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How to Kiss a Girl Like No One's Ever Kissed Her Before

how to kiss a girlWe don't talk much on here about how to kiss a girl, typically because we're more focused on helping you to get girls in bed - why spend much time on the appetizer when you can skip right to the main event?

But even if you're working to turn yourself into the kind of irresistible man a woman simply can't say "no" too, it's still worth putting some time into bringing up your kissing technique. Why? Because it's one of those small edges that fold into the big picture that is you, and the impression you make on girls.

In other words, being a talented kisser makes you better able to achieve the kind of results you really want with women: namely, hot, steamy liaisons with beautiful girls you really dig.

Even if you simply run through a seduction quickly with a woman, and then plant a mind-blowing kiss on her, it still helps:

  • It helps remove any last minute resistance you might run into prior to intimacy,

  • It helps her switch off her logical mind and be there in the moment,

  • And it helps her realize that yes, you are exactly the kind of charming, seductive, sexy man she's always dreamed of meeting.

So on those notes, I want to address the reader from Slovenia who commented the following over on the article on how to get a phone number:

I've read around 95% of your articles and let's say trained myself to an intermediate level... or something more than a pure begginer lets say.
Tnx to you again ;)

Still I have problems when it comes to Physical Escalation... but not problems with getting laid. I have serious problems with the transition from conversation to kissing. Once the kissing is on I have very few problems with bed magic.

I have actually never read any insight that would break down how to get closer and closer, when/how to start putting my arm around or something, hug her, kiss her on her cheeks or I don't fkin know... My question would sound like this:

HOW to get to kissing part if you do everything wright?

I have serious problems with this transition. And I angry even more because I know I would have gotten laid so many times If I had only mastered this part... And I will sooner or latter.

And he's right. That's a tough transition, from conversation to kissing and being physical together, and for a lot of guys it can be one of the most challenging things to learn. Transitions in general are pretty tough stuff, and you'll find that most of your obstacles as you improve with women and dating come when you find yourself struggling to transition from one phase of an interaction to the next.

So let me give you an article on how to kiss a girl that'll help you navigate this transition a lot more smoothly... a lot more naturally... and as a bonus, teach you exactly how to lay one on her that she'll remember for a long, long time.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.

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Josh's picture

I would like to see a post on sexual tension. How and when to create it and sustain it. I see you mention touching and proximity to create this and maybe some eye contact that last just a little to long. Those along with some playful banter maybe as well? It's amazing how much of flirting and seduction are non-verbal.

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Chase Amante's picture

Howdy Josh,

Yep - all of those can play into it: touching, proximity, eye contact, banter, definitely. The slippery thing about tension is that there are a bunch of different ways to create it... once you know what you're doing.

But like a lot of things in this arena, it can annoying and frustrating when you're first trying to figure it out and only managing to do a lot of wheel spinning.

I'll see what I can do to get a post up on this.

Best,
Chase

The Tool's picture

Just like to share my story on the power of the Manhandle kiss.

I went on a first date with a girl, simple coffee, hit it up great about an hour and a half into it she started saying "What time does this place close, I dont want to be that kind of person that stays the whole night". This was my call to action to pull her home, so using the yes ladder I did. upon reaching my place we went to my room and sat on my bed talked for like 3 mins than i began to get out my laptop to watch a movie, 2 mins into that i looked at her and said "you smell good what kind of perfume is that" she said blablabla. I looked at my computer then looked at her and did the Manhandle kiss I slowly pulled away and looked her dead in the eyes, I slowly moved in again and she downright ATTACKED ME!!! It was like an upright explosion of passion the "second kiss" her tounge was completely in my mouth she was quite rough and excited. grabbing allover me and whatnot. The holding back and staring at her technique that chase talked about was extremely powerful, I used that myself and it completely drove her nuts for after I did it she upped the passion even more. The tilting of the head was also a great technique what I found also drove her nuts, what I dont think was covered was lightly biting and sucking on her upper or lower lips drove her absolutely bonkers.
So yea Through my experiences the Manhandle kiss techniqe is extremely powerful, I love using it.

