If there is any place in the world that will play host to your desire for debauchery, thirst for intrigue, sense of adventure, and search for hospitality, it’s the country that lies in the heart of Southeast Asia. Forget about Vegas. What happens in Thailand, stays in Thailand.
I saw some pretty unspeakable things – both phenomenal and regrettable – while I was living there. But no matter what things were going down, the one truth that was always intact was the fact that there was no shortage of sex with Thai girls.
Having sex with Thai girls isn’t very hard in terms of the act itself, but there are some things you’ll need to know in order to make it happen and maintain a positive rapport afterward. So today I’m going to break all of these steps down.
The Land of Smiles
The capital city of Thailand is the (in)famous Bangkok. About 100 miles south of the capital is another city that you might not have heard of. It’s called Pattaya. The small, seaside city of Pattaya happens to be the sex tourism capital of the world. There, men fly in from all corners of the globe to pay off prostitutes to fulfill their fantasies, and even hire Thai girls to be their short-term girlfriends.
The point of this post is to make sure that you never become one of these men. There are plenty of ways to sleep with Thai girls without having to spend a dime or put forth any of your valuable resources besides your time. So in order to help you understand what kind of personality Thai girls have, let me explain the environment of Thailand. Thailand is often colloquially referred to as the Land of Smiles. And despite the political turmoil – and what the pundits and media may say about it – the nature of Thai people certainly remains the same.
Thai People are Some of the Friendliest on Earth
Thai people are truly some of the most welcoming people on Earth. If they have something to share with you, they will share it without thinking twice. If you need help, the average Thai person will go great lengths out of their way to be of assistance to you. Because of this fact, the environment of Thailand is very fun-loving and light-hearted (for the most part).
Thailand is Very Safe
The city of Bangkok is currently in a state of violence and unrest. And yet, the rest of Thailand is carrying on business as usual. People are still going to the beach, drinking, rock climbing, and amusing themselves with the incredible exchange rate. The level of violent crime there is virtually non-existent. Honestly, the level of any kind of crime is fairly non-existent. The worst that you’ll see is a drunk fight or someone swindling you out of an extra $20…tough luck.
I lost my $1500 ultrabook on two different occasions in Thailand. One time, no one touched it for several hours. The other time, someone returned it to the owner of the restaurant where I left it. I left my $1000 DSLR in the middle of a train station as I was rushing off to catch a bus. I came back later in the day, and someone had returned it to the police. The police then threw a ceremony for themselves and me in the middle of the train station to celebrate the return of my camera. Truly a unique experience!
So now that I’ve outlined the kind of environment you’ll encounter in Thailand…let’s get to the Thai girls.
What Are Thai Girls Like?
A while back I did a piece on Filipina women. These two countries are not far from one another, and their women do have a lot of similarities. Though, I’d say that Filipinas are bit more spirited than Thai girls, and generally more attractive as well. But comparisons aside, let’s look at what Thai girls are like:
Thin. You’d be hard pressed to find an overweight girl in Thailand. It does happen, but it is pretty rare. Thai girls tend to be pretty stick thin and they are proud of that fact. This is a quality that is highly valued in Southeast Asia. As such, their chests and backsides remain modest at best. So if you’re looking for a girl with a little more curve, you probably want to look elsewhere (Why not try Brazil?).
Varying Complexion. Not unlike other parts of Southeast Asia, Thai girls come in many shades. You can find a girl who is as brown as an Indian girl and you can find a girl who is as light as a run-of-the-mill American white girl. Though, interestingly enough, being light-skinned is valued extremely highly in Asia. Even though most Thai people you’ll encounter have fairly brown skin, all of the advertisements and TV/music stars that you will see will be as fair as Snow White. You may even hear people talking about bleaching their skin.
Somewhat Attractive. I’d honestly say that Thai girls are probably on the lower end of both the Asian and the global female attractiveness scale. They’re not necessarily ugly by any means, but you’ll rarely find a girl who you’d describe as “really cute” and will almost never encounter a girl who you’d call “stunning”. In fact, as disturbing as it may sound, you’ll often find that a lot of Thai men are much better looking than their female counterparts. Perhaps this is the reason why there is such a high prevalence of ladyboys.
Very Nurturing. Thai girls are very traditionally feminine. I think that what they lack in looks they certainly make up for in personality. I had more girls than I can count offer to make me food, buy me a trinket, give me a massage, etc. Thai girls really want to take care of people they like and people who are nice to them.
