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"Getting Girls Is Too Much Work!" That's 'Cause You're Getting Them Wrong

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'getting girls is way too much work!' -- that means you're doing it wrongWhen getting girls feels like a lot of work, you’re getting the ‘getting’ wrong. The secret is how much work you get HER to put in – not how much YOU do.

I keep hearing this same phrase and variations thereof chanted over and over by men across the Internet:

  • “Getting girls is too much work!”

  • “Women aren’t worth the effort!”

  • “No woman is worth doing this!”

I see guys miming it all over social media anytime anyone talks about getting girls.

I see it parroted randomly on forums and article comment sections online.

It’s repeated so freely and easily, and repeated so verbatim, that it’s clear it’s a gut-level response, bleached deep into men’s psyches, that they’ve absorbed from the red pill Internet and internalized.

But if getting girls is a lot of work, I just have this to say to you, amigo:

The way you’re using to get them is the WRONG way!

How to Act Around a Girl Who Rejected You

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how to act around rejecting girlsIt’s awkward running into girls who rejected you. Should you ignore them or try to be nice? And is it possible to re-attract them & ask them out again?

Getting rejected by a girl sucks.

It’s awkward and sometimes painful.

But do you know what’s about 10x more awkward than the rejection itself?

Running into the girl who rejected you and not knowing how to act.

What should you do when you see her again?

Should you…

  • Try to explain you didn’t actually mean to ask her out?

  • Apologize for something awkward you did the first time around?

  • Flirt with her as if nothing has changed?

  • Give her the cold shoulder and ignore her completely?

What’s the correct play?

I’m going to spell out for you the socially savviest play you can make when encountering a girl who rejected you – the play that most guarantees you come out on top, looking cool, suave, and in-control, and making her question whether ‘rejecting’ you was really the right call.

After that, we’ll talk about making moves on girls who rejected you again, too… if, that is, you want to.

10 Signs She's a Nymphomaniac Who Loves to F*ck

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signs she's a nymphomaniac6% of women are nymphomaniacs. But how can you tell if she is one? By looking for these 10 signs she’s a nympho who loves to get down with guy after guy.

Time for a fun guide.

If we define as “nymphomaniac” any girl who has (or will have in the future) 50 or more lifetime lovers, 6% of women qualify as nymphomaniacs. Heck, 2.5% of women will experience 100+ lovers over the course of their lifetimes – ultra-nymphos!

These women are out there – and some of the women you’ll encounter, some of the time, will be them. The question we’ll answer today is, “How do you know who’s who?”

“Wait, Chase,” I hear you ask, “why would I want to know if a girl’s a nymphomaniac?”

Two reasons:

  1. To spot girls who are going to be a totally great time in bed

  2. To avoid girls who are highly likely to cheat on you if you attempt monogamy with them

If either of those reasons (or both of them) has any appeal to you, then read on.

(if not, then I guess skip this article, and let it stay a mystery for you!)

As you read, keep in mind: just one or two of these signs, and she may or may not be a nympho. But the more of these signs you see, the more your brain should start blaring “nympho alert!”

Tactics Tuesdays: LMR Objection Probes

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sniffing out LMR in advanceIs it possible to forecast what last minute resistance girls will give you BEFORE you pull them? It is… and once you know, you can bust that LMR before even reaching the bedroom.

Over on X, Girls Chase reader and X follower Silvius Panther asks the following:

I responded to him that

You should be testing/probing for everything you want to do, usually indirectly, during the conversation with her.

She’ll show resistance around areas she’s not comfortable with. Your job is to figure out why and attempt to address that before it’s late in the game and you get hit with all the unaddressed objections at once.

In keeping with this theme, today I’d like to give you tools for how you can easily probe for each of the five (5) most common objections you’ll encounter as last minute resistance from women in the bedroom.

That way, you’ll know what you’re up against before the pivotal moment – and can even defuse this resistance before it occurs.

What Makes a Man 'Strong' to a Woman?

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what makes a man strong to womenWhat makes a man strong in a woman’s eyes? Is it him going above and beyond for her – or is it something more primal and elemental than that?

Strength is one of the most pivotal qualities of a man.

A man’s strength makes him attractive to women. A lack of it repels them.

A man’s strength reassures women. A lack of strength alarms them.

A man’s strength causes women to follow him. A lack of it makes them abandon him.

Clearly, it’s vital as men that we maintain strength if we want things to go well for us with women (instead of the opposite). But what IS strength and how do women measure a man’s?

Tactics Tuesdays: Breaking Women's Tests with "Only"

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busting her tests with onlyWhen women test you about “other girls”, there’s one simple but powerful teasing response you can use: “only the girls who… [FILL IN THE BLANK]!”

Wouldn’t it be great to have a super SIMPLE one-size-fits-all teasing formula you could use to defuse a large number of the most common tests women toss your way?

  • “You must say/do this with every girl.”

  • “Does that line actually work for you?”

  • “Do you always go this fast?”

  • “I’ll bet you buy drinks for other girls.”

  • “Do girls actually go for that?”

In today’s Tactics Tuesdays, I will give you just such a formula.

We’re coming up on the rerelease of my one-of-a-kind “tease girls” course, the Lush Teases Method™. Last time I released it during the US presidential election (bad timing on my part), so while a bunch of guys picked it up my guess is many also missed it. So this will be your chance to grab Lush Teases™ if you didn’t grab it before.

