How to Date (and Sleep with!) Religious Girls
Religion is a touchy subject for many.
And in terms of seduction, it can make even the most able of seducers confused and frustrated.
But if they are religious, they are told that they shouldn’t want the sex part; which creates a varied spectrum of life decisions depending on how devout a particular female is.
So, today, I’m going to discuss this spectrum, and how to deal with taking religious girls to bed… and what to expect if you choose to date them.
Let me say now that I completely respect women of faith (just as I
respect all women). They can be some of the most stable, caring and
supportive girls you could possibly be with. And this post isn’t about
tricking them, undermining them, or otherwise trying to spite or insult
It’s rather about giving 98% of them what they truly want, but have been conditioned to think they don’t want or need.
And if you are able to give it them… the results are always rewarding.
Just like your family, for most people, religion is something you don’t choose. You just grow up being taught and influenced by a certain set of rules and beliefs. By the time you’re of the age to question things, you’ve already been conditioned with many deep-seated beliefs that you may not even realize.
I grew up in a spiritual family, but one that doesn’t necessarily believe in organized religion, which I think was a rare happy medium for me as a child. But I’ve gone to churches, synagogues, temples and pretty much any other spiritual building you could imagine; I do appreciate the deep lessons of a spiritual experience.
However, many people feel that they have religion forced upon them. And just as in physics, if something is hit with a force, it will react with an equal and opposite force. So when people become more exposed to other social influences like school and clubs, they start seeing the possibility of rebelling against their upbringing.
This can be true especially for women. This is not always the case of course, but there is a special pressure put on religious young women to save themselves until marriage. And with the sexual drive contained and repressed in each and every woman… this can create a very big problem. Women start to see what they could have, and start branching out as their families have a weaker and weaker influence on their thinking.
The Turning Point
As you steadily improve your skills with women, and cultivate yourself as a stylish and powerful man, your standards for women who you will consider for long term relationships will steadily increase.
Before I took to improving my own skills, I had been in a few serious relationships. And I would say that all but one of them were with girls that were high-value even for my standards today. But what I didn’t take time to reflect on until years later was the fact that every girl I’ve been in a serious relationship with was religious. Very religious.
What I also didn’t take time to think about was when I first met each of these girls, they were wholesome, timid, and just generally nice girls. But after I started getting physical with them on a few occasions, they would express their strong desire to have sex (always after some token resistance, coupled with a bit of guilt).
And after eventually taking them to bed, the same thing happened every time. They turned into the most wild and sexual women I’ve been with to this day. Far and away. And I mean not even close. (Actually, as a quick aside, one of these ex-girlfriends called me a couple of days ago, complaining about how the fire has gone out in her current relationship. And after two years, she has absolutely no desire to have sex. I was stunned. I used to do unspeakable things with this girl. So yeah, the 2-year drop, it’s a very real thing. And if you can’t give her amazing sex, watch out.)
And after taking some other religious girls to bed later down the line, and interacting with many more still, I learned that this is anything but an isolated trend.
Everybody needs a release every once in a while. And in the case of these women, their desires had been pressurizing for years, only to explode when they finally got their chance to let loose. I can only imagine that this makes the experience that much more intense for them. And when they realize what they’ve been missing out on for so long, a switch gets flipped and they can’t get enough.
And this doesn’t go only for religious girls, but for any girl who has been sexually repressed for most of her life.
But for my money, I think that the change in religious girls is the most drastic.
That being said, every girl has a sexual beast inside waiting to be unleashed; the question is: are you the man with the key?
There are certain responsibilities that come with this role in the life of a religious woman. What you must understand in order to be successful are the different types of religious girls, and how each one will affect your life.
Just like with women in general, there’s no “one size fits all” model with religious girls. And the type that you encounter will greatly influence how you go about interacting with her and creating a sexual relationship.
The following is a spectrum of religious girls that I’ve laid out, from least pious to most intensely devout, and what to expect with each one.
#1: The Ordinary Girl
This is the run-of-the-mill girl who also happens to be religious. These are the girls who are very similar to non-religious girls. They may go to a religious institution and practice some sort of faith, but that doesn’t really come up in their day-to-day interactions. These girls still take on sexual relationships and party just like anyone else. They are happy to discuss their faith it if it comes up, but it’s never forced upon you.
