Insights from the Mind of a Seducer

Discover the key habits that attract women naturally—and how to build them. Transform your dating life with simple, repeatable routines.

I had an initial consultation call yesterday with a long-time reader and student about a long-term mentorship with me. The reader is in his 40s and looking to meet higher quality girls through day game, which he’s had some struggles getting started with.

He recognized (as I’d expect, having been a reader for so long!) that many of the issues he’s having stem from lack of familiarity. Things like:

• Feeling awkward when he goes out solo to approach

• Missing approach invitations and not realizing it till later

• His mind going blank when he talks to girls in cold approach

• Forgetting to build compliance or focus on the other elements of SAC

Go out enough times, approach enough times, do it enough times while focused on getting each of these areas down, and through practice and repetition it all becomes known, then natural, then, eventually, if you keep at it long enough, more or less unconscious competence.

There’s a lot more in game that is ‘habitual’ than just what you do and say with girls on the approach, however.

In fact, a whole lot of the most important pieces of success with girls can be boiled down to, “Have you built habits that attract women, or have you not?”

Most average men fail with women—but you don’t have to. Here’s why ‘average’ kills attraction and how to rise above it.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Occasionally, I participate in online conversations about pickup. Sometimes, beginners ask me basic questions. I typically don’t identify as a coach for beginners, nor do I promote my coaching services to this group. Most of my content is for intermediate and advanced guys. I often find beginning techniques to be dull and repetitive. However, there are times when I feel compelled to answer questions from beginners.

I’ve recently received a familiar question that has been covered extensively in the past. But considering I’ve been discussing more complex sex talk topics lately, I thought why not take a break and write about something more easygoing? Considering the question I am about to answer is one that rarely catches my attention and that I don’t usually bother to think about, you may find this a good review when reading the answer to a perhaps familiar question by a guy who rarely discusses it.

Can an average guy succeed with women?

After all, somehow average guys (and below) get girlfriends. So it must be doable, right?

I usually ignore this question because it is irrelevant to me. It has no direct effect on your skills. Learning theories and applying the techniques is what truly matters. This may be because I am advanced and am taking a more arrogant and dismissive perspective. Well, not today, my friend.

The quick answer to the question is:

No. Average men cannot succeed with women.

So, are you doomed as a beginner? Well, not exactly. The real question is, are you truly average? See what I did there? I reframed the question, and you should learn this too.