Articles by Author: Chase Amante

Low value men struggle to get any women at all. High value women ignore them. Low value women pursue high value men for flings. Why must this be so?

Over the years a lot of guys have wandered onto Girls Chase claiming that attractive, non-slutty women are unicorns. These men say such women either do not exist, or are exceptionally rare. Other times they may claim they do exist, but have standards so high as to make them unobtainable.

My experience is that attractive, non-slutty women are abundant. In fact, my experience has been the majority of attractive women fall into the “non-slutty” category. Nor have I found these women hard to get. My big struggle in seduction early on was getting the slutty girls… I could get them sometimes, but I had a much harder time bedding these women with any consistency as a novice seducer into my intermediate years. (the issue of course was attainability. Once I fixed that, I could get the slutty girls too.)

I’m not the only guy with this perspective or who had this set of “problems” (i.e., hot/conservative girls easy to get; slutty, sexually open girls harder to get); many other Girls Chase readers and some of the seducers I’ve known have had this same experience.

What is the difference between a guy who just cannot get good-looking, non-slutty girls at all, versus a guy who struggles to get anything BUT these types of girls?

The answer is his value in the sexual marketplace – because if a man’s sexual market value is not high enough, not only will he struggle to get low value women to commit to him, but he won’t even see high value women as realistic, attainable options at all.

Men fear doing many things with girls: approaching them, chatting them up, asking them out, making moves. Yet the more you do each, the less scary it gets.

I just went zip lining today through the canopy of a rainforest. Many of the trees in the rainforest were absolutely massive, with gigantic, girthy trunks that towered high up into the heavens. Each one of the colossal trees I zip lined off of was most likely hundreds of years old.

The very first time you go on a zip line, it’s a frightening experience. You’re dozens of feet up in the air, held aloft on a steel cable strung between two great trees high up in a mountainous jungle, with only a couple of metal clasps and a pair of cords keeping you attached. A single fall from that height could lead to broken legs, a broken back, permanent paralysis, or death. Then, suddenly, you leap off a wooden platform into oblivion, only to find yourself soaring through the air over the tops of younger, lower trees.

You reach the second platform, haven’t died or been hurt, then clip your gear to the next cable and zip line to the next tree. Then you do that again, and again, traveling across platforms, among the ancient trees of the jungle, slowly descending the mountainside until you reach the starting point some 90 minutes later. By then, you’re an old pro.

But it actually happens a lot earlier than that. By the third line you’re on zipping over treetops, there’s still a little fear there, but you don’t need to conquer it the way you did on the first and second zips. It’s moved to the background. With each zip you do, the fear gets a bit less and the thrill becomes more prominent. By the end of the zip line you’re forty feet off the ground zipping so fast over an ultra-long cable you can hear it buzzing under the stress, but you’re less fearful than you were at the beginning, with a much shorter, slower zip, over ground not nearly as far below you as it is at the end.

The fear never goes completely away. It’s a good thing, really; without fear, people get sloppy and make mistakes. And without fear, you can’t experience thrill – the feeling you get when you confront scary things and do them anyway.

This effect of ‘progressive desensitization’ – where you grow less and less fearful of scary things as you expose yourself to them and find that nothing all that terrible actually happens – is a ubiquitous part of human acclimation. It works this way for all things scary.

So it is with everything that intimidates you about girls, too.