What's the Difference Between Using Uproarious vs. Subtle Humor with Girls?

Our second Lush Teases™ video is now out.
This one on my personal FAVORITE way to tease girls.
It’s one I’ve talked about on this site before (in fact, I talked about it very early on in Girls Chase’s lifetime) but in this video I go deeper and also give you a few rules around how better to use it.
There are some neat little tips packed into this short clip.
As we gear up for the launch of my novel new teasing method (you can watch video #1 on it – about the #1 common humor mistake to AVOID when talking to girls – right here), I’m going to be talking a fair bit about humor and teases.
Today we’ll talk about a specific type of opener: the optimistic complaint opener.
Before you can dive into a new conversation, first you need to start the conversation. We do this using what we call openers.
Most folks find situationally relevant openers the easiest to begin with. They’re low pressure; they make use of the environment for context; and they’re a breeze to come up with.
Perhaps the easiest situationally relevant opener to stumble upon is the ‘humorous complaint’ opener. This is where you point out something less-than-ideal about the situation you and a girl find yourselves in, and use it to begin a conversation.
For instance, if you’re in a long line at a coffee shop, you might lean in toward the girl in front of you and quip, “Sheesh, we’re going to be here all month!” If you’re at a bar with terrible music, you might tap the girl next to you and ask her, “Who wrote this music anyway, Helen Keller?”
While these openers can be creative, and they do fit the context you use them in, they still face one major drawback: they’re negative.
Yet, with a little inventiveness, we can fix it.
Okay, fellas.
You’ve been asking me to teach you how to use humor effectively with girls pretty much since the inception of this site.
I’ve seen a few programs over the years that teach guys some funny lines and techniques. We’ve go those here too. But I have never, ever seen a program that teaches men HOW to BE funny. Which is the big problem if you ask me – if you don’t know HOW to BE funny, all those ‘great techniques’ can very easily fall flat!
And so, I’ve put together a program that doesn’t just arm you to the teeth with ways to get women laughing their pretty little butts off…
I’ve put together a program that teaches you the nuts and bolts of humor itself.
One that gives you a METHOD to actually create humor that sucks women in.
This is an older seduction gambit that is very straightforward but pretty silly and fun.
It’s most useful in bars, nightclubs, parties, etc.
Essentially, you are going to ask a girl to point out three men in the venue to you:
One she’ll choose to fuck, one she’ll choose to marry, and one she’ll choose to kill.
This opens up all kinds of paths to all manner of irreverent humor, sexual frames, and chances to find out about her values and bond with her over them.
Commenting on my article about why women always seem to go for the wrong guys, Vince C. asks
Chase, overall I certainly agree with most of what you're saying here but I think there should be a follow up article to this.
Because I'm genuinely curious, why is the divorce rate hovers close to 50% if many girls believe they are choosing the right guy for themselves, later to find out that this was in fact not the case?
A reader named Montage replies to Vince, noting that
Back in the day, a researcher looked at the divorce rate, concluding it was actually around 33-35%. The 50% figure was supposedly inflated by "serial divorcees."
I'm not sure why you're exclusively blaming women, though. What about the guys who filed for divorce? Some of them assumed they had found "Ms. Right," only to end up wrong. Other men marry their first wife for pure economics. Once a dude's career has taken off, he drops her for a trophy wife. I remember some guy did exactly that. Once his first wife had helped him graduate from schools of both law & medicine, he ditched the poor woman. He's no longer with us, and she's doing life in prison.
Another issue you're overlooking is that women's market value is mostly attractiveness/youth. For that reason, many will marry out of a fear of ending up as a spinster/weirdo, or out of a fear of life on one income, not because they feel they've found somebody special.
We know divorce happens.
We know it doesn’t always happen.
In India in 2024 the divorce rate was 1%.
In the United States in 1924, 100 years ago, the divorce rate was 14.4%, which is about a quarter what it is today. The U.S. was already the world leader in divorce at this point (and had since 1916).
Yet if you go all the way back to 1867 in the United States, the earliest date we have reliable data for, the American divorce rate was just 3%, not very much higher than India’s in 2024.
You can see how divorce rates have changed over the years in the U.S.:
Obviously, we are looking at something highly variable over time.
Women initiate 69% of divorces overall. However, among women with the greatest amount of personal liberty – that is, college-educated women – women initiate a jaw-dropping 90% of divorces.
Running another giveaway here to bolster our audience on X a little bit.
(by the way, if you aren’t following us on X, I’ve been posting a lot of great stuff. Probably half my recent output has been on X. You really ought to follow me there too)
In a recent X post, I laid out the 9 levels of abundance, starting from level 0 (total scarcity) to level 8 (absolute abundance).
A reader named French Frame Apostle asked what it takes to hit absolute abundance with girls. I listed out the key facets to reaching this:
A guy who is in absolute abundance (i.e., able to get & keep girlfriend-caliber girls very reliably):
✅ Has a specific type of girl he goes for and knows her front and back.
✅ Has himself totally dialed in as this specific girl’s ideal male archetype.
✅ Knows the best places & times to go to meet his preferred type of girl.
✅ Is approaching & laying enough girls to be running on HIGH social momentum.
✅ Is excellent at approaching, smoothly opening, and reaching the hook point.
✅ Builds enough intrigue yet retains enough mystery that girls want to come out onto dates.
✅ Has enough female options that he can stop himself from slipping into oneitis with amazing girls.
✅ Has a fully mapped out date process that lets him attract & seduce with efficiency.
✅ Has learned not to do the “wow, this one’s so great, I need to throw out my process and do something special with her” thing with the exceptional girls and just treat them exactly the same as every other girl.
✅ Has learned not to get clingy/crazy/emotional after he beds an awesome new girl, and still treat her the same as any other new girl he’d just bedded.
✅ Knows to maintain the power shift after intimacy where the girl is going to push for the relationship and he is going to stay skeptical. Never pushes for the relationship no matter how amazing she is.
When you see all that, the guy without fail will either be at absolute abundance or very close to hitting it.
— Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨 (@GirlsChase) October 16, 2024
You’ve got the list there.
In today’s article, I want to go a little more in-depth into what you need to do to hit all these.
This is a very simple little technique, with a surprising amount of uses, and a startling amount of power.
I learned it from a very beautiful, very charismatic, very sociable girlfriend of mine who tended to get crowds of people clustered around her pestering her with all kinds of questions or requests.
It revolves around a single, magical word:
“Later.”
Someone asks you to do something you don’t want to do?
“Maybe later!”
Someone asks you about something you don’t want to discuss?
“I’ll tell you later!”
Someone tries to get you to go somewhere you don’t want to go?
“I’ll go with you later!”
The power in the word ‘later’ lies in it being a rejection that’s not a rejection. It keeps the other party in a state of limbo, robbed of the ability to either push for more or take offense at the rejection.
And, as a bonus, it clearly frames YOU – to the party you tell “later” to and to all other observers – as the one who is being chased, and very much in demand.
Over on X, there was a good long thread where guys shared their experiences being ‘side guys’: