Articles by Drexel Scott | Girls Chase

Articles by Drexel Scott

How to Hook Up with Swingers

I am not sure how many of you studlings are interested in the kinkier aspects of sexuality. Perhaps you’re just here to get a girlfriend, a wife, or get better at the process of picking up in general – and more power to you!

However, there are others among you who like to see what the limits are, explore everything, and learn from experience what you like and dislike.

For those of you on the more “exploratory path”, you will eventually find yourself interested in topics like threesomes, open relationships, bondage, swinging, and things of that nature.

How To Hook Up With Swingers

Fortunately, there is a wide variety of cool sex stuff to discover, and every interesting thing you do makes you a more knowledgeable, experienced, and stimulating person.

5 Beliefs of the Successful Player

successful playerBefore I begin, it is necessary for me to clarify what type of guy this article is intended for.

There are those on the path of wanting to learn Game to find their ideal girlfriend or wives.

Then there are those on the path of wanting to enjoy many women over the course of their lives, maybe upgrading a few to “relationship” status as time goes on.

This article is for the latter; guys with a high sex-drive who wish to indulge fully in as much sexual variety as their circumstances and skill levels allow. This won’t be about how to pick up girls in terms of things to say or do or what to wear. Rather, this is an exploration of the beliefs of the successful player: what’s going through his mind – the foundation on which rests his entire approach to seduction.

After my last article about what it means to be a Man in our society, many of you indicated that you’d like to delve deeper into that concept – that concept of reclaiming our lost masculinity. Well, part of being a Man is thinking like a Man, and successful Men share similar beliefs.

These are in no particular order, as they are each as important as all the others. Here we go…

What Does It Mean to Be a Man?

It is taken for granted, as well it should be, that women respect strong men and detest weak ones. There is no way around it, and no amount of pretty, eloquent fluffiness will detract from the impact it already has on your life.

You see it everywhere: women throwing themselves at men with spines while trampling on those without and laughing in their faces.

Today’s article is not a discussion of strength in the physical sense – you can find articles on how to get in great shape elsewhere on this website. Instead, this is about a topic that I don’t often see discussed: being a man of conviction.

Some good Hollywood examples of men with conviction are James Bond and Han Solo; classic archetypal males who get the job done and get laid doing it.

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Are Women Your Friends Or Your Enemies?

Throughout this article I will discuss the two general attitudes I see men taking towards women in the seduction community along with which one I think is most beneficial for you in the long run. Those of you who regularly read my work at Girls Chase already know that I believe the full, mature potential of a young man goes far beyond his prowess with the ladies – and this article will follow that same vein: of being a better man; the best man you can be, and creating the life you truly wish to live for yourself.

We could easily separate the two major styles of seduction into the following categories: Combative and Cooperative. They involve different mindsets, drastically different actions, different follow-ups, and wildly different consequences.

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I will give examples of both, but first let us begin with the big-picture frame of each.

How to Avoid Drama (and Never Deal with It Again)

We all know that Girls Chase is a great resource for learning how to bring a little more loving into your love life, and I believe it’s important to be prepared for all the success you’ll soon be having, and not just in your love life, but in all of the things you set out to learn. And just as poor people who win the lottery quickly lose their winnings, guys who suddenly find their hard work paying off with women are still vulnerable to certain subtle traps.

As one of the few guys in this corner of the internet who have avoided all manner of negative outcomes and heartbreak – as a result of my thinking about all this and figuring out what I wanted ahead of time – I consider myself in an excellent position to share with you what kind of mindset will be most useful to you when you begin to improve yourself and see more results with the opposite sex.

As we have mentioned many times – or as you have either learned from experience, or will at some point in your journey – drama sucks.

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There are some people who enjoy drama, for reasons I would be happy to talk about in the forums, but this article is for people whose idea of a good time consists of simply enjoying your time with women and exchanging laughs and positive feelings. This article is for the guys who understand that their own happiness matters more than wasting time engaging with pettiness.

Fortunately, any guy can easily learn how to keep drama at an appropriate distance, which is to say, far away from himself and his life! There are many ways to do this, ways that I’ll briefly recap before giving you the golden ticket to a drama-free life with many lovers. Yes, such a key exists, and while it may be simple, it is not easy.

