Secrets to Getting Girls: Move Faster


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We’re starting a new series of articles intending to highlight some little-known or under-discussed topics in the world of dating and seduction, called Secrets to Getting Girls. This first edition is focused on how fast you move through an interaction with a girl you like, from the time you first meet her until the moment you’re sleeping with her. Hope you enjoy.

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Ever have an interaction going really well, with a girl really into you, but then it starts fading, dying away, and eventually she excuses herself and leaves?

You need to move faster.

Ever have a girl chasing you hard, calling you and texting you often, but then after a while the attention dies down, her attraction for you seems to wan, and she even stops responding to your calls and texts?

You need to move faster.

Ever have a girl at your place, into you, maybe even saying sexual stuff or doing sexy things, and you want to make sure the timing’s right so you wait for the right moment, and wait, and when you finally go for it she pushes you away, acts uncomfortable, and eventually leaves?

You need to move FASTER!

Why do girls act into guys, then leave them hanging? Why was she leading you on? Why did she act attracted, put sex on the table, then take it away? It’s because with every woman, there is only a limited window of opportunity to take things and run with them. When she’s still feeling you out, she’ll be tentative and experimental, putting her feelers out there. The men who take action and make things happen are the ones who find success with women.

Look at these famous, well-known sayings:

Fortune favors the bold.

He who hesitates is lost.

Strike while the iron is hot.

I’m sure you can think of a couple more. Think about them as they apply to meeting girls. Who do you think gets more girls -- the guy who hems and haws when a girl shows him attraction? Or the guy who recognizes it when he sees it, and immediately starts moving things forward with his girl?

There is no place in seduction for a man to be tentative or slow.

At best, the slow, tentative man gets slotted firmly into boyfriend / husband territory. That means the girl in question will hold out longer, resist more, and demand more work and investment from him before she even thinks about putting out. She realizes he’s not a play-hard-or-go-home kind of guy, but if she still likes him anyway, she might just give him a shot at providing for her.

At worst, the slow, tentative man gets nothing. His girl loses interest and moves on, in search of a man who goes for what he wants.

We hear this often enough: women want STRONG men. Men who LEAD. Who TAKE ACTION and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. But what we don’t hear so much is that you only have so long to SHOW her you’re that strong man who leads. You only have as long as her window is open.

SO, what can you do? How do you get yourself moving faster?

Here are a few ways to light that fire in your belly, and get yourself moving faster than ever:

• Any time you feel like it’s dragging on and not moving forward, realize that she’s probably feeling the EXACT SAME WAY, and do something about it. Move your interaction to the next level!

• Any time you want to take action, but feel that twang of doubt suggesting that maybe she’s not ready, or maybe she won’t react the way you want, stop, and remind yourself that if you don’t take action, now, when you have the chance to do so, you may very well never get another opportunity from her. Windows only stay open so long, so move, and move faster!

• Move her soon after meeting her. Met her on the street? In a bookstore? In a coffee shop? At a party? At a bar or a nightclub? Move her within ten minutes after meeting her. Faster, if possible, and she's responding well. Try to move every girl you talk to within ten minutes, maximum. The ones who don't want to move you probably weren't going to get anything productive out of anyway; if she seems REALLY into you but won't move (because of friends or some weird circumstance), grab a number and call her later. Hanging around does you no good. And the girls you get to move with you quickly will commit themselves to you -- and their interaction with you -- right away. The earlier this happens, the better.

• Be fast. Don’t wait to call a woman after you meet her. Text her a few hours after you meet her and tell her it’s great to make a new friend and sign your name. Call her the next day and build some rapport. Then call a few days later and ask her out. Get her out with you that same week!

• When she’s in your place, don’t hesitate. Be confident, suave, smooth. Be aggressive. No means no, obviously, but women don’t want timid men hoping they’ll make the first move, either. The first move is yours to make, and the longer you wait, the more awkward it becomes. So make it FAST!

