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Women Love Sexist Men

women love sexistsOne of the things you realize when you first start flirting with women more and more is that many of these things you’d previously assumed were bad to say because women would find them ‘offensive’ actually turn out to win you points with girls.

You tease a woman about how all women care about is gossiping and backstabbing, and she laughs and punches you in the shoulder.

You have a girl who’s on the fence about going along or not with something you’ve invited her to, and you bullishly insist, like the asshole bad boy you are (or are trying to be), and she relents and goes along with it... and immediately, you notice a big spike in her attraction to you.

She asks you if you believe in equality in relationships, and becomes submissive and affectionate after you tell her you find it impossible to buy into that nonsense, because the fact is that men are men and women are women and relationships work better when each accepts their roles and lives up to them.

All these things are things that shouldn’t happen, you’d think, if you’ve spent much time consuming the media on TV or the Internet or you’ve spent a lot of time listening to what women say they want.

Yet, they happen anyway.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.

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Waleed's picture

Hi Chase,
I really liked the article. In fact i have been following this site for a long time and it has definitely changed the way i look and interact with women. But i am still having problems dating in Pakistan as it is a highly conservative society due to religious obligations. Could you please give some advice for dating in a religiously influenced culture like in Pakistan. Thanks. Keep posting great stuff, you are helping people here.

David Riley's picture

Hey Waleed,

I'll see if Chase or any of the other authors could give some input on this comment in a future article.

Just Dave

African boyo's picture

You mentioned the goal of most mem to conquer and have sex with younger girls....what in your opinion the true and real ultimate goal of the female species

Danny's picture

Women's ultimate goal as female species in friendship is to use it as Security Blanket and Social Elevator. This is why u see so many women try to lock men into the "Friend Zone" without giving them sex.

This is also why u see in women's friendship they compliment each other all the time such as:

Girl A: OMG!! I really like your nail. They are so gorgeous
Girl B: "Love you, honey. I like your skirt too!! It makes u look so cute and classy

Something like that.....if u pay attention and observe u will noticed it, I guarantee!

Anonymous's picture

The direct parallel to your "have sex with younger girls" is "have sex with a conqueror". Women also have a stronger need for security than men do, but that security doesn't necessarily have to come from a sexy man, or even a man at all.

aonsilver's picture

Man , I need advise.
How can I improve my smile and facial expressions? I try to follow your
instructions but it just looks weird. I think it is the form of my
eyes ; I have droopy eyelids, making me look older or bored.
when I smile with theses eyes, it just looks so not sexy.
Am I trying for nothing? Cause its useless trying out something
that works only on beautiful faces. I've got an ugly
face: quite big lips with no nice definition (which makes my smile ugly), no sexy eyes.
Man, if you've seen people with non beautiful faces succeed in making sexy facial expressions, let me know.
Cause I feel like giving up hope of one day making sexy facial expressions or a sexy smile. But as strange as this can sound, I
can make the "intense look" quite well, but that's only one.
Chase, just ell me if I should keep on trying or just let it go.

David Riley's picture

Everybody is self conscious and "ugly" guys do end up with get pretty girls. Not because of their looks or money but because they accept their flaws. They know that they're not perfect. They say to themselves, "Hey, I'm not the best looking guy but I'm just going to talk to this woman anyway." He succeeds because he isn't worried about rejection. He knows that if he doesn't try he's only failing himself. He doesn't get discouraged he just finds every reason every day to keep going. He wants to better himself and isn't going to let anything or anyone hold him back.

Take care,

Just Dave

aonsilver's picture

Chase, in one of your post (I think its the one
where you said you had lost a backup dancer of Beyoncé) and in this list
of the girls you lost, you mentioned that one of the girls thought you
were the sexiest man alive ( something like that...).
How did you achieve that, bro? before being called like that, there must have
been some work behind it, right? please give me the name of the article I
told you about, just want to review it though this Beyoncé thing was just
a small part of it but still it really stayed in my head. ( man, a backup
dancer of Beyoncé...)

David Riley's picture

Hey Aonsilver,

Here's the article

http://www.girlschase.com/content/date-a-model

Take care,

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

Great article Chase!

It's interesting to consider that this paradigm seems to go both ways - in my experience, the most hostile feminists tend to be women who aren't so attractive and who have had bad experiences with men.

Malefactor's picture

Hi Chase,

It would be great if you could post an article about blind dates. I am in china at present and here the people use WeChat a lot. So, i am always getting friends request through it. I have never been on a date using WeChat or FaceBook, but i am thinking why not give it a try. Any Idea how to make sex happen after the Blind date? I am clueless about this thing as there are so many things to consider.

Looking forward to your reply.

Malefactor.

David Riley's picture

Hey Malefactor,

I'll pass this unto Chase and the other authors.

Just Dave

90210's picture

Chase, could you possibly explain how
to be hypnotic? Not hypnotic like controlling people's minds but
more hypnotic in the way girls love it.
I tried to figure it out and concluded that I need
to work on my voice and eye contact but I guess there's more.
Maybe you could write an article on it (would be a great one)
Cheers bro!

David Riley's picture

Hey 90210,

Here's an article dealing with empathy that address hypnotizing in a way.

http://www.girlschase.com/content/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy

I'll make a note to the writers about a potential article. You're on the right track about the sexy smile and eye contact. It drives women nuts and you'll become so much more attractive to them when you get it down.

Take care,

Just Dave

Dylan George's picture

Call me what you like,

I'm disappointed in this article. I know what you mean, however I'm afraid a lot of your readers won't.

Do you not think 'be sexist' will be taken the wrong way?

I've seen enough terrified and crying women to ever encourage objectifying women. Not everyone has the ability like you to pull it off.

Those who don't will upset a lot of people. Creating more guarded women for us to crack.

It's a vicious cycle.

Kingmvker's picture

I, like you, did not agree with everything in this article but for the most part i did.

However, i take objection to you first of all using the term 'objectifying' clearly regurgitating the same nonsense some of these feminists advertise.

Objectifying women is never wrong, its natural, and as such its a recognition that women are sexual beings . The very fact that you and i are alive is due to the fact that your father objectified your mother sexually. Could you imagine where our species would be if men didn't objectify women as nature intended?

Moral of the story is, objectifying is perfectly okay when done respectfully, by that i mean don't approach a woman you find attractive and say something crass like 'want to suck my penis?''

I suggest you change your inner game towards women and to start seeing women as sexual beings and they'll start seeing you as a sexual man.

David Riley's picture

Here's the thing women love it when men are being men. The real versions of men and not the scared and afraid to assault men we have in society today. Women love it when a man is rough and rugged and know and enjoys the fact that women love sex. Women don't want to be suppressed sexually. As a matter of fact women hate it. They want to be able to have a lot of sex without being judged. They're tired of hearing it's not lady like. Women want to be viewed as sexual creatures. They want to flaunt their sexiness around as much as much do without being labeled a slut.

Driver's picture

Another great perspective. Really loved the article, and how you pinned down the underlying difference between benevolent "sexists" and the hostile type.

I especially liked that you included the fact the women are generally more miserable now with a non-sexist society. Unfortunately, I think this is the feminist's fault for pushing for it, but also men's fault for not thinking their way through the bull.

You mean women don't want to fight in the UFC?! Chase I think you're going off the deep end here. ;)

A while back you mentioned in a day game article I think, that there was a way of having multiple girlfriends, but still have them be exclusive with you. I was wondering if you would consider writing about that. I would be very interested in hearing what you have to say on that, and would greatly appreciate the information. Thanks.

David Riley's picture

Here's a link to an article covering that.

http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-date-multiple-women-zero-drama

Just Dave

jj123's picture

Chase,

Since your above-post concerns benevolent sexism, which can segue into paternalism, and given some of your other views on traditions and the sexes today, I am wondering:

Let's say a woman INSISTS -- and I mean rigidly -- that because she's a female with a womb and a whole different set of traits than guys, and because of various TRADITIONS, that you, the guy, pay for all (or at least most) dating and social expenses in a relationship (of course, otherwise she's 'equal!'). Now I've read, many times, your (im)famous post on (not) paying for dates -- guys who do so essentially become provider category chumps and rarely get laid. I'd also add how SEXIST it is against men, especially with old male privilege pretty much out the window in most of the West. But this kind of woman won't compromise, because "you're the guy, it's your job," and she likely overrates her attractiveness as it is.

Precisely, what do you say to her?

David Riley's picture

You don't give into her frame. A man isn't afraid to lose a woman because he doesn't fall into her program. Rather he insists that she follow his program. In the beginning of the meeting a girl, you set the frame that she's not on a pedestal. When a women asks you to buy her stuff because you're the man. Challenge her . . . ask her why?

Me: "Why do you say that?"
Girl: "That's how it's supposed to be."
Me: "According to who?"
Girl: "Um society?"
Me: "Hmm...the same society you don't agree with at times. Look let's just get to know each other and have fun and see where it goes."

Another way out of these is to not take a women on an expensive first date where she expects you to pay. That's a death sentence. Let a woman know in the beginning that you won't be paying. If she doesn't like it she can leave.

Anonymous's picture

Hi,
so this girl really fell in love with me and has been chasing me for a while.
We live many kms apart, when I told her I was coming to her city she was super excited.
Before we met she was extremely nervous texting me she doesn't know if she's good enough for ME.
Then we finally met, hugged, talked a bit, watched a movie in the cinema, I paid for everything...
After that we went to a café and I let her chose a place to seat and she chose one with the candlelight.
There we were talking, while I suddendly say her name and try to kiss her.
I made the biggest mistake by asking her this while I was almost at her lips:
"Can I kiss you?" - She obviously said no, we don't know each other so well and it would be too soon.
She indicated next time would be a good idea.
She then left after some time with a kiss on the cheek.

She however was very happy for the fact that I tried to kiss her, because.. now she KNOWS.

She apologized later via text that it was an amazing day and she is sorry for how it went out at the end.
I know she likes me, but I don't really know how to push things further...

Mistakes I made:
- Not touching her enough, almost nothing.
- Running out of topics at the end , she was asking questions the whole time
Otherwise I was very careful to follow all the rules on this website.

What should I do next?

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

Follow up and suggest a date, either she'll go for it or she won't. I would suggest in the future to not pay for everything or make it so romantic. Because it firmly places you into the potential boyfriend category/provider zone. This means she will take things slower. This is why she rejected your kiss. She didn't want to rush things with sex and ruin things. She wants to make you wait. The only problem when people take things slow, they very rarely if ever end up together. When they do end up together it's usually on terms that the woman decides. This is not what you. The best thing to do on the next date is touch her more and keep her talking as much as possible.

Take care,

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

Hello Chase,

I have a question. It probably doesn't relate to this article except for the fact that I am the benevolent sexist as you describe and I can feel the power if it. It reinforces the man-woman polarity and it's a little bit cheeky if done with humor, and so it's very good for attraction.

Back to the question. Several times in my life, I was rejected after a great first date. Sometimes there was even great sex on the first date, sometimes not, but she was hot for it. Her reason for rejecting me (assuming she was honest to me) was: "I don't want to fall in love with someone like you."

Is it for real, Chase? What's the problem? How can it be prevented?

Lukas

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

I would say this has to do with your attainability and also a potential "shit test". Sometimes, a woman will say this like because she doesn't feel you're a right fit in the long term. What you have to do is show her, that things could work out. Don't be afraid to be warm to a women once you slept with them. When a girl thinks your cold, no matter how great the sex is she'll fade out. On the plus side though, I will say this could also be a good thing. The reason is girls are seeing you as a bad boy whom she can't control. She knows that if she falls for you, she will fall hard. Like I mentioned earlier, just be a little warmer to girls after sex and you should be fine.

Take care,

Just Dave

Anonymous's picture

Never a true scotsman.

Zac's picture

Thanks for the great article Chase. I would advise guys to check out a book called "The way of the superior Man" by David Deida. It digs deeper into this issue. It's high time the men should guard their testosterone and keep it to themselves, they should also encourage women to be women not men.

PJ Sparkle's picture

I'm a woman, and I've kind of been freaked out by how much I find myself desiring sexist treatment. Like really desiring it. I mean, absolutely craving it.

I've always wanted a man to put his finger to my lips and say, "Shhh."
Don't care why. It can be because the game is on. It can be because you want to look at my boobs.

Also, anything that ends with the word "now"

"We're leaving, now."
"You need to do this, now."
"I want to fuck you, now."
"You need to behave yourself, now."

Yeah, just typing this is getting me a bit flustered....

Anonymous's picture

The reason that sexism and traditional roles are frowned upon is because it put power over one group of people into the hands of another, which allowed for abuse, both physical and mental. I understand that you're advocating for the responsible use of this power, but on the other end equality is about just eliminating this power gap altogether.

In some of your other articles you mentioned what the roles are, a resource gatherer and builder, while the other is a chooser and evaluator with control over the former group. Considering the way that many businesses work today, wouldn't it make more sense for those roles to be reversed, with a logical, steady builder creating a stable home life and a flighty evaluator moving with the wind to find new opportunities and make friendships with valuable partners to create even more value?

I'm just trying to rationalize this all.

N's picture

I'm fairly sure all of the commentators aren't getting layer because they're assholes. Positive "benevolent" sexism has often been regarded as synonymous to chivalry which in modern terms has transferred to politeness. I never understood why the hell you're only supposed to be nice to the people you want to have sex with, but whatever. The only real study I've found on subjects like this is a poll which showed that a subset of the female population that's interested in one night stand actually respond to the negative and aggressive sexist pickup techniques. this group of females also believes in stereotypes of women being the "gatekeeper". so, people like having common beliefs or when people are nice to them - makes sense. As for the comments... they are a mess. the "friend zone" is usually when someone is decent enough for you to be nice to them but not attractive enough (usually) to sleep with. I know this may be confusing , because as I mentioned above, you don't seem to grasp being reasonable to others who you wouldn't have sex with. And there is no real female master plan or master goal because women are not a hive mind! I guess I'd like to have one of those shelves with multiple aquariums in them - that counts as a goal. my friend wants to become a cardiologist? I don't know where you got the assumption from that women hate living in egalitarian societies. I know immigrants who are glad they live in a place where they can drive, work, and be respected. Respected as in people think they have a brain. The paper you cited for that states that women were happiest in the 70s. Maybe it was the hope that that era's feminist revival and passage of Roe v. Wade gave them? Later on the ERA didn't pass and a conservative era came around. Women also have a higher share of house work when working equal time to men. There are many reasons why a group of people can be sad, but being able to vote is not one. It may simply even be that western women don't know how good they have it.

Jack Reacher's picture

Chase, do you have any advice on how to avoid going down the "hostile" sexist route?

I'm 27, 6'1" Caucasian, have done near 300 daygame approaches in the past 2 years. I've had a good amount of dates, but no sex. The rejection begins to wear in you, and while I do like women and how they are different from us not getting laid is rough and taking all those rejections, and flakes is rough. A few more details, I make $40-$50k a year at a finance job and come off as a nerd, though I have been working at my physique for at least a year on a basic body building routine. My style is "average".

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