Kind. These girls truly have kind hearts. They always act with great intentions, and they never have an underlying agenda or look to play games with you.
Curious. Thai women love learning about the world from new perspectives. They love hearing stories about your home country, or travels you’ve been on, or failures that you’ve experienced. Their energy and vigor will make you feel like the most interesting man in the world.
Submissive in Bed. For guys who like girls who are aggressive or take control in bed: you’ll probably be pretty disappointed with Thai girls. I can’t remember a single Thai girl I slept with who was active in bed. They let you take control and do whatever you want to them. This sounds really nice at first, but can definitely be a weird feeling after a while. But, who knows, maybe I just didn’t get enough reference points. But, I think I did.
Clingy. On the flipside of them being very nurturing is the fact that they can be quite clingy. However, I must emphasize that it’s not a defect in their personalities, but rather, the nature of Southeast Asian culture. Southeast Asian girls aren’t brought up to have a lot of casual sex, especially with foreigners. So when a girl of this region sleeps with you, she assumes that it’s the start of a budding relationship. In fact, she may even start making plans to move in with you or visit you in your country of origin.
Some men love this, and even travel to the region for this specific reason. Other men find it terrifying. That’s not to say that Thai girls never have casual sex, but if that is what you are going for, make sure that you make those expectations crystal clear and that you keep up the positive emotions after the deed.
How to Game Thai Girls
There are plenty of guys out there who hear that Thai women are “easy” or are “beneath them”, so they are very aggressive and pretty much try to bully their way into getting sex. Terrible idea.
The best way to attract a Thai girl is to separate yourself from all of the thirsty fools. Treat her like a human being. Smile. Laugh with her. Compliment her. These things will take you a long, long way with Thai girls. Furthermore, if you can separate yourself in other ways, you’ll have droves of them approaching you. These are things like:
And any other way you can think of for separating yourself from the pack. I have to say that this is the single most important tip for sleeping with droves of Thai girls. If you can make yourself appear to be more than just the average dim tourist, these girls will come to you like moths to the flames. Or…moths to the bedroom.
I was in one of the northern tourist villages of Thailand called Pai. I was at this dance bar and fire pit lounge called Ting Tong (which means “crazy” in Thai – definitely go there is you have a chance). I remember there were three Thai girls there, and I started chatting with the three of them and really vibing with one. She was definitely cuter than the average Thai girl. She had spent some time in America without picking up any of the bad habits, so she and I were getting along very well.
My friend who had given me a moped ride to the bar said that he was heading home. It was a pretty far walk, and I was unsure of just how interested this girl was, so I tried to test the waters a little bit, despite the fact that she said bye to me and assumed I was leaving with him. I pulled her aside to a quieter area, and the following conversation ensued:
Me: Look, it’s been really nice meeting you. And I’d love to keep the night going.
Her: Oh yeah? But isn’t your friend leaving? How are you going to get home?
Me: Well, I’ve honestly been having a great time talking to you. And I wouldn’t mind spending some more time together…if you’d be up for it [wink].
Her: So, you’re saying you like me?
Me: Hah. I’m still deciding. But you’re definitely winning me over!
Her: So, do you like me or not? If not, you can just go home and sleep.
Me: Uh…yeah. Haha. I like you. And I’d like to keep hanging out.
Her: Okay! You can just say that. Let’s keep hanging out!
Me: ….Alright then!
This was about midnight. And after about a seven hour adventure, we ended up having sex. But admittedly, it was pretty forgettable because we were both exhausted and it was very cold that night, as we slept in a paper-thin bamboo hut right by the river.
But the key takeaway from this experience and others like it that really flabbergasted me was: you can and have to be very direct. I tried to use the American style approach on Thai girls and it really didn’t work very well in 90% of the cases. Thai girls are very forward, and will not be shy about saying they like you. And if they are shy, then they will have one of their friends come up and tell you that they like you.
There’s no need for American style negging or aloofness here. Basically, do the opposite of everything you would do in the West. Be cordial, be nice, build her up as much as possible, and be very direct with your intentions and emotions.
Do NOT Chase
If you’re standing out and being direct with her, she will either come with you fully or she won’t. I almost never saw a hard sell or aggressive pull work on a Thai girl. They are taught to make their intentions overt, so if they like you, they will be very clear about that fact. If they don’t, they will try to avoid you. Chasing in this situation only hurts you. And hard pulls are generally moot, so keep that fact in mind.
