Recently we’ve been talking a lot about sexual freedom, but so far we have only discussed it philosophically – such as by asking questions like what sexual freedom truly is, or what limits to sexual freedom we should have. And we even discussed whether or not sexual freedom is a positive thing to have within a society.
Today however, we will discuss this topic in a more practical way: how you can use it to actually get women into bed! Nice!
Here is quick recap on what we have so far said about what sexual freedom is:
“To recap quickly the most crucial points from my previous post, we described sexual liberalism as a position that allows individuals to engage in, without any judgement from others, their desired sexual practices. Most Western countries for instance do not legally restrict all that many sexual practices between two consenting adults.”
There are two things we will cover in this post:
The second is how we can convey that we are that type of man to women
We also will discuss something that I can talk for many hours about, and that I plan on writing more about in the near future, which this post will serve as introduction to: “how to convey that you are a sexually free man”.
No time to waste, let’s get to the goodies!
How Does Being Sexually Free Make You Attractive?
We will now get straight to how all this can make you attractive. For those of you who have followed my posts so far, you might remember my post on the secret society, and if you do, you see well how being sexually liberated pretty much communicates to women that you are a secret society member.
It reduces the defence mechanisms women have against being sexual in public (It removes their anti-slut defence)
It shows you have female understanding (attractive)
It is an element of sexual prizing
It Reduces Her Defence Mechanism
For those of you who have been here for a while, you know that women love sex but hold themselves back in order to protect themselves from getting socially sanctioned (such as being labelled as a slut) as a result of being sexually active.
Most men judge women for being sexual – often in fear, the fear of not being in control. This is often a result of a lack of attractiveness. Men who fear women or female sexuality are not attractive.
First of all, an attractive male is confident and does not fear women’s sexuality. Secondly, how can a man truly satisfy a woman sexually if he fears her? How can he please her if he judges her for being a sexual being?
Let us agree that a man that does not fear female sexuality and who loves it and shows deep signs of appreciation for it will always be more attractive in women’s eyes.
By communicating that you are sexually free, not only do you communicate that you don’t fear a girl’s sexuality, as you have no reasons to judge her (or “slut shame” her) for being a sexual being, which is attractive in itself, but you will also communicate to her that you will not judge her for being sexual.
The second point is really important. When women are dating or simply looking out for sex partners, caring about how men they find attractive perceive them, they do not want to give away a negative image of themselves. Now, if you communicate to her that you don’t judge her for being a sexual beast, she can be herself and open up to you. She does not fear receiving any social consequences from hanging out with you, making out with you, or even having sex with you.
As a result, women will open up sexually with you. This can lead to some very interesting encounters. Chances are that she won’t resist your moves anymore because she had nothing to fear, as you won’t judge her for being a naughty girl!
Showing Female Understanding
Women always say they want a man that can understand them. “Show her that you understand her” is a classic dating tip, but contrary to most of them, it is actually good advice and it works. Now the problem is that most men do not understand women. One element of understand women is to understand them sexually, so the most crucial thing is to understand that women love sex.
By being sexually free and open you communicate that you are aware of the fact that women love sex. If not directly, you do so indirectly. This is of course attractive. Men who understand women are men who have a lot of experience with women, and hence have most likely been getting laid a lot. This will pre-select you and work as social proof.
What are preselection and social proof? Check out these posts on the topics: “How Preselection Works to Get You Girls” and “How to Use Social Proof to Get Girls”. The quick explanation of these are in seduction is as followed: women find men who have other women chasing them attractive – they start thinking there must be something special about that guy. So be “that guy”.
Now back to “showing understanding”. You will also show understanding by not judging women for being sexual creatures. This communicates that you understand women and their social situation when it comes to sexuality. This can result in women feeling safe with you because they know that you are aware of the fact that them having casual sex can be risky business.
But it doesn’t end there. Not only will all this make you more attractive, but it will also create comfort and help you create rapport with women, which can be useful in the sense that it will make your whole attraction game go smoother.
The Element of Sexual Prizing
In one of my previous posts, I covered the topic of sexual prizing. Sexual prizing is an attraction switch based on women finding you attractive as a result of your perceived ability to please them sexually. If you are a good lover, you are attractive.
By being sexually open, you often indirectly communicate that you are sexually active and sometimes even communicate that you are an exciting sexual freak who is fun to play around with sexually. Those are things that turn women on. But it also communicates that you will be willing to have an open dialogue around sex, which is key when it comes to having a good sexual relationship. It also communicates that you are willing to try out new stuff in bed, which women also find exciting.
In other words, there is an element of sexual prizing that should also be taken into consideration.
How to Convey That You Are a Sexually Free Guy
We will now cover how you can communicate to women that you are a sexually liberated dude in order to get the desired result. The first part of this article was mostly “inner game” stuff, such as mindsets and beliefs. Now we will cover some “outer game”, i.e., practical techniques.