But guys who desire happiness badly enough will go to the lengths necessary to attain such freedom!

Creating an Environment for Bondage and Sexperimentation

bondageAs a student of psychology who worked in the field for years, I have arrived at the belief that the single most important predictor of behavior is context. By this, I mean the immediate environment surrounding the behavior – the people, the atmosphere, and all sensory input streams.

I mean, think about it for a second. Doesn’t it sometimes seem like you have a different personality depending on who you’re with, what you’re doing, or where you are? Have you ever done something, then looked back at it later and thought, “That just wasn’t me! I never do stuff like that!”

It’s almost like there was someone else controlling your actions, because the truth of the matter is that... it was a different personality. It was just as much “you” as the “you” you like to think is “you”, but it was simply expressing a side of itself that you had never experienced before. And, if I had to guess, I’d say you were in some kind of special circumstance when that happened… weren’t you? Maybe you were on vacation, maybe you were intoxicated, maybe you were hanging out with people with whom... for some reason, in that instance, it just seemed like an okay thing to do. Right?

So, as with nearly all phenomena I encounter in my journeys and adventures, I asked myself the question... “How can I use what I’ve learned to improve my sex life and the sex lives of my special lady friends?”

How to Feel Good NOW

No matter your self-improvement goal, there is one thing that will make or break you. That one thing is feeling good, synonymous with such concepts as being healthy or having a positive state and vibe.

What it essentially means is that you walk around with a smile on your face, eyes aglitter, radiating positive energy and lifting the vibrations of those around you simply by them coming into your energy field.

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The reasons for this are many, but to keep it simple, this is such an important concept because stress will literally kill you. It will make you negative, it will increase cortisol production in your body, and destroy body tissue. None of these things is conducive to achieving your goals.

How to Achieve Your Goals for 2014

We’ve all heard that most New Year’s Resolutions get ditched quicker than a guy expressing his undying devotion on a first date.

People tend to make glorious life-changing plans, then quickly settle into the same old routine they engaged in the year before. Of course, this leads to frustration, self-doubt and can even feed into a sense of perpetual helplessness as our goals crumble right before our very eyes.

Since nobody wants to live that way, and would rather see their goals met to build a sense of success and purpose, I thought I’d share a few, somewhat esoteric pieces of advice on how to make and set goals. While I won’t be delving deep into mysticism and magic, the advice I’m about to share comes from the latest cutting-edge research in schools of thought such as neuro-linguistic programming, the Hawaiian style of Huna, and from the Law of Attraction camp.

As I mentioned in my first article here on GirlsChase, you need a goal — even a destination — in order to calibrate whether you're moving closer to attaining it, stagnating, or moving farther away. So, consider this article a brief workshop on how to create proper goals, as well as an expansion of my earlier writings on the topic.

There are basically three steps involved in order to create attainable goals and do the inner work that is necessary to see them successfully blossom into reality:

The Sexual Marketplace: A Primer

Much like Alek's article on the Secret Society, this will be a theoretical entry, meant to improve your understanding of large-scale gender dynamics.

Let’s begin with a definition:

The Sexual Market Place, or SMP, is the invisible battlefield on which intrasexual competition is constantly waged, in order for every individual to maximize the chances of passing their genes onto the next generation successfully.

The Sexual Marketplace

Both men and women are in constant war with the other members of their respective sexes in order to fulfill their genetic prerogatives, which are to survive and replicate. This underlying warfare drives nearly all of human competition and progress in the world.

For both genders, there are only two ways to improve one's standing in the Sexual Marketplace:

  1. Raise your own Sexual Market Value (SMV)

  1. Lower the SMV of competitors

And that's literally all there is to it. For the remainder of this article, I'm going to point out common ways that each gender utilizes each option, highlighting certain social norms and forms of intrasexual aggression meant to facilitate those ends.

Let's start with the men.

How to NEXT a Girl

Reading through posts in the relationship forum, as well as guys' relationship issues elsewhere on the Internet, there appears to be a lot of confusion over how and when to implement what I believe is the single most powerful tool in a man's relationship arsenal:

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The NEXT.

Throughout this article, I'm going to provide you with the proper contexts in which to execute a NEXT, which situations make it impossible or ineffective, and how to do it. But first, a definition: