Despite not having a particularly strong onset of yellow fever, I have spent a good amount of time in Asia gaining an intimate look into the lives, psyches, sexualities, and beds of Asian women. I have also hooked up with my fair share of Asian girls here Stateside as well.
So since I have experience with Asian girls of all kinds, I thought it would be appropriate to write up a post on how to have sex with Asian girls in general – both in the West and in Asia – and what to expect when trying to take them to bed.
For the purposes of your successful pursuit of sex with Asian girl, it will be important to differentiate between how to have sex with Asian girls in Asia versus Asian girls in the West. Because I do believe that these are two very different ball games.
In terms of Asian girls in Asia, I will spend my time focusing on Southeast Asia and East Asia. Though there are beautiful and wonderful girls in South/Southwest/Northwest Asia, the cultures in these regions are much different from what most men consider traditionally “Asian.”
Additionally, I have limited experience in these areas (for now), so I will leave the door open for someone else to tackle these regions.
Asian Girls in Southeast Asia
Southeast Asia is one of my absolute favorite regions in the world. The sun is always shining, the beaches are breathtaking, the food is phenomenal, and the women are wonderful. It’s certainly one of the most pleasant places to meet women – Asian or otherwise (minus the ugly underbelly of the sex trade, but that’s outside the scope of our purposes).
What are Asian girls in Southeast Asia like?
They are extremely friendly
They are genuinely interested in where you come from and what you have to say
They are excited to teach you about their culture and language
They have very strong nurturing instincts
How do you approach and seduce Asian girl in Southeast Asia?
Being an attractive man still applies. Some people seem to think that just because you’re in a foreign country the rules of fashion and grooming seem to go out of the window. Though the fashion rules can be more relaxed in the tropics, you will do yourself a big favor by keeping up with your style. When I lived in Asia too often I had people telling me that I was the best dressed person in the room – or even that they had seen that day.
And I definitely took my style down a notch for what I normally maintain in the West. But when you maintain a higher level of style than the men around you, you will make your job a lot easier. And when you have good style and fundamentals, you’ll often find…
Women sometimes will approach you or invite you to join them. Sometimes the best way to approach in Southeast Asia is to not to approach at all… because the women will approach you. This can be somewhat surprising for Western men, who are probably only used to this happening while women are in an inebriated state, if at all. But yes, Southeast Asian women are definitely wont to approach men – still in a reserved, feminine way – and make their opinion of you clearly known.
Don’t be surprised if a Southeast Asian girl comes up to you and say “I like you.” or “You’re cute.” And if she’s too shy to do so herself (which is oftentimes the case), she will send her friend as an emissary to communicate her desires. Alternatively, Southeast Asian girls who like you will often invite you to come join them for a meal or drink. I lost count of how many Southeast Asian girls bought me drinks or even meals in order to simply fulfill their desire of taking care of a high-value man and welcome him into their world.
If they don’t approach you, approach them and offer a simple compliment. Southeast Asian women don’t have the faculty of slight (or not so slight) suspicion of men who approach them as you might experience in the West, and in particular in the United States. Southeast Asian girls love meeting new people – especially attractive foreign men.
I should reiterate that last point. Southeast Asian girls love meeting foreign men – of all races, ethnicities, and origins. So if you’re visiting the region, that fact in itself will automatically work in your favor. And they will not reject your compliment. Even if they aren’t interested they will accept your compliment with a smile. So offer a simple compliment and get the ball rolling on the approach. If she is interested, she will be enthusiastic in finding out about you.
You don’t need any fancy or clever openers here. Just be friendly and be clear and you should be fine.
Keep things moving forward and get past token resistance. Southeast Asian girls love to put up token resistance. Sometimes they will tell you that they forgot to meet up with someone. Or maybe they have to get up early. Or maybe they’ll just tell you to “go home” (which has definitely happened to me on more than one occasion). But as always, you need to pay attention to what women do, and not that they say. You just need to keep having her follow you. And if she continues to do so, then that’s the only confirmation you need that she wants to sleep with you.
In my Filipina article I pointed out a moment where after a woman told me to go home (and I kept moving things forward), she said “Okay, you can sleep over in my bed. But, we’re not going to have sex. We’re just going to sleep.” When she said this, I smiled and nodded and said “Of course not.” And when we arrived, I actually did try to go to sleep. And then I woke up to her nakedly kissing me. Oh well.
So don’t be fooled by the token resistance. Some girls are just nervous and/or intimidated by a strong Western man. Others don’t want to appear easy. But in most cases, the resistance will be pretty weak. So keep things moving.
East Asian Girls
Now that I’ve outlined what to expect out of Southeast Asian girls and how to proceed in seducing them, let’s take a look at what you will find with East Asian girls.
What are Asian girls in East Asia like?
They are very reserved and somewhat socially awkward at times
They are intelligent and usually have a talent or two
They are very polite and submissive
They will be excited to get to know you if you warm them up
They don’t like much physical contact in public
They can be overly cutesy (think Hello Kitty or those Asian booth pics with pink backgrounds and too many stars)
They can be anywhere from quirky to downright weird (think cosplay)
How do you approach and seduce Asian girls in Southeast Asia?
Being an attractive man still applies. Notice a pattern here? No matter where you are in the world, or what kind of women you’re dealing with, being an attractive man never stops applying.
Being a white male is a great advantage. I was hanging out with one of my college friends in China last year, and when asking him about Chinese women, he said to me: “It’s really unfair if you’re a white guy here. Chinese girls think that all white guys are basically George Clooney.” Now my friend is a pretty handsome guy in his own right, so I took his words with a grain of salt, just thinking that just must’ve been his experience with dating in China.
But as I spent more time in the country, I was realizing that he was absolutely right. I saw some pretty homely white American and European guys with the most attractive Chinese girls on their arms. The proof was definitely in the pudding.
You have to get her attention with a masculine frame. If you go out and about in East Asia – especially in the big cities – you will see that a lot of girls will spend time on their phone when they’re surrounded by friends (mostly males). And this isn’t the type of phone zombification that you see in the West where girls are simply addicted to Instagram.
Upon closer inspection, you notice that these girls are nervous – and actually somewhat bored. This is because most East Asian men don’t engage Asian girls in meaningful conversation or fun interactions when they’re out and about. The girls are there more to play the role of ornaments for the men. Or alternatively, to come out and boost the male’s social confidence due to the fact that most Asian men are too nervous to interact with girls unless heinously drunk.
Because of this fact, you have to break the hypnosis with a masculine frame. You have to get the girl to invest in you. You can approach in the day or in a night venue. But no matter what you do, you must keep your foundation in mind. You have to be dominant. You have to be centered. You have to be cool. I suspect that this is why East Asian girls are obsessed with Western men. This stereotype is already ingrained in their mind, and they just assume that white men will fulfill it. Surely you won’t be the one to disappoint them.
You absolutely have to lead. East Asian girls are probably the most traditionally submissive women you will ever encounter. They will not lend much of a hand to you in their own seduction, so you must boldly lead them to the bedroom. And if you can do so while maintaining your frame, they’ll wet themselves in anticipation for what’s to come. And just as I pointed out in my submissive women article, you’ll have to take the lead in the bedroom as well.
I’ve found that Asian girls do very little in bed and expect the man to do the lion’s share. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it is definitely something to be aware of. And if you can dominate them in the bedroom, they will absolutely lose their minds.
First Generation Asian Girls in the West
Now that I’ve taken care of what to expect with Asian girls in Asia, let’s discuss the expectations and approaches for Asian girls in the West.
Now, if a girl is first generation, chances are she’s been instilled with traditional values from her parents. So these girls will be similar to girls you’d find in Asia in various ways:
They are not likely to have sex with you on the first date
They are feminine and more reserved
They are nurturing and kind
They are hardworking and motivated
They usually have pride in their heritage in public
They are usually bilingual (always a bonus)
How do you approach and seduce first generation Asian girls in the West?
Solid Fundamentals. As always.
Follow the Same Opening Formula. You still don’t need to do anything fancy to get the ball rolling with these girls. Chances are you won’t even know that she’s a first generation Asian girl until you actually start talking with her. But if you do know, or at least have the suspicion that she is, just open with a compliment or an indirect direct opener.
