Calibrate your sex talk expertly to the context, the girl, and more.
You might be surprised, but sex talk works great on sexually inexperienced girls. See how to wield sexual authority and woo them with your experience.Hey guys. Welcome back.
Today and for the next few weeks, I am going to share a few posts on sex talk calibration.
Just because she doesn’t start ripping her clothes off (or yours) is not a sign of a sex talk failure. Sex talk aims at something more crucial for the seduction than this.Hey guys.
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Not every girl will eat up your sex talk. What do you do when girls give a neutral or negative response? Persist, move on, or – change it up. It depends!Hey guys. Welcome back. I hope you are all doing well.
You’re not going to hit the right note out of the gate every time as a sex talk trainee. So what do you do if you sex talk misses? Recalibrate, change it up, and try again.Hey guys. Welcome back.
Sex talk is powerful. But each sex talk gambit has different uses. Here’s how to choose which sex talk gambits to use for what seduction situations.Hey guys. I hope you are all doing well.
Sex talk is a tremendous way to set a sexual tone with girls. Usually going TOO bold with it is risky. Yet, in certain situations, “bold” is THE way to go…Hey guys. Welcome back.
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Last week, I discussed elements of strategic calibration when choosing between going verbal or physical as you sexualize and escalate the vibe of your interaction. It’s important to analyze when it is most beneficial to use verbals and when it is better to be physical during the interaction.
We concluded last week:
Generally, in early game, if you opt for a sexual approach to seduction, it comes with pitfalls (Why You Should Set a Sexual Frame... And How to Do It), so sexual verbals may be the better choice. This allows more benefits, and fewer risks, it’s more powerful, and it facilitates later (and bolder) escalation.
Often in the later part of the interaction, switching to physical game is ideal. It’s easier to pull off, more intuitive, and gets the job done. You are less likely to make mistakes choosing the easier option. And if it gets the job done, go for it.
Note that these are general rules. They should be a part of your default modus operandi.
But we all know that pickup and seduction is a complex field with many variables that affect each situation and alter your strategic choices.
So today we will discuss the situations when you should break the two rules above.
This is an advanced post suited for advanced guys who want to increase their meet-to-lay ratio. If you are a beginner, this post may be confusing. Learn to walk before you run.
The first part covers early game, where I describe situations when you should not use sexual verbals.
The second part of the post is when it gets interesting. I will make the case for bold sex talk and when it is far superior to non-verbal physical escalation.
It’s time to heat things up with her. But are you better off choosing sex talk for that, or physical escalation? It depends: one is safer, one is stabler.Hey guys. Today I will continue the discussion of sex talk calibration. My two previous posts covered the basics of sex talk calibration, and this post enters a more advanced realm. So, this post is suited for upper-intermediate and advanced players.
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Escalating the vibe and setting sexual frames, as we know, can be done verbally AND non-verbally (physically). But which is best? What are the pros and cons of each strategy?
More importantly, WHEN during the interaction would sexual or verbal game be most efficient, and when would physical game be the better call?
In an ideal world, you can choose between both depending on your preference. But we all know that we do not live in an ideal world. Many believe the choice of going for verbal over physical game, especially regarding sexual framing and escalation, depends on what you prefer. However, it does not. And this is what we will cover in this post.
It may seem appealing to say, “Why not combine them both?” That is, using both physical and verbal sexual game simultaneously. Two strategies = twice the power, right?
It isn’t that simple. Combining both can backfire and cause resistance if done the wrong way. If you want to know why and learn more about touching when talking about sex (verbal sexual game), check out this post.
To smoothly enter sex talk, it helps if you can slide the topic in with her barely even noticing. But how can you do that? With a fractionated transition.Today I would like to share a transitioning technique with a very high success rate for smoothly getting into sex talk. I’ll go over the benefits and some cons; no worries, I will list and explain these. It’s an advanced technique and requires good conversational skills and control. Therefore, consider this an advanced post about a technique I teach my most advanced students.
