If you jerk off too much, what happens to your sex drive and
motivation? Nothing good – but the problem is not masturbation; it’s
masturbation to excess.
On an article of mine from earlier this month, a reader asked about
Do you think masturbating destroys your drive for taking control
of your life and motivation, even if you don’t watch porn?
Growing up I used to do it a lot and I was very timid, low self
beleif, and hated sports, I’m wondering if that’s why? I use to do it
like 3 times a day.
I do it now, but it’s more here and there. Sometimes I have days
where I do it 3x, but I was wondering if I did it once a week or every
other week, would that be good for my motivation and for me to start
doing better in life and to be more aggressive?”
A later comment on the same topic:
i watched porn and masturbated very compulsively throughout all my
teenage years, as an escape from life. I was very depressed back then:
there was a period that i would watch porn literally all day (i’m a
high school dropout)! I’m 24 now and nowadays, the best i can go
without fapping to porn is 10-11 days... and that requires A LOT of
effort – i get crazy cravings, mood swings, even insomnia...and i don’t
feel lust for women in real life at all, even if i find them hotter
than the ones i’m seeing on my computer.
This affects not only my love life, but also my potential
professional life, because my memory and concentration are terrible
when i’m watching porn frequently. There was this time that i went a
little over a month without fapping/watching porn and i was literally
another person – no more acne, strong attraction for real women, much
more sociable, fat loss, muscle gains, etc.
After that, i tried to reintroduce masturbation to porn once a
week, i thought – “eh, i can manage that...”
Hah, i couldn’t! After a couple of weeks i started increasing the
frequency, and after a while i was back where i was before. It has been
about 2 years since then, and i didn’t manage to go over ~20 days
without porn/fapping since then.
I find it very difficult to let go of porn, mainly for one thing –
fetishes. I have a couple of fetishes (not porn-induced) that without
porn would be very hard to fulfill. I could easily leave behind vanilla
porn and any other subgenre (i rarely watch them).
I respect you and would love to hear your thoughts, even if you
don’t have any advices. Cheers :)”
So let’s talk about jerking your own chain. Can you do it? How much
can you do it?
And what happens if you do it a little... an ordinary amount... or a