It's crazy when you think about how many women guys lose by moving too slowly. If you're a cool, normal guy, who takes care of himself, grooms himself well, is friendly, outgoing, and sociable, with at least a little bit of sexiness and confidence about you, I guarantee you you will get a lot more girls by moving faster. Is it possible to move too fast? Yes -- depending (enormously) on the girl, the guy, and the situation. Different girls move at different speeds in different situations with different guys. But in my experience, the vast majority of guys lose girls by moving too slow. So, if you've ever had a girl who felt like a sure thing take off because you missed that window, don't get discouraged. Instead, take heed -- and next time,

Move faster!

Yours,
Chase Amante

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Update, 15 March 2010:

Be sure to check out this article's follow up, "Move Faster II", right here, for even more tips and techniques on moving faster with women.

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Anonymous's picture

Awesome man!!! I love every


Awesome man!!! I love every post of this website. Every post gives such valuable information that takes years of experience. Thank you very very very much..

Chase Amante's picture

Re: Awesome man!!! I love every

Author

Hey, most definitely, Anon. Just trying to build a repository online and get some of this stuff out there before I get too old and start forgetting it, or get hit by a bus, or stabbed by a bunch of bandits or something ;) Happy to hear you're digging it -- and I'll keep trying to keep the content fresh.

Chase

Anonymous's picture

Does the concept of moving


Does the concept of moving fast apply to a girl if she's in another relationship?

Chase Amante's picture

Re: Move fast if she's in a relationship?

Author

Hi Anon,

Well, yes and no. Depends on what you're going for.

If it's your intention to sleep with her while she's still in that other relationship, then yes, move fast. Her relationship with another man doesn't really have much to do with the relationship between you and her; it's her decision whether that other man is enough for her, or whether she wants to have you both, but if you move too slow here there's a very real chance that what she's looking for (almost always a man who's stronger, more aggressive, and more arousing than her partner) she's going to decide isn't you. So speed is of the essence.

If you want to date her after she breaks up with her guy, your best bet is to rotate her to the periphery of your circle (see "The Secret to Hooking Up with Friends") and come back to her when she's single.

Chase

Malcom's picture

Chase First off great site


Chase

First off great site man keep doing your thing cuddos! Now my issue is not with the "easier" women or the ones I would say value themselves but moreover with the ones who are conservative and truly value themselves. I'm 20 years old and don't have my own place yet, so the lovemaking goes down in either my car or a hotel room! My question is how to approach moving a woman to either one of these places without offending her and coming off as if she is a slut. I'm always walking on eggshells with thus issue and wanted to know what your advice would be for "how to move a woman if your homeless" lol. Thanks in advance and keep up the good work!

P.s please excuse my writing, in the process of learning a touchscreen

Chase Amante's picture

Re: Getting girls in your car or hotel room

Author

Hey Malcom,

Good question. Most important thing for getting women in your car or your hotel room -- whether they're conservative or not -- is simply being nonchalant about it and "assuming the sale."

e.g., the guy who asks a girl, "Hey, want to go to my hotel room?" won't do that well. But the guy who simply tells a girl, "Let's go," and ushers her off to the backseat of his car or to his hotel will fare much better.

The backseat of the car, if you get objections, tell her, "I just want to sit and talk with you. We don't have to do anything we don't want to do." Of course, once you're back there, she may very much want to kiss you... or more.

The hotel, if you get objections, just tell her, "This is just for us to chill. It's better than somewhere noisy and crowded."

Then -- lead away.

Cheers,
Chase

kevin's picture

met a girl who was really into me


I met a girl who was really into me, unfortunately I didnt move fast enough and I think she lost interest a bit, I asked her if she wanted to hangou, through text (because I rarely rarely see her) she didnt text back. I want to try and find her to ask her in person. But I want to know if im wasting my time, if I should just move on and find some other girl. We go to the same college btw

Anonymous's picture

Hello Chase, Got a question


Hello Chase,
Got a question for you. So theres this girl that use to flirt with me and I didn't realize it at first. But anyways were talking again and I told her to text me and she did. This girl has been around the block.... What is the best way to go about this from here? should I text her and ask her to come over this weekend and share some alcohol with me? thats what I was thinking,
Thank you

Anonymous's picture

what about girls u meet online?


