I feel as though the perfect follow-up to our last entry in this
series, Part 2: What Men Think Marriage Will Be Like,
article exploring all the bad things that happen when your relationship
doesn't turn out quite as perfect as you thought it would and
the whole thing starts to go haywire.
Also, if you're just jumping in here, see Part 1, where we explain
in detail reasons why guys get married in the first
Usually it's not any one little
thing that will sour the grapes, but
rather a combination of a handful of different problems that really
does a relationship in.
As a married couple, you are going to constantly face life
situations head-on together, and while many of these can be avoided
completely and others just come with the territory, all of these that
we'll talk about in this article can end up being cause for divorce and
should have the kibosh put on them as soon as you observe them.
In Chase's recent article The Key
to Nipping Girlfriend Drama in the Bud in LTRs, we found
that you can't be non-reactive and turn a blind eye to certain issues
like you would early on in relationships. As explained in the article,
the landscape changes significantly in a long-term relationship, and at
times you actually need to be quite dogged in going about actually
getting her to tell you about her concerns or problems in the first
Conflict resolution is important. However, conflict prevention
is preferred, right? Though at some point there will be situations that
either can't or just don't get prevented, so you end up having to deal
As a final note before we get started: There's one really
ginormous, obvious problem that I'm not even going to tear into here -
and only because it is fairly cut and dry and I think most guys get
this - and that is physical abuse. I just do not feel
that it is a subject that warrants a copious amount of commentary. It
is basically the lowest possible low that can happen in a relationship,
far worse even than anything that follows.