So you want to hook up with a girl and get a one-night stand. Go
out, lock eyes with her, walk up to her, smile at her, say hello. Then,
not so long after, take her hand and lead her out of there... Straight
back to your place or hers. Off come the clothes, and into bed you go.
Sounds simple enough.
Over a decade ago, when I set out to teach myself success with
girls, one-night stands were my second focus. My first focus was how to
get a phenomenal girlfriend (and you can read my guide on how to get a girlfriend here).
It took me a little while to get that first one-night stand, because
I did not know what I was doing. But once I figured out how to get
them, I got
better and better at doing so. After I'd put enough work (and a few
years) in, I could just about get one-night
stands on command. At that point I'd achieved a major personal
ability to hook up with girls whenever I wished.
In this article, based on a decade of my own experience hooking up
with girls and getting one-night stands, I show you how to do it. In
I've tapped 13 scientific studies that will open your eyes to a few
elements of one-night stands you likely did not know. And I've laid
it all out in simple, clear instructions.
So let's dive in! Let's show you how to get a one-night stand...
Pedro Pascal’s portrayal of Oberyn Martell is unabashedly sexy. What makes his character so compelling? Fundamentals, panache, and finesse.
There are times in life when we cross paths with men – real men –
men whose very presence sparks a reaction within us: “Wow, here is a
man. I want to be just like him.”
This particular awe-inspiring male personality may differ from
person to person, but each of us have had that experience. Whether it’s
a father figure, a brother figure, a mentor, or a perfect stranger, we
hope to spend enough time around that person to absorb their traits and
learn what they know about masculinity, life, and women.
However, in a world where masculinity is becoming more demonized and
ridiculed, these men aren’t so easy to come by, and they aren’t always
in a position to teach us in a meaningful way. These days, it’s common
to be without access to powerful male role models. Sometimes all we
have to rely on are books and film. We watch a movie, a TV show, or
read a book... and into the scene strolls a man – he may be fictional,
but goddamn is he mesmerizing. So we pay attention.
We often connect more with someone on a screen or page than we do
with anyone else in real life. Personally, there are a host of
fictional characters who have played a more substantial role in my
growth as a man than most real men I’ve met. They were ideals of the
writer or creator transformed into beings worthy of emulation. And this
is nothing new. Ever since the first story was told, men have emulated
the traits of their heroes, real or fictional.
The inception of this series actually began with Giacomo Casanova.
While reading his memoirs, I thought “This guy’s story needs to be told
in a modern form.” I planned on rewriting his adventures, then deeply
analyzing his lays (which number over a hundred and include royalty) so
that GC readers wouldn’t have to work their way through the beautiful
yet difficult translations of his 17th century Italian.
When I dropped that project, however, a very similar idea came to me
– why not analyze the many men of television, cinema, literature, and
history, who are outstanding examples of power and sensuality?
Thus was born “Seduction Spotlight.” The name should speak for
I will show you in detail how these characters seduce women,
dominate their foes, and exemplify other masculine pursuits, such as
achieving one’s dreams. Through this analysis you should then be able
to truly understand how they do what they do, and, in turn, do it
yourself (adhering to the laws of your land and time, of course).
With this inaugural article, then, I will shine that spotlight on my
personal favorite, Oberyn Martell of the TV show Game of Thrones,
inspired by the Song of Fire and Ice book series written by
George R.R. Martin. Oberyn Martell is played by the actor Pedro Pascal.
Since Oberyn’s character only aired for a little under forty minutes
in the fourth season of Game of Thrones, I cover nearly all his scenes
in order to highlight his fundamentals, game, and mindsets. I’ll cite
the episodes if you want to follow along on your HBO Go, but I’ll also
provide YouTube links for each scene (some YouTube vids are censored).
Here are a pair of videos that cover every scene he’s in if you want
Seductive eye contact is about more than eyelids and gaze
direction. With these 3 basic eye contact rules, plus a few advanced
tactics, you’ll melt her.
Lately I have been making posts on non-verbal seduction.
seduction is a lot of fun and has a lot of benefits – such as being
possible in loud clubs. If you’d like my lesson on pulling off verbal
seduction in a loud club, here it is: you can’t. This is why those of
us (myself included) who enjoy using fancy verbals tend to avoid loud
clubs or stick to smoking and lounge areas.
But this will no longer be a problem, for today we will go further
down the rabbit hole of non-verbal seduction. One common misconception
is that non-verbal seduction is easier than verbal seduction. This is
wrong. However, it is important to keep in mind that it is easier to
occasionally “get lucky” and enjoy freebies with non-verbal seduction.
Becoming consistent and enjoying
repeated success, on the other hand,
is hard. This requires more than just “gazing her down” and
her like a caveman.
This forces us to become more calibrated and develop more than a
simple “trained eye” and that “smooth vibe” that usually
field experience. To achieve success and avoid failure, it is still a
prerequisite to gain knowledge. And in order to get good at non-verbal
seduction, one has to get deeper in the analysis of those concepts,
which at first glance to a “clueless” eye, may seem banal. For good
non-verbal seduction, the devil is indeed in the details.
In last week’s article, we discussed the oftentimes overlooked yet
crucial subject of positioning. Today’s topic, eye contact,
different. Now, keep in mind that this post, the previous post, and the
upcoming posts related to non-verbal seduction will cover techniques
that can also be used when delivering verbals; for example,
eye contact is obviously key in any form of seduction but is absolutely
vital in non-verbal seduction – for obvious reasons, these are the only
tools you have at your disposal when verbals are rendered useless. When
given fewer “tools” to operate with, perfection is required.
