Something that every nice guy has painfully experienced - one way or the other - is that when you don't challenge women, you also don't attract women. Challenge is a necessary, integral part of building and maintaining respect and desire for you in women.
But what is challenge? It's easy to understand why most guys get this wrong. It's hard to pin the concept of "being a challenge to women" down when you're not sure where the line is. What if you challenge her too much and lose her? And while this does happen - it's called auto-rejection, and it happens more than most men realize - if you're hitting women's no-challenge flags too often, you need to get that one fixed first before you start worrying too much about whether you're going too far.
Can't fix the problem of going too far if you usually don't go far enough in the first place... right?
You need to train yourself, if you don't do it already, to challenge girls.
Today's excerpt from my eBook How to Make Girls Chase: Every Tactic and Technique You Need to Get the Girl(s) of Your Dreams zeroes in on exactly this: how to challenge women in a way that appeals to them and stirs their heart strings, pulling them out of the apathy that unchallenging nice guys put them into and awaking in them that frenzy of emotions that only an attractive, challenging man can.
Here's the excerpt:
“If you think it’s bad when you’re a man and you meet a woman who’s no challenge, take that feeling and maybe triple or quadruple it for a woman. Women are most attracted to men they believe are higher in value than them. If a man values himself so low in comparison to a woman, though, that he does whatever she asks him, and complies with her and supplicates to her, she will lose all respect for him as a man, and all thoughts that she could potentially be with him intimately or romantically evaporate. He has demonstrated to her that she is superior to him, so her hunt for an attractive, strong man must continue on.
Things to avoid that can make a man no challenge for a woman:
- Buying a woman drinks, food, flowers, or gifts when just meeting her for the first time, or too frequently in a relationship (what has she done to earn these gifts?).
- Qualifying himself; e.g., she asks him if he’s a good cook, and he says, “Oh yes, of course! I can cook this and that and the other thing, and I’m really good at… blah blah.” This is a case of the man working too hard to build commonalities and relatability.
- Offering more compliance than she is giving him back / putting in more work and effort than she is.
That’s no challenge.”
Be aware of all of these whenever you talk to women. Don't go overboard trying to be too polite, pleasing, or accomodating... or you may just end up (in fact, if you do those things you probably will end up) in "harmless nice guy territory" and never be in the running as a potential mate at all.
If you simply follow the mandate of "stop yourself from putting in more effort to please her than she is to please you," you'll be well on your way to having the art of challenging women down pat.
And if you'd like to know more about how to be a challenge to women and create attraction in them, you'll want to grab a copy of my eBook. In it, I put together an unbelievably comprehensive, 406-page how-to guidebook on picking up and getting together with girls. I break the process down step-by-step into the most minute details so you understand everything, and then I sum it all back up again in an easy-to-remember, easy-to-follow and dead simple to use process to get you getting wild success with the girls of your dreams today. If you haven't picked up your copy yet, you owe it to yourself to go here and download it right now:
Catch you later.