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You’ve hit a plateau
and just can’t get results with girls. When this happens, it’s down to
at least 1 of the 7 common dating mistakes.
In my article on overcoming loser mentality, a reader named Sub-Zero comments:
“I didn’t mean to confuse you with my comments about not approaching and everything, but I do approach and have practiced stuff from your site.
what I mean about not approaching is mostly day time and night street game.
I just haven’t gone up to girls during the day time and approached them or tried to pick them up.
I do mostly grind on girls at the club, and I talk to them as well, but the grinding part is mostly my approach, I sometimes go into convo and get numbers.
I have used techniques from this site, and have gotten lays from it.
it’s just hard for me to put myself out there to potentially get rejected and wasting my time. I always have felt like think that since I was young.
that is how I feel, but I know I can’t feel like that.
I have been here for years and I should be better than where I am at, I have gotten numbers, deep dived, but i haven’t gotten many dates even though I’ve been here for years.
maybe you see something I don’t.
I didn’t realize I have been on my head so much until you pointed it out.
I do approach, but I don’t really count them because it’s not like day game approach, I feel like that is really cold approaching.”
Sub-Zero’s commented multiple times in the past that what he wants is to have lots of success with women, and in particular he wants to have lots of success with women 10 years his junior.
These things are, of course, achievable.
The problem is that how he goes about achieving these objectives (and how many guys do) is flawed. He makes a number of very key dating mistakes.
I’ve seen time and again guys frustrated with their results making one or more of these same dating mistakes. The mistakes all center around the same error: the guy gets too caught up on doing certain little things, and misses the big picture.
So, to shake you out of any of these mistakes you may be making, today I want to shine a light on the seven (7) biggest dating mistakes men make... And what you need to do to overcome them.
Comments
Thank You
Thank you Chase.
Thanks gor your comments too
Thanks gor your comments too Sub-Zero. I'm having trouble getting into daygame too but with this article I realized I've been putting too much weight on this. Everytime I see a girl I wanna I approach I think: "OMG I need to do this, once I do my first approach everything is gonna change", but when you put so much pressure into something you're bond to fail. So obviously I didn't approach.
Improvement and fakeness
This is regarding barriers to improving fundamentals and improving your life in general:
Did you notice how people label any potential improvement as fake? If they improve, they think, people won't like them for who they are and that's bad. For people who have had advantages for a long time it seems like a natural part of them.
For example:
- Someone who is fat thinks that if he loses weight and women start liking him more, then they don't like him for who he really is. They are just a bunch of superficial cunts. But, if you've been thin for a long time, it seems like a part of you.
- If you dress poorly, improving your fashion will seem as fake. Who cares how you dress? People should like you for who you are. But, those who dress well will tell you it's just a part of them - part of who they are.
- Being famous or wealthy and getting great results with women also seems fake to many people (99.999% of people don't have access to fame or great wealth). So, you'll hear terms like 'fame-digger' or 'gold-digger' used to describe those superficial women who like rock stars, football players or bankers/CEOs.
- The same goes for learning 'game'. If you're learning it, then you're just a fake manipulator.
etc.
What do you think about this phenomenon? Is it even real or am I delusional?
Re: Improvement and fakeness
Mystery-
New post up here, quoting and addressing this comment from you:
Tactics Tuesdays: “That’s Fake” and Practice Mentality
Chase
Motorcycles
In regards to a motorcycle how exactly would you implement one into your dating life? I already had planned on getting one because I love riding so I figure if I'm going to have one, there's no reason not use it to my advantage. So what are some ways your friends use it their advantage? Some more elaboration on the topic would be awesome.
Also on a similar note, I'm curious to know which one nets more results. Sportsbikes or cruisers. Not that I would choose a bike based on this criteria I'm just more curious than anythig. My guess is that it would mostly depend on the type of girl. Like a typical bottle blonde would prefer a man on a sportsbike but a girl next door type would be more into a bad boy on a cruiser. Also I would imagine that if a girls dad had a motorcycle when they were little it would greatly impact their opinions. What do you think man?
