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Opening Nurses: A Gambit for Approaching Women Wearing Scrubs

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By: Skilled Seducer

how to open nursesNurses are some of the most fun, sexually open-minded girls you’ll find. StrayDog shares the opener he uses to strike up seductive conversations with them.

This post by StrayDog originally appeared on our forum here.

Alright guys, we're back with another field tested opener that has consistent results. This time it's a little more niche. Nurses!

It is quite common that you will see a fine-looking nurse doing a bit of pre/post work shopping, wearing her scrubs. Sometimes it’s just the shirt or just the pants, so be on the lookout ‘cause the opportunity is still there.

Now, if any of you have spent time with a nurse when she's off the clock, you know that these ladies are a joy to be around. Might as well approach her and see what you two can get into.

Easily Handle Sex Talk Tests with Listing

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By: Alek Rolstad

listing to beat sex talk testsListing is a handy tactic for getting past all kinds of tests from women — including women’s tests when you use sex talk.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week, I talked about frame control and how to handle potential tests when using sex talk. I distinguished between tests that women may use to test your frame, congruence, and authenticity. If you are new to this concept, I recommend reading last week’s post, as it will help you identify whether you are facing resistance tests, which require a slightly different approach. I included several links on how to deal with resistance. For example, if a girl says, “I am not that type of girl,” this may indicate a resistance test.

A few articles ago, I covered the importance and power of using fractionation during sex talk. This has many benefits, including limiting your chance of facing resistance by creating comfort. It also helps keep the conversation fresh and avoids overinflating the sex talk. More importantly, you can avoid getting tested, although you may not be able to prevent all tests.

There are many types of tests, and they are usually contextual. That’s why it isn’t easy to provide a comprehensive list of examples and “catch-all” answers to each. Frame control tests are about testing your frame, and dealing with them is something you must practice and troubleshoot individually. So, go out, get tested, and try to pass girls’ tests. If you fail, go home and think of better responses to reframe, or visit the forums and ask for help. You can even hire or hire a coach (wink).

Secrets to Getting Girls: Emotionally Expressive Approaches

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By: Chase Amante

emotionally expressive approachesApproach girls flat or polite, and you’ll get flat, polite receptions. Want girls who are excited and eager to meet you? Then BE that way when you approach!

I was responding to a thread on the forum where forum member Arnav asked about how to keep cold approach conversations going beyond the first 30 seconds. He brought up difficulty dealing with girls he approached who only seemed neutral or polite.

Here’s a description of a similar phenomenon written by another forum member, RDRChaseMember:

So from my usual experiences with cold approach, they're usually I pay a compliment to her and try to open, and they walk away or don't stop to talk to me, fine. The other experience I get from it (though pretty rare) is that they do engage in a conversation with me enthusiastically, we're making long conversation, and I go for a number. Yet, when I follow up with them, I don't hear anything back from them.

It's almost as if I should expect general disinterest most of the time.

In one of my responses to Arnav (who wants to know how to keep cold approach conversation going beyond 30 seconds), I shared a secret to getting girls that veteran seducers all sooner or later figure out: that women reflect your mood right back at you, thanks to the power of emotional contagion. In other words, if you want a girl to respond a certain way to your approach, be that way on the approach.

Here’s what I told Arnav:

This is one of the magic tricks a good seducer has that regular guys don't: he can approach a girl and using nothing but his own expressiveness and her mirror neurons he can elicit what appears to be a high degree of interest from her right away. When I used to take guys out in-field and do demonstration approaches the guys would always comment after, "Wow, that girl was REALLY into you!" Sometimes she is, but sometimes she is just mirroring my approach, because that is what women do if you seem like a reasonably cool guy and you are being EXPRESSIVE. But get her to mirror you long enough and even the girls who weren't all that interested can start to wonder to themselves if maybe they are.

Today I’m going to let you in a little more on this secret of emotionally expressive approaches, that way you don’t have to wait until you’re 3 or 4 years deep in seduction before you puzzle this one out on your own (3-4 years in is right around when this one truly clicks for the average self-taught playboy).

