How to Ask a Girl Out and (Almost) Always Get a “Yes!”
Every guy's beaten himself up over how to ask out a girl he likes.
She's there, she looks great, you want to ask her out... so bad... but you just can't form the words. Or maybe even approach her in the first place.
Making the ask, as hard as it seems now, is, in fact, remarkably easy to do once you have a few simple tools to do it...
However, you can spend endless amounts of time stressed out over it when you don't.
So let's give you some AWESOME tips to making asking girls out SIMPLE.
Before we get to tips, a quick story.
When I was 14 years old, I asked a girl out for the first time.
I walked up to her in front of the whole school (her name was Sarah), and flat out asked her to go to the school dance at the end of the year with me.
She was the prettiest, most popular girl in school (not to mention head cheerleader), and she'd flirted with me and chased me hard for a year.
In fact, she'd asked me out about 6 months earlier (but I was too scared to say "yes")!
Yet by the time I finally asked her out, she'd given up on me -- the window had passed, and so had my shot with Sarah.
At the time I didn't know you only had a certain window of time to ask a girl out in... though I guessed something like that might be the case.
I soon found out it definitely was.
As you could've guessed, Sarah said "no" to me, albeit in a very gracious way.
She told me she wanted "to be friends first", which I knew meant we weren't going to the dance together.
I never got a date with Sarah.
However, in the many years after, I eventually asked hundreds of girls out on dates. Some said no... but many more said yes.
And along the way, I've learned a thing or two about how to ask a girl out and get that "yes."
I've planned to write on how to ask girls out for a while now. However, a reader just wrote in asking about asking girls out specifically -- so, it's time to cover it. Our reader says:
“Man chase I really have been in a funk lately. I'm back in school and I feel like a social retard now lol! I need some advice, I really need help with asking girls out on dates and what that actually looks like you know? I'm reading your articles and a lot of it is making sense but closing the deal and getting dates is weird for me. I guess I really haven't actually asked a girl out on a proper date before my last GF I got with because I was able to escalate things with her fast.”
To answer our reader's question, I've put together this guide to asking women out.
This guide will teach you -- emphatically, unequivocally, and without fluff, huff, or pomp of any kind -- how to ask a girl out... and always (or almost always, anyway!) get a "yes."
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