Being masculine is a case of doing the opposite of what you’re taught in the West. Obviously if you’re learning how to be a sexy man, being masculine is a quality that you will constantly cultivate and develop. And this quality will serve you very well with Thai girls. In America, oftentimes, when you have mediocre abilities, you’ll find that if a girl likes you enough she will sometimes take on the burden of the interaction and do her best to move things forward for you.
There is nothing of the sort in Thailand. You have to lead 100% of the time, all the time. It’s the masculine-feminine dynamic in one of its purest forms. So, take the reins and know that you have to be in charge of the interactions. And if you get into a relationship with a Thai girl, you have to be the one who steers the direction of the relationship. Basically, with Thai girls, you have to be a man.
Some Closing Notes on Thailand
What Are the Can’t-Miss Cities in Thailand?
Thailand is a traveler’s paradise without question. It’s really a place designed for tourists in nearly every way. But do bear in mind: it’s still a third-world country. So even though some parts of the country may be urbanized and a bit more modern, you still do have to go to the right places if you want to have an unforgettable experience.
So here are the cities you should check out if you want to explore nature, party like you’ll die tomorrow, and have sex with Thai girls.
Chiang Mai. Known as the “Rose of the North”. It’s the northern capital of Thailand. Not as sprawling as Bangkok, but definitely fairly modern. It has great night spots, a fantastic market, and all of those tiger sanctuaries that you see in the pictures of people trying to impress their friends.
Pai. A tiny village on the northern loop from Chiang Mai. It’s very Rasta, very chill, and very tourist oriented, without being as kitschy or over-the-top as Bangkok. Definitely a good place to meet foreigners and Thai locals alike (the walking street is fantastic), and there are great places to drink and even groove a bit.
Keep in mind that, despite the fact that Thailand is in the tropics, it’s COLD in the north if you’re there during the winter months. The north of Thailand is far enough north that there is an absolutely drastic temperature change when you head up there. So definitely keep that in mind if you’re travelling during the winter months. Many people – including myself – have learned that lesson the hard way.
Bangkok. Bangkok is a place you just need to experience. Go to Khaosan Road. It’s a near 24/7 indoor/outdoor party street and district in Bangkok. Don’t only go to Khaosan. But make sure to go to Khaosan.
Koh Phan-ngan. “Koh” means island. And Phan-ngan has the infamous half moon and full moon beach parties. These are some of the most unreal experiences you will ever have.
Koh Samui. A beautiful island for relaxation and partying.
Koh Phi Phi. Probably the most untouched Thai island. You’ll feel like you’ve walked into a nature magazine when you are there. Hell, even getting there on a rickety boat is phenomenal. The women will definitely take care of you as well.
Krabi. With its centralized southern location, Krabi is a great southern spot for meeting outgoing people and establishing a hub to explore the rest of the south.
Phuket. The capital for outdoor junkies. Rock climbers, surfers, and connoisseurs of sports and illicit materials alike all congregate in Phuket.
Pattaya. Go to Pattaya…for the experience.
Avoid the Ladyboys
What’s a ladyboy? An Asian transvestite. But really, the cultural significance of the ladyboy in Thailand extends much deeper than that. It’s truly considered a third gender over there. Some men like that. And if that’s you, then who am I to judge? But if that’s not you, and you’re not curious, then avoid the ladyboys. And believe me, as I’ve mentioned in all of my references to Southeast Asia – sometimes, it can be trickier than you think.
Thai Girls Love Non-Asian Men
Thai women will marry Thai men, but only if they have to. Thai women absolutely love non-Asian men. They love white men. And they love black men. Thai men (and most Asians) are very mild and can be somewhat effeminate if they are younger, so Thai girls definitely want the energy and boisterousness of foreign blood. Moreover, there is more economic potential with foreign men. And if we know anything about women, it’s that they’re always looking to secure resources. So use this to your advantage.
Don’t Forget About Foreign Girls
I know this is a post about Thai girls…but…don’t forget that there are scores of foreign women travelling through Thailand looking for an adventure and an unforgettable time too.
I’ve never heard of anyone having a bad time in Thailand. There are simply too many people to meet, too much havoc to wreak, and too many memories to be made. There’s a reason why everyone goes there. And there’s a reason why many of those people never come back.
So, this post is as much about Thai girls as it is about going and seeing the place they live for yourself. Because if you do, I assure you that in more ways than one, the Land of Smiles will send you off with a shit-eating grin of your own.