So i randomly msgd this girl on fb whom i've never met.
I just straight up messaged her saying she looks amazing and do you live this city. I got a reply that night and she said hi thanks and yes.
A few hours after that i told her that she was t she only girl who i've ever said that to and what she does for a living and how she likes it in this city. Now i'm thinking did i just ask her to reply all that to me? And then of course i never heard back from her. It's been 2 days and i'm pretty sure she saw the message. I agree with the whole moving along fast. Maybe that's where i screw up all the time but yet i don't wanna look desperate. I'm pretty good with opening up conversations but i always seem to fail closing the deal. I don't understand myself sometimes.

Should i keep trying with this online girl?

theelvispower's picture

Public Venues


Ciao Chase,
I feel intimidated asking a girl out in public, or doing anything with her (in public). I want to save face, if you know what I mean. Can you give me some tips?

Grazie

Mason's picture

"Weird Trick" by Scott Patterson


I received this in my mailbox under the subject line "One weird technique for seducing women but always works" and would like to know what your take is on the following article. It seems to be in complete opposition to your advice of moving faster, here it goes:
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Today I want talk about a weird trick that creates
a seductive atmosphere with women.

At first, it might seen a little counter-intuitive.

But bear with me...applying this technique will
ALWAYS make her desire you more.
What is this trick?
It's CONTROLLING the pace of the relationshps you
have with women.
"Two steps forward, one step back."
This is a valuable lesson I learned over six years
ago from a dating expert named David Deangelo.
What he means is simple...
When dealing with women, you want to keep
progressing your relationships.
But every time you take it to the next level,
you want to pull back a little.

Why does this technique work?
Well, a woman typically doesn't like it when a
guy moves things too quickly.
Her natural instinct is to flee from any
relationship that gets "hot and heavy" too
quickly.
This is ESPECIALLY true when she thinks the guy
is only interested in sex.
By following the "two steps forward, one step
back" technique, you'll progress the relationship,
while giving her the space that she needs.
With women, it's actually better to move too
slowly than too fast.
As long as you're initiating the next step, it's
NEVER too slow.
For instance, say you're playfully flirting on a
date.
At some point you'll kiss her.
And after doing this for a few seconds, you'll
stop and go back to flirting.
This is the exact OPPOSITE of what a lot of men
do.
When kissing a girl, MOST guys will push the
physical escalation.

In other words, they try to turn that kiss into
a sexual encounter.

Unless she's looking for a one night stand,
behavior like this immediately puts her on the
defensive.

Instead of enjoying the moment, she's wondering
if you're only interested in getting
into her pants.

By kissing her and then pulling back, you're
demonstrating a few qualities of the naturally
attractive man:

1) You are physically attracted to her

2) You have self-control and restraint

3) You show confidence by NOT acting like a s
ex-starved teenager

A man who goes slowly in a relationship shows
that he understands the needs of women.

He knows that she wants to feel desired, but she
also needs her freedom.

He's naturally attractive because he's confident
enough to progress the relationship at a pace
that's comfortable to a woman.

