While
growing up, women always meant one thing to me: girlfriend material. Women were
always potential lovers; never once did it slip into my mind that I
could be friends with them.
It wasn’t until I started racking up lovers that I felt the need to
slot women into particular roles in my life. I couldn’t (and didn’t)
want to sleep with every woman that came into my life, because some
women ended up becoming a bigger headache than they were worth as
lovers.
However, I began to realize the importance and utility that a mutual
friendship could produce. High status women are excellent for social
fulfillment, preselection, and they can help
you get a closer look at how women act on a daily basis.
Unfortunately, I ran into quite the conundrum. I would harmlessly
flirt with women, only to find myself sleeping with them and having our
friendships break down. Women would seek sex from me, and I would give
it to them, thinking we could still be friends afterwards.
After all, it was just sex.
As I quickly began to realize, I was ruining potential friendships
and potential lovers by flipping in between definite roles. The
relationships were in some weird middle of the road status, and things
would become awkward in a hurry when neither of us knew how to proceed.
What was the underlying problem for me?
I wasn’t defining our relationships
roles from the outset. The perpetual chaos that ensues in this
situation works against producing stable relationships and causes them
to break down. I lost plenty of women because of my indecisiveness, and
you could too if you don’t know where each woman belongs in your life.