As we build up to the rerelease, I want to try to get a little more content up on teasing girls.

So, here we are – a simple but powerful little tease-based tactic you can use to instantly defuse a certain class of questioning/tests from girls.

It’s teasing answers that begin with the word “Only.”

Why Don't Girls Signal You More? The Awareness-Playfulness Decline

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why aren't women signaling more?The smart phone era has put us all into our heads. The result has been fewer women signaling men – and fewer men approaching women.

Taking a stroll down a leafy city sidewalk today I connected a few separate factors I hadn’t before connected. Men have had a lot of complaints recently about women not signaling them, even as women have complained about men not approaching them. Many of us in seduction have noticed that women’s signaling frequency has gone down compared to a decade+ ago.

People are more introverted, shier, with poorer social skills overall – and a lot less likely to be in what I call ‘social mode’.

I’ve talked before on Girls Chase about how you’re a lot more likely to elicit signals from women when you’re attuned to women and the environment around you. We’ve also talked about how to elicit approach invitations from women using attention grabs before. We’ve even talked about prompting women to approach you outright!

The dots I connected during today’s sidewalk stroll however connect all these factors into an overall social fabric that makes the ‘signal decline’ make a lot more sense.

Why Tourists, Freshman, FOBs, and New-in-Town Girls Are So Easy to Pick Up

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how come some girls are so much easier to pick up?Some girls are easier to pick up than others. But why is this so? Why are the high status local girls always harder? There are 4 reasons why.

Commenting on the Skilled Seducer Forum, forum member RisingCane observes:

So many of the guys I have met over the years in the Game community seem to go with women who are rather easy or from a demographic that is easy. Like more than half my wings get with fresh off the boat Asian girls and fresh out the boat Latinas who have lower standards and requirements for men. Put them in an environment full of higher value women who are more popular, prettier, and come from a better background and these guys sink.

A lot of dudes I have met in the PUA and Game community seem to struggle with some of the more popular and prettier girls. I have met some exceptions here and there but by and large, they were rare. A lot of times, it is like the same dude who banged an Asian FOB he matched with off of Tinder cannot get some of the local women with good looks and status to save his life.

This is all true – at least, it is true as RisingCane’s written for the United States.

There are different demographics fitted into similar dynamics in other locales.

But also, in the U.S. and across the world it’s not just fresh-off-the-boat chicks who are easier. It is also:

  • Tourists

  • Vacationers

  • University freshman

  • Girls who are new in town

Hang around seducers enough and you’ll discover many have a seduction diet that heavily includes such girls. When they game local girls, many of them end up picking up lower status girls, too, rather than very high status ones. Why?

It’s due to game requirements needed to get together off of cold approach with women occupying different positions within their communities.

Tactics Tuesdays: The Perpetual Lover Frame

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the perpetual loverBeing the lover does not end when you seduce a woman into bed with you. Throughout your time with her, you continue to be her lover – the Perpetual Lover.

Recently, seasoned forum member of ours (and our upcoming Skilled Seducer of the Month) Devilicious suffered a painful breakup with an “absolute 10” for him he’d been seeing.

At one point, as she slept naked face down on their bed, Dev decided to “snap a few pictures of her beautiful body.”

A short while later, peering at his phone, she discovered the pictures, and it triggered complete emotional dissociation in her. She balked; he apologized; deleted the pictures for her; then, she asked him to leave and dumped him.

The girl herself was a codependent. Codependents have triggers that cause them to overreact to romantic situations, both blowing up excessively and disposing of relationships (as this girl did) as well as dropping all their requirements and chasing to get their lover back (as this girl would have, had Dev used the kind of manipulation tactics/gaslighting that works on codependents… fortunately, he’s too healthy to get sucked into that nonsense).

So, while I don’t recommend snapping photos of a sleeping naked chick (really, I recommend you keep as few pictures of women as possible. None, if you can do it. Just see your girls in real life, and if it ends, say farewell and replace them!), this girl’s overreaction was excessive/unhealthy.

Dev’s biggest screwup was not the picture-taking, however. It was that, when challenged on the pictures he took of her, he did not hold frame.

In particular, he should have held the frame he had originally when he took those photos – that of the lover.

Dating for Autistic Men: The Ultimate Guide

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By: Chase Amante

dating and relationships as an autistic manDating is rough for autistic men. Yet, approaching it methodically, focusing on building the right habits, their romantic challenges can be whittled down.

As the founder of the highest traffic men’s dating advice website in history, I’ve fielded comments, questions, and laments from men on the autism spectrum for decades.

I’ve seen many success stories among students of the game who are also on the spectrum. I also have a pretty firm grasp at this point of what the limitations are for such men.

If you’re new to Girls Chase and don’t know who I am, I am a ‘neurotypical’ dating & relationship expert whose stock in trade is breaking down complex social and romantic concepts into their essences. My approach is relentless practicality and understandability in what I teach; to take concepts I and other Don Juans understand at an intuitive level, and break them down them in simple terms accessible to beginners. Due to the nature of my insights and analyses, this site has proven popular with men on the autism spectrum over time.

That said, I realize there are a lot of trained specialists out there who work dedicatedly with men on the autistic spectrum.

I am not an ‘autism specialist’. If part of your requirement for accepting advice is that the advice giver come through an institutional credentialing program, close this page now and contact your nearest autism specialist for a consultation instead.

If, however, you’d like a pathway forward for you in dating, despite the struggles that come from being on the autism spectrum, read on.