Answer Questions Like a Politician
Ah, questions. Those dreaded devices that seem so adept at cornering us into places we’d rather not be. How do you get out of answering the ones you don’t want to answer?
Ah, questions. Those dreaded devices that seem so adept at cornering us into places we’d rather not be. How do you get out of answering the ones you don’t want to answer?
Maybe it’s because I’m in Asia, but I seem to be meeting a lot of more conservative girls recently, and many of them have been throwing up a lot of initial resistance to kissing me. I used to run into this occasionally in the States, but nothing like what I’m seeing over here.
So what’s a guy to do? Well, what I’ve been doing is the same thing I’d do the odd time I’d run into women State-side who gave me resistance to kissing – I say resistance be damned and kiss her anyway.
I’m a big proponent of efficiency in all aspects of your life. Get things done faster, easier, and all in one shot, if at all possible, and you can get more accomplished in a shorter amount of time. Part of the reason I’m so gung-ho about efficiency, I think, is that I’m inherently a little bit on the lazy side… I don’t really want to spend a big chunk of time laboring over any one thing in particular.
Alright gentlemen, if you feel like fishing with dynamite, I’m going to show you how in this post on Chase Framing. This is how to get girls to chase you. If your goal is women pursuing you, women chasing after you, women trying to sleep with you… chase framing is the closest thing to a magic bullet you can come. Mix in investment and always moving things forward, and you’ll have the recipe for a lot of fast sex and strong relationships with women who want you with a passion.
First, something in the way of a definition.
Last weekend I spoke at a gathering of the San Diego pickup community. One of the things I skirted over briefly, due to time constraints, but that guys asked me to spend a little more time on and seemed very interested in hearing about, was on disqualifying yourself as a boyfriend.
Ask a guy what his LEAST favorite thing in socializing and seduction is, and it's usually going to come down to a few common issues. Here are a handful of those that we're going to focus on addressing today:
“I hate it when things are going really well with a girl, and she leaves to go to the bathroom and when she comes back it's like everything's changed and she's more serious and there's this weird awkward vibe there now.”
Getting investment from the women you meet is key to succeeding with them. As you get increasing amounts of compliance from girls, they become more and more comfortable having you take the lead and doing what you ask of them. They respond more positively to you in every way.
You want to get compliance early and often; the more you get, the more quickly things progress, and the more smoothly. Get a woman contributing from the start, and you improve your chances of success with her.
Now... want a way to do all that faster, better, and more efficiently, with stronger results?
Because our previous article on how to move faster with women (read the original here) proved so popular, we’ve put together a follow up with more tips on moving faster with women – and everything from getting phone numbers faster to getting kisses faster to getting the girl you like intimate in bed with you faster.
There’s a variety of reasons why women walk away from a conversation. Could be they’re bored. Could be they’re feeling uncomfortable. Could be they don’t think you like them or that you’re making fun of them too much or too hard. Could be their friends are pressuring them to go.
But whatever the reason, it’s in your best interest NOT to let them leave. They eject, leave, and walk away, and chances are you will never see them again. So yes, you can let them go, and tell yourself, “Well, I didn’t like that girl all that much anyway,” or, “No worries, there are plenty of fish in the sea.”
OR, you can put up a fight, and do what needs to be done to get her to stay. A guy who’s even somewhat seasoned can use the extra two, five, or ten minutes he gets from stopping an ejecting girl to turn things around, get her investing more, and get her feeling differently about him than she was before. If you do things right, you can correct all kinds of issues.
That’s what this post is about. Stopping women from ejecting. Getting them to stay. Giving yourself that second chance after you’ve messed things up because hey, we all do. Nobody shoots a hole-in-one every time he tees off.
So, that said, here are some tools you can use to stop them in their tracks and get them sticking around. Keep in mind that stopping them from leaving and getting them to stay is, in fact, getting a pretty big chunk of compliance out of them too, which does all kinds of good things for your cause. Let’s take a look.
Just for good measure, here are a collection of some fun lines / responses I’ve developed here and there along the way (most of them pretty recently) and am using a lot right now, mostly to spike sexual tension and put girls into a frame of chasing and pursuing you. Enjoy!
“You know, I came to [this bar / this nightclub / city name] to get away from girls like you.”