Thanks in advance
Re: Motorcycles
Anon-
I've never owned a motorcycle (still need to learn to ride a bike, actually), so can just report what I've heard / seen other guys do. The approach is basically to take the motorcycle with you to bars, don't drink too much, and then drop it in conversation with girls.
Then when they perk up and go, "You have a motorcycle?"
You go, "Yeah. I'll give you a ride later."
Then when it's time to pull, you just say, "Come on, let's go for a ride on my bike."
Then you give them an exciting ride that gets their blood pulsing and heart racing, and take them right home and sleep with them.
I've had a lot of guys tell me getting motorcycles was like a magic switch for their sex lives, and suddenly their lays went up 4x or 5x overnight. I've had a few guys say too that when they sold their motorcycle the drop in their pull rates was pretty tremendous.
Don't know enough about bikes myself to weigh in on sportsbike or cruisers. But I bet if you hit up a biker bar you could get some decent comments from guys there on which bikes they've found girls like best over the years.
Chase
This is exactly the article I
This is exactly the article I needed. I actually had pretty good fundamentals about two years ago, but then some stuff happened and I ended up having a mental breakdown. I went from being this cool guy who women practically competed over to a socially awkward one that reeks of desperation and chases after women. I've been trying to get myself back ever since.
So far, I've noticed a few core things I had back then that I currently lack.
First is fundamentals. Back then I'd attract women the moment I gazed into their eyes. I'm guessing I had confident body language, too, as well as other things I didn't even notice, because I could attract most girls I talked to.
The second is touch. Back then I knew exactly how to touch women and they loved it. I haven't been touching women out of fear of making them uncomfortable, which is something I'll have to change. I used to get some great results from sitting on women(I'm a skinny dude), as silly as that sounds, and with certain women I'd even pull them into my lap.
Third is conversation. I used to make my conversations all about the girl I was talking to(to the point that it was mostly her talking about herself, with me giving only vague tidbits of information that made her even more interested), but for some reason I became very self absorbed after the breakdown. I think that's why people seem less interested in conversing with me these days.
Sometimes I'd get girls so excited that they'd text me nonstop, to the point that they were kind of annoying. And since I didn't know how to close with women, I was pretty much just a big flirt who didn't get laid.
That said, I was leagues ahead of where I am right now and I really do miss how things used to be. So I can't wait to get back to where I was before the breakdown. Thank you for the article and this website - I think you've helped point me in the right direction.
Getting Back
Kuro-
The breakdown and subsequent "loss of powers" is unfortunate. The silver lining though is you did well before and have the experiences in your head, and now it's just getting back to that. That's generally a much shorter learning curve than having to do everything from scratch.
One suggestion for restoring the "old you": whenever you find yourself talking to a girl (or anyone), continually ask yourself, "What would old me do?" The more you get yourself to think and act like old you, the more you slip back into thinking and acting that way again as your default.
Then, once you're all caught up, you can begin to add in new pieces, and surpass where you were at before.
Chase
Hello, Chase
Hello, Chase
I hate to admit it but fundamentals make Everything easier. I was on a vacation this summer and the exotic factor seemed to kick in. Back in my home country, a girl smiling at me after I smile at her is a win for the day. I even set up a fake online dating profile with some good looking dude (like 7,5 - 8 / 10 kind of guy) and it was a whole different story. The girl was investing in the conversation more, was more teasy herself and its just... being attractive is just win.
And to be honest, fundamentals is what I find among one of the hardest things to change really. Yes, you can get a different hair cut, clothes and glasses (if you wear them like I do) and it can change your image dramatically. But then, you have stuff like my dark circles under the eyes which make me look like a junkie and they are caused by kidney damage after an ice hockey match I had. Or the look in your eyes which is mostly based on your perception of the world, yourself, your inner believes and it is hard to desribe really. Which means you just have to go and basically rewamp your life completely to fix that one. I mean like... if it was easy to be attractive, would not everybody be attractive?