Talk Soon,

Scott Patterson
Chick Magnet 101

Jay's picture

Girls in your classes


Chase,

Just stumbled across your site and I have to say (you've heard this a million times) I wish I found it sooner! Im pretty much a beginner at the game but anyways I thought I'd share a story. So there was this girl in my class this fall who I really liked and I thought it was pretty obvious she liked me as well through her body language, etc, we ended up sitting next to each other every class we'd always make small talk after class, she introduced me to her sister on campus and generally seemed overly interested in what I had to say and smiled a lot. I took it she was into me. Anyways, I got her number after a few more class meetings and suggested we study for the midterm, she said "yeah we should! text me". So I didn't contact her until the next week the day before I wanted to meet up (mistake number 1?). She didn't respond until I was already in the library studying when I got a text that said shes sorry she didn't contact me back sooner and had to do blah blah blah. It sounded like an excuse but I said it wasn't a big deal and that I'd be back in the library in a few days if she wanted to join me then, responding to her in under 10 minutes (mistake number 2?). No response. Next time I saw her in class the next week I didn't say anything about it and acted like it never happened, she still seemed pretty interested. She would occasionally text me questions about class that she could have easily gotten answers to from the professor and responded to me pretty quickly. Anyways, the end of the semester came (still had small talk before and after every class unless she wasn't there that day) and I suggested we should celebrate the class being over and she said "I'm totally down to get drinks, text me" in a friendly way that seemed sincere. I texted her the day after the final asking what her plans were for next week and if she was still down for a celebratory drink and some stimulating conversation (mistake 3? too soon and too wordy?). No response, its been about 24 hours, Im going to wait at least until the end of tomorrow before I try again.
Now, after reading some of the articles on this site I realize I totally didn't move fast enough, mainly because I thought if I got involved with her early on and it didn't work out it would be way too awkward seeing each other in class week after week. Also it might have been my lack of texting game as well but basically, what is your take on girls in your classes? Should you still just move fast no matter what? Im guessing I totally blew it with this one, any insights or advice?

-Jay
Denver, CO

Anonymous's picture

fb message


I like this girl, So I message her on FB to add me as friend, after she accepted, I read her status that she needed a ride to airport, so i message her that i would be able to take her if she wanted me too. but she never replied back, i think I messed up because .... i said " can u add me a friend please:)" and the second mistake was offering a ride to the airport. I really like her I dont know what to do next. I want to talk to her but dont know how..

BlackStar's picture

Good Advice


I appreciate how you break things down. I've been put in the "nice guy" box far too often, but the situations where I did opposite of what mainstream media tells a guy to do resulted in great results. My one question is that I do not have my own place at the moment, so how can I get a lady to come to a hotel with me?

Anonymous's picture

@Mason Neat trick. To sum up


@Mason

Neat trick. To sum up what I learned 'The confidence to move at your own pace as long as you are moving the interaction along and not just stalling till the girl loses interest.'

The saying "all good things are worth waiting for" comes to mind

Anonymous's picture

this stuff is so right on the


this stuff is so right on the money. As soon as a woman sees I am chasing, she runs for the hills. And if I don't make something happen fast sexually, it usually never happens. I used to know all this stuff a decade ago which was before I got in my last relationship, which lasted almost 10 years. Forgot a lot of this stuff! I remember the game used to be, don't let them squeeze me into a relationship and keep things open; NOT trying to get them in the first place.

This stuff is good, and the truth, unlike all the other pickup BS I read. I will say that I also like the practicalhappiness stuff. But I actually think this stuff is better, because it reverberates with what used to be successful for me in practice, and not just in theory.

Lance Vance's picture

stuck in first gear


Hi Chase,

I'm new to your site and I like what you said about moving faster. But I was wondering if this also applies for attractive guys. I find that girls run (not literally) when I try to say hi or ask why I am talking to them. It gets frustrating at times, I find that their guard is way up against me when networking. when they are interested they start off with jealousy games and lots of difficulty.

any tips for getting into first gear? Also will there be an article about good looking people (not to sound conceited)?

armin's picture

i have a similar issue but I have a solution...


One time at this one concert, this Ukrainian girl came up to me nonchalantly made out with me for a while. and through a tad bit of deep diving, I made her spill her heart out as if I was her god. Than later when I went to get her phone number, she brushes me off and says something I didn't quite understand and walks off. I then see her with one guy after another right by as if shes trying to make me jealous. So through the law of least effort I play it cool and whatnot as if she doesn't exist anymore. Because I already established an attraction with her, showed interest, and connected with her. She then sees me talking to some other girls there. Then throughout the concert she walks past me multiple times just staring off into the distant trying to get my attention. When I was about to leave she couldn't take the my effortless and carefree attitude anymore so she just smacked me on my back to get my attention again.

This happens with a lot of girls who know they are hot and at the same time find me physically attractive and distinct.They want you to chase them hard so they can build up their egos as if their wanted by attractive men all the time. Just don't play into their game and start chasing them. Through nonverbal communication, you have to be like, "hey, your jealousy and approach isn't going to buy my attention". Just play it cool, don't chase, move on, and they will calm down a bit with the aloof tactics.

Anonymous's picture

Yes, it applies to attractive


Yes, it applies to attractive guys. I am female and have friendzoned male models before.

Damieonic's picture

Moving too slow with a girl


Moving too slow with a girl may be the nice guy's #1 problem. Especially when she's giving you obvious signs she wants you. So go physical, go slow and turn up her volume. Excellent article.

IamRex's picture

outside US, different culture


Great stuff!

Just wondering though if these stuff works the same way abroad (I'm from the PH). People here are more conservative, and I guess, IMO, aggressively pursuing a women can scare her away -- or, she'd get conscious about what other people may think about her

Chase Amante's picture

Re: Different Cultures

Author

Rex,

See the fourth paragraph of this article:

She Doesn't Even Need to Know Your Name

Also, our writer Ricardus here spent a good deal of time living in the Philippines. He has a number of stories of very quick seductions there, including a rather impressive one with a pretty beautiful girl (I've seen her picture) whom he met online, he missed meeting at a cafe because of a scheduling conflict, so he gave her his address, but he had to get on a phone call so had her sit by the pool for about 40 minutes, then he moved as quickly as possible with her to get things done as quickly as possible before his next call started 20 minutes after that. I think it took him about seven or eight minutes after beginning his first real conversation with the girl before they were sleeping together. And then she was polite enough to ask if she should go so he could get onto his next call when the 20 minute mark rolled around.

Not every woman will move fast... but most of them will, if you don't treat them like you expect them to move slowly.

Chase

FOOSIE's picture

moving fast, texting


Hey Chase love your articles man, they really improved my games by leaps and bounds with women. But im dealing with a rather interesting case and wanted your opinion.

I met a girl at a nightclub the other day, we kept staring at each other from across the room for about 15 minutes. I was alittle timid at first but i finally went over and talked to her, asked her name, danced with her, and even got her number. It was great and i was feeling really good. So as not to seem too overeager i wait a day then text her suggesting that we meet up, as you suggest to cut right to the chase, she agrees much to my delight but when the actual day comes she gets "sick". Im not an idiot i know that she didnt magically get sick only hours before a scheduled date and forget to tell me but I think the fault is mine because i gave her the logistics for the date alittle late. But i was wondering when should i start up rapport again and try to ask her out once her "illness" has passed, any advice would be muchly appreciated.

P.S. Keep up the good work man

Anonymous's picture

Balance on moving speed.


Hi,
3rd date me and my woman had sex and it was wild and passionate.i thank you chase for getting me to that stage =) . Nice guy no more =p

1Thing though, if you truly like the woman (like i do with mine) moving so soon can make her feel cheap,confused and spiteful towards you. Even like in my case were we both agreed to everything as consenting adults (which always should be the case ) .

I have followed your pre game advice and it works. I really do wish you could provide some Post game advice to keep the woman as ours.

somedude's picture

had one chance and choked on it


Moving fast isn't more true to me than right now and it hurts to realise it yet again. Recently I was doing a new freelance job in an office and I suddenly had really great chemistry with an attractive woman (who is above me in the job hierarchy but hey adds to the excitement).

The problem is that I was only there 4 days and on the last day I bailed on my one and only chance - one that I actually took action to create. This is what happened - After she told me she was going out to lunch, I said ok and left the office 20 min after her to bump into her outside and alone. It was the perfect situation to get her number and she was definitely interested/ready to go but as usual I got worried about some nonsense and just let the conversation go short saying 'what's the best place to go then?' When she answered this question I went over there like an idiot...

On top of this I could have come in the next day to give myself another shot but I had other stuff arranged and thought it'd be better not to mess around with my plans for the sake of this one stunningly hot women... oh boy :-(

Anyway I'm due to work back at that office but it'll probably get to the 2 week mark since last being there so striking the iron while hot was a chance I had and a chance I let slip. I hate thinking I blew it when I was so close and had even taken action to create the chance... but there you have it - do you think I still have a chance for next time or is it probably over? Anyone have a similar experience?

Anonymous's picture

After the First Date


Well let me start off by saying, I look at what you say and compare it to my experiences, and totally agree with you. Great job and thanks for all the free info.

I think you said somewhere in your blog that after you go out with a girl forget about her and then four days or so later, call her. What if she texts you after the date to say how much fun she had or thanks, etc. Do you respond or just wait till four days later and call her?

Also, I see you get a lot of responses from females who say they totally disagree with you and they would never respond the way you say a woman would. They are full of SHIT. Easier said then done. When they're in the moment they respond totally different than they way they want to or think they would when they're not in the moment.

Robin's picture

How to get move furhter


Hi

I wanna know about that , I am talking to a girl last 2 days , conversation is going smoothly,

so how can i make her so smile or how can i get move further to make relationship with her.

please share your suggestion ..

Thanks

Tornado's picture

Moved too fast??


Hey Chase - your blog is awesome. Lemme tell you right off the bat that it has helped me gain confidence and also socially active.

I recently ran into an incident. I like this girl who is my colleague in my office. Initially we used to chat and sms and it was like 30-70 with me smsing her 70% of the time and 30% of the time she herself would initiate everything.

It was her birthday and i knew her for maybe 3 weeks max and gave her a gift which she reluctantly accepted. I guess this was the deal breaker. From then on she has been responsive but she has never initiated contact on her own. Its kinda become 0-100%.

I am kinda on a cool down mode now with no initiation from my side for 4 days. Yet no initiation from her side.

Have i screwed up? Is there any way I can make amends?

If not chase, anybody else is free to help me out here. Please...

Anonymous's picture

Snuffing out a potential relationship due to 'not moving faster'


I don't at all agree with this 'move faster' advice at all. If two people feel they have something special and one of them (almost always the woman) feels the man is not moving fast enough for her liking - prompting her to just hop off to the next person just because he is quicker to make a move, then that is basically nothing short of absolutely ridiculous on her part, and a potentially beautiful lasting union goes down the gutter.

There could be all sorts of reasons why either a man or a woman may not want to 'move faster', and if they both mutually feel they have something special between them (and aren't just hopping about dating lots of random people in the hope that one might 'tick all the boxes', in which case such a move elsewhere on such grounds would be warranted) then it's an absolutely crazy thing to do for one party to kill off blossoming love just because the other isn't 'moving faster'. Especially if the impatient party, or the woman as it usually is, doesn't even bother to properly communicate with the man over the matter.

All this emphasis on 'moving faster' may apply to picking up some bird for a bit of fun after a night out at a nightclub, but it should not be of significance in cases where both parties have deep feelings for one another. And to suggest that either party is right to kill off a potential lifelong loving relationship over such an issue without even trying to communicate with one other about it is unfathomably stupid.

Anyone who loses someone they thought was special because that someone suddenly decides that they had failed to 'move faster' loses nothing more than an irrational idiot and also simultaneously finds out - sooner thankfully, rather than later - that the someone special they believed had entered their life never existed in the first place.

Anonymous's picture

Opportunity


If this woman who supposedly has deep feelings for you has no commitment at all (meaning she's free to see other people) meets another guy who is smoother, more charming, and more debonair than you (there's always a better guy than you) and he MOVES so fast he takes her to bed before you do... and she starts to now adore him more than you, do you think she'll continue having those 'deep' feelings for you? Do you think she'll return your calls? Do you think she'll even tell you what happened when she's all of a sudden 'busy'? The whole point of moving fast is to strike now while you still have the opportunity. Opportunity doesn't last forever.

I've been this guy... who supposedly stole a girl away (unbeknownst to me of course til after). Guys (yes guys, plural) knew a girl from before I met her, and they were calling and dating her, texting her, telling her they love her, etc, but failing to make any real moves on her, and I come along all nonchalant like I don't care if she likes me or not and despite these guys thinking she and them had some 'connection' I took her to bed and all of a sudden she's now smitten by me. She still gets texts from these guys thinking they have a shot and now when she shows me her fone I sit there laughing at them with her. It happens. Don't ever think there isn't a better guy. Move fast. And even when you get sex from a girl doesn't mean another guy won't capture her attention... always be wary.

darth jones's picture

moving fast


do you think theres is such thing as moving too fast with a girl. Lets say I meet a girl and then the next day I contact them saying that I want to hang out with them. Is that too soon?

Anonymous's picture

Moving fast or pushing too hard


Hi Chase, if you still read this

I thought most experts patronized allowing the woman to set the pace and not push too early. Even you said that showering the girl with attention will push her away, so isn't contradictory to your earlier statement when you say move faster, cause it seems to me moving faster is equivalent to being overeager?

Tomas's picture

Is not moving fast common in online dates?


Hello Chase. Just my opinion, a very strong gut feeling after reading your article - am I right or not?

I think that not moving fast is very common reason why first online dates fail. You meet a woman say at 16 o'clock at some restaurant and your date can proceed to 17.30 max. The woman is attracted right off the bat and even gives you hints at 16.25, but the date is stricktly planned and you cannot move her nor escalate step further. So you talk the date through and keep your cool. Meanwhile, the woman cannot help her instincts and auto-rejects you because of your disinterest. Later, she sends you a nice text about how she thanks you and sorry, but no sparks there. Game over for you, as she has 30 other suitors online.

Is this a common scenario? Chase, what do you think - how often does it happen that the woman loses the initial attraction due to poor logistics, versus not been attracted at all? I feel I lost a many women that way.

Tomas

RichieRich's picture

I Think I Missed My Chance....


Hey Chase Sorry this is long...

So basically im 19 yrs old, im practically a stay at home dad for my neice & nephew for my older sis that i live with and i have a general idea of how flirting and everything leading up to escalating to sex.
So basically my Sis is a in house nurse (LN or CN?). She brought her patients family home and man the patience daughter is cute. (On our first encounter she came by but i was more indifferent because i assumed she had a guy already and i was kinda homely lookin cuz i was cleaning doing chores) but anyway she came by again the following day and we actually had fun. Joking around, dancing, she even put her legs over mines at 1 point tryin to paint my nails but i was not down for that at ALL LMFAO.... so fast forward we flirting here and there, u know tickling, i smacked/ kicked her ass a couple times as she did to me, while we wemt to pick up pizza. Only problem was later on that night we drove back to her house and i froze up in the moment. We had to get water bottles to bring bak to my house and wen we got there we briefly went into her garage got what we needed and came out. I think i blew it tho becuz at the time i thought i should of lingered and actually made a move to bed her. But see this is my sis patients and i didnt wanna jeopardize her job becuz this girl LOVES to talk and run her mouth lol. I play it back in my mind and think of all the things i cud of said and done, idk if she will be receptive again tho cuz she has a high sex drive amd i let her down in my honest opinion lol she has a daughter of her own too and told me how basically her baby dad sucks as he lives in another state. I EVEN FORGOT TO GET HER NUMBER TOO ! Lol
P.s. how do i overcome a blank mind when the moment is there but cant think of anything to keep it escalating? I kind of went on auto pilot as i dont express my self very sexually since i never have the opportunity to.

Thanks alot,
Richie Rich

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