I’ve been getting fairly a large number of PMs of late over on the forum side of things here on GC asking about vibe, so here I am in this article to (properly) tackle the beast!
So what is vibe, anyway?
Chase and the amazing writers of Girls Chase have a number of fantastic articles on vibe already, and I recommend you check these out before giving this piece a read:
- Constructing Your Sexy Vibe (and Making Girls Go Nuts)
- How to be Smooth with Girls Every Time
- How to Be Edgy (and Turn Women On)
- How to Pick Up Girls: The Success Factor Part I
- Sexual Tension: 7 Ways to Make Women Excited and Randy
The difference between those pieces and this piece is that the articles above are zeroed in on specific vibes, rather than how to learn and develop a vibe overall in the very first place... and if they don’t answer questions you have about getting vibe down, then keep reading, as I shed some light on the matter of building your vibe.
What is Vibe?
Vibe is that strange energy that every person gives off. This energy changes from situation to situation.
Take, for example, four different situations:
You hanging out with family on a lazy Saturday afternoon, joking around with everyone, briskly discussing recent news articles and whatnot.
You hanging out with the guys on poker night, laughing, talking about women, your recent sexual escapades, and the fact that your boss at work is a jerk!
You approaching that sexy dame you’ve got your sights on for the first time, you’re stumbling, running over your words, and sweating bullets.
You approaching that sexy dame you’ve got your sights on and you’re smooth, charismatic, unimpressed by her high-octane life, she’s just another person for you.
In each of the four situations, think about how your vibe changes with the people you interact with. Are you a stud with your family, are you a charming seducer with your friends, are you brisk and chill with women? Chances are, probably not.
But that’s essentially what your vibe is. It’s the energy emanating from you at any given time, and it’s picked up by others. For our purposes, and the purpose of this article, those other people are women... sexy women!
And the biggest, and most exciting factor there is about vibe? You can change your vibe to your liking!
How Do You Change Your Vibe?
First things first, you’ll want to get a bead on what your current vibe is. Because vibe changes with different people, you may already have a vibe that’s attractive. So, ask your family and friends to tell you what vibe you give off: what aura or energy do they see you emanating?
If you have a vibe that you want to change, tweak, or construct from scratch though, you can use the following three techniques:
- Modeling after someone
- Internalizing a mindset
- Tweaking your physical gestures
Let’s take a closer gander at each of the three.
Modeling After Someone
I was first introduced to this idea a ways back, and it proved to be quite helpful for me in building a social circle, as well as creating a new vibe.
When you model yourself after someone, you pick out somebody who has walked the path you are walking now. Could be somebody famous; could be someone in your everyday life; could be somebody dead; it really doesn’t matter who, so long as it’s someone you imagine you’d like to be more like.
All you have to do: take that person’s qualities and apply them to yourself.
How does/did that person walk, talk, carry himself?
How does/did that person breathe?
What about his physiology?
What did he do to get where he is?
Now copy him.
What happens is the vibe he creates then becomes a part of your own vibe. Obviously, if he’s famous, he’s probably confident, and thus, as you imagine yourself becoming him and begin to take on his traits, that confidence he inhabits becomes yours as well.
But, the newfound vibe you acquire doesn’t take away from your natural, or even your current vibe; instead it amplifies it for the better!
You ideally pick someone who is similar to yourself, and, ordinarily, the vibe he gives off is one that is hidden inside you yourself as well, merely waiting to come out.
So, bring it out.
Internalizing a Mindset
Another one that I have had work well for me in the past.
Or, you can create your own, tailor-made specifically for you. This could be something like:
“I’m a sexy man. And women find me attractive.”
“Women are just silly and cute. No need to fret about them.”
“I can do anything, so long as I push myself.”
Whatever goal you have with women and vibe, think up a phrase, or motivational mindset that relates, and repeat it to yourself, or write it down.
The idea here is to internalize it, meaning you’ll want to become so familiar with your idea that you believe it - and you should believe it!
Socially-speaking, your belief system and your actions correlate with one another... they influence each other.
If you believe something, you’re more likely to behave in a way that is in-sync with that belief. Thus, if you internalize a belief or a mindset, you’re much more likely to behave the way that mindset naturally dictates you behave.
So, if you believe you’re a sexy man, you’re more likely to give off a sexy vibe and come off as a charismatic lover to women. If you believe women are silly and cute, then you’re more likely to approach a woman comfortably with ease and give off that vibe of comfort and ease.
Tweaking Your Physical Gestures
This technique takes a bit longer and is a prime example of something to utilize Chase’s 100 hour rule to get yourself executing on.
With this approach, you’ll be changing your physiology into body mechanics that have been proven to work at effecting behavioral change.
Take another two scenarios:
One guy walks slowly down the street with his back straight. Not fazed by anything around him, you see some focus in his eyes, and you see him smile occasionally at the beautiful women passing by.
Another guy walks fast with his head down, slouching a bit. He picks his head up once in a while, notices a beautiful woman and immediately pushes his head down. (Side note: don’t ever look down!)
If you saw each of these two men walk down the street and observed this behavior from each, how would you describe their vibes? The first guy is pretty sexy and dominant, isn’t he? The latter is more submissive, and isn’t sexy.
Your body language and physical movement gives people an idea of who you are... or, rather, the type of person you are.
In the beginning of the article, there were a few links to articles on specific vibes that this site talks about. Pay attention to these, and above all, find out how certain types of men move and interact and do what they do.
As a universal rule, you’ll want to walk slowly, speak
slowly, keep your head parallel to the ground, smile at people, and
breathe regularly. These are the basic body movements of a powerful man.
However, if you’re looking to give off a specific vibe to pick up a certain type of woman, you’ll need to adjust your body language and gestures accordingly with what that kind of vibe entails.
Physical Gestures, Part II
Believe it or not, your body language and positioning affects your mental processes - and the effect is actually quite pronounced.
Try these out:
Clench your fist, tighten your muscles. Clench your teeth together, and pull your eyebrows down (effectively an angry face). How do you feel? Angry!
Puff your chest out, pull your shoulders back. Raise your head up parallel to the ground, and breathe. How do you feel? Confident!
That’s your mind-body feedback loop at work.
Your body’s present state influences your mood and your attitudes.
So, when you walk more slowly, speak more slowly, pull your shoulders back, keep your head parallel to the ground, and smile, you feel more confident and more dominant yourself, and can then act more natural with women, and are flatly perceived as confident, too.
Changing your physical gestures to show confidence then serves a dual purpose - and both of these purposes noticeably boost your success rates socially and with women.
As another side note, you can change your posture and body language to combat approach anxiety - in fact, if you aren’t doing so already when you go out, I strongly suggest you start.
Tying It All Together
By far the best way to construct or change your vibe is to combine a pair or all of these techniques.
Try changing your body language, posture, and position to one of confidence while internalizing a mindset of confidence and you’ll be amazed at how fast the change is.
You’ll also be amazed at how fast women will start to notice you differently... and the differences will be amazing.
Try it out, and watch your world change.