We all know that transitioning into a sexual subject is great for your interaction as it sets a sexual frame and excites her. But it can be challenging to do because of the nature of the subject (women may not be comfortable talking about sex with strangers for many reasons, but mainly, it can trigger her anti-slut defense mechanism). So, there will be times when you try to transition into sex talk with whatever transitional technique you choose, and no matter what you do, it fails.
She resists, she seems aloof, she seems unexcited, and she looks uncomfortable.
If you encounter any of these reactions, the default rule is to quickly end the subject and switch to something else, as they can be forms of resistance. (But she may just find that particular sexual subject boring. However, act as if you were dealing with resistance just to be sure). It is usually best to stop talking about sex to let things cool off and attempt again later with a different topic and see if that bites.
The problem is if she shows discomfort with sex talk, then that likely will not work. Then it is not the subject that doesn’t interest her, but that she is uncomfortable talking about sex.
The go-to rule is that if sex talk doesn’t work, you should focus on something else:
Build compliance by showing mixed signals, demonstrating higher value, or using social proof.
Sexualize with physical escalation.
These are all reliable strategies in my book.
Forcing something on someone they feel uncomfortable with rarely works unless you really know what you are doing. You ideally want to use sex talk to get her. It has many benefits when it works!
For those cases, this post comes in handy. Let’s go over transitioning into sex talk with women hesitant to jump into the subject. It’s a bit tricky, but it’s not impossible, hence why this post is for advanced players.
Note that this technique will NOT work on women who show heavy resistance to sex talk. With them, just change your strategy.
The explicitness of your sex talk is key. Too explicit, and some girls will be turned off. Not explicit enough, however, and some other girls won’t be interested.Hey all. Last week we covered sex talk calibration given different contexts. You should consider the contextual factors when talking to a girl about sex. Today I would like to discuss how to calibrate how explicit you should and can be when talking about sex.
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Today and next week, we will discuss transitioning into sex talk. As you know, sex talk helps with many areas:
It’s an essential dimension in sex talk calibration. Combining this post with part one will make you a more calibrated sex talker.
Sex talk’s a mighty tool for arousing girls in-field. Nevertheless, get the context wrong and it flops. The context MUST be right for sex talk’s success.Hey guys and welcome back.
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Today and next week, we will discuss transitioning into sex talk. As you know, sex talk helps with many areas:
The way we talk about sex is to discuss a sexual subject, whether it is a sociological, philosophical, or social-psychological subject linked to sex. It’s not “I want to do this and that to you,” as this would ruin your frame and trigger premature resistance (if not rejections), but instead, we talk about sex as any other interesting subject: you debate and discuss it and share knowledge.
The frame is “this is what I believe, what I know, this is my experience, and it is fascinating. I enjoy discussing this amazing subject with cool people.”
Thus, the overall frame is, “I could make you experience all these things if you are the right girl for me, but I am not saying I necessarily will.” Notice the modality difference between “will/want to do” vs. “may/could do.” For more details, read this post: Sleazy Sex Talk vs. Sexy Sex Talk: What’s the Difference?.
You may also check out this post: Showing Intent Without Showing Your Intentions.
What’s the most challenging aspect with talking about sex? According to my students and me, it is not talking about the topic but getting to where it is comfortable enough to bring up the subject: transitioning into it.
Women find sex topics interesting and stimulating, but it can be tricky to steer the conversation in this direction. Women find discussing sex one of the most intriguing subjects out there.
The problem is that sex talk, even when done correctly, can potentially trigger resistance.
We will discuss resistance to sex talk and how to avoid it through calibration. We’ll cover sex talk calibration, emphasizing transitioning, usually the shakiest phase to maneuver. Once you get comfortable talking about sex, things get much easier, although you may still need some additional focus on calibration.
For those wondering how you transition into sex talk, do not worry. I will share a few words about it and link to posts covering different techniques at the end of this article.