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Chase Amante's picture

Hey Tool,

Great experience you had with the manhandle kiss - thanks for sharing it with us. It's a really effective technique when you use it properly (sounds like that girl thought so anyway). Women love it... nobody kisses them like that. Usually girls only see it in the movies and wish that someone would kiss them that way.

You're right on the light biting and sucking on her lips - I mentioned "nibbling" in the article, but that was as close as I got to that. Biting and sucking adds another great dimension to your kissing, for sure.

Ever try tugging her lip out and letting it snap back? That's a teasing variation on biting that can get some really sexy, charged-up responses if you use it at the right moment.

Cheers,
Chase

Erik evans 's picture

You honestly had never mentioned where your hands should be, what else does she like during the kiss. Thanks for the other information. I know you wrote this post a while back, but please post something else more on the topic of other pleasures she may desire during your kissing. And where your hands should be. Just a short article with some information on regards of what else she may want you to do.
, just a suggestion, thank you.

Franco's picture

Great summary. Kissing is a hard aspect to write on; there are definitely fundamentals that can be learned to improve your technique, but what really drives women wild is if you know how psychologically get them excited to be kissing you in the first place. This all depends on the mood, the setting, and the build-up to the kiss.

My main reason for writing this comment is that I would love to contribute a killer method for landing the first kiss and making a girl melt in your arms. I currently have a 100% success rate with this method when applicable (knock on wood), and it really ties in all three of the elements that are listed above (which are romance, spontaniety, and sexuality). The only drawback to this method is that it is somewhat situational, but I highly suggest everyone here try it if they haven't already. Here it is:

1. Get her back to your place and have her "get comfortable" on your couch (or other comfortable two-person seating situation). This shouldn't be too hard to do if you have been following the methods listed on this blog by moving faster with her and getting her alone.

2. Ask her what she would like to drink. This is a key element to setting up this situation. It does not matter what she decides to drink as long as you can pour her something to hold and sip on -- this even includes a glass of water. You'll have a higher success rate of her ending up with a drink if you ask her, "What would you like to drink?" followed by listing the options rather than asking her, "Do you want something to drink?" The first question already assumes that she wants something, and getting a drink for the two of you helps create the sentiment that she will stay for awhile.

3. OPTIONAL: After you hand her the drink, put your arm around her as you sit down. This is not required, but I can't stress enough how much EASIER it is to make a girl feel comfortable if you can get her close to you before you even think about going in for the kiss -- or even sitting down for that matter.

4. The grand finale... follow these steps exactly. Whether you are watching a movie or just talking, wait for a moment when you both have your drinks in your hand and the mood feels "comfortable" (don't wait too long though... this should be within 5-10 minutes of you sitting down). When you're ready, reach over and set your drink down on the nearest table and, immediately after, reach for her drink and set it on the table. This should be done at a 'relaxed' speed. Don't look rushed, but don't hesitate either. Right after you have set her drink on the table, pull your face up next to hers while simultaneously grabbing her chin softly with your thumb (below her lips) and next two fingers (under her chin), tilt it towards your lips, and watch as her eyes magically begin to shut while you place a romantic, spontaneous, and sexy kiss right on her lips.

The amount of confidence you display by creating the anticipation and suspense of taking the drink out her hand will leave her in a state of excited bewilderment -- which is exactly the way you want her to be before you plant your lips on hers. This method has been extremely effective for me, and it is the kind of kiss that a girl dreams about at night. If you're anything like me, you'll want to be the guy in that dream. ;)

Happy kissin'!

- Franco

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Chase Amante's picture

Thanks Franco. Yeah, it is a tough subject to write on... no verbalizations to lay out, all pure emotions, movements, intuition, and timing. Makes it tricky.

That's a great, really ballsy kiss technique you've worked out - something straight out of romance flick. Definitely one a gal will be thinking about for a long time after the kiss is over.

Appreciate you sharing it with us here, man - nicely put together.

Chase

R!'s picture

Something that I always love about your articles is that they help to clear up as to why certain events happened.

