Insights from the Mind of a Seducer

A girl gets the wrong impression about you, and her mood toward you changes. How do you fix it? Simple enough: with Ignore, Exhibit, Re-Attract.

Imagine you’re in this scenario:

You’re being your regular cool self, but for whatever reason you slip up and say something rude.

You thought you were being funny but you ended up telling a girl she looks like a dork in that getup she has on, and she takes it personally and auto-rejects you, turning cold and offended.

You could try to use the auto-rejection turnaround technique, and that might work. But maybe she’s so offended she won’t even give you the chance to.

There’s another approach you can take. It’s more indirect, and it requires a consistent social environment (so it’s not usually going to work in, say, daytime cold approach, or nighttime street game) – but if you pull it off, it can bring back girls who’d decided they didn’t want anything to do with you at all.

Note: this is a firefighting tactic that is mostly only practical for intermediate seducers and higher. Due to the nature of the tactic, the higher your seduction skill level, the more effective this tactic will be; the less skilled you are, the less likely it is to succeed. We’ll look at why toward the end of the article, but for now, let’s talk tactics.

Women today aren’t worried about being “sluts” — they’re worried about being COMFORTABLE. So how do you get girls sexually comfortable with you? One way is via LISTING.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week, I discussed the concept of frame control and how to use listing as a strategy to tackle tests that may arise when discussing sexual topics. Common questions include: “Why are you telling me this?”, “Why are you talking about sex?” or “Do you always talk about sex?” I explained that providing a list of reasons for why you are saying or doing something can be very effective. Outlining the benefits and explaining why it is generally well-received can help make your perspective (and frame) one she should agree with. This technique is a classic form of persuasion commonly used in sales.

Today, I will expand on this, demonstrating how to apply it in sexual comfort gambits. For an example, see the narrative gambit at Pickup and Seduction Gambit: Narratives and to some extent, the diachronic sex gambit that I will share next week.

Because this concept is intuitive, easy to execute, and, most importantly, highly efficient, I took time to reflect on it and developed some new gambits. These will help better illustrate this technique.

The primary purpose of a gambit has always been to provide an example of how to apply specific techniques via a theme to set frames and elicit emotions. This gambit is no different: you can phrase it however you like, tweak it, and experiment to make it your own.