Monkeybranching: Why Do Women Always Want Backup Options?

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By: Chase Amante

why women monkeybranchWomen often won’t leave one man until they have another one to monkeybranch off to. Why’s it so important to women to have male backup options?

It’s more or less the ultimate ‘man role’ to be ready to walk away and leave it all behind: to wander off across the horizon, completely self-reliant, needing nothing at all besides your feet to carry you and your head and hands to do what’s needed wherever you end up.

We all intuitively respect a man far more who’s ever-ready to march off on his own, if the situation calls for it, than we do the man who begs, pleads, cries, and scrambles, trying to hang onto a crumbling situation. Men respect powerful, independent men; women are attracted to them. I don’t just tell men they must be ready to replace their women, not chase them for their own peace of mind; having this frame of mind makes you significantly more attractive to others, too.

But women are different from men.

Women don’t care about man-things like ‘respect’. Not for themselves.

Women don’t need to be seen as ‘self-reliant’; in fact, coming across too self-reliant harms women’s attractiveness to most men.

And if there’s one thing women do that a lot of men struggle to understand, it is this constant cultivation of male backup options – and their propensity to ‘monkeybranch’ – that is, to not let go of one branch (man) until the next branch (man) is already in-hand.

Often men will think they’re getting somewhere with a girl, or that she really likes them – only to realize at some point that they were in her friend zone, merely a ‘back pocket man’. A guy who’s there for her just in case of emergency.

Other times guys will be seeing a girl they like, only to realize she’s cultivating all these backup options on the side from them.

But why? Why can’t women just be happy with the guy they’ve got?

Is the grass really THAT green on the other side?

3 Ways to Beat Women's Tests When You Use Sex Talk

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By: Alek Rolstad

own the sexual frameSex talk is a powerful technique — yet women will test you on it. “Is sex all you think about?” “Why are you always talking about sex?” Use these 3 ways to sail past tests & get the girl.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

In the past few weeks, I’ve delved into sex talk topics, focusing on calibration and fractionation. This technique involves alternating between sex talk and other subjects to build comfort and avoid inflating the topic. By doing this, you keep the interaction from growing stale. Mastering fractionation is essential for effective sex talk. If you are unfamiliar with it, read up on it and practice.

Today, I want to discuss potential tests you may encounter when using sex talk. Some examples you may hear from girls:

“Are you always talking about sex?”

“Is sex the only thing you think about?”

“Is sex the only thing you talk about?”

“Why are we talking about sex?”

“Why are you telling me about this (sexual thing)?

Depending on the context, you may hear many types of these tests, but they are generally along those lines.

"Getting Girls Is Too Much Work!" That's 'Cause You're Getting Them Wrong

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By: Chase Amante

'getting girls is way too much work!' -- that means you're doing it wrongWhen getting girls feels like a lot of work, you’re getting the ‘getting’ wrong. The secret is how much work you get HER to put in – not how much YOU do.

I keep hearing this same phrase and variations thereof chanted over and over by men across the Internet:

  • “Getting girls is too much work!”

  • “Women aren’t worth the effort!”

  • “No woman is worth doing this!”

I see guys miming it all over social media anytime anyone talks about getting girls.

I see it parroted randomly on forums and article comment sections online.

It’s repeated so freely and easily, and repeated so verbatim, that it’s clear it’s a gut-level response, bleached deep into men’s psyches, that they’ve absorbed from the red pill Internet and internalized.

But if getting girls is a lot of work, I just have this to say to you, amigo:

The way you’re using to get them is the WRONG way!

How to Act Around a Girl Who Rejected You

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By: Chase Amante

how to act around rejecting girlsIt’s awkward running into girls who rejected you. Should you ignore them or try to be nice? And is it possible to re-attract them & ask them out again?

Getting rejected by a girl sucks.

It’s awkward and sometimes painful.

But do you know what’s about 10x more awkward than the rejection itself?

