Insights from the Mind of a Seducer

On the heels of Alek’s recent post on fractionation, I want to talk about a fun little technique that uses fractionating your medium of correspondence to get somewhere with girls who aren’t responding well.

This technique is, simply, switching back and forth between texting and calling.

Now, if you’ve done things right from the beginning with a girl, you won’t usually need to use this – a great first impression, framing for the date before you get the number, then solid text game to set things up; that’s usually going to do everything you need it to do.

Usually if you need this technique it’s because you’ve done something wrong:

• You made a weak first impression
• You didn’t make it clear you wanted a date with her
• Your texting was weak and/or unfocused
  

However, you can still have things unravel sometimes even if you were ‘perfect’; this is if, say, you do it all right, but the day she gets your “hey, let’s get things scheduled” text is a really bad day for her and she puts it off, anchoring negative emotions to texts from you / texts about dates from you in the process. Sometimes a girl can get it in her head that ‘XYZ thing is hard’ (like figuring out where on her schedule you fit), for reasons she isn’t aware of (anchoring), and an otherwise promising connection suddenly goes cold.

For any such situation, you have one neat tool in your toolbox – just vary the means of correspondence, between texts and phone calls (note: email / instant message is basically the same thing as texting, so doesn’t work to vary things enough – we’re talking ‘text-based’ vs. ‘voice-based’ here).

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If you remember our last post, I covered an evening out in Bulgaria where I totally failed – the failure was due to what we labelled as “inflation”. Now the principle of inflation can be defined as follows: when you deliver too much of the same seduction material (humor, sex talk, language patterns, cocky lines, etc.) it loses its impact. There are numerous reasons for that:

• It loses its value; women and humans in general do not value things they can easily get. If you give her a lot of, say, “funny lines”, then she will not value them as much anymore.

• It can in worst case scenarios make you come across as needy/“trying too hard” and ruin all her attraction for you.

Now this is just a quick recap of my last post. The theory of inflation is explained in-depth there. At the end of that post I shared a number of ways we could avoid having to deal with such situations in the first place.