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Articles by Author: Chase Amante

Seductive Archetype: Being the "Prosocial Playboy"

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being the prosocial playboyIf you can’t avoid a playboy reputation, do this: be the PROSOCIAL playboy. This archetype is deeply intriguing to women – it lets you move FAST with them, too.

One of the early snags a lot of guys will run into once they start self-improving with girls is the “playboy problem.”

You get a little too slick, a little too easy with the conversation, and suddenly girls you’re talking to start telling you things like:

  • “You’re pretty good at this, aren’t you?”
  • “I’ll bet you get a lot of girls.”
  • “I’d better be careful around you.”

At first this is going to feel good. Girls are acknowledging how slick you are! But you soon realize it’s actually a sign of low attainability. The fact that she is commenting on your slickness means you are so slick it’s noticeable, and it’s making her feel like you are insincere.

To her, you’re just saying the same thing you’ve told dozens of other girls. She’s nothing special to you, she thinks, which makes her not feel good. While you do want girls to know you have options, you also want girls to feel they are special to you; sacrificing either one of these drubs attraction.

The typical advice here is to do things that defuse the playboy reputation and make you come across more sincere. Basically, to not seem like you are a player at all.

But there’s another route you can go, that you sometimes may be FORCED to go, if circumstances force you to accept that playboy reputation.

That is to accept, own it, and wrap yourself up as the PROSOCIAL playboy instead.

Tactics Tuesdays: Commandeering Girls' Frames

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commandeering her framesWhen girls try to set frames on you, rather than bust them or resist them, just commandeer them. Take her frame over and make it YOURS!

Now for a particularly devious tactic:

The frame commandeer.

This little bit of attitudinal jujitsu allows you to take control of a frame a girl attempts to set. It then puts the frame at your disposal to use to turn the pressure she attempted to use on you right back against her.

You will use this tactic with girls who are already hooked on you and attracted to you. It is NOT for girls you haven’t hooked yet (it doesn’t work then).

The more into you a girl is, the stronger this tactic works.

Let me start with an example for you.

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Tactics Tuesdays: How to Turn Your Conversations Playful

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make your conversations playfulWomen will talk to you in polite or inquisitive but often boring ways. To make it flirtation, you must inject playfulness into your chat with a girl.

Commenting on my article about dumbing yourself down to sleep with smart girls quicker, Jason H asks:

Hi Chase,
Any advice on transitioning conversation to more teasing/flirting in certain scenario's to make the dynamic more fun/seductive
- When she is focused on connection, but you want to inject some more teasing/flirting
- When she is focused on catching up/factual information such as how is this going, how are things at Y etc or other impersonal topics
- In group scenario's where it's more difficult to do this and you want to tease or flirt with a certain girl

Basically asking about identifying cues and opportunities to inject a little more teasing & fun into conversations, or strategies to direct the conversation towards more fun in a socially skilled way.

Thanks!

Sure, let’s talk about this: how do you turn your conversations playful?

Essentially, when you’re dealing with girls who are trying to connect or extract facts out of you, meanwhile you are trying to make it a playful, flirtatious conversation, what you are dealing with is a frame battle. She wants to frame the conversation one way while you want to frame it another.

I want to touch on whether it’s necessary to seize control of the conversation this way – and what can happen if you do vs. if you don’t. Then we’ll talk making your conversations playful.

The Adaptive Mechanism Behind Birth Rate Decline: Is It Group Evolution?

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what mechanism's behind the birth rate collapseBirth rates are falling around the world. Why? Also, what is the reproductive benefit to people having fewer children – or no children at all?

I just read an article titled “Pets in Tokyo. The Plague.” In it, the author writes scathingly about Tokyo’s obsession with pets, the replacement of children with pets (there are more pets than children in Japan), and the obscene amounts of money Japanese spend on these surrogate children, instead of simply having children.

I’ve been utterly fascinated with the rapid spread of infertility and childlessness across the globe in recent decades.

Ubiquitously, across nearly all societies, even those with completely different cultures, governmental setups, and geopolitical alignments, birth rates are in freefall.

Any birth rate under 2.1 total births per women means a declining population; and the lower the birth rate, the faster the decline. As of 2024, the average total fertility rates of the various countries and regions were as follows:

  • Iran: 2.0 total births per woman
  • South America: 1.8 total births per woman
  • Australia: 1.8 total births per woman
  • Russia: 1.8 total births per woman
  • United States: 1.7 total births per woman
  • Western Europe: 1.5 total births per woman
  • Japan: 1.4 total births per woman
  • China: 1.2 total births per woman
  • South Korea: 0.8 total births per woman

North Korea, South Korea’s bitter enemy and polar opposite, is at a mere total fertility rate of 1.9 births per woman.

