Tactics Tuesdays: Adding New Girl-Getting Tactics to Your Tool Box

Jonnhy-

I suspect you just watched the prelaunch videos and didn't see the actual course, right? ;)

I watched the course first. In the course, Manish is great. He comes across very dominant, confident, has a good sense of humor, and you can see his stuff working on Olga, the model.

Then I watched the prelaunch videos and he's completely out of his element. Maybe because Craig is there and doing most of the talking (Craig's the experienced sales guy; Manish just picks up and works with coaching clients usually), but yeah, they should've shot those better. He's leaned in / hunched forward, looks sweaty and uncomfortable. Should've reshot those. Comes across much, much better when standing, walking, talking, and calling the shots. I suspect his personality type is more talkative and most comfortable dominating the conversation, and he simply wasn't as comfortable in the more scripted / Craig-dominated prelaunch video series.

Chase

TallyHo-

If you have no time whatsoever for lifestyle design, then you don't have time for it. Shelve it away and work on it later. Work on what you can work on for now.

My opinion on "Is studying and college worth it?" is this: if you have a better idea about what you can do long-term for money, then it's fine to bail. If you don't, then stay put, get the degree, and get some work experience. Then decide later. You have time.

It is possible to go in whatever order. I've seen some guys who spent 5 to 10 years after high school working as tour guides or fire twirlers or bartenders or what have you in various exotic locales. Then went to college at 24 or 25 and entered the corporate world after that. Or started a business. I've also seen guys who did college, worked for a few years, then abandoned it to go travel the world and either freelance or run a business (I'm in this camp).

You probably have a good idea about what you need and what your personality style is. If you need more security, then get your degree and get some work experience first. If you're a free spirit and you're confident you'll always be okay no matter what, then it might be fine to strike out on your own and sort the details out later. But be careful you don't run off into the wild if you aren't ready for it and totally eager to do it, come what may.

Chase

Sinclair-

I've shagged a few strippers, though it isn't a specialty, and I wouldn't consider myself especially good at walking into a strip bar and walking out with reliable phone numbers or babes on my arm.

Of the guys I do know who shag lots of strippers, most of them do not recommend spending money on strippers. Instead they recommend going on off nights, tipping the bartenders well, chatting up the staff (who aren't busy on off nights), and chatting with the girls who come by to chat just because they're bored - but not tipping / paying / buying dances / etc. The moment you pay a stripper, you become her customer, which means she sees dollar signs when she looks at you instead of attraction.

I have heard of a few guys who pay strippers and end up sleeping with them. I'm not sure how this works, and suspect they probably have strong natural or talkative game, and once they get a girl alone with them that's all they need... they just plow ahead until she's into them and they hook up. The more reliable option seems to be either getting a job at a strip joint (as bouncer, bartender, etc.), or becoming the cool regular patron who goes on off nights and is friendly with everyone but doesn't pay for girls.

Chase

Munch-

Well, I mean, with a guy who is aware of girls doing this and who doesn't like it / views it as a kind of "Whoops, I guess I messed up" scenario, yes, they may shoot themselves in the foot with this. However, with the vast majority of men, this is a GOOD strategy for women to employ. The fact that it has the opposite effect on the tiny minority of men who are naturals or Girls Chase readers won't cause women to change that behavior.

It is not manipulation any more than it is manipulation for men to take things slower with girls they really like too. Men will deliberately say, "Geez, I really like this girl, I'd better not mess it up with her. I'm just going to go slow and play it safe." That's the same thing women do.

If you want to see this in action, just start escalating fast on a girl who's boyfriend-zoned you. She will not coolly and calmly deflect your escalation attempts, which is what she'd do if she was game-playing / manipulating. Instead, you will notice her get very awkward/uncomfortable. That's a response to a.) a guy she likes as a potential boyfriend treating her in a way that makes her think he does not see her as a potential girlfriend, and/or b.) her not knowing the right way to shut down a guy she likes but doesn't want to blow it with, without blowing it with him (it's kind of a damned-if-I-do, damned-if-I-don't situation for her: either she lets you escalate, but then you won't think of her as a girlfriend and she loses you as a boyfriend, or she rebuffs your escalation, and then maybe you ditch her and she loses you as a boyfriend. Either way, she's kind of screwed).

Chase

Mike-

Looks are a factor in attraction. The importance of your looks varies from girl to girl, and the rating of your looks varies from girl to girl too.

I can tell you myself, when younger I used to worry about this, as I had various people tell me I was good looking and others tell me I was ugly, and I've never been able to tell men's looks myself so was always sort of mystified about this. Didn't realize until years and years later that everyone's looks are incredibly subjective. You may be ugly as sin to one girl. Then you meet another girl - possibly way hotter than the girl who finds you ugly - and that girl thinks you're a knockout. Then another hot girl thinks you're plain. Etc.

Likewise, for every gorgeous girl, there are plenty of guys who legitimately think she's ugly, and it's not just auto-rejection. Some guys think Jessica Alba is hot and Paris Hilton is ugly. Some guys think Paris Hilton is hot and Jessica Alba is ugly. There are probably more guys in the former camp than the latter, but that doesn't mean guys in the latter camp do not exist.

I recommend you give these articles a look:

• How Much Do Looks Matter for Romantic Success?
• “I Can’t Get Girls Because Girls Only Want [BLANK]”
  
• How Many Attraction Factors are There? Infinite
• Is She Too Hot? Well, Looks are Subjective
  

Perhaps especially that last one. I think that one might be the most interesting for you. In particular, check out the comment section, and how varied guys' opinions on which girls are good looking and which girls aren't are. No matter your tastes in women, you will find some guys you are looking at going, "How on Earth can that girl be his #1???" It works the same way with women evaluating your looks.

Chase

Nick-

No, that doesn't strike me as an excuse. I'm not a purist. If other things are higher priority, they're higher priority.

It sounds like your objective is overall skill-building rather than the fastest results possible (since you more or less already have that with Tinder). So my recommendation would be to focus on gradually adding more pieces to your repertoire. e.g., this month is screening month. Every time you get to approach girls for that 1 to 3 hours a week this month, you will work on screening and qualifying them. You'll test out various kinds of screens and various kinds of qualifications. Next month will be compliance month. Etc. Point is to gradually add capabilities to your skill set.

You can also combine this with testing out different styles of game. e.g., maybe this month is screening month, and it's also day game month. Next month may be compliance month + dive bar month. And so on. This way you are also trying out different places to cold approach and discovering what you like and what suits you best.

Overarching aim will be to give yourself enough of a baseline that when you are able to make this a priority, you already have a foundation built and can build on it rapidly. Or even if you never make it a priority, at least you'll have added pieces in the service of general improvement, and can then use these in your regular seductions - e.g., Tinder girls, prospective girlfriends, etc.

Chase

Abel-

See my response above:

Looks: Their Importance and Their Subjectivity

Chase

Cacc-

Well, outside of becoming an international assassin, this article from Barking Up the Wrong Tree might be a good start:

How To Be James Bond: Science Explains Why He’s Irresistible To Women

If you want some GC tech, these articles ought to point you in the right direction:

• How to Be Smooth with Girls Every Time
• A Devil May Care Attitude: What It Is & How to Get It
• How to Be Edgy (and Turn Women On)
• What’s the Difference Between a Lover and a Loser?
  
• How to Be an Asshole – and Become Adored by Women
  

Chase

Troy-

Make sure you're signed up to our newsletter, and when Hector's book is out, you'll hear about it!

Chase

Josh-

For sure, that's a crummy-feeling situation. I'm a lot savvier about it now, but I've relocated to plenty of cities in the past where I knew no one and was completely unfamiliar with the scene, and it can feel very hard to movitate yourself to go out, and may also feel like there isn't much going on (since you aren't privy to what's going on).

I've had this topic (starting in a new town) in our articles queue for years but haven't written on it specifically yet. Have it starred and asterisked now; I'll likely get to it soon.

Before then, offhand I'd break it down to a couple of things:

• Pushing yourself to go out and both explore the environment and cold approach (doesn't have to be nightlife; could be day game, transit game, meeting girls at the street at night without going into bars, etc.)
  

