Secrets to Getting Girls: Chase Framing
Alright gentlemen, if you feel like fishing with dynamite, I’m going to show you how in this post on Chase Framing. This is how to get girls to chase you. If your goal is women pursuing you, women chasing after you, women trying to sleep with you… chase framing is the closest thing to a magic bullet you can come. Mix in investment and always moving things forward, and you’ll have the recipe for a lot of fast sex and strong relationships with women who want you with a passion.
First, something in the way of a definition.
Chase Framing is what we call the way a man positions himself as the object of a woman’s desires and efforts to seduce, by two key subtle strategies: investment and humor. We’re going to look at both of those here, but in particular I want to focus on the power of humor and how it can be used to set an ironclad chase frame.
A little note on the way the brain processes suggestions. The human mind is a powerful tool, adept at taking in thoughts and ideas from all over its environment. And when people suggest things, the mind captures those suggestions, imagines them, and considers them. And once the mind has imagined something, it is almost a kind of memory, albeit one that typically lacks the kind of strong emotional punch and immediacy of a true memory.
When we talk about using humor to set a chase frame, one of the main reasons why this is so effective is because every time you joke about a woman chasing after you, fantasizing about you, or doing something with you, you are painting that picture in her head.
The humor side of chase framing takes advantage of another way the brain reacts to stimuli in its environment, by using a technique called “anchoring”. Ever have a negative person in your life? Maybe a friend, maybe a coworker, maybe a family member, maybe an ex-girlfriend. And every time you spoke with this person, he or she made you feel bad? Eventually, just thinking of that person makes you feel bad.
Now, ever have a teacher, or a supervisor, or a friend, who just inspired you, and made you feel good, and made you feel like you could do anything you set your mind to? Just thinking about this person makes you feel good, doesn’t it? And you want to spend as much time with him or her as possible. Because you’ve anchored positive emotions to the thought of this individual.
Sexy humor combines these two elements – it gets girls imagining the two of you together, and it gets them doing so in a way that’s fun and enjoyable and pleasurable – they’re laughing and having a good time. These kinds of imaginings are really the next best thing to actual memories – sure, you’ve never met this woman before, never dated her, never slept with her, never had a relationship with her before. But through sexy humor, you can help her imagine what that might be like, and open her to the possibility of the two of you getting together.
To make this work, you’ll first need a sense of humor. The good news is, your sense of humor is something learned – so if you don’t have one, you can learn one; and if you have one but it needs some brushing up, you can brush it up. It just takes a little time, is all. I may get around to writing a primer on humor in general, but it’s a bit of an ephemeral subject. For now, let’s just say that if you are short on humor and want to develop your sense of it, start by picking out some comedians whose style you admire and would like to emulate, and start working to incorporate that style into your own conversations and interactions on a day-to-day basis.
As for sexy humor… I’ll start with a few examples. Basically, the idea is to just integrate this style of humor into your regular conversation. It can range from the subtle to the sophomoric – use your judgment, and realize that it depends greatly on the girl. In general though, even the relatively crude stuff most women find funny and attractive. Good rule of thumb: if she’s laughing, she likes it. Girl: What do you want to eat? I’m kind of craving hot dogs. Guy: Craving MY hot dog, probably. Why do you want to eat hot dogs? Girl: What do you think we should do? Guy: You probably don’t want to know. I don’t know if you’re ready for that yet. Girl: What’s your favorite band? Guy: The rubber kind. I use them to tie women up and do naughty things to them. Girl: I hate when you go to a restaurant and service is slow and lazy. Guy: Are you telling me you like it fast and hard?
The above are some very basic examples of sexy humor. They use reinterpretation and suggestions to plant the thought of you and a girl doing things together, or at the very least get her thinking about sex around you.
