Always Plan for a Woman to Change
A woman can be fickle and changeable. But why is this so? Science
shows us this fickleness is an inherent aspect of female decision
making.
Articles by Author: Chase Amante
A Young Man's Progression Through the Game
Follow the journey of a young man from shy and dateless, to
improving with women, to living the dream… and what happens after.
Dan trudges off to his Thursday morning class, another long day in an endless sea of them ahead. The sole bright spot for him is the girl with brown hair and glasses. She will be there. She’s always in his Thursday morning class.
When he gets there, he grabs a seat, then looks around, waiting for her to show up. She hasn’t shown up yet. The class slowly fills. Some kid takes the empty seat to his left. Damn, he thinks. I hoped it’d stay empty until she gets here. Close to class start time, he sees the girl with brown hair and glasses walk in. He stares at her; her eyes search the room, looking for seats, then briefly meet his. He thinks he sees her smile, but she quickly looks down. She hurries off to a far corner of the room to take one of the few remaining empty seats.
All class, Dan thinks about her. He waits at the end of class,
packing his books up slowly. He glances over toward her – it seems like
she’s
packing up slowly too. At last, after most of the class has filtered
out, Dan makes for the exit, and so does the girl with brown hair and
glasses. He lets her get right in front of him. She doesn’t look at
him, but she glances down and wipes her hair back over one ear. He
can’t tell, but he thinks she might be smiling. He feels like he should
say something – this is his chance!
– but he doesn’t know what to say. The both file out of the classroom;
she heads off in one direction. Dan’s headed the other. He slowly walks
away from her.
He doesn’t feel bad though. He feels even more certain she might like him now. And next class – he knows – will be the one he makes it happen in.
The semester passes this way. Many days the girl with brown hair and glasses doesn’t notice him or give him any signs, and he thinks she’s lost interest. Sometimes she gives him some little look, or plays with her hair while almost glancing in his direction, and he thinks she must like him still.
Once she sits two seats over from him, and he almost says something to her. He spends the entire class full of nerves, pushing himself to say something. In the end, he tells himself it’d be too awkward trying to talk over two seats – he’ll wait for a better opportunity. Next class, he’ll get a better opportunity.
As summer turns to autumn, then autumn to winter, the semester draws to a close. The fallen leaves on the ground are covered by a light dusting of snow. Finals are over, and it’s time for the students to head home for the holidays.
“Maybe the girl with brown hair and glasses will be in one of my classes next semester,” Dan tells himself.
Tactics Tuesdays: Dealing with Core Tests on Dates and in Pickups
Not all tests are subtle. Sometimes women break out the big guns.
But what do you do when she hits you with a test aimed right at your
core?
In today’s Tactics Tuesdays post, we talk about a very specific kind of test. These are what I call ‘core tests’; they test a man at his core, aimed at what a woman dubs likely to be a core issue to a man’s strength or identity. A core test revolves around money, leadership, sexual prowess, and other areas most men pride themselves on strength in.
Contents
This is Part I of a 2-parter on core tests. Part I deals with core tests in pickups and on dates.
Women will use core tests on you at any stage of interaction with them. They will use them with you during the courtship. They’ll use them on dates. They’ll core test you in the bedroom as you escalate to sex. They’ll core test you early on into a sexual relationship, half a year into your relationship, or ten years into marriage. Core tests are the most dangerous tests women will use on you – yet they also present the greatest opportunity to set massively powerful frames.
We’ll talk about how to spot a core test, why core tests carry so much force to shake most men so easily, and how to shrug core tests off in a way that will not only make women’s respect for you shoot through the ceiling, but will help you yourself cement your own identity as an unshakeable man.
Core tests serve as a reliable way to show women around you a kind
of dynamic
confidence most men don’t know how to summon up. And in this way, they
can be quite useful to encounter.
Why You Want to be Her First Choice Guy
You won’t always be a girl’s first choice. Yet there are distinct
advantages to being her first choice guy – and drawbacks when you
aren’t it.
Sometime back, in “Attraction is Either There, or It Isn’t”, we talked about two sorts of attraction. The first was what I called ‘fascination’, where a woman is attracted to you from the get-go; a kind of instinctive, unconscious attraction that is simply there. The second was excitement: a degree of liking, intrigue, attachment, or arousal you build up with time, even if fascination isn’t there at the outset.
Contents
3. First Choice Dating Advantages
4. First Choice Relationship Plusses
Today’s article is related to this, though slightly different. We’ll talk about a girl’s first choice guy... versus her second choice guy or her third choice guy.
The first choice guy will usually be a guy she starts off with fascination-type attraction for. When you are her first choice, some aspect of you strikes her. You rocket to the top of her list of men she’d like something to happen with: could be a hookup, could be a fling, could be a long-term relationship. She knows she’d like something to occur.
Most of the time, with most women you encounter, you’ll be a second or third choice guy (or lower). This is just how it works – you won’t have insta-compatibility with most women, just like most women won’t have insta-compatibility with you. As your fundamentals get tighter and you get better at talking to women and making things happen with them, you’ll have more smoother interactions and will meet both more ‘first choice’ girls as well as do better with more ‘second choice’ and ‘third choice’ girls.
It’s less important to be her first choice when you’re on the prowl for flings. That said, if you have your pick of women, it’ll almost always go easier and be more fun with girls you’re a first choice for. It’s more important to be her first choice guy when it comes to choosing women for relationships... for a variety of respect, compatibility, and fidelity reasons.
Tactics Tuesdays: 10 Times to Call Her Instead of Text
10 times to give her a phone call instead of send her a text:
when her text replies are bland, when she’s a slow text responder, when
it’s logistically easier, and more.
Contents
1. When the First Meet was Tepid
3. When She’s a Slow Responder
4. When Her Interest is Failing
6. When It’s Logistically Easier
7. When You Screwed Something Up
8. When She’s Repeatedly Flaked
9. When There’s a Long Meet-Date Gap
We have a cool discussion on the forum right now where one of our members (Big Daddy) chronicles his foray into making phone calls to girls. He began to mix phone calls into his follow-up repertoire after a few of our articles on phone calls here. He was new to calls at the start of the thread, but once past those early jitters he discovered phone calls suit him:
“Even if it doesn’t work out this already works so much better than texting. I mean my calling skills are 2/10 at the moment and I feel like I have 30x more leverage on calls. I’m actually having fun doing this “just for reps.””
In honor of this discussion Big Daddy kicked off, I thought I’d put together a list of the best times to call a girl... instead of send her a text.
Our occasions to call instead of text fall into a few key themes:
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When you need to inject life into the courtship
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When texting is inefficient or doesn’t work
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When you need to cover a lot of ground in a short time (like to rebuild a connection, or fix a screw-up)
To help make the right times to call clearer, I’ve split these overarching themes up into 10 distinct scenarios.
Our first is when your initial meet was only lukewarm.