Running into the girl who rejected you and not knowing how to act.

What should you do when you see her again?

Should you…

  • Try to explain you didn’t actually mean to ask her out?

  • Apologize for something awkward you did the first time around?

  • Flirt with her as if nothing has changed?

  • Give her the cold shoulder and ignore her completely?

What’s the correct play?

I’m going to spell out for you the socially savviest play you can make when encountering a girl who rejected you – the play that most guarantees you come out on top, looking cool, suave, and in-control, and making her question whether ‘rejecting’ you was really the right call.

After that, we’ll talk about making moves on girls who rejected you again, too… if, that is, you want to.

You're Already Cooler Than 99% of Guys

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By: Skilled Seducer

you're cooler than 99% of other menThe fact that you’re making an effort to look good, not gushing all over girls, and actually trying to be chill & interesting puts you head and shoulders over almost every other man.

This post by DoWhatWorks originally appeared on our forum here.

TLDR: If you're on this site, self-improvement focused and avoid doing stupid things around girls you'll stand out against 99% of guys.

You likely don't give yourself enough credit. Remember there are plenty of cool/attractive girls you can get by putting in numbers and this recent looks obsession/maxxing is an insecurity marketing tactic which if I'm honest I occasionally fall victim too. Goodlooking loser had a great post on this (“Hollywood Loves Your Inferiority Complex, Part 1”) back in the day.

How to Fractionate In and Out of Sex Talk

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By: Alek Rolstad

keep the frame freshSex talk is a powerful seduction tool. But overuse it, and the sex talk turns stale. How do you avoid this? With fractionation. Here’s how to keep your sex talk fresh.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Last week, we discussed the importance of using fractionation with sex talk. For an explanation of how fractionation works, see Fractionation Simply Explained.

Fractionation is a simple yet powerful technique for alternating between a topic, vibe, or frame. In this instance, it involves bringing up sexual topics, then switching to a different subject for a while, before returning to the conversation about sex.

Why should you use fractionation?

  1. It keeps the interaction fresh.

  2. It avoids overinflating the subject, which can decrease its value.

  3. It leaves the girl wanting more, which makes her more invested in you and the interaction.

  4. It creates comfort, which is especially useful if you sense resistance coming. This helps you bypass potential roadblocks.

  5. It helps you maintain the social frame so that the interaction seems smooth.

But exactly how should you fractionate? When? And into what?

First, a disclaimer. Today, I will provide detailed calibration information. Keep in mind that I am doing this because some readers are already good with sex talk. Do not feel intimidated or fall for the trap that you will not do well unless you are perfectly calibrated. You will usually be fine if you at least fractionate occasionally. The details below encompass things I do not always think about when in-field myself. But this is Girls Chase, so the more information we can provide to assist, the better. But do not get caught up with every calibration detail.

10 Signs She's a Nymphomaniac Who Loves to F*ck

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By: Chase Amante

signs she's a nymphomaniac6% of women are nymphomaniacs. But how can you tell if she is one? By looking for these 10 signs she’s a nympho who loves to get down with guy after guy.

Time for a fun guide.

If we define as “nymphomaniac” any girl who has (or will have in the future) 50 or more lifetime lovers, 6% of women qualify as nymphomaniacs. Heck, 2.5% of women will experience 100+ lovers over the course of their lifetimes – ultra-nymphos!

These women are out there – and some of the women you’ll encounter, some of the time, will be them. The question we’ll answer today is, “How do you know who’s who?”

“Wait, Chase,” I hear you ask, “why would I want to know if a girl’s a nymphomaniac?”

Two reasons:

  1. To spot girls who are going to be a totally great time in bed

  2. To avoid girls who are highly likely to cheat on you if you attempt monogamy with them

If either of those reasons (or both of them) has any appeal to you, then read on.

(if not, then I guess skip this article, and let it stay a mystery for you!)

As you read, keep in mind: just one or two of these signs, and she may or may not be a nympho. But the more of these signs you see, the more your brain should start blaring “nympho alert!”