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Cute Girls in Class? Stop Flirting and Start DATING

Whether you're working your way through college or a master's program or you're taking adult education classes on the side in another language or a new skill you'd like to get down, you've probably run into girls in class you liked at some point or another.

Heck, maybe even in most of the classes you've taken you've run into a few!

girls in class

And if you have, you've probably also run into the scenario common to most guys who've had cute girls in their classes:

  1. Spot pretty girl in class
  2. Try and sit near pretty girl
  3. Try to make eye contact with her
  4. Maybe exchange a few words
  5. Try and work together with her, maybe on a project
  6. Try and impress her in class - telling jokes, say, or knowing all the answers
  7. Eventually it seems like maybe she likes you - but then nothing happens

You can easily spend one semester after another doing this, always feeling like girls like you, and never getting anywhere with them. And that's frustrating.

If you've ever sat there admiring some beautiful girl in class, then never made a move, you know what I'm talking about. She made class a lot more interesting and exciting to attend... but that was about it. Wouldn't it be great if you could actually meet these pretty girls in class and date them?

A lot of the advice out there centers on getting you flirting with girls in class... eye contact, teasing, and all that jazz. To me though, that's a big waste of time. ANYBODY can flirt with a girl in one of his classes... what we want to get you doing is asking them OUT.

So let's get you asking them out.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.

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victory's picture

Can you make a post on eye contacts and facial expression in general. It seems that the facial expression you give can either substantiate your words or diminish the power of the words you say to a girl.

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Chase Amante's picture

Hey Victory,

Sure, I can put one in the works for that.

Meantime, here are a few worth reading if you haven't seen them yet:

Eye Contact:

Facial Expressions:

Nonverbals:

Cheers,
Chase

Curious George's picture

Great article, but when you say four day time period do you mean four days after talking to her or four days as soon as you start the class with all girls in the class ? And can you use this at work? Thanks chase!

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Chase Amante's picture

Hi George,

Forgive the lack of clarity... what was intended was four classroom sessions.

So, if you have class on Tuesdays and Thursdays, the first Tuesday is Day 1, the first Thursday is Day 2, and so on and so forth.

As far as using this at work... some of it, certainly. Although some of it's very specific to a classroom environment. But the basic principles of it - establishing discretion, moving quickly, and creating a jealousy plotline in the event you've moved too slow or she's acting uninterested - absolutely apply.

Best,
Chase

Anonymous's picture

Great read, just to clarify there is no chance girls and your class would see you as a potential lover even though your teacher thinks your groovy and your value is great ex. (athlete and dominate) I find it that I am the mysterious guy who shows flashes of brilliance in class. In my school the semester will be ending soon is to late to ask girls out especially the cutie who sits next to you who you ask for a pen and has seen you talk flawlessly to girls outside of class in the hallways?

I usually don't ask questions but I love reading your blog!

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Chase Amante's picture

Hey Anon,

It's possible, but you've REALLY got to be firing on all cylinders... classroom's a tough environment. If you're sufficiently high enough in value over a woman where she stops being able to really relate to you as a human being but still finds you desirable as a mate, you can hold "potential lover" status even in light of large amounts of value on display that ordinarily would get a man slotted into friend or boyfriend territory. So it IS possible, it's just relatively uncommon.

It's never really too late to ask girls out (especially if you're good... the rules are a lot less rigid when you're at a point where women find you very attractive), and in fact the end of the semester can be a great time to ask girls out - a lot of hooking up occurs at semester-end (primarily because discretion becomes less important - your classes together are over - and the potential for a man becoming a girl's long-term friend or boyfriend greatly diminishes at the end of the semester if he isn't already one of these things).

In other words, if you want to take the shot - then take the shot!

Cheers,
Chase

Will's picture

Great post Chase, really nailed classroom pickup to a science here! However, I'm wondering, now that I'm finally determined to make a stand and stop being my shy, introverted self (who gets NO women), whether I have a chance with cute girls in my classes even though the school year has started and everyone's 'fixed' where they sit in class (so to speak).

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Hi Will,

Yes - that's another reason for needing to move expeditiously on this one - you can only change seats early into the semester before everyone settles in (unless you're in a REALLY big, forum-like classroom... e.g., 200+ students listening to a lecture).

Once you reach that point, you're almost stuck in the traditional old "catch her in the hallway" or on her way into or out of class approach, simply because logistically there's not really much else you can do.

There are other alternatives - like, throwing a party and inviting everyone in your class just to get them out of the classroom setting and meet them elsewhere - but there's a good chance she just doesn't come, even if she likes you... this one's only good if there are multiple girls in class you like and you're interested in socializing anyway (in case none of the girls show up; you don't want to go to the trouble of putting a party together and then having to host it feeling miserable if only the guys from your class arrive).