Be Playful. Because traditional Asian upbringings transferred to the West can be quite strict, I’ve found that first generation Asian girls really appreciate men who are playful and can bring out their lighter side.
Just Ask Her Out on a Date. Since they still have traditional values, you don’t have to jujitsu your way into “grabbing coffee or dessert with nebulous romantic implications” as we’re so used to doing her in the West. Just keep it simple and ask her out. If the desire is there, she will most certainly say yes.
Push the Sexuality in Stages. As I pointed out earlier, these girls aren’t likely to sleep with you on the first date. But you are still the man and you do need to make things happen as quickly as possible. So push things to just+ as far as she will allow them, and then pull back. And keep building up the excitement and sexuality through 2 or 3 outings before pushing for sex.
Any Other Generation Asian Girls in the West
What if you have an interest in an Asian girl who is second or third generation? Treat her like you would any other Western girl. I’ve seen some Western guys treat 2nd/3rd generation Asian-American or European Asian girls like the girls are actually from Asia. And this move is a surprisingly poor one based on a misguided assumption that just because they have Asian blood in them they will behave a certain way.
Any Asian girl who has been exposed to generations of Western culture will behave like any other Western girl. So act accordingly: follow the advice on this site and realize that just because she is Asian doesn’t mean she’s special. If you can’t find the traditional girl you’re looking for, the key is to get back onto your path and keep searching.
Why Are More Westerners Looking for Asian Girls?
There’s definitely a move in the West toward making Asian girls the true prize in this part of the world.
Why is this so, considering that these girls were probably on the bottom of the totem pole just 10 to 15 ago?
Simple: Asian girls tend to be skinny (i.e., healthy), nurturing, and traditionally feminine. And these qualities are quickly falling by the wayside as we usher in an age of more aggressive, individualistic, and overweight women.
So Asian women are simply maintaining the standard the Western men used to expect from Western women.
And now they’re steadily climbing their way to the top of the pack.
Asian Girls Are Tight: Fact or Fiction?
For guys who have never hooked up with an Asian girl before, they like to speculate on what they’re like physically. It is a generally held belief that most Asian girls are tight, which can make sex a slightly difficult (or at least more challenging) prospect for certain men.
So what’s the deal with this belief? Is it true or not? In my experience, this is true in most cases. Asian girls tend to be tighter, which can make sex uncomfortable for her if you’re more well-endowed. Or if it’s not uncomfortable, it can be harder to get things started to begin with (I remember an occasion where it took me 15 minutes to ease my way into an Asian girl’s body. I almost gave up. But it was worth it).
And it often is only made more challenging by the fact that most Asian girls are so very skinny. But don’t let this discourage you. Great sex can still be had.
So there you have it. In case you were wondering, this belief is based on what I and the men I’ve talked to have experienced.
Biggest Downside to Asian Girls: Craziness
They are called “crasians” for a reason. Asian girls take the birthday, wedding, and prize cake for being the single craziest subset of girls I have ever dealt with. If you’re on their good side, then it’ll be like living in paradise.
But if you hurt them emotionally, they will lay into you like you’re their fiercest enemy. If you try to leave them, they will keep tabs on you with the acumen of Sherlock Holmes. If you become emotionally distant, they will get emotionally desperate and cling harder than Mufasa to a cliff side.
To this day I have not met a single Asian girl who didn’t have at least a little bit of crazy in her. So if you do get involved with an Asian girl – particularly on a deep emotional level – don’t be surprised if any of the above happens to you. Consider yourself warned.
Having sex with – and possibly dating – an Asian girl can be one of the most enjoyable experiences you can have as a man, especially if you are a non-Asian man. Asian girls are sweet, they are caring, they are genuine, and they are cultured.
But as you now know, the kinds of Asian girls you will encounter – and how you interact/seduce them – will vary greatly on where you are. But now you have the tools to employ for each scenario.
And if you get into anything more serious with these ladies… know that it’s probably going to be a rollercoaster ride. But to pay homage to Dwayne “Lil Wayne” Carter: “What should you scream for? This is your theme park.”
Enjoy the ride.
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