I wonder if the gap in my fundamentals can be fixed with having a lot of value to the girl and keep her attracted to me this way. Because I believe there is certain limit to my appearance and I am pretty close to that now and there is not much to improve appearance wise that is under my control. My final goal is to have a girlfriend, a wife and a family with her.
Regards,
Michal
Re:
Yea I agree - over a few years when I changed who I was, the look in my eyes changed dramatically. Went from friendly/neutral to much more edgy/intense, or w/ girls more charismatic/romantic depending on the feel
I have dark circles under my eyes too genetically, but ehhh, whatever. Adds to the edginess/intensity i think.
But I think you're limiting your fundamentals to just your looks of face, hair, clothes & eyes. There's stuff like walk, the way you move, posture, sexual vibe, etc. There's more you can do for your fundamentals man!
Look in Eyes
@ Michal,
+1 to what German Shepherd shared here.
Hard to develop that piercing intensity in your eyes without the mindsets back of it. Past a certain point, you do need to be working on lifestyle improvement if you want to take your fundamentals from "solid" to "spectacular."
Meantime, this article might help:
The Look: Make Your Eye Contact Piercing
I wouldn't dwell on dark circles much though. If you have fantastic eye contact, she's not going to think you're drunk, stoned, or sleep deprived. All she's going to think is, "Wow, his eye contact is so strong, and yet he has these dark circles under his eyes. It doesn't make sense - it's so mysterious!"
Terrific fundamentals have a way of turning what might otherwise be flaws or handicaps into assets that way.
Chase
Girls & Love
Hey Chase, first comment here. Been reading this site on & off for a bit now, learning lots of new, cool stuff. I understand articles on sexiness, conversation, fundamentals, girls & what they want/need, girls loving great & naughty sex, lovers & boyfriends & providers, etc.
What about girls & wanting to fall in love? I think most women deep down want "true love", aka to find a sexy, awesome guy who they fall in love w/ (w/ the great sex, & intrigue, mystery & all that).
Love being a strong connection, caring for & bonding, etc. Also society paints it as wife-husband but whatever the label, the concept's the same: to fall in love w/ an awesome guy & for it to last is what most women want at the core - What do you think of that theory?
I saw your article on girls & partner counts - http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-many-partners-has-your-girlfriend-... - is it a thing of where the more guys she sleeps w/, the less she cares about true love & the more sex is a bigger thing in her life - maybe I am misunderstanding tho. Or rather the point seems to be the more partner counts, the less sex=love & the more she can differentiate the two?
Also saw your unicorn hunter article, where you said your unicorn-type-of-girls would be less than <3 partners - why do you like that in women & is it related to less partner counts-love-sex thing?
I also just read Hector's freak series, your naughtiness article & Peter's sexual awakening & I was wondering if it's possible to start doing that dirty, naughty kind of sex w/ more conservative girls who have less partner counts like 2-3 and have them stay loyal over a long-term, even into a wife-husband-kids-family thing while having that kind of sex they deep down want you said? Also this is sort of assuming I can work on becoming the kind of guy who comes across in a way she feels she wants to have more sexier sex w/.
How has your experience been w/ dating girls who are lower in partner counts (= & < 3-4) & opening them up sexually & what happens w/ their views on sex/love?
What Women Desire, Low Partner Count Girls, Opening Her Sexually
Anon-
Happy to hear you're learning a lot. Couple different questions in this one! So your questions were:
On #1, I might do a full post on it, but I haven't seen any indication women actually deeply desire 'true love' at their cores. Western women will tell you they want it, yet they stay with all kinds of men who don't offer it. And women outside the West only talk about it in passing. In a "it'd be nice to experience" kind of way. We mostly seem to have culture / society / media to blame for the elevation of the "true love" phenomenon. It's a recent one too - the widespread belief that marriage in the West to be based on love didn't really start to take off until the mid-19th century.