Taking this girl to bed: Proceed with your process as usual, as you shouldn’t really see any hiccups that wouldn’t arise with any other girl.
Dating this girl: You should expect the same thing that you would expect out of any average girl. So rather than focusing on her religion, pay attention to things like time orientation and look for characteristics that are important to you.
#2: The Chill Girl Who Used to be Religious
These are the girls who had religion shoved down their throats for most of their life. They’ve decided that they see no personal value in their religion or may even object to specific aspects of their faith. Though these girls are still liberal, they are not quite as liberal as the ordinary girls because they’ll still have remnants of years of social conditioning in their brains.
Taking this girl to bed: The usual process will work here again, but these girls are internally looking for some confirmation and reward of their newfound liberal mindset. The easiest way to spot this girl is to deep dive her. I assure you that this will be one of the first things that come up if you are a proper conversationalist.
It’s important to demonstrate to these girls that you are a man who understands that the expectations that were asked of her were unrealistic, and that you completely accept and applaud the fact that she has decided to enjoy her life. Usually, joking about it or making a light comment is the most effective, as she is not looking for a serious debate, but a fun guy who gets bonus points for understanding her.
Dating this girl: These girls can be hard to date because they are often in the “catching up” mentality. They feel like they’ve been repressed for years, so they are often jumping from casual fling to casual fling to gain more experiences and close the gap. You have to be especially chill with this girl, and try to bed her and spend time with her without making any mention of wanting something more serious. Girls know what you’re doing, so if she elects to spend more time with you, there’s a potential for taking things further. But if not… alas, such is life.
#3: The Insecure Girl Who Used to be Religious
These girls also had their faith shoved down their throat, but rather than break away and take it in stride, they feel guilty and worry about being judged for their decision. Leaving a school or quitting a job can be hard, but a religion really is a way of life. So some girls who don’t agree with their own personal faith can feel like they are betraying their family, community, and even part of their own identity.
Taking this girl to bed: These girls are definitely the most unstable in this spectrum. Sometimes they are happy with their decision, and to reassure themselves, they’ll go through periods of extreme promiscuity. And other times they’ll regret their decision, and go through periods of forced celibacy.
If you catch them during one of their “on” days/nights, they’ll be fun and flirtatious. And if you deep dive them about the things they believe in, they’ll usually use really strong negative language with regards to religion, like “I hate it” “I can’t believe anyone would fall for that” “I used to, but I was stupid then.” At this point you should deep dive further and find out whether she is an atheist or other type of religion-hater, or if there’s a different reason. Just asking, “Why do you feel that way?” will do the trick.
It’s also worth noting that you’ll rarely find these girls alone due to their emotional volatility. So I’ve had many an occasion where friends mention to me the state of one of these particular girls. The easiest way to bed them during these “on” moods is to move as fast as possible. They’ll be looking to get physical quickly and want an intense experience with no regrets.
If this girl is an “off” mood, she may flirt with you a bit, but she’ll be guilty and somewhat depressed, so either you will screen her out, or she will reject you when you try to move things forward.
Dating this girl: Dating this girl is inadvisable. Unless you want a whirlwind of emotion and the weight of her family and personal life on your head. And if you do, well, it’ll be your responsibility to essentially act as her “guide.” She’ll usually accept your date invites out of curiosity or the desire for validation. And if she does, she will be looking to you to give her wisdom on her life problems. This usually ends in her becoming very emotionally attached to you, or with her actually slowly friend-zoning you because she sees you as too valuable a confidante. This instability will only be combined with the fact that she’ll likely still be emotionally immature.
Either way, you’ll assume the role of her best friend, because she will either be alienated, or alienate most other people she had as friends. The one religious girl I dated seriously whom I did not consider high-value was one of these girls. It was one of the most difficult and draining periods of my entire life. Though, the solace that I did take was that eventually she recovered emotionally and became quite stable. But this took years, many overly emotional nights, a little therapy, and a lot of personal growth.
If you’re up for that all that… go for it.
#4: The Questioning Girl
This is the girl who is religious and still actively practices her faith… but is wondering. She often thinks about the many sexless relationships she’s had, and what might have been had she decided to take the plunge. She feels her sexual desires pressurizing, and is only more confused by how many girls around her talk about their sexual exploits and how amazing it is to do the deed.
Taking this girl to bed: This girl will certainly be a virgin. Unless you’re at a high-intermediate or advanced level, chances are you won’t bed this girl on the first night, or the first date (if that’s a different occasion). Your success will really depend on the circumstance. I’ve found that these girls don’t like “just hanging out” or cooking a meal, or anything that may lead to a quick escalation.
They like to be in control of the playing field. A typical chill date works best, but be ready to persist hard if you want to take things back to your place or her place. An alternative is just to hook up in an unusual place like a park or in an alley. She will be enticed by the excitement, and her automatic response will be shut down, so she’ll do what she actually wants. But this doesn’t always necessarily lead to sex. You can get sexual with her, but she will probably be pretty stalwart in making sure you don’t go further than she’s comfortable with. So if it doesn’t lead to bedding her, be chill about it, and live to fight another day.
As you move along this spectrum, the amount of time and resistance, as well as the amount patience on her part, steadily increase.
Though, I have talked to some guys, and had an occasion myself, who just kept persisting and persisting, slowly breaking down her defenses until she got what she knew she really wanted. But my skills were low at that point, so it took me a really long time, i.e. several hours of physicality. That’s right, hours. So it happens… but prepare for the long haul is you’re just starting out.
It’s also important that in setting a sexual frame, you be more chill and subtle about it. These girls can be easily scared away, so you want to focus more on building a connection while maintaining a subtle sexual frame. However, in certain cases you may not even find out she’s religious until you’ve moved her if you haven’t fleshed that out yet, so this one definitely has a gray area. But, it’s best to shoot first and ask questions later. If she gets scared away, all you did was screen out a girl who would’ve given you a headache.
Dating this girl: You should only officially date these girls after you’ve slept with them. If you do so before, they will be too used to the routine of not having sex with their boyfriend, and they will do the same to you, even if you are a strong man. That’s not to say that it’s impossible to bed her at this point; it’ll just be much more difficult.
Since they are questioning, they are looking for a strong man to pull them to the side of freedom, so if you can’t be that man…you’re just like everyone else. With this girl, it’s important to be unpredictable and devil may care (but too not over the top).
Assuming you confirm yourself as the strong, free man she needs and you handle things well in the bedroom, this girl will likely dote on you and be quite attached to you since you’re her first. So if you’re alright with this, then proceed.
In terms of the chill girl, insecure girl and questioning girl, you’ll find them most during the transitional points of young life. That means you will find them – far and away – most often in college, with some starting to bud in high school. Occasionally you’ll find some during a quarter-life crisis or even during middle school (for our teenage readers), with some outliers occurring later in life after certain milestones or tragic life events.
#5: The Faithful Girl
This is the girl who never misses any religious gathering at her temple. This is the girl who loves her family, is loyal to the community, and usually joins a fellowship group during high school and/or college and/or her professional life. To avoid the problems that various guys present, these girls try to actively avoid dating men who are not religious.
Occasionally they may not even date men who don’t believe in their exact religion. These girls can be any age, but they are usually married by their mid-20’s, so in terms of this article, you’ll probably only encounter them before that point (and if you happen to encounter them later than that point, they’ll be too set in their ways to change for one man).
Taking this girl to bed: These girls are also virgins, and have been saving themselves for marriage to the right man. But occasionally, the right, non-religious man does come along. However, this girl will be a master of resistance. She knows every trick in the book to avoid having sex. You can go on dates with her (in fact, you’ll have to go on at least one with her), you can escalate with her, but chances are you’ll be denied.
I will say now, don’t have sex with these girls if you don’t intend to be in a relationship with them. I know this site is about taking women to bed, but it’s also about not hurting girls. There are times when keeping it in your pants is far more advantageous. You could ruin this girl for life if you sleep with her and then disappear. And you could hurt her for a long while if you sleep with her and just try to make it causal.
