One of our readers, Richard, asked about approach anxiety in the comments
section of my last article on Girls Chase about dating for introverts:
I must genuinely thank you for your article as, without
consciously labeling my game as introverted, it is. Sex hasn't meant a
whole lot to me, and even after opening several women, I generally only
end up holding onto a few of the girls I meet. I respect what you
write, and I greatly look forward to your future articles. That being
said though, I have a few friends who introverts as well, and though my
game has gotten worlds better, I can't get them over their massive
approach anxiety, what worked for me hasn't worked for them. Any advice
for the introverted man who has approach anxiety? You've become
inspiration for me man. Thank you,
Approach anxiety is a topic that resurfaces from time to time on
site, addressed in articles such as "How to Approach a Girl
Wherever You Are (Easily)" and "How to Pick Up Girls: The Success Factor,
Part IV" and a smattering of other pieces. It was even
systematically addressed by Chase in "Overcoming Approach Anxiety."
Yet, despite these excellent write ups, so many of our dear readers
(as well as male friends of my own) continue
to complain of completely freezing whenever
they try to talk to an attractive woman.
I know exactly how this goes.
Well... at least I used to.
Approach anxiety was by far my
in greatly improving my skills with women. Bar none. I read everything
I could, I talked to everyone I could possibly talk to, and did
whatever was necessary to try to address the crippling anxiety I had.
Now, it’s not something I really think about anymore.
So team, I am now going to offer you a comprehensive post on
approach anxiety; one from my own perspective, to complement Chase's
previous piece and the other articles on this site that deal with
the subject, to share with you everything I learned, the pitfalls you
and how you should go about moving forward. It is my hope that this
will be the last post you
will ever need on the topic.