In Part 1 of the harem series, we talk about Queen Theory: how
women position themselves as long-term partners and jockey for roles
Having created a constantly evolving harem for the past three years
running multi-dating relationships, as well as having dated some of
these women for 3+ YEARS in this arrangement, it’s time to share with
you a series of articles that covers my experience and lessons learned.
So if you’ve been considering such relationships, or you’ve been
experimenting with them but have run into issues, this series is for
you. We’ll cover all the facets of dating several women at a time
(i.e., any relationship non-monogamous in nature), and we’ll go over
what it takes to do so successfully and with minimal drama.
To begin, we will cover the first of three biggest concerns in a
woman’s dating life. Those concerns are:
Catching and keeping the top man
Women use the social and sexual
marketplaces to advance their own agenda. Thus all these factors
The way to handle the first concern is to understand all the
implications of Queen Theory, which is the focus of this article.
A few months ago, I wound up in a threesome with one of my multiple
long-term relationship (mLTR) girlfriends and her girl friend. My
girlfriend had an
event one Sunday, to which she invited me and two of her girl friends.
I met her there and proceeded to grab drinks. Over the course of the
event, one of her girl friends took a liking to me, and I took a liking
I cleared my intention with my girlfriend before giving both girls a
home. But instead of them going home, we ended up at my place. Long
story short, one thing led to another and we started to get into a
Everything was going perfectly. I was watching and playing with two
sexy women while they played with each other. Eventually, after having
our fun, we all fell asleep together – me in between these two sexy
In the morning around 5:00am, I started to feel horny, and my
motioned me to play with her while the friend slept. I tried my best
but just couldn’t get hard. In that moment, I actually desired the
other girl, not my girlfriend. Needless to say, I stopped
trying after failing for a little while, then went back to sleep.
An hour or so later, I started escalating on the friend, and my
went to the bathroom. I then started shagging the friend, but when my
girlfriend got back, she was very annoyed. She said “ahem,” indicating
to stop. Once the friend left a little later, my girlfriend and I
sex; instead, we spent the next hour going over what happened and my
feelings for her and the friend. I was forced to handle some drama and
her concerns that I didn’t value my girlfriend sexually like I did the
While I submitted to her frame (honestly, I probably shouldn’t have;
I gave her too much power there), I learned how important it is to
understand Queen Theory.
Queen Theory in a nutshell: