You know how vital it
is to pick a venue with the kinds of girls you
want. But how do different venues influence a girl’s openness to
various things?
Venue selection is crucial to making your days and nights out go better.
Pick the right venue, and you can leave with a girl’s phone number (or with her arm-in-arm)... Even if your fundamentals aren’t yet too tight and your game needs work.
Pick the wrong venue, and no matter how smooth and attractive a fellow you are, it’s like riding a bicycle through a salt marsh.
So how do you know what the right venue is?
Alek’s discussed this topic already in his article on venue selection:
... and I’ve discussed it somewhat in my ebook on it and my article on bars and clubs:
Today, I want to talk about a somewhat different aspect of venue selection: I want to discuss how to pick the right venue for your style of game and your preferred type of interaction.
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Venue Selection Process
Hi Chase,
This is all well and good. But I've found that every time I go out to select a new venue, the process is kind of overwhelming. Mainly because:
1. There are so many possibilities in a big city. I can never really know if one particular location is the BEST place. So it leaves me unsure of whether or not I should invest more time into a particular venue.
2. It's hard to gauge things like timeline and daily differences without going there multiple times. Again...this takes a huge investment of time in one particular spot.
Do you have any particular process for looking for/weeding out good/bad spots in a new city?
Additionally, do you have any recommendations for where to look if I want to meet girls who are alone? I've noticed that its difficult to get a girl's attention at all if she's with her friends. Whereas when she's alone, its comparably easy. There are some places (e.g. grocery stores, the street etc.) where girls will be alone often. But in my experience, places packed with girls are usually pretty social. Which means that they'll typically be there with friends.
Thanks for a good article.
Cheers!
Good Venue Tells & Venue Evaluation
Anon-
Sure. Good general form is if you go on a day or night and it seems promising, come again the next week, same day, only earlier, and stay later, and see if it’s even better earlier or later on the same day, and if the same day is just as good each week.
If you go on a day or night and it seems average or worse, try again on a different day or night. If it’s a nightlife venue, ask people in the venue if they come here a lot, and when you find someone who does, ask which nights are the best nights and why. Then check out any of those nights that sound worthwhile and see if they’re better or still suck. If they still suck, cut the venue.
Eventually you should start to have certain signatures of good places you look for.
For example, if I’m checking out nightlife venues, one of the first things I’ll look for is somewhere with house music that is somewhat off the beaten path from where all the other clubs are, but not too much. House music is more sensual, it attracts women who want to hook up, and if it’s off the beaten path all the “I want to see and be seen” people avoid it (which means many fewer time wasters), but it’s still close enough to where the action is that it isn’t some dead place you’ll only find 3 or 4 people inside of.
Or, in day game, I’ll tend to look for a popular, crowded street, and then go hit the side streets. Girls’ guards are up on the more crowded streets, and you’re much more likely to encounter girls in a hurry on the main drag. But get off on the side streets and you find girls with more time to kill, in less of a hurry, and whose guards aren’t as high because there are a lot fewer people.
Best spots for girls by themselves, in my experience, are house clubs, streets (especially side streets off a main drag), grocery shopping, shops along a street (but not malls), and near residential areas (girls coming from and going to their homes). Residential areas with high young people populations can actually be really good places to meet girls in packed cities. You’ll tend to run into a lot of girls just stepping out of their buildings or on their ways back from work, shopping, the gym, etc.
Chase
2 Questions
Chase, when I go hang out with girls with my friends they for some reason don't show interest like I think, they kinda don't fuck with me, but they're cool. I would think that they would want to flirt with me a lil or something, but they don't really pay me attention, even my own race, so I know that I must work on something.
These are also different girls all of the time.
What more can I work on so the girls would want to open me? I have tried the quiet guy in the room who is in his own world, but that doesn't work, nor does being talkative. What can I do so these girls look at me sexually??
Why do girls and people make smart comments about me?
I take it as a sign of disrespect, but someone always has a smart assume comment, even people I have never met before.
I have read your article on respect, and I have times where I have been serious, so they know not to fuck with me, and times where I just act cool.
How can I stop the smart comments?
Thanks man
Writing improvement
Excellent article.
On point, brief, and highly calibrated and applicable advice to anyone's personal value who's reading this.
I like how you've been improving your writing advice from being purely catered to hooking up as the only choice. To now, evaluating your personal values, goals, and life style to make the best choice in picking up women.
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