Okay gentlemen. This is it. The final stretch.
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If you’re IN, you’re IN. You’ve got One Date, and you can study as fast as you want or as slow as you want; you’re completely at your leisure.
If you’re not in though... well, you’re going to have to make do without. So watch the video, and get your copy of One Date now:
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You can watch the cool little animated video we’ve got on it here:
Inside the video you’ll learn:
Investment is a funny thing. It’s crucial to your courtships –
but it’s also easy to mess up, if you do not calibrate it to the girl.
Yesterday, in my video on the subject, we talked about compliance. We’ll talk about it again tomorrow in my next video... plus a lot more inside One Date.
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It’s vital to get women to invest in you. One of the easiest ways to build investment is to get them to comply with you. The more a woman complies, the more invested in and committed to you and her courtship with you she grows.
However, there’s some nuance here. And that is that some women invest much more on their own... and others, it’s like getting blood from a stone, trying to get them to invest and comply.
If you approach both women the same way, you’ll run into some fairly significant problems, bordering on “I can’t get these girls.”
That’s because when it comes to investment, it isn’t just about maximizing how much she invests in you. It’s also about keeping your own investment – in her and in the courtship – in the same ballpark as hers.
Part 3 of the One Date / SAC video series is out.
You can see it here:
What we zero in on here:
Part 2 of my One Date model is live!
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A story about a guy who never bothers to develop his social skill
set. How does life unfold for a man who chooses not to learn to
socialize and date?
Lucien was always a bit of an outsider. Though he wasn’t one of the nerds in school. Sometimes he joined in on making fun of them, just to prove the point. Mostly he just ignored those kids though. He had his own loose group of friends he rolled with: Elliot among them.
After high school, they mostly went separate ways. One friend went to a community college, and another went to work in his father’s construction business. Elliot and Lucien both went to a state university.
The two friends had heard stories about how easy the women were at Trent State. They anticipated a bountiful stream of willing coeds in school. Their long years of high school dry spells – they thought – were done.
They arrived on campus and looked around. Hot young girls in tight pants and mini skirts everywhere. The girls sat on park benches. Walked down campus sidewalks. Laughed with friends and hung out alone. “Geez,” said Elliot. “This place is a gold mine!” He looked at Lucien. “Come on, we’ve got to talk to these girls!”
Lucien went with Elliot, and Elliot chatted up a pair of girls seated on the grass. The girls seemed to like Elliot – they laughed at his jokes and brushed at their hair. But Lucien didn’t know what to do. Elliot seemed like he suddenly knew all the right things to say; Lucien just felt adrift.
Elliot tried to include Lucien – “This is my best friend Lucien. He’s one of the most awesome people I know” – but all Lucien could do was spit out a few boring lines of conversation and both girls would return their focus to Elliot again. Eventually Lucien gave up his attempts to talk. He watched Elliot for a while, but began to envy him. So he stopped watching, tuned out Elliot and the girls, and stared off into the campus.
Okay, video #1 is out.
You can give it a gander right here:
When she texts you “maybe” or “we’ll see”, what does it mean? Why
do women text this? There are ways to reduce this happening – as well
as ways to deal with it once it happens.
A reader named Daniel writes in:
“Hey guys,
I have been gaming for a few years now, and I notice a theme. When I ask a girl to hangout via text, there are certain responses that women commonly give- and I consider them all to be negative. We’ll be texting each other, and when I ask her to hangout or suggest it she will either say: “We’ll see”; “I’ll let you know “; “maybe ; or go silent. Obviously, I get some positive responses, but any variation of these 4 tends to be the common negative ones. Any tips on how to respond to each? Or better yet, could you write an article on girls responding negatively or questionably when u ask them to hangout via text?”
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Ooh, yeah. That’s an ugly message to get:
These texts always suck. They suck for one major reason: the girl implies she holds all the cards.
This is not a gracious message. When she texts you “maybe” or she texts you “we’ll see” it is an “I’m-going-to-tell-you-how-it-will-be-and-you-will-be-waiting” message. Each of the above responses implies you want something, and she will decide later whether you will get the thing you want or not.
In this article, we’ll talk about some firefighting tactics you can use if you get this. But more importantly, we’ll talk about why women send this message in the first place, and the ways you can avoid ever even getting this message (most of the time).
I’ve
been on innumerable first dates over the years. And I’ve coached all
sorts of students through limitless more dates. And if there’s one
thing you find out, it’s that the
first date is absolutely, inescapably
crucial to how things play out the rest of the courtship.
The
first date is a make-or-break event. Hit a homer on the date,
and the rest is pretty magical.
A great first date makes your date partner comply more with you (she does what you ask of her). It causes her to cut you more slack (i.e., she’ll let you get away with more). And it piques her interest in you (now she wants where things go with her and you!).
But there’s plenty of opportunity to botch the first date, too. And a lot of folks do, a lot of the time. There’s all this uncertainty: you don’t know your date well yet (certainly not as well as you’ll know her later on... if all goes well). You don’t know what she likes, what she’ll respond to... what ‘does it’ for her. You might think you do – but you don’t. Not yet.
Even if you’ve known her a while, well... people have their ‘social
selves’, which is what they present to their friends and
acquaintances. Getting her on a date is about getting past this social self (and finding
out whom she really is).
On top of it all, you may not be all that sure what to do with your date, what to discuss, or where to take her. So in addition to all the question marks of your date herself, there is also the question mark of the date.
And the more question marks there are, the rougher things get.
In this article we’ll look at 11 of the most fatal mistakes you can make on first dates.
But don’t worry – we’ll also talk about how to avoid those mistakes, to make your first dates go as smooth as butter (and make your date melt like butter while she’s out with you, too).
When your words, actions, and moves aren’t timed right, it all
feels wrong and incongruous. Yet when the timing is right, everything
becomes magic.
When a comedian makes a joke, even if it’s a spectacular joke, if the timing is wrong, nobody laughs.
Usually on Girls Chase we talk about timing in the context of:
Yet timing snakes its tendrils through everything you do with women. Timing matters in your opens. Timing matters when you ask for investment. Timing matters at transition points. Timing matters during the pull, the kiss, and the escalation to intimacy.
If your timing is off, everything in your process will be off. You’ll fly blind through the courtship, trying this here and that there. Timing, you will notice if you observe enough guys in action, often is the Achilles’s heel of many men who work hard in seduction but reap few rewards. When you see such guys, your frequent reaction will be “Why is he doing that then? He should’ve done that 10 minutes ago!” or “Why is he saying this now? She’s not ready for that yet!”
We’re going to tackle timing in two ways today.
The first is to give you a rough sequence of events a courtship progresses through.
The second is to give you a couple signs to watch out for to let you calibrate your timing no matter where you’re at with her.