Instead, what women seem to most deeply desire at their cores is to find a strong man they can submit to and feel confident following and being protected and taken care of. This is a man who hits a harmony between 'exciting' and 'safe'. That's the dream. When it comes to love, men are the much more romantic sex, on average; women are the more practical one. Love is nice, and women enjoy experiencing it, but love and devotion kind of take care of themselves if a girl finds the right man.
On #2, I don't mind teaching, but I do mind baggage, and I do mind competing objectives. If a girl is a little raw and requires some shaping and molding to be a better girlfriend and lover, I'm okay with that; I will tailor her to be more of the way I want. I dislike dealing with the baggage that girls in the angry/cynical category bring with them (from the "How Many Partners" article), and I dislike the tendency of women with higher partner counts to strike out on their own adventures and pursue their own missions, which means either less support for me on mine or even actively courting my support for their missions (instead of focusing on mine).
There's also infidelity risks; some guys (especially in pickup) don't care if their women sleep with other men, but I view this as a negative that puts me at risk for various bad things (STDs, cuckoldry, reputation damage, resentment/dismissal by a girlfriend who's more in love with someone else than she is with me) without adding anything worthwhile to it. So I'd rather just go find a girl who's just as good as the high risk girl, only without the risk profile. And that's... Not that hard to do once you've trained the skill set up for that. You can usually do it pretty quick.
On #3, yes, absolutely. Some of the most sexually skilled women I've been with have only had a couple of lovers in the past. If she's only had two boyfriends and no other lovers, but one of those boyfriends taught her to orgasm, deep throat, take and enjoy anal, etc., she will tend to be a lot more skilled in the bedroom than the girl who's slept with 30 guys but never had a relationship longer than 3 months. The girl who had one sexually experienced boyfriend may have had sex thousands of times with him, while the girl who's had 30 guys may only have had sex 100 times in her life.
Personally, I've trained low count girlfriends to orgasm who could not previously, trained them to do all kinds of things sexually, introduced them to anal sex and helped them orgasm hard off it, etc.
So long as you come across as sexually nonjudgmental, this isn't a problem. The only time I experienced problems with it was early on, when I still had reservations about women "acting slutty" and let this impression show to girlfriends, who would then clam up and start to say no, I don't want to do that, it's dirty, I can't do that, etc., because they detected my judgmentalness and did not want to do something I might judge them for later (and disqualify them as long-term mates over). Once that judgment was all gone, I stopped running into that issue at all with girlfriends.
Chase
Text Long each time?
Hey Chase,
Thanks for this article. Makes me fire up and approach!
Really hits it home for me too.
I keep trying but still haven't gotten to the closing yet.
Not excuse to get lazy Lawliet.
Re: Long texts
So in the article with texts and first texts and such, JGIG,
You say it's vital we make a our first text (after the short brief hello one) that includes all the elements.
Great stuff.
Now, is it for that one incident or also applied everytime we date ask over text (or followup after date ask when first met JGIG)? Such as in situations of "When texts don't pan out, call, text". Everytime we text in after a call that didn't pan out, does it have to be tediously long to include all elements EACH TIME? or can we just get to the point already?
Re: Pacing in seduction
I recently saw your article on pacing. Haven't read it yet but will do for sure!
It reminded me of pacing after we meet a girl.
1. Date ask
2. Number exchange
3. Brief hello after 1 or 3 or 4 hours.
4. Contact and set up date
5. Date
6. fast paced dates / first date sex
Now, in step 4, is there a time limitation of "you must do this step within a certain about of time depending on x"?
Because I'm busy as shit right now (excuse my french), and yes, I meet girls on friday daytime, then I probably won't have time until next week. So I text them about the date after a few days, without any correspondence in between.
Would this be fine? Thanks!
Stay Classy Chase :).
Lawliet
First Text, and Delaying Asking Girls Out
Lawliet-
I suggest you stick to the Just Gets It Guy first text structure every time you open a new text conversation. Feel free to experiment, of course, but that's my recommendation if you want a best practice to follow.