Some girls love to be teased. But some girls hate it. You find
out who is whom (and how to proceed with each) by gauging her openness
to teasing, right up front.
Some girls you can tease, flirt with, and bust on until you’re blue
in the face, and they’ll love every moment of it.
Other girls, though? Well... not so much. Give her even a light
ribbing and her body language turns icy. Try and flirt with her and she
just gives you that stony look. You can feel your stomach muscles
constrict as she bores holes into you with her eyes.
If you can figure out where on the spectrum a girl lies before you
lay your flirtation on thick (or not at all), you can adjust properly.
But if you can’t, you may just find yourself boring the girls who
want you to tease... Or sending the girls who can’t handle teasing into
a spiral of auto-rejection.
This article is aimed at men who are intermediate with girls and up.
You can still use it as a beginner, but it’ll likely be a little too
finesse to remember to do in the heat of the moment. That’s okay, you
can circle back here once the game’s slowed down for you.
So how do you know when to start teasing
a girl, and when to hold off?
In this article, I’m going to give
you the ‘cautious method’ for figuring out how open a girl is to
teasing. You won’t always use this, and in fact I don’t always
use it too (especially when I’m trying to just ping a girl quickly and
see how interested she is, and move on if she isn’t that interested –
I’ll go straight to personal teases in that case).
However, if you want to not blow it with a specific girl, or you’re
in a captive audience situation (like seated next to her on a bus or
airplane, or in a class), this is perfect for not sending girls into
auto-rejection by going too far with your teases.
And if she isn’t open to teasing? Don’t worry, I’ve got a solution
for you there too.
Sometimes a girl rejects you much harsher than she needed to. If
you let it, this can ruin your night. Yet, it does not need to.
One of the things you are not going to avoid while learning success
with women is the occasional tough rejection.
Maybe she freaked out
Maybe she said something that felt like a knife shoved
in your sternum.
Either way, it sucks when a girl rejects you, especially
when it comes
out of the blue and is tactlessly delivered. But what if I were to tell
you that the water runs deep on this issue and everything is not as it
appears? What if you could completely
turn around the way you see
This article centers on the steps to properly handle how to have sex
with a virgin. Yet we’ll still need to
take a quick look at the social consideration of virgins in Western
I’d highly recommend you to start by reading the
Madonna/Whore article by Chase on this, in
order to better understand the socio-cultural context of
this topic. To understand more about inexperienced girls, here is another great
article from Chase. These two articles will give you some of
the background you need to jump into this article with both feet.
Your body positioning when you approach a new girl tells her a
lot about you, fast. If you want to make sure you send the right
signals, you want to get the positioning right.
Since lately we’ve been discussing non-verbal seduction,
I decided to go a bit further and discuss the actual tools for
non-verbal seduction. These upcoming posts will cover in depth some
commonly known tools, but they will also discuss some oftentimes
disregarded tools that are actually vital – remember that with
non-verbal seduction, the devil lies in the details.
To illustrate this properly, I’ve decided to make today’s topic
We will base our analysis on clubs and bars, but the
exact same principle applies for parties and day game. The reason I use
the club is because positioning is more important in this atmosphere
and has more nuances in typical night game spots.
By positioning, I am referring to
your body’s position relative to
the female with whom you are interacting (or trying to interact
if we are talking pre-approach) – where your body is facing, your
distance from her, and even the particular spot where you’re standing
can be a big factor. We will discuss all three phases of body
three sections covering three broad seduction phases, namely:
The Pre-opening (before you engage)
The Post-opening (just after you engage – often described as the
The Seduction Phase (I am not only referring to when you are
making out, or back at your place, but the phase where you have opened,
she is hooked in, and you have some rapport, and preferably you are in
isolation with her)
Let us now discuss how positioning works during the first phase.
In How to Dress Case Studies 1, Darius puts together 3 outfits
for a guy whose aim is fun, casual flings with “good girls”.
This will be our first “How to Dress: Case Study” article in what I
hope to be a very cool and interesting three part series.
In this case study, we’ll be constructing an image tailor-made to
help its wearer have more flings with what he’d consider “good girls.”
Because this is the first piece, let me quickly explain what you’re
about to find. Over the last few years, I’ve shared with you a wide
variety of articles meant to show you how you can use clothes and
fashion to maximize your attractiveness:
And with this article series I’d like to show you how all the
know-how we’ve covered so far comes together in real, actual
In other words, we’ll take three different guys and tailor their image;
we’ll build specific outfits that would work superbly in their lives.
Now, because I didn’t want to just make up these unique situations,
I reached out to some of my own site’s long-term readers and asked if
they would like to participate.
From those who responded, I picked three unique situations in terms
age, complexion, body type, climate for which we’ll tailor the image,
and their goals with image and women. This way we’ll be able to cover a
lot of ground and increase your chances of finding some useful tips you
can implement in your image.
Lastly, to keep the privacy and anonymity of the volunteers, I won’t
be sharing their full photos or full names. The subject from our first
study I’ll refer to as S.
It seems like a simple one to solve: she’s by herself, just go talk
to her. Right?
Except it’s a little more complicated than that. Try it out, and
you’ll find it’s often a bit awkward and a little intrusive to approach
a girl who’s seated alone, eating her meal. You can make her feel
trapped, and if there are ample places to sit, you look like you’re
chasing her if you go all the way over to her. There are plenty of
snares here for you to fall into.
Is there a way to consistently approach girls alone in large
cafeterias (or elsewhere), and have it go well?