The most effective way I’ve encountered to make this happen is to express how much you appreciate her, and how connected the two of you are, and how sex is that necessary final step. If you make sex only about the physical aspect, she will be offended and think you only want her body. If you make it about connection, then she will be moved.
But she will say no – which is to be expected. But you’ve brought out a thought that she’s probably already been having. And if you keep pushing harder every time you’re in the heat of the moment, she will eventually be overcome by her desires and her feelings for you that she will want to do it.
But how you manage things afterward is extremely important. She’s just made a very big decision on your account, so you need to make sure to reassure her with your words and your physical contact when all is said and done.
Dating this girl: If you’ve slept with her, then chances are you are already dating her or on the road to dating her. Since this girl is so strongly connected to the people in her world, you will now have to be a part of that world. You will to get to know her family, hang out with her friends, and she may even invite you to her church. In certain cases, since she’s already had sex with you and cares for you, she may even suggest getting married. It won’t always happen, but you should definitely be prepared for that possibility along with these other responsibilities.
The loopholes: Some girls are dead set on keeping their virginity, even if they have extremely high libidos. So I know plenty of girls who will do everything except vaginal penetration – which includes anal sex. And there are some still who will have “just the tip” sex, just to keep their hymen intact and still technically be virgins by religious standards. Some guys are up for this sort of thing, others aren’t – depends on your preference. But this just goes to show the intensity of the battle between a girl’s faith and her sexual needs.
#6: The Intensely Devout Girl
These are the girls who may as well be wearing a chastity belt. They have all of the features of the faithful girl, but may consider actually joining the church, and actively try to recruit people to their faith. It is extremely unlikely that they will marry someone outside of their religion. Which means that it is very unlikely that they will date someone outside of their religion.
Taking this girl to bed: This would be truly a feat. It’s not impossible, because they are still women, but you would have to be in it for long haul. Everything that this girl stands for in her life revolves around her religion, so you would have to be at the top of your game, be extremely patient, a little lucky, and give her the pleasure of a lifetime.
But in my opinion, the risk is too high. I dated a girl who was intensely religious for a few months. After we had broken up, one day I asked her what would’ve happened if we had dated for a year. Her reply was: “I would’ve probably slept with you and hated you forever.” ‘Nuff said. If you do pull it off, unless you’re ready to essentially marry this girl, you’re gonna be in for a world of hurt. And she’ll be significantly damaged as well.
Dating this girl: The prospects of dating these girls are good, if you’re okay with no sex until the point you do or don’t decide to marry her. You can take things slower than usual (while remaining sexual) since things won’t reach their biological conclusion anyway. If you are all right with that, then go for it.
What If You are Deeply Religious Too?
I’ve seen this situation multiple times in the past. Two religious people who have both been saving themselves start dating. And I’ve seen the results end up all over the map. In some cases, they rush into marriage for the sake of sex, and then end up regretting being with the wrong person because their infatuation led them astray. At that point they go through an embarrassing divorce that anyone with any sense could’ve seen coming.
I’ve seen other people use the sex loopholes to fulfill themselves until the relationship ran its course. I’ve seen others still get married and actually form a rather happy and healthy bond.
But what I have never seen, strangely enough, is two very religious people have sex before marriage. I’ve only seen tortured souls jump through a million hoops just to avoid getting each other in the sack. Or maybe they’re just really good at keeping secrets.
In any case, I definitely have a certain respect for the power of will of these individuals. Though, I do feel bad because they are denying themselves the very thing that we were put on this Earth to do. And I think they realize it every time they try to find a creative way to fulfill their needs.
But if you are a religious man, I have no right to judge you. If the life of celibacy is the life you chose, then carry on, good sir. You have my respect. But I would just advise you not to marry a girl for the wrong reasons. Use the right head to make the decision.
I’ve given you the completely spectrum of religious girls that you will encounter during your manly escapades, and tips on dealing (or not dealing) with each one. This can be difficult territory to navigate, especially if you’ve never done it before. But you will be giving many girls the liberation and freedom that they’ve sought for most of their lives.
Just be sure trust your instincts; they will usually give you a green or red light based on a million other factors about a girl besides just her religion.
Because after all… they are still just girls.
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