Recently did the sexual kiss with a girl that lives a little bit down my residence hall in college, yet we sort of did it in her room with my roommate and her roommate half-asleep. We both had some fun, but I didn't realize how much power I was giving her, particularly because we were making out/touching each other all night. Its those finely tuned nuances that are so hard to pin down. Did basically everything but sex, which sort of killed the passion, and explains why I was unable to bed her the next day when I told her to come over. I also made an escalation goof up by not conquering last-minute resistance, but I have since learned from that. This is another mental check to lower the chances of encountering that, thanks.

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Chase Amante's picture

Hey R!-

Glad the article cleared that up... that sort of thing spent YEARS boggling me before I figured it out. It was like, "Geez, we got so close... why's she going COLD now???"

The more you learn about this stuff, the more you realize how crucial the need to make it happen on the first try really is.

Cheers,
Chase

Alex123123's picture

Dear Chase,

I do slip up on dates and like most things I only learn through trial and error I have been on many with different women. To a extent where it has become uniform on what stages and actions I do on a first date, but I do mix up what kind I take them on. This maybe a problem now since I am dating different kinds of women.

I have always gone in for the kiss with the first date when I feel the time is right. Although lately I have been managing to get numbers from very attractive women and organising dates whilst using the very same method. It seems to work just aswel although on the second date there is a slump where there excitement drops.

From reading your articles I have got it into my head that I am selling myself too easy? Or should I take it easy with the kissing on the second date because I have established my interest in order for her to make advances towards me?

Anonymous's picture

Somehow I stumbled across this website, and have been very enlightened as to the depths of the male mind... and what's typical of guys. I just would like to say that kissing, even the first kiss is not always the man's "duty". I was the first one to kiss my boyfriend, it was perfect, and that didn't turn me off at all, nor did it weaken our relationship. A man doesn't "have" to be the first one to kiss... it really just depends on your situation! Alright, I'll get off the soapbox...

matt fry's picture

Just like to share my story on the power of the Manhandle kiss.

I went on a first date with a girl, simple coffee, hit it up great about an hour and a half into it she started saying "What time does this place close, I dont want to be that kind of person that stays the whole night". This was my call to action to pull her home, so using the yes ladder I did. upon reaching my place we went to my room and sat on my bed talked for like 3 mins than i began to get out my laptop to watch a movie, 2 mins into that i looked at her and said "you smell good what kind of perfume is that" she said blablabla. I looked at my computer then looked at her and did the Manhandle kiss I slowly pulled away and looked her dead in the eyes, I slowly moved in again and she downright ATTACKED ME!!! It was like an upright explosion of passion the "second kiss" her tounge was completely in my mouth she was quite rough and excited. grabbing allover me and whatnot. The holding back and staring at her technique that chase talked about was extremely powerful, I used that myself and it completely drove her nuts for after I did it she upped the passion even more. The tilting of the head was also a great technique what I found also drove her nuts, what I dont think was covered was lightly biting and sucking on her upper or lower lips drove her absolutely bonkers.
So yea Through my experiences the Manhandle kiss techniqe is extremely powerful, I love using it.

Matt's picture

So I just got a girlfriend and when we make out she's already moaning and trying to slip her tongue in my mouth from the beginning so technically she skips to step 4. And when I "nibble," she slips her tongue in, in any way possible. If you have any tips to make me a better kisser, I would appreciate it.

Anonymous's picture

Hey Chase,
I was just wondering how I could make myself get the courage to use something like a manhandle or really just any type of kiss.
Last week I went on a date, it went well, but I just couldn't get myself to kiss her. I wanted to but it just wouldn't happen, she was giving me the signs, I'd tell myself "Okay now!" but couldn't do it. Any help at all would be great.
Ta, Anon

Dred's picture

Chase ill take this one, be a man bro, in future if she wants this to happenen you have to be the one to initiate, if that means diving out of your comfort zone dive. You'll feel much better afterwards.

Dred

Anonymous's picture

I have been trying to have my first kiss for about two weeks and didn't know what to do... Well I looked it up being very desperate and I found this. I read it over at least 10 times and memorized it. So I took my girlfriend to a dark place at my house and put on her favorite movie, the Notebook, and I followed all your tips and advice. It worked I just did it step by step and she just was shocked. She was blushing and smiling and biting her lip. I was so excited, thank you for everything!!! My very first kiss ever and with my girlfriend was a success thanks to you!!! I really appreciate it!

