In influence, there is this phenomenon known as social proof.
Insights from the Mind of a Seducer
How much of seduction is words, appearance, or actions... and how much of it is just frames?
If I walk up to a woman and she acts like she doesn't want me and I accept that frame, that was frames.
Likewise, if I walk up to a woman and she acts like she doesn't want me, then I persist with her in a charming way that conveys I know she really does want me, and she decides she finds me intriguing and starts to feel attraction, that was frames too.
If someone accuses me of something, and I accept the accusation and feel ashamed and bashfully apologize, that's frames.
Just the same, if someone accuses me of something, and I parry that accusation and making a convincing case that in fact I was in the right all along, and the other party backs down, well that too is frames.
Frames run as a constant undercurrent throughout all social interaction. If you've followed along with Alek Rolstad's latest series on frames, you know you can divide frames up into social and sexual, for instance. You know, from his series and our other pieces here on frame control, of various ways you can adjust, tweak, and impose your frames.
Good frame control consists of the expert interplay between known facts and offered explanations. If I saw someone grab my basketball and walk off the basketball court with it, and I believe he stole it and am about to alert the police officer standing nearby, you won't change my mind by insisting that I'm wrong and I didn't see it and that guy did not steal the basketball. However, you might change my mind by telling me he's a good guy and he only just took the basketball to reinflate it because it was low on air and getting flat, and that he'll be right back with it.
If you're telling the truth, you'll have saved a good Samaritan from a run-in with the police; if you're lying, you'll have allowed a thief to escape with my basketball. Either way, by pulling me into your frame, you have altered the course of events.
Frames won't always be as cut-and-dry as 'stealing or not stealing' either.
Many times what is being framed is something fuzzy:
- Are you the prize or is she?
- Is she interested in you or disinterested?
- Were you committing a faux pas or did she commit the faux pas (or no one did)?
- Whose views are more accurate: yours or hers? Or are both your views actually the same and she just did not realize it?
In the end, what determines how a great many things in your social life go is how good you are at framing: how expertly you frame, how well you tie the frames you establish to known facts and details, and how believably you convey your own belief in the frames you purport to hold.
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So far, we’ve learned what a frame was in my post, “What is a frame?” We discussed how frames are internal and external points of view in the way we interpret something.
Setting a frame in a social interaction becomes the art of affecting the way someone perceives:
Its interlocutors (you) and their role with the contribution to the frame
We have previously discussed social frames, namely the social aspect of seduction.
Women have an internal social frame. It’s the way she sees herself in the social world. These aspects play key roles:
In her selection of mates, she is more likely to allow herself to be stimulated mentally and sexually (and hence hook up) with a mate that suits her social frame. These include her social identity (socio-economic and cultural background), value systems, and all the expectations that stem from them.
When a man sets a social frame incoherent with hers, resistance occurs. Most likely, she will hold herself back from getting carried away by your escalation (we call this female state control, or FSC).
How'd you like to meet more girls during the daytime -- more easily?
In this video, in advance of the release of Hector's day game course Meet Girls Everywhere, I interview Girls Chase's own Hector Castillo about all things day game.
Hector reveals some of his day game secrets... how he got started in day game (and how he got good)... how day game compares to other forms of game... and more.
Give our interview a watch here:
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Today we will go over a basic technique: how to keep a conversation interesting and intriguing, garnering you bonus points. Becoming skilled at this will help you generate compliance with women.