• Joining every kind of social group, class, networking event, etc. you can, and both meeting girls and befriending cool guys

• Figuring out what kind of scene appeals to you most in that town and integrating yourself into it

It is an exploration process, where plenty of times you will go out and won't meet anyone of note. But then on occasion you will meet some extremely cool guy, and he will think you're pretty cool, and he'll invite you to something. So you'll go, meet some other people, and start to weave yourself into this new circle. You'll still continue to go out on your own, gradually accruing more friends and bigger circles and knowing more places in town, more people in town, and you gather steam that way and expand across a variety of domains (social circle, cold approach, etc.) simultaneously.

Eventually you achieve a 'mature' position in your town where you have found a collection of circles that are just about perfect for you, and areas/venues you love, and you start to cut out non-perfect circles and don't have to be in constant exploration mode anymore. Then you shift into 'comfortable' mode. Though I still advise you to devote maybe 10% to 20% of your time to exploration anyway. Old circles die and old venues close, and you cannot find cool people or cool places just by snapping your fingers; you have to go out, sift through lots of options, meet plenty of people you don't click with and visit places you don't like, to find the ones that click and suit you. Once you have learned to explore and build up your position, it pays to continue to do that at least a little even once you have your established circles and preferred venues. One other plus side of this is you get to be the guy in your circles who knows all the new places nobody else has gone to yet, too, which is a little extra social value boost it's fun to have.

Chase

Slay-

No worries ;)

Yeah, sure. My overarching objective at the very outset was just this:

• Gain more experience talking to, flirting with, and dating girls
  

Once I began to gain some steam and actually found girls would talk to me and agree to dates with me and whatnot, my strategy shifted and became this:

• Be able to get one-night stands

Once I pulled that off, in then became:

1. Get to the point where you can pick up new girls consistently/reliably

2. Get to the point where you can get high caliber girlfriend-quality girls consistently/reliably

After I achieved both of those (absolute abundance), I was more or less done following any kind of dedicated seduction learning curve. I'll sometimes set strategies for fun, like, "Shag at least one new girl per calendar week," or I'll take a picture of a girl I think is extremely hot and look for girls who look just like her, and bed them.

So for me it was always taking things that seemed on the edge of achievability, and learning tactics that would help me achieve that. e.g., if 2005 Chase decided he was going to bed a new girl per calendar week, or seek out some girl with specific features and bed her, he'd have given up a few weeks in and probably not talked to any women for a few months. Just too far out of what he was capable of doing then. But when the goal is just "Gradually ramp up exposure to women and look for ways to spend more time with them, talk with them, touch them, and get dates with them," that was doable.

I wanted to ask you what you think are the pros and cons of your masculine, low energy style vs hector's more feminine, higher energy style for strictly seduction purposes?

That's hard to say. And neither Hector nor I are exactly opposites, nor are we at poles. There are plenty of men who adopt a much more masculine image than I do, and plenty of men who adopt a much more feminine image than Hector does. Hector's probably more masculine than me in aggression-handling; if some guy wants to fight him, Hector will just deck him. If some guy wants to fight me, I'll talk him out of it and probably have him laughing with me or buying me a drink. Etc.

I can say after spending 2.5 weeks with him on-set for One Date it was pretty clear how our actresses differed in their responses to us. We had two actresses we switched back and forth with between the modules; one actress had a strong flirtation with Hector, while the other had a strong flirtation with me. The actress I had the strong flirtation with was the one who likes intriguing, challenging men, responds better to a certain degree of elegance, and enjoyed my brand of sort of paternalistic dominance. The actress Hector had the strong flirtation with was the one who likes men who get right to the point, who are more phsyically forward, aren't too bothered by keeping up appearances, and enjoyed his brand of almost gleeful I-do-what-I-want confidence. We would both have likely been able to attract the other actress to some extent without the other guy present, but each have our 'type' that responds to us better.

Non-type pros and cons are his energeticness is better suited to cold approach (I have to shift into a more Hector-like persona - which I can do, but it's not my default - if I am to do a lot of agressive approaching / if I am not doing post-up style game); however, this higher energeticness can be a handicap in certain more subdued social situations.

Chase