One Date Video: Part 1 of My SAC Model
Okay, video #1 is out.
You can give it a gander right here:
Insights from the Mind of a Seducer
Tactics Tuesdays: When She Texts You "We'll See"
When she texts you “maybe” or “we’ll see”, what does it mean? Why
do women text this? There are ways to reduce this happening – as well
as ways to deal with it once it happens.
A reader named Daniel writes in:
“Hey guys,
I have been gaming for a few years now, and I notice a theme. When I ask a girl to hangout via text, there are certain responses that women commonly give- and I consider them all to be negative. We’ll be texting each other, and when I ask her to hangout or suggest it she will either say: “We’ll see”; “I’ll let you know “; “maybe ; or go silent. Obviously, I get some positive responses, but any variation of these 4 tends to be the common negative ones. Any tips on how to respond to each? Or better yet, could you write an article on girls responding negatively or questionably when u ask them to hangout via text?”
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Ooh, yeah. That’s an ugly message to get:
- “Maybe”
- “I’ll let you know”
- “We’ll see”
These texts always suck. They suck for one major reason: the girl implies she holds all the cards.
This is not a gracious message. When she texts you “maybe” or she texts you “we’ll see” it is an “I’m-going-to-tell-you-how-it-will-be-and-you-will-be-waiting” message. Each of the above responses implies you want something, and she will decide later whether you will get the thing you want or not.
In this article, we’ll talk about some firefighting tactics you can use if you get this. But more importantly, we’ll talk about why women send this message in the first place, and the ways you can avoid ever even getting this message (most of the time).
The Myth of Bros Before Hoes
If some guy tells you “bros before hoes”, you should probably put
your guard up. It isn’t always a conscious thing when men violate this
rule, though.
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Whenever I hear a guy say “bros before hoes,” my first thought is “Sure, unless there’s a really hot ho in the room.”
As with most morality, you can rest assured that if someone is espousing it or is enforcing it on others, it is in the service of self-interest. This doesn’t necessarily negate the positive outcome of enforcing the specific ethic, but one should be skeptical of anyone virtue signaling, because despite the possible positive outcomes of the ethic, you might still become a casualty when the espouser doesn’t follow it.
This is the nature of trust, is it not? You expect one to act a certain way, especially since they’ve professed to be a keeper of such virtue, because you will bring them into situations where, if they don’t follow it, they could hurt you.
Unfortunately, almost without exception, every person who earnestly supports an ethic will at some point contradict it.
Thus it is highly advised that you be careful who you give the chance to put one over on you.
Now, I’m not saying that nobody is your friend or that any guy would cross you if it lands him a hot girl; but I am saying that, most of the time, he will, excluding the following conditions.
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His chances with the girl are low, even if he does cross you
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You provide A LOT for him
In other words, he might be able to tool you or be rude to you for a girl, but he probably won’t if his odds with the gal are low, or if you provide for him, socially or monetarily. That girl’s pussy might feel good, but is it worth losing a connection? This is how sociopaths think twenty-four hours a day.
This may seem like a cynical view, but my experience says otherwise. You can see the dark truths of the world and still be optimistic. You can love life but not walk down Southside Chicago at 2am. It’s unnecessary.
Same with thinking that guys are going to value your friendship over the prospect of pussy. It’s unnecessary and ignores the primal truth of the world – we’re in this for the pussy (and the gals are in it for the cock).
This should be your first assumption with most of your friends, if not all of them.
11 Mistakes that Ruin First Dates (and How NOT to Make Them)
I’ve
been on innumerable first dates over the years. And I’ve coached all
sorts of students through limitless more dates. And if there’s one
thing you find out, it’s that the
first date is absolutely, inescapably
crucial to how things play out the rest of the courtship.
The
first date is a make-or-break event. Hit a homer on the date,
and the rest is pretty magical.
A great first date makes your date partner comply more with you (she does what you ask of her). It causes her to cut you more slack (i.e., she’ll let you get away with more). And it piques her interest in you (now she wants where things go with her and you!).
But there’s plenty of opportunity to botch the first date, too. And a lot of folks do, a lot of the time. There’s all this uncertainty: you don’t know your date well yet (certainly not as well as you’ll know her later on... if all goes well). You don’t know what she likes, what she’ll respond to... what ‘does it’ for her. You might think you do – but you don’t. Not yet.
Even if you’ve known her a while, well... people have their ‘social
selves’, which is what they present to their friends and
acquaintances. Getting her on a date is about getting past this social self (and finding
out whom she really is).
On top of it all, you may not be all that sure what to do with your date, what to discuss, or where to take her. So in addition to all the question marks of your date herself, there is also the question mark of the date.
And the more question marks there are, the rougher things get.
In this article we’ll look at 11 of the most fatal mistakes you can make on first dates.
But don’t worry – we’ll also talk about how to avoid those mistakes, to make your first dates go as smooth as butter (and make your date melt like butter while she’s out with you, too).
Calibration Series Pt. 1: What Is Calibration?
You must know how to calibrate yourself to women to excel with
them. This means you need to know how to read her signals,
punish/reward, persist, and more.
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A few weeks ago, I wrote a post titled “How to Tell If a Guy Is a Good Seducer” where I covered some aspects that, in my opinion, good seducers have in common. One of those was having good calibration.
A few days later, a reader (drfeelg00d) asked the following:
“Calibration: Your game is indirect and based on the reaction of the girls. The examples about calibration that you gave in this article are quite basic (no criticism!)...For instance, on a macro level:
How do you calibrate considering the girls overall personality (shy, outgoing, experienced, inexperienced, young, old, artist or career type of girl etc…) Do you always stick to the same vibe or do you for instance add some aloofness to it, depending on the type of girl? On a micro level:
How do you calibrate to specific responses to you, say, in the beginning the famous red-yellow-green scheme? Then later, if she denies a compliance test, what if she rejects a frame set by one of your gambits?”
These are very good questions indeed. In my opinion, I believe what drfeelg00d refers to as the micro level is the most important aspect. I will therefore discuss this first and put more emphasis on it in this post. I will discuss what he refers to as the “macro level” in my next post.
This post will be pretty content-packed, and I may go a bit too quickly for some. If that is the case, let me know in the comment section if anything is unclear, and I will make a new post to elaborate. A cup of coffee or tea is recommended before reading this one. That said, I think this post is worth your time, no matter the girl, your skill level, or where you meet the girls.
First things first: Regarding calibration. It is one of the hardest subjects to cover, as the nuances are infinite. The best way to become calibrated is through field experience, which entails failing and succeeding – and sadly, most of the time failing. But the end benefits are worth it. Being a smooth and calibrated seducer is so key, and also something pleasurable to become!
That said, this post, in addition to my upcoming posts, will give you clues and advice that will ease up the process. But again… experience… going out and meeting women… there are no other ways around it.
