualifying or even starting to chase.

But is beauty really common? Actually, it is!

Starting out, a lot of guys don’t realize the commonness of beauty. They instead blow it up. They encounter a beautiful girl and their knees go weak. Then they encounter another beautiful girl and their knees go weak again. Then they encounter yet another beautiful girl and their knees go weak a third time.

The better a man can internalize how common beauty is, the easier it gets for him to approach and seduce beautiful women.

Tactics Tuesdays: Transitioning from Social to Intimate

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seduction transition: social to intimateThe switch from social to intimate vibes with a girl is tricky. It won’t always take. Girls may resist. Yet, switch right, and seduction gets smoother.

Commenting on my article “Girls Don’t WANT You to Move Slow”, James D. references my stages of a successful date and asks about making the transition from a social vibe to a more intimate one. He says

Chase,

Based off this article:

https://www.girlschase.com/article/trajectory-successful-date

My sticking point is skipping step 6.

After the arrival of sexual topics and vibe (step 5) and I go straight for step 7 (extraction)

Could you please advise on ways to move off that sticking point?

This is a common sticking point for intermediate seducers. Once you get good enough at ‘running the game’, you will find you can easily get deep into solid interactions with girls. The girl is clearly attracted to you. She is eating up your conversation. Things are looking great.

There’s just one problem: everything so far has been flirtatious, yes, there’s touch, sure – but the vibe is a conversational one. You need to switch it to a more intimate vibe. How can you do that?

James D. is doing something I did for a while too, where you decide, “Screw it, the vibe isn’t quite intimate, but hey – we’ve got a good thing going. I’m just going to push things forward and see if I can get her alone somewhere.”

It works sometimes. Other times, despite how seemingly into you the girl may be, she balks at this escalation into the more intimate when vibe-wise she wasn’t ready for it.

If you don’t want her balking, you’re going to need to make that transition a little more smoothly.

Excel at Relationships with Relationship Prizing

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relationship prizingRelationships fail if you stop viewing yourself as a ‘prize’. Yet, maintain an image as the prize of the relationship and they can remain good indefinitely.

Indulge me for a moment if you will.

I want to tell you something, but it isn’t to brag.

You see, I’m the best thing that could ever happen to a woman.

It doesn’t matter if a woman I’m seeing calls me names or acts like I’m a jerk.

It doesn’t matter if buddies of mine tell me I could treat my women “better than I do.”

Regardless what happens or people say or do, I continue to view myself as the ultimate prize for a woman. It might sound deluded or egotistical, or maybe just plain silly, but I can tell you one thing for sure: it works.

Relationships go how I want them to go. When we hit rocky points, things by and large resolve how I want. Women, no matter how annoyed at me they might get, in the end decide I’m really just an amazing guy. Often I don’t need to do anything special for them to decide that, other than just stick to the frame: I am the prize.

Friends (when not commenting that I could/should “treat women better”) tell me it’s amazing how my relationships remain good and women remain enamored with me over the long-term.

It’s not amazing to me though. I am the prize in my relationships. Why would my relationships NOT stay awesome?

When Girls Act Flakey After You Hook Up

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girl acts flakey after sexJust because a woman sleeps with you once doesn’t mean she’s yours… yet. Sometimes she may flake or ghost after sex. There exist 3 chief reasons why.

Over on the forum, a new member asked for insight on a girl he’d slept with who’d gone flakey. More accurately, in his case, she’d already been flakey before they hooked up… and merely continued to flake after it:

This girl was social circle but very fringe (I’ll get to that). We met a year ago and kicked it off one night but I didn’t attempt to escalate. Her friend told my friend she liked me and wanted to go home with me but I didn’t even go for number or anything (big miss on my part).

Despite social circle, she was fringe enough that we didn’t see each other again (except for once in passing) until 4 months ago when our friends offered to set us up. We went out and kicked it off and she gave me an escalation window but once again I didn’t sleep with, just got her number and asked her out.

We set up a date a week later and she flaked an hour before. Rescheduled 2 weeks later and it wasn’t a great date, she had plans after so no chance to escalate. She dodged my next invite so I went silent for 6 weeks and reconnected with her about 2 months ago. She seemed excited and agreed to go out.

We went out about 6 weeks ago, had a super fun night, ended up having sex (finally). I tried to parlay this into another hang out, when I asked her out again she told me she’d check her schedule and get back to me. She never did. Effectively ghosted. I saw her twice since then (ran into her in public) and both times she flirted a little but at this point I’m waiting for her to make the move.

Guess I’m just looking for some input on why she ghosted me after sex/what I can do next time to not make a girl who likes me go cold on me.

Does it seem weird that a girl would act flakey toward a guy, then sleep with him anyway?

Is it odd that after sleeping with a guy, she would continue to flake (or start to)?

Read on, and let’s discuss why this happens, and whether there’s anything you can do.

Tactics Tuesdays: Firefighting Romantic Screwups

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romantic firefightingWhat do you do when you screw up with a girl? Maybe you looked needy, or you accidentally spurned her. Either way, now it’s time for a little firefighting.

Sometimes you are going to screw up with girls.

Perhaps she told you she loves to paint and you blurted out not to quit her day job. Maybe you were supposed to meet her at 3:30 PM but for some reason you thought it was at 5:30 PM and stood her up. Or it could be she hinted for you to move things forward but you missed her signal entirely and just kept chatting with her normally until she started acting disappointed.

Hey, it happens to the best of us. We all screw up sometimes. Don’t beat yourself up too much.

Assuming you haven’t screwed up so bad that all hope is lost, however, you are going to need to firefight. But the WAY you firefight a romantic screwup is going to depend on what kind of screwup it is… how egregiously you screwed up… and how urgent the turnaround must be.

Lonely Low Value Men (in the Sexual Marketplace)

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lonely low value menLow value men struggle to get any women at all. High value women ignore them. Low value women pursue high value men for flings. Why must this be so?

Over the years a lot of guys have wandered onto Girls Chase claiming that attractive, non-slutty women are unicorns. These men say such women either do not exist, or are exceptionally rare. Other times they may claim they do exist, but have standards so high as to make them unobtainable.

My experience is that attractive, non-slutty women are abundant. In fact, my experience has been the majority of attractive women fall into the “non-slutty” category. Nor have I found these women hard to get. My big struggle in seduction early on was getting the slutty girls… I could get them sometimes, but I had a much harder time bedding these women with any consistency as a novice seducer into my intermediate years. (the issue of course was attainability. Once I fixed that, I could get the slutty girls too.)

I’m not the only guy with this perspective or who had this set of “problems” (i.e., hot/conservative girls easy to get; slutty, sexually open girls harder to get); many other Girls Chase readers and some of the seducers I’ve known have had this same experience.

What is the difference between a guy who just cannot get good-looking, non-slutty girls at all, versus a guy who struggles to get anything BUT these types of girls?

The answer is his value in the sexual marketplace – because if a man’s sexual market value is not high enough, not only will he struggle to get low value women to commit to him, but he won’t even see high value women as realistic, attainable options at all.