On when to schedule the first date, think about it like this. Percentages will differ based on where you're at with girls and how you're meeting them, of course. But if your number-to-date rate is 80% for dates planned the first week you meet a girl, it might be 60% for dates planned the second week. Then maybe 40% three weeks out, and 20% four weeks out after that. It never hits 0%, but the more time goes by, the lower it falls.
So, you can for sure put dates off. But do that understanding that you will lose some of those dates in the process.
Chase
Suburbs game
Hey Chase,
Was reading your early boyfriend old-article & found this line - "An attractive woman normally has a lot of men chasing her at any one time."
I live in the suburbs in SoCal (which is pretty much a cluster of suburbs essentially) & so suburb cities of like 60-90K all around one another. It's not like a big metropolis and I feel like that factor wouldn't apply that much to a suburb, like there's just less people, less attractive guys & less options?
This got me thinking that isn't getting girls a bit different in places like suburbs v. cities? Like for girls I meet in grocery store, mall, wherever, for moving fast - i'm not really adept at this anyways - but wouldn't it be slower because of my location?
It makes me think of my old big college campus (which was like a mini-city in a sense) v. a suburb. In college, things happen faster (from girls to friends making to everything), but in suburbs, wouldn't date compression be better w/ like 3 dates in like a 8-10 day span v. like 1st date sex?, & whenever i'm w/ girls (maybe it's caz they're young & inexperienced like me) but it's more of a slower, romance feel - still w/ sexual undertones. It's more leading to falling in love, than "hook up feel" which I haven't experienced. Could also be my inexperience + the inexperienced, younger girl factor.
Could you explain a bit or even do an article on differences in getting girls in big cities/metropolises v. like suburbs & smaller towns, specifically on tips on how to do better in suburbs/small towns? Or is it really kind of the same wherever, & more about the girl, her experience, her past, & my experience, my stuff, etc. Caz I feel like girls would be even more steering toward boyfriend land in suburbs w/ less mating options, less attractive guys & once they find one they like, it's kind of like a "Let's be together" feel when I try to think from their head. Obviously if it's like a super sexy guy it would be different caz she'd expect different from him and know she prob couldn't get this guy in a relationship but she's wants to try and see if she can get him to change lol but i'm a beginner so I am where am I right now.
Also my fundamentals are worse now than when I was in college (:/) but i interest just about the same amount/attractiveness levels of girls in the 'burbs than school relatively caz college just has cuter girls you know but still I think it's gotta be less competition, less expectations from women in smaller populated areas.
Also i remember somewhere on this site you wrote once, "Different environments condition women to want different things." I think this could apply here, but i think you referring to clubs or something along those lines
Thanks
-Chandler Bing
Re: kinds of girls
Also I was in LA main area yesterday (go there once in a while) & there were more attractive women around in the city as compared to the suburbs, but now that I think about it, maybe it's just my area, but there's a lot more of those naturally pretty, dressed-down girls in the 'burbs as compared to the city. Small sample points, but still I seem to see more of these kinds of girls - http://www.girlschase.com/content/youre-passing-hottest-coolest-girls - in the suburbs than the city, you think that's a coincidence, a trend or just seem less apparent in big cities caz there's such a big amount of people? If it is a trend, why do you think that happens? - Curiosity-stricken
Re: Suburbs game
Chandler-
I've largely steered clear of the suburbs since I left them in 2002, but I can tell you J.J. Jones spends a lot of his time in the 'burbs and many of his many lays come from there, and according to him, going from the big city to the suburbs is like switching from hard mode to easy mode. I've heard this from lots of other experienced seducers as well.
Assuming you develop your game in a more competitive environment, the suburbs apparently present a lot less challenge. I suspect it's just because the men there have less opportunity to practice game, and so their skill sets are not as refined. And the women there are exposed to fewer approaches and less skillful men, so they end up more impressed by your city-honed approach skills.
Chase
Results
Chase,
what would be the easiest way for a guy to start having sex and getting results?
I'm mostly talking about place, what places do you think aspiring seducers should go to get easier results with women to get the ball rollin?