The best way to me is to take the "old friend" approach even if you've never talked to her before. The way it works is you wait until she's leaving, and then you leave at the same time, and casually ask her, "What'd you think of that test?" (or whatever), and then self-deprecate, "Yeah, I'm not hanging this one on the fridge in my room or anything, that's for sure," and talk a bit. Do that a few scattered times over a few different classes (e.g., not several classes right in a row; it feels weird for you to ignore her all semester and then suddenly fix in on her), and then grab contact info with a close on a high note when you're talking one of those days like, "Let's grab a bite or a drink before they end the semester. What's your exam schedule like?" Then find out her schedule, follow up with a, "Cool, maybe next Tuesday or Thursday once your exams are mostly over then; I'll text you, we can figure it out," and then grab her cell number.

Cheers,
Chase

Franco's picture

No article on how to pick up women on Thanksgiving, Chase? Bummer... ;)

If you'll excuse my joke, this is a great article for those who are still in school and looking to meet women. I honestly wish GirlsChase had existed while I was in school -- I feel like I would have been exponentially further along in my experience level with women.

With that being said: great article! And Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

Cheers,
Franco

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You know, I was thinking about whether I could put one up today on picking up in grocery stores or something to capture the holiday spirit, but I figured maybe I'd do something more cerebral today and think about a shopping post tomorrow in honor of Black Friday.

Plus, man... for some reason, it's really difficult to find pictures of women and turkeys!

Anyway, Happy Thanksgiving, Franco (and everyone else) - try not to get too stuffed ;)

Always,
Chase

Anonymous's picture

What do you think about dropping the "Hey, we should trade contact info so we can study for the next exam..." line to get a girl's number? Does that come across as needy/trying too hard to get build a connection? It's rather indirect (safe) and girls usually give you their number rather easily.

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Hey Anon,

It's okay if she's REALLY shy... like, she's never had a boyfriend before kind-of-shy.

Otherwise, it's very obvious that the guy using it is trying to hide his intentions (e.g., he's playing "hide the banana," as discussed in the indirect game article) and it simply looks weak and unattractive. It might be easier to get her contact info this way, but you'll already be starting out from deep in the friend zone when you start studying with her and it'll be a long climb to get out.

Better just to be upfront with her and invite her to get some food / drinks with you.

Chase

M's picture

Hey Chase,

Thanks for the great post – I’m a student and burst out laughing at your comparisons of classroom dating and cold approaches. I'm hoping you could clarify a bit on the above topics:

(1) Opening: I know guys who can say a few words to the girl next to them in class, and then right away she's laughing and touching him and saying, "I know, right?" I think they're making some observation (about something in the lecture or the professor) that's on her mind at that moment, but I've never known how they do it so consistently. Any way you could write a post on how to observe something funny in any situation (which would make this opening, and a lot of other things, easy)?

(2) Deep diving: During those first 4 classes, would you recommend deep diving on lighter stuff that she usually talks about with friends – things going on in her personal life right now, or gossip about other students in the class, for instance?

I have the impression that she would much rather talk about those things at first than her hometown, future career, siblings, or extracurriculars. The reason is that hometown, future career, etc. are extremely common topics among students (even mild acquaintances, not just friends), so she immediately goes into autopilot (and it’s pretty hard to break out of since she’s talked about essentially all variations of those subjects with random student acquaintances and curious “adults”), and the whole thing becomes rather impersonal and unnatural (and short).

Of course, this has the danger of the guy ending up becoming her girlfriend, but flirting, sexy non-verbals, and asking her out quickly should take care of that. Let me know if I’m heading in the wrong direction.

Best,
M

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Howdy M,

On opening - sure. Although, that's mainly like anything - just takes practice.

But I'll get a post up on it.

On the deep diving: what you're going for is DEPTH, rather than the surface layer of the topic herself. I'd go for major => dive down to what she's going to do with that => then either where she imagines herself with that in 10 years OR if she always wanted to be that (e.g., what did you want to be when you were a little girl... why did you change your mind and go into this far less exciting career... do you think you'll ever go back and do that).

Remember with deep diving, as soon as you get into a really substantial conversation, you've got to try and close then. Get her number, because now the clock's ticking on attraction.

Here's why you never want to talk about light stuff: it puts you in the same boring box as everybody else in her life.

Imagine James Bond, standing there talking to some woman he's just met, saying, "So what do you and your friends do when you hang out on the weekends?" or, "Hey, did you hear about Katie and Nick? Crazy, right?"

Doesn't work. Leave that stuff to her girlfriends (and platonic guy pals who keep thinking they're "closing in on her") and you just worry about opening her eyes and making her say, "Wow." It'll get you what you want a lot more effectively than trying to slide under the radar platonically... which almost never works (women just don't respect it - they respect guys being straight with them far, far more - so be that).

Cheers,
Chase

Anonymous's picture

Hey Chase,

Your writings are a gold mine and I mean it!