There are a few rules when it comes to sexy humor. Some of them include:
Avoid being blatantly overt. Usually you won’t want to use blatant sex words like “sex” “cock” “pussy” “vagina” etc. When you make a sexy humorous comment, quite often it’s the implied meaning that makes it so fun
Decide whether to let it hang, or keep moving. Sometimes it’s better to drop a sexy joke and let it hang and sink in, and give a girl a chance to respond. Other times – especially if it’s something that’s almost overt and you think she’ll most likely object to it – you want to keep moving in the conversation immediately after you make the remark, and get back to normal conversation (see the hot dog response for an example of this)
Make sure to use appropriate facial expressions so she knows you’re kidding! A sly, mischievous smile, and looking at her out of the corners of your eyes are great ways to show her it’s all in good fun
Actually, as I’m writing this, I’m talking to a very cute girl I know via chat. Here’s some actual dialog from our conversation to give you an idea what this might look like in context:
Chase: Job Requirements: A man of principle and integrity
Chase: damn it, there goes that opportunity!
Girl: what don’t you have?
Girl: or principle?
Chase: i just got skill, baby
Girl: what kinda skill my dear?
Chase: i don’t know if that’s appropriate for me to say
Chase: there are cats in the room here with me
Perfect example of what’s outlined above: notice how the sexual content is implied, but even when she attempts to get me to lay it out plainly, I don’t. I could possibly have laid it out plainly in a humorous way (“the kinda skill that makes women scream things like the opposite of NO!”), but it’s vaguely self-qualifying, so does a little damage to my value. Better (and funnier) to further imply the way I did (saying it isn’t appropriate for me to say).
One other example from the same conversation, when I mentioned that I had some software program she wants and she busted my balls on it:
Girl: you have one?
Girl: your ass?
Girl: why, can you give it to me now???
Chase: hey, you don’t get to use my ass for free
Girl: I will let you use my puppy’s for free
Girl: so when are you going to sell your car again?
Chase: yes, that’s just what i want Chase: to use your puppy’s ass
Girl: He is a great licker
Girl: trust me
Chase: like how you throw that “trust me” in there
Chase: not sure what you trained him to lick…
Girl: all sick stuff
Chase: gonna try to sell it asap
Chase: was supposed to sell it today, but this old chinese guy went crazy when i didn’t reply to his email in like 5 hours
Notice how you can press the sexual humor even as she tries to change the topic with the car question (in this case, because I felt I could get a little more enjoyment out of the exchange), but then once we’ve had enough of it, you just switch back to neutral topics – here, answering her earlier question about selling my car.
Sexual humor is great. Once you get halfway decent at it, and develop a real instinct for it, you’re able to use it, pump girls up with sexual joking, and right when they start feeling like it’s almost too much, you… immediately change course and go to something totally neutral.
You take it to the edge, but don’t go over.
That’s one big part of setting yourself up as a sexual guy, and implying that she is chasing after you. There are all kinds of ways that you can joke around with her in a way that says, “Hey, I know you want me.”
Another big part of how to get girls chasing you is getting them to invest. Still planning to write a comprehensive investment / compliance post, but for all intents and purposes let’s put it like this:
“Get girls putting in work for you, with you, and around you, and they will begin to see you as someone they are pursuing.”
Here’s a quick primer on compliance – once I get a complete post on it finished, I’ll try to remember to throw a link in this post over to that post. For now, a little bit on the basics:
Girls should be investing around you from the moment you meet them. This means physical investment – you have them give you their hand so you can look at a piece of jewelry or show them something. This means verbal investment – they try to impress you, or they mention something you like and you tell them to tell you about that and they do. It means emotional investment – they get excited, curious, intrigued by you, and feel a range of emotions toward you.
You should be accepting and rewarding all investment you get – even if it’s for something you aren’t all that interested in. When a woman you like offers you investment of any kind – whether it’s something you actually care about, or not (say, she offers to give you some small item that you don’t really want), it is FAR better to accept, and thus give her your approval and appreciation, than it is to decline (and thus show her disinterest / lack of appreciation).
Learn to be aware of investment.
Everything is investment – even small things like whether she is leaning in to talk to you, whether she is focused intensely on you, whether any part of her body is touching you. Be aware of how much work she is putting in to be with you, and seek to increase the amount – even small things add up. As she invests more, she’ll begin to feel that she is pursuing more. If you are accepting her investment and rewarding her for it properly, you will create a dynamic of her chasing after you, you making her feel good for doing so, and her continuing to do so.
That’s how to get girls to chase you. That’s what a chase frame is – implying that she’s chasing after you, with words and humor, and ACTUALLY getting her chasing after you, with compliance and investment. Combine those things, and you’re off to the races.
Yours, Chase Amante
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