Best Places to Meet Girls
SZ-
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Chase
Putting women On The Backburner
Chase,
I know this is a different request, but how do you put women on the backburner?
I'm in a relationship right now and still want to get better with women.
I wanted to know how I can keep women in my stable without really doing anything with them, just keep them around as text buddies I guess?
I don't know how to word this perfectly, I know women who want men to move fast and I do want to sleep with a lot of them, but for the moment I want to keep getting better with approaching them and having them stick around for a Lil while.
ok, I know what I'm trying to say; I want to keep my options open/have options.
I know girls do this all of the time, why can't guys do it?
I'm thinking of just getting girls numbers, texting them, flirting with them, but no dates or sex. I want to keep them around though, and if I must get new girls, I'll do that.
I want to know that I can get girls and keep them interested in me.
I want to just keep my options open.
how do I do this? should I do this?
thanks
Women on the backburner?
SZ-
Guys will stay in the back pocket due to thirst. Girls are a lot less willing to stay in the back pocket, partly for ego and reputation reasons (for men willing to inhabit the back pocket, self-respect and a good reputation is usually less of a concern than this perceived shot at poon), partly for abundance reasons - why wait for a guy who isn't interested when there are these other guys who are? Men stuck in the back pocket are nearly always men who are in scarcity. Once you have abundant dating options, you stop fitting into girls' back pockets anymore.
The best method I've found yet for sleeping with girls 6 months or a year later is to meet them, send them a happy text or two, then completely drop off the radar until I'm ready to meet them. Trying to text them intermittently to keep the connection alive just kills her intrigue (girl texts you out of the blue: wow, maybe it's a chance to get laid! Maybe she likes me! You text girl out of the blue: oh, is he trying to get laid? What's he doing still thinking about me? I figured he had a girlfriend or something. Maybe his girlfriend isn't that great).
If it's a girl you see all the time, you can alternately just flirt with her, and simply never let it progress to the point where it feels like this is serious or an escalation window has opened. Just keep it below that level until you're ready to make a move on her.
Chase
Follow up - real confidence
Hey Chase, thanks for answering my question on confidence here (http://www.girlschase.com/comment/80210#comment-80210) & planning to do an article on it.
Following up, you said real confidence w/ girls comes from successes which comes from repeatedly doing a process & just keep getting better, what about real confidence in general, like from the Mark Manson book I mentioned, he was talking about true confidence coming from exposing parts of oneself & becoming comfortable w/ oneself which is kind of just learning to go after what one wants, to take actions they want (like approaching girls caz one wants to, etc.). He also talks about investing in oneself and caring more about one thinks of oneself than others think of them.
Sometimes when I do things that I want - like having the courage to approach a girl - I feel great about myself and much more confident in who I am, just in general caz I value courage & authenticity. Do you think true confidence comes from doing what one wants, opening oneself up and accepting oneself on all these layers, emotions & experiences - pretty much accepting & liking oneself deep down?
From this article - http://www.girlschase.com/content/navigating-culture-me - what if I'm not perceived as high value to others, how can I build confidence w/ people when some people respond poorly to me?
Because before I had social circle and good life and was built up a lot so I was more open and free, but moving to a new place, I don't know anyone and haven't gotten to a good start in life here so I am more protective & repressed, which can build itself a cycle. But back then, I felt at my most confident when I was doing what I wanted in life even when I was validated a lot because my confidence came from myself more so than others putting me up & wanting me.
Since I don't have a lot of people wanting me or perceived value to many others right now, I think the best way for me to live better is to build real confidence of doing things more what I want, what do you think? Do you think me accepting myself (thru actions I want) & feeling a lot better about myself even tho some people respond poorly to me will lead to me more free w/ people - not perfect but just more myself? (Also in some way, it's kind of like those people that don't have a lot going for them, but they just are at ease w/ themselves, happy & carefree, like they don't give a f*** sorta.)