Ok so here's a funny thing that happened..

There is this low key "smart girl" in my class and I thought she liked my intellect..which I like to think is my forte.. so I say let's get together sometime after class "to talk" and she says yeah sure!

The next morning I'm a little surprised to see an early morning text from her like "when do you want to meet up?" and I decide to give it a shot and say..well I was thinking my place cause it's more comfy and I've got chips! OR we could meet somewhere in the middle so both of us have to walk less..and she says "Your place sounds good..I'll be there in 20..and I'm like "whoa"..

So I clean up..she shows up..and then I figure since she probably got impressed with the intellect..let's do that again..and so I do that for the next 2 hours..she goes to the loo comes back and starts talking about spontaneity or something..I figure this may as well be a moment as any and say "speaking of spontaneity.." and reach for the kiss.. but she backs off and says "hehe..no..we are friends! remember..no actually I have a boyfriend" (not that I actually didn't know that) so I make this funny whiney face..and the conversation continues comfortably forward.. we walk back to class together and all is good except..

A) Was she really there "just" for conversation..?
B) Did I mess up and she subliminally wanted more but I went Dr. Phil on her?

Best,
S

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Hi Anon,

I can't tell what she was like when she arrived at your place from your description here, so it's difficult to say. My gut is that she probably was hoping something would happen right away, but too much time passed and it killer her enthusiasm.

I'd be very surprised if she was "just" there for conversation. I don't know any women who just go over to a man's place alone for pure conversation. And her reaction to your kiss attempt doesn't sound like the shocked reaction of a girl who really thought that the two of you were "just friends"... it sounds like she was expecting it.

Could also have been that she's playing a game / sort of likes you and wants to keep you on the hook as a backup plan. Again, hard to read, but it's one of those most likely (she liked you and wanted something to happen; she's playing a game; she wanted you on the roster as a backup player).

Cheers,
Chase

Anonymous's picture

Does getting a girl to study with you count as getting her to hang out? Or do you have to turn it into a "date" by saying hey lets go
after some studying?

Anonymous's picture

The date is not important.. moving her to be alone with you is important. So if you get her to be alone with you in a room (or car) studying, then you simply need to get close to her and get "distracted".

Just make sure you don't meet her up at a coffee shop and study in the actual place. Get her alone by suggesting you two relax in your car with some music (or just take off to the car without saying anything, she'll follow).

The goal is to find a place to get things romantic essentially.

mizraw66's picture

I have a crush on this girl I sit next to in class. She is sexy and really wouldn't mind dating her. But here the problem. We have small talk every class about the school work for a couple of weeks and in one class I asked her if she could be my study buddy ( stupid I know) she kindly says ok and took my number but I didn't get her. She never called or text me and 8 weeks past. My question is what should I do to have a chance with this girl I felt like I screwed up my opportunity by hiding behind the banana. Should I just leave it alone and leave from my mistake or just come out direct and tell her how I really feel

Moneymatter

Anonymous's picture

first off, I want to say that this is a great website & blog you have here Chase; the articles I've read here have greatly helped me in my quest to become a better seducer.

my reason for posting a question is about how to sit around girls; I've read elsewhere that as an alpha male, you want to sit down with your legs and feet basically at hip or shoulder width apart, and that you want to take up as much comfortable space as you possibly can, as well as be comfortable with resting your hands near your crotch/belt-buckle. but say you're sitting at a table or counter-top, and you have your arms up on it. should you keep your hands and elbows shoulder-width apart and not touching/crossing, or is it o.k. to have them touching/crossed overtop one another or forming a little "enclosed" area in front of you, or does this send negative subliminals to girls? also, is it good to hold your head up in this scenario of sitting at a table/countertop by resting your chin on your hand, and if there's a specific way to do this, what would it be?

Anonymous's picture

Hey Chase! Great blog you have here! But I have a few questions that NEED to be answered. There is this girl in my class. I had here in my classes before, but we never really talked. I left school for a year, then came back ( senior year now) and now we're talking. My questions are why? What has changed? And is it too late to do the food-in-the bag thing? ( entering third week of school). She also recently gave me her number too :) which makes me think that I'm doing a good job with her. There are also these two foreign exchange students from Europe. Have any advice? Can you make an article on that topic as well? -A HUGE fan of yours

Anonymous's picture

hey Chase. How about when I see her after school as people still hang around at school when their classes are over?

SOMEONE's picture

Hey chase, excellent articles bud.. thanks

Got somethin to say

I knew this girl at high school for 2 and half years and she left school and I did too after a few days due to reasons...... SO to make long story short me and her were super friendly and I usually flirted with her but then haven't talked to her for a year when she left. Started talking yesterday and actually asked me for a hangout which is kinda weird to me but anyways. Now do you have any articles that kinda talks about how to approach a girl who you haven't seen for a long time and how to not run out of things to say to a her and not make it boring?

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