Defusing Vibe Bombs: When Girls React Poorly to Your Approach

This post by Cody Lyans originally appeared on our forum here.
Totally random title but it is the way I pre-approach girls if I intend to go in HOT.
So what is a vibe bomb?
Master seducers (also called mPUAs). Seducers at this level can do just about anything
This post by Cody Lyans originally appeared on our forum here.
Totally random title but it is the way I pre-approach girls if I intend to go in HOT.
So what is a vibe bomb?
Every single day, 6,600 people around the world divorce.
Tens of thousands more unmarried couples break up.
Many of those split-apart people never planned to end their relationships. Some thought they’d never leave their partners. But things ended, and they did.
When things end, people turn bitter – and spread that bitterness around.
Online, red pill men burned by breakup and divorce claim “marriage is a game rigged against men.” They call marriage a way to “lose half your money, your kids, and your freedom.” They console each other that “she was never yours; it was just your turn.”
Meanwhile, female dating strategy women burned by breakup and divorce claim “marriage is a financial risk for women.” They say “divorce rape is a myth – women usually end up poorer.” They console each other that “men use women until something better comes along.”
The shock, pain, and disruption of the end of an in-love relationship is enough to turn many people from hopeful naïfs to hardened curmudgeons.
Yet once someone grows bitter, life takes a sharp southward turn.
READ MORE: Most Important Thing to Becoming a Lover of Women? Don't Be Bitter.
How do you manage to love, bond, and have relationships in the full knowledge that things might well end? Is it possible for a realist to avoid the bitter cynicism of the burned?
How do you hold two equally opposite ideas in mind: “I love someone very much” and “Someday this might end”?
The only way to mix reality with trust and hope is through enlightened romantic philosophy. Such a philosophy removes the stress and suspicion the jaded feel, without putting on the blinders the naïve wear. That philosophy is this:
Love like it’s temporary – because it just might be.
I first wrote about operant conditioning a dozen years ago in my article on using for behavior shaping inside romantic relationships. If you haven’t read that one, or it’s been a while, read it first, because this article builds upon it.
The quick summary is that through rewards and punishment, you can direct another person’s behavior. Reward her, and you’ll get more of that behavior. Punish her, and you’ll get less of it.
Today’s article focuses on some nuance in operant conditioning. Namely: how the size of your response affects reinforcement/discouragement… plus the importance of focusing on the big picture too rather than exclusively the small one.
This post by Cody Lyans originally appeared on our forum here.
Talking is sex, the pause between words is sex, touching her hand is sex.
Her interest in your eyes is sex.
This mindset used at the right time can get you ready and prepared to make your moves in slow incremental but potent ways. Just adding the perception of “this is sex or sexual” can turn a simple “hi” into something more intense.
I just read an article titled “Pets in Tokyo. The Plague.” In it, the author writes scathingly about Tokyo’s obsession with pets, the replacement of children with pets (there are more pets than children in Japan), and the obscene amounts of money Japanese spend on these surrogate children, instead of simply having children.
I’ve been utterly fascinated with the rapid spread of infertility and childlessness across the globe in recent decades.
Ubiquitously, across nearly all societies, even those with completely different cultures, governmental setups, and geopolitical alignments, birth rates are in freefall.
Any birth rate under 2.1 total births per women means a declining population; and the lower the birth rate, the faster the decline. As of 2024, the average total fertility rates of the various countries and regions were as follows:
North Korea, South Korea’s bitter enemy and polar opposite, is at a mere total fertility rate of 1.9 births per woman.
Even sub-Saharan Africa, that bastion of resistless procreation, has seen its fecundity slide in recent years, from 6.5 total births per woman in 1980 to a comparably meager 4.5 in 2022.
The interesting question here, though, is what is the mechanism?
In a recent X post, I laid out the 9 levels of abundance, starting from level 0 (total scarcity) to level 8 (absolute abundance).
A reader named French Frame Apostle asked what it takes to hit absolute abundance with girls. I listed out the key facets to reaching this:
A guy who is in absolute abundance (i.e., able to get & keep girlfriend-caliber girls very reliably):
✅ Has a specific type of girl he goes for and knows her front and back.
✅ Has himself totally dialed in as this specific girl’s ideal male archetype.
✅ Knows the best places & times to go to meet his preferred type of girl.
✅ Is approaching & laying enough girls to be running on HIGH social momentum.
✅ Is excellent at approaching, smoothly opening, and reaching the hook point.
✅ Builds enough intrigue yet retains enough mystery that girls want to come out onto dates.
✅ Has enough female options that he can stop himself from slipping into oneitis with amazing girls.
✅ Has a fully mapped out date process that lets him attract & seduce with efficiency.