And then w/ this kind of confidence - I could maybe not be great w/ girls - but luckily my fundamentals/perceived value are better w/ girls I like than regular people in general, so w/ this sort of "realer confidence", I'd be able to be more myself/more me w/ girls & thus more attractive to girls?
My goal is not to become a super seducer or anything, just date cute girls & enjoy life. Thank you - San Diego
Real Confidence
SD-
Yes, definitely. Doing what you want, making progress in it, and voicing your inner side and expressing it well all help bolster confidence markedly.
Even if you're not getting social success right now, if you're building success in other areas you view as important (like putting on muscle, or improving your speaking skills, or getting good at a sport or art, or upgrading your career, etc.), all those things will bleed over into the social arena and make you more confident there. You will judge yourself a more successful man and a better catch, and others will be able to tell you think of yourself that way and will assume there must be something to it.
Expressing yourself has this effect to a certain extent. But there are some limitations on it too. You can also be quite confident as the guy who holds stuff back, but when he does say things they are insightful and perceptive. You can see the opposite effect with social justice warriors, who express themselves to the hilt, but now find themselves getting slapped down repeatedly for their often nonsensical, emotion-based arguments, and have to retreat to 'safe spaces' to go recover their self-esteem as a result. Part of wisdom (and confidence) is knowing what to share and what not to.
Chase
Chase,
Chase,
I feel you would know a good social way on how to handle this.
This happens to me at the gas station mostly, but this can happen in any area, fast food lines as well.
I have people come up to my car asking for help for something.
Whether it's money or to help them with their car, to driving them somewhere.
I only helped someone with their car, I'm glad I did a good deed, but it took time from me and I'm not doing that with everybody.
it's usually real late when this happens to, around like 2-5 am.
I say I have to go somewhere or make up an excuse for why I can't help. it's hard because I'm pumping gas, so I'm kinda stuck there until I'm done.
They usually won't leave for a few minutes.
I know I can say no, but how do you say no to someone asking for help? what if you have to ask for help?
my thing is, I don't trust anyone and rather not help at all.
I'd like to know the best way possible to not get in these situations and how do decline helping in the best way possible.
Thanks
Declining Compliance
SZ-
In most social situations, this article will suffice: "How to Say No to Others and Turn Down Compliance."
In this particular situation, all you need to say is, "Sorry man, I'm broke until my next paycheck," or, "I'm real sorry bro, I've got to get up in 4 hours and have to head right back home and get to sleep as soon as my gas is pumped. Ask inside the station, they'll probably know someone who can help."
Chase
Businesses
Chase,
I was reading one of your old articles and saw that you had multiple side businesses including this one at one time.
what were they?
how do we start them?
thanks
#2: They Don’t Approach Girls
I had approach anxiety for the longest time. When I finally broke through that, it completely changed my life!
I made a game out of it. I started trying to approach ever single girl I could. I would try to talk to at least 10 girls every day. I didn't ask any of them out and I didn't try to get any numbers - I just tried to strike up a conversation with all of them. After a couple of months, it got really easy...
Confrontation Confidence
Hey chase, I was thinking and wanted to know to get more confidence and frame control during all areas of confrontation.
I know you will get more confidence with size, muscle, and fighting ability, but my main problem is doubt and uncertainty.
Just because I know what I know, how do I know the other person doesn't know more? meaning they might have an advantage?
That's what defeats me everytime. I see people who argue all of the tike not giving a fuck if a person is big, small, or anything, they don't worry about what the other person has up Thier sleeve, they will talk their shit without doubt.
1.Chase, how can I have the confidence like that and stop always worrying about what a person has up their sleeve?
How do I make my frame stronger?
2. How do I make them worry about what I have up mine?
3. How can I just stand up for myself with
out all of the worrying of the other person?
4. How should you handle road rage Confrontation and look tough? should you yell insults back? flip them off?
I'm black so respect is key, I have to do something back.
5. I know you'll say that we have to experience it, but I can't really keep doing it because of this big worry I have, once I handle the worry of what my Opponent might know, I'll be good to continue.
Thanks
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