The continuing and ongoing encounters and involvement you maintain with a woman once you've slept together and become intimate -- whether weeks or months or years -- or more.

How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 5: Taboo as Aphrodisiac

In part 5, we explore what makes taboo such a mighty aphrodisiac. Also: what are the limits – what should you simply just not do in bed?
Female Mind

Now that we have thoroughly explored the Temple of Debauchery, we can clearly understand some of the why’s and how’s of these darkly beautiful acts.

But as a reminder, here are the first four articles of the series:

  1. How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 1: All Women are Freaks
  2. How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 2: Beginners Guide
  3. How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 3: A Little More Kinky
  4. How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 4: Shagging Like a Pornstar

At the end of the most recent article, I suggested that while sexual creativity is infinite, there are some limits to what you should do with women. But first, some of you might be asking a very reasonable question:

“Will every girl do ‘X’?”


If the man (or men) is sexy enough and if non-judgment and discretion are assured, then, yes, girls will do just about everything.


How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 4: Shagging Like a Pornstar

The rabbit hole of depraved, debaucherous sex goes deeper: yet more things to do that make men shrink in horror, and women squeal with glee.
Relationship 101

Welcome back to the freaky deaky parade, my friends. Here’s the rundown:

  • In our first article, we discussed how all women are freaks, and why they therefore also love kinky men.

  • In the second article, we covered some introductory techniques, like dirty talk and spanking.

  • And in the third article, we stepped up our game a bit with some bondage, choking, and other more risqué techniques.

Now? Well, I’ve been quite graphic with this series, but this article will blow the rest away.


But before I get into the slimy details, let’s recap why you should do these things with women, even if you’re not that kinky yourself.

Girls Chase Podcast Interviews Ep. 6: Blackdragon

Caleb Jones (Blackdragon) goes deep on open relationships: how to start them, how to run them, and how to keep them going.
Relationship 101

Open relationships can be great fun and very freeing – but sometimes they’re dicey to run. In this interview Caleb Jones (Blackdragon) discusses how these work, and the rules you have to follow.

Varoon interviews Caleb on the following subjects:

How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 3: A Little More Kinky

Biting, choking, covering her mouth, money shots – it’s all part of being a freak in bed. Part 3 covers these, and more.
Relationship 101

Welcome back,

In the first article of this series we learned that all women are dirty little freaks.

In the second article we covered some ways you can spice up your sex life.

Now, we’re going to get even kinkier.


How to Be a Freak in Bed, Pt. 2: Beginners Guide

Hair pulling, dirty talk, slapping and scratching – it’s all part of what beginners need to get used to doing to be freaky in bed.
Relationship 101

If you’re reading this, then you’re down to get weird with me.

Before we begin, let’s review what we know so far (see Part 1): all women are nasty little vixens deep down inside, even if they maintain a pure appearance (women are too complex for the binary thinking of the Madonna/Whore complex).

freak in bed

In this article, I’ll explain in excruciating detail how to get your lovers boasting about their sex with you to all of their friends.

It would only be fitting, then, if we start with precedent. And really, you want to...

Back Pocket Mentality, Pt. II: The Holding Pattern

The ‘holding pattern’: that place where a girl acts like she wants to be with you, but just “needs time”. It’s a terrible place to be – but you needn’t be in it.
Relationship 101

holding patternA year ago, I talked about women’s back pocket mentality: keeping a man in reserve, his appetite wetted for them, thirst for them unquenched.

It’s part survival instinct, part choice maximization... the best position for a woman is to have a flock of interested men waiting for their shots with her, for a variety of reasons (most women greatly fear becoming unwanted or undesired).

Today I want to introduce you to back pocket mentality’s close cousin, the ‘holding pattern’. This is a more serious version of the phenomenon, where a woman strongly implies sex or a relationship is on the table and coming very soon, without delivering.