SK Player's picture

The spontaneous kiss is my favorite. The romantic kiss is too tension filled and at a slower pace. I find that the rapidity of spontaneous kiss is better to pull off for me at least.

Anonymous's picture

whoa dude. i cant believe how effective this is. thank you so much for these graet tips :)

Julie's picture

Hi guys, I'm a girl and I've been kissed many different ways and I can assure you that everything that's explained in this post is absolutely right. Chase, you really understood what you have to do. Good luck everyone!

Blue's picture

This article is from 2 years ago, and I being a scientist have a fear of old articles but still I find it so well-written. However I have to disagree on the effectiveness of a sexual kiss. It can do a magic that all the romance in the world cannot do! Just listen to what I experienced just 2 days past:
I was at a small party with close friends from the university, and this one hot Brazilian guy was there, who I had met just once many months ago. So through the course of the evening I drank a lot of wine and I flirted on and off with this guy and I was not sure if he's interested or if he's just being himself (he is usually fun and flirty in general). When I got up to leave he said he will come with me because some lame excuse and I was kind of happy to hear that. We walked a bit and chatted and then he said do you want to come and see my dog and I was thinking to myself "wow, I'm going to have a taste of this fun sexy guy after all". So we went to his place and played with the dog and there was this sexual tension between us with little subtle touches. We were both bent over touching the dog when he kind of turned toward me and his open lips were on mine. He just started kissing my upper lips (my lips were already parted to breath better) and he started touching my breasts over my shirt and going under my shirt. It was absolutely the hottest best kiss I have ever got. I always thought I just like romantic kisses. This was certainly not romantic, nor started slow, it was just raw and spontaneous (but from reading this blog maybe very well practiced ;)) but I have to name it my best! I was this close to doing it with him but I somehow suddenly remembered that I have a boyfriend! And he was so mature about it and even apologized. Now I want him even more for being a gentleman too and cannot stop thinking about that kiss. Guys out there, this is the kind of kiss you want to give a girl... a reason to come back to you.

David Johnson's picture

Hello Chase,

This situation happened about a week ago. Everyone I've told this story has been quite pissed at me for not closing eventually. This was around the time I had just started reading your blog and hadn't gotten to this article yet. I saw a girl I had met a while back, I had her number but she had not ever really responded before. I decided to try your advise about 'asking a girl out early' and some of your other conversation helpers. I've always been pretty good at talking to people but still, I was pretty shocked at how it helped to get her to my bed that day. Basically, I did everything right, and took advantage of all the escalation windows. We saw a movie, cosy'd under the covers and all that, and for some reason, I couldn't decide how to get myself to kiss her that night. I mean, we weren't extremely close or anything and I only knew like one of her close friends so I don't think it was so much that I was scared of breaking a friendship. I guess I just did not know what transition style to use. Well, I wasted that night cuddling and I still regret what happened. In this kind of situation, what type of transition would you advise me to use? Also, do you think there's still any chance of getting that kind of situation with this girl again? I mean, do you think she'll be thinking what kind of person I was to not take advantage of such an opportunity?

Cheers,
David

Anonymous's picture

Silly question I know, but how do you you hover "in front of her lips prior to kissing her to build anticipation" when you at the same time must "gradually closing your eyes as you go - so that they'll be completely shut just as you reach her lips" as the article first mention in the romantic kiss transition?

How is it possible to "get your mouth very, very close to hers... then stop, just for a split second. Let your breath touch her lips. If she leans forward and tries to kiss you, pull back a little bit so that your lips stay just out of range of hers. You can tease her this way for half a second, or for three seconds, or even longer if you're a big teaser" when your eyes should be gradually closing and almost shut?

Wouldn't it be creepy eyes when they have to stay open that close to a girl's lips to spot and see if you can tease her by retreating for a sec?

Thx in advance

Anonymous's picture

this is bloody great. thx guys. imma read your articles like a monk trains in the mountains

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