Being “That Guy”
Obviously, in order to communicate sexual freedom properly it really helps to become “that guy” first. If you are not “that guy”, your attempt at communicating will be incongruent with who you truly are and it will all be far from genuine.
When you become “that guy”, you will, without noticing it, communicate this part of your personality. This will be done either directly (verbal communication – such as direct statements) or indirectly (body language, attitude, and indirect verbal communication). It will all happen subconsciously.
But I am sure you are still looking for techniques you can apply right away, and here they are!
Talk About Sexual Openness
Instead of asking about what she works with, ask her what she thinks of sexual openness and do your best to convince her that sexual freedom is awesome. She might act like she disagrees with you, as her reputation is still at stake, but never mind that, you will still communicate who you are and she will take it into consideration, and it might even give you the desired result. But believe it or not… women will often totally agree with you and eat your every word like candy.
I can’t tell you how well this has worked for me in the past!
Give her arguments for why you think a sexually free society is desirable. Tell her why you support such ideals. Ask her about her opinion and discuss! You can use my posts as an inspiration for the arguments. But remember: listen to what she says as well. You are a sexually liberated man, right? That means you respect her views.
Either way, I want to show an example from an old “lay report” of mine. I can repost the lay report if that is desired. Feel free to steal this routine of mine.
Alek: Let me ask you something…
Hedda: Yes what?
Alek: Consider that you are in a room, which would remind us of a different world. In this room, the rules are different. In fact, in this one room, everybody is sexually liberated – which means that nobody will judge you for being your true sexual self – you feel that you can just let go and open yourself up… releasing yourself; your inner sexuality. As you release yourself, you feel that everybody else respects you for your honesty; for the sexual energy you are liberating…. How would you feel about it?
Hedda: Good of course!
Alek: Would you feel feminine?
Hedda: Yes, I would.
Alek: In this situation, would you behave in a sexually open manner?
Hedda: Yes of course! But the problem is that this world isn’t a reality.
Let’s move on to the other topic you can discuss!
Showing Appreciation For Female Sexuality
By showing appreciation for female sexuality you will communicate that you don’t fear it and hence will not judge her for being a sexual creature. This will make her feel safer around you, especially when it comes to showing her true sexual sides.
Tell her how you find sexually liberated women attractive; how you like women for who they truly are. You can also (and this one is killer) tell her how much you HATE the fact that women get judged for being sexual creatures. The last one tends to be a good way to start a conversation with women, because most women agree with me that such a thing is unfair.
Let me get into some examples before I recap it all.
Alek: I really like feminine women. I think this makes a girl so hot. But there is another aspect of femininity that I find so sexy that is highly underrated, and that most men look away from.
Ingrid: And what is that?
Alek: The sexual aspect – a true woman is truly sexual. The submissive women who just want to get fucked really hard, who want to feel so attractive that men are losing control over them.
Ingrid: Yeah most men fail to see that side. Usually they believe all we want is love and affection, which we do like. But we also want more.
Alek: And that is exactly why men fail to see this side of women. That is because women hide this side because they get judged so much for it!
Ingrid: So true!
Alek: And… that is why, as a result of being judged, they act non-sexual in public. No women want to be judged for being sexual. It then becomes a vicious circle, as men perceive women as non-sexual beings.
Ingrid: I agree… but it seems to me like most guys perceive women who are open and being too sexual as sluts and girl not worth respecting.
And here is another one! (This one is from an old threesome lay report of mine)
Alek: I know girls are afraid of being called a slut! Fact is... do you know why a man calls a woman a slut?
Birgitte: No. Tell me!
Alek: Well, it is because men become jealous, as the girls they judge are most likely girls they never had sex with... so when their friend sleeps with a girl, they will often label his catch as loose in order to protect their own ego! So as you can see, the slut label is all based on bullshit reason!
Birgitte: Good point! I will remember this one!
In the first section of this post we covered why being a sexually liberated man is attractive. First of all, and most importantly, it reduces women’s defence systems (anti-slut defence – ASD) against being labelled sluts. This will make women more comfortable and sexually liberated around you. That’s something you want, right?
It will also communicate that you have some understanding of females. That is also attractive.
Finally, there is also an element of sexual prizing. By being sexually liberated you indirectly communicate that you are a sexual guy, hence, you might risk making her horny.
In the other sections, I have covered a few tools you can use to convey that you are a sexually liberated guy. But none of these tools will truly work out for you unless you become “that guy” first.
Nevertheless, we have pointed out that it helps to talk about sexual openness as a conversational topic. Discuss it… this topic will get you much further than talking about pop culture – trust me on this one.
Another way to communicate that you are a sexually open guy is to show appreciation for female sexuality. This way you communicate two things: first of all that you won’t judge her for being a sexual being, but also that you enjoy it. This will make her feel safer when it comes to escalating sexually with you.
That’s all for today. I hope you enjoyed the post. Remember, this is simply an introduction (we’ve got to start somewhere right!) and I can write more about how to convey that you are a sexually liberated freak again in the future if the interest is high enough. You the reader decides. It’s as simple as that.