✅ Has learned not to do the “wow, this one’s so great, I need to throw out my process and do something special with her” thing with the exceptional girls and just treat them exactly the same as every other girl.
✅ Has learned not to get clingy/crazy/emotional after he beds an awesome new girl, and still treat her the same as any other new girl he’d just bedded.
✅ Knows to maintain the power shift after intimacy where the girl is going to push for the relationship and he is going to stay skeptical. Never pushes for the relationship no matter how amazing she is.
When you see all that, the guy without fail will either be at absolute abundance or very close to hitting it.
— Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨 (@GirlsChase) October 16, 2024
You’ve got the list there.
In today’s article, I want to go a little more in-depth into what you need to do to hit all these.
This post, by erstwhile Girls Chase contributor Ricardus aka Karea, first appeared on the forum here.
I'm going to share one of my posts from back in the day that seemed to really help a lot of guys out. It's a little advanced but will be very helpful once you start juggling more than 2 or 3 girls.
At some point I was juggling between 10 and 20 girls... that sounds impossible because there's only 7 days in a week, but that's actually the whole point... when you have that many fuck-buddies in your phone, you don't meet them that often and you do NOT schedule anything. More on this below.
This is a compilations of posts I wrote between 2009 and 2011.
I’ve dived back into reading On War, Carl von Clausewitz’s masterful treatise on military action. I’d taken a break to read some fiction (such as Edgar Rice Burroughs’s peak masculinity adventure stories) and a few other non-fiction books on various subjects, but now, like a band of pillagers that struck off temporarily to replenish its supplies before returning to the siege, I’ve wandered back.
Clausewitz speaks often about friction, his term for difficulties doing just about anything in war – a force that bogs down what should be simple maneuvers and plays spoiler to otherwise sound strategies. I’d like to write about how this relates to seduction too… but for today the topic is something else.
Because as Clausewitz talks about offense and defense, I see many parallels there to our topic of discussion here. In many ways, within a romance, the ‘offense’ is the efforts to seduce – while the ‘defense’ is the efforts to resist that seduction.
What I’d like to do is highlight some takeaways from Clausewitz that apply every bit to the romantic battlefield as they do the martial one.
After all, as they say, all’s fair in love and war, and the two fields have their similarities.
Hey guys and welcome back to the final installment in this series on wingmanning.
Across this wingman guide series, I have shared posts on the fundamentals of wingmanning, an A-to-Z guide on wingmanning, from meet to pull, followed by posts about calibration and advanced wingmanning techniques that allow you to deal with trickier situations when out with a wing.
By now, you have more than enough material to have plenty of fun with your wing.
However, you may want to push it further. If you are both skilled seducers and want to perfect your wingman strategy, this post is for you.
Today, I’ll cover different wingman strategies for those with high skills. You have infinite ways to combine the skills of two expert seducers with unique strengths. The examples I’ll share will:
The idea is to provide real-life examples by providing entertaining stories to motivate you to work on and perfect your wingmanning skills.
Wild stories are fun. A wild story with a wing is godlike.
Commenting on my article “Can You Turn a Ho Into a Housewife?”, our reader Ben (who has multiple times accused me of being a corruptor of fair and innocent maids) claims:
You’ve flip flopped again
We had a debate on the morality of sleeping with women you don't intend to wife up, especially more innocent women.
There you claimed girls' pasts don't have any serious impact, and that I was misconstruing your earlier articles.
You are participating in ho-ing women up, and so destroying their futures and society
First, I’ll say it’s obvious Ben only reads what he wants to read into my words (and probably anybody else’s). I’m the guy who’s been telling you since he started this site to check women’s pasts if you want serious relationships with them and that women’s pasts matter. I don’t remember exactly what conversation Ben refers to (I answer a lot of comments), but whatever I said, it certainly would not be that “women’s pasts don’t have any major impact on anything.”
But I’m not here to rehash old arguments. If you’re concerned whether seduction is a nefarious dark art, read these:
Also this one:
Obviously, Ben’s position would be that women lack agency; that a seducer like me uses his black magic to corrupt the hearts of shy, pure maidens, who sit around innocently, sort of like cows or living room furniture, waiting to be claimed by a good man – that is, unless a bad man like me gets his dirty mitts on them, transforming them from good, moral, and pure to filthy, soulless sluts who aren’t good for anything.
I have addressed all these criticisms in the earlier articles. But to sum up: women have agency; women are a lot filthier than men are; even the purest of pure girls is way dirtier than all but the most depraved of scoundrels; and if a woman wants to have a lot of sloppy sex, she is going to have it whether there are seducers around or not. If there are no men who will seduce her, then she will become the seductress and take care of business herself.
However, as social consciousness continues to rise worldwide, after more than a century of strident individualism, I think it’s worth address things at the society level. Namely, who is to blame for loose, slutty women?