Even sub-Saharan Africa, that bastion of resistless procreation, has seen its fecundity slide in recent years, from 6.5 total births per woman in 1980 to a comparably meager 4.5 in 2022.

The interesting question here, though, is what is the mechanism?

Stop Repelling People with Your Uncharitable Assumptions

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quit running people off with this irksome behaviorPeople often make uncharitable assumptions about each other. But when you do this, and tell the other person, you tear your relationship with him or her to shreds.

A few years back I wrote an article about the trouble autistic men have in dating. In it I also talked about my experience as a coach trying to work with autistic men and how fiendishly difficult it is.

(autistic reader trigger warning: I was very blunt in that article, because in my experience dealing with autistic men this is the only way to communicate effectively. Delicacy leads to large and frustrating misunderstandings. Some autistic readers found that blunt article enlightening; others found it depressing. If you’re sensitive, you’ll likely be better off reading my forum thread on practical tips & success stories from autistic men)

One of the things I mentioned in that article was the frequency with which I have found autistic men make ‘uncharitable assumptions’ in conversations with me. I’ve seen it with so many different autistic men that I assume this is probably a normal behavior for them, which they’re likely doing with other people too.

In fact, I think this behavior alone is probably the cause of a large number of autistic men’s falling outs with people. While it’s a small behavior, it’s really, really aggravating.

Autistic men aren’t the only ones who are guilty of this, either. ADHD men do this often too. Any guy who speaks before he empathizes, really, can be guilty of this.

In this article, I’m going to introduce you to this concept, which I am certainly not the first to identify (indeed, there are proverbs around this going back to antiquity), but I’m going to highlight it in ways you probably haven’t thought about before – and hopefully save you from burning some bridges and melting down some relationships with inadvertent rudeness.

Secrets to Getting Girls: Positive Reference Experiences

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positive reference experiencesThe man who excels with women is the one who possesses enough very positive reference experiences with them. These SHAPE his mind & behavior toward women!

Want to know an absolutely ENORMOUS secret behind every guy who’s successful with women?

The BIG secret behind guys who are ‘naturals’ who effortlessly clean up with women… and the guys who go on to be über-successful self-taught ladies men?

The single biggest secret, in fact, to rapidly progressing with women, even from the point of being a pure beginner?

Here it is:

The secret is positive reference experiences.

The more positive reference experiences you can build, the faster you build them, the more STRONGLY positive they are, and the higher a proportion of the feedback you’re receiving from women those positive experiences comprise, the faster you’ll progress to doing scarily well with girls.

[WATCH] Chase Amante Interview with Alex from Bro Psychology

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New interview up on YouTube where I talk with Bro Psychology’s Alex.

We covered a huge range of topics in this interview, including:

  • Female psychology
  • Red pill thinking & catchphrases
  • Modern women’s partner counts and sexual habits
  • The rise & fall of the pickup industry
  • How dating apps have affected the sexual landscape
  • What I would change in the popular consciousness re: dating if I could

… and much, much more.

We were talking so long the sun went down!

Why You Fall So Hard in Love with Girls Who Delay Sex

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she delays sex, he falls in loveThere’s this girl you know and you haven’t had sex with her yet but you’re falling more and more in-love with her. Why does this happen & how does it work?

On a recent article of mine, a commenter asks about an all-too common scenario:

This is very weird situation...

When I've met this girl I was a virgin She is foreigner and she is older than me 7 years. I'm in early twenties

We went on two dates, and when I tried to kiss her she said to me that she can't that she is gay.

She said that she feels attraction to guys and she had two guys in younger age... problem to her is that she said how she couldn't connect emotionally with them and that they hurted her. She said that girls are better with that.

I've told her then we can be friends when some time passes. In meantime I've had my first sex with other girl and I was not a virgin...

Later on after 2 months first girl and I made a contact. Now we are hanging out again as a friends once a week, but I still feel attraction to her.

Now she looks a lot more recipient to me and lot more touchy to me. I'm not anxious anymore so vibe is better. Although she is Latin so it is maybe normal for touching .She is a great friend and really nice to me of course, but I'm still losing my mind sometimes and I don't know if she likes me or not. And I'm scared again to try to kiss her or tell her that.

(well, okay, maybe the bit about the girl saying she is gay and whatnot are not that common. But the overall theme of “boy meets girl, girl won’t put out, boy falls more and more in love with girl” is!)

Why does it happen that guys fall hard for these girls who duck them, dodge them, and lead them on – typically much harder than they fell for the girl when they first started going for her?

It is due to the magical phenomenon of investment; a phenomenon you yourself can make use of – or become as hopelessly ensnared and befuddled by as any other man.