This is used when a man is on her shortlist, but she wants to experiment with others first. Just because you’re on her short list doesn’t mean you’ll get her – and all the time you devote to her while she enjoys other men and “makes up her mind”, you’re killing her attraction and respect for you.

Why the ‘Bid for Connection’ is Crucial to Your Relationship

It’s easy to dismiss little questions like “How was last night?” But you ignore ‘bids for connection’ like these at your relationship’s peril.
Relationship 101

“Any good dreams last night?”

“How was your day today?”

“You’ll never believe what happened to me.”

bid for connection

There are normal little communication bits and pieces you’ll encounter in relationships. They seem pretty small and trivial, and superficially they are.

However, these little questions or statements – called ‘bids for connection’ by Professor Emeritus John M. Gottman, Ph.D. – have big impacts on relationship health.

That’s because any time you make a bid for connection, or a gal you’re with makes one toward you, it goes one of two ways:

  • You or she accept the bid (Gottman calls this ‘turn towards’)
  • Or you or she ignore the bid (Gottman calls this ‘turn away’)

How often these little bids are turned toward or away from makes a world of difference, it turns out.

Women Will Date the “Wrong Guy” If the “Right One” Isn’t Free

Sometimes, a woman picks a man who seems all wrong for her. It hurts more when it’s an ex – and you want her back. So… what should you do?
Female Mind

Recently had a discussion with one of our forum members about some odd behavior he was seeing from a former girlfriend who works in his office.

They’d had a friends with benefits relationship for about half a year, before she broke things off with him to enter a committed relationship with another man.

What confused him the most, however, was that this girl had seemed to like him more, yet she still went off to date the wrong guy anyway. Her new guy has some pretty big downsides, too: he’s jealous and controlling. He’s forbid his girlfriend from having any contact with her ex from our forum, and monitors her phone calls and texting.

date the wrong guy

What this forum member asked me was, “Why would she date this guy when she already had me?”

The answer, of course, was that he wasn’t available for the kind of relationship this girl needed – so even if he would’ve been her first choice for that role, he simply wasn’t an option she could choose from on the shelf.

4 Steps to Give Women Orgasmic Anal Sex

It might seem like she makes it impossible to get anal sex. Or you can’t satisfy her when you get it. However, good anal is down to position and prep.
Relationship 101

anal sexI wasn’t always a fan of anal sex.

Used to be that when girls asked me for it, my erection would disappear and I’d lose all interest in sex of any sort after that. I mean, gross. And in any event, her pussy’s right there; why would I want to stick it in her butt?

As I got older, I became less of a stick in the mud and decided to give anal more of a chance. Eventually, I discovered that, done right, women absolutely loved it, and soon I enjoyed it a fair bit too.

The fear for her, that comes with accepting you into the wrong hole... the thrill she feels at doing something taboo... and the pure pleasure that comes with an opening packed to the brim with nerve endings swallowing up your manhood into it, its sanctity at the mercy of it... all these things contribute to the emotional and physical excitement of it for her.

And, if you’re executing anal sex technically correct, with an aim towards supplying anal orgasms, your member will be hitting her vagina from the other side, a truly intense and orgasmic experience.

As a man, there’s the sense that you’re dominating this woman in a way you’re not ‘supposed’ to do, and the sense that she is yielding her body to you in a way she hasn’t to too many (or perhaps any) other men. These things enhance the experience for her as well.

However, this article isn’t here to discuss the merits of anal sex (though I will cover that briefly towards the end) – I’m not here to ‘convert’ anybody.

If you’re reading this, I assume you’d like to know how to do it well, and not that you are recoiling at how gross it is (like I, well, used to).

So... let’s talk about giving her thunderous orgasms, through her back door.

DISCLAIMER: I did really try to find some non-NC17 images for communicating the ‘position’ part to you below, but found it next to impossible to locate any images showing the position I wanted to show at all, let alone any PG-13 ones. So, there are a couple of NSFW images near the end of this post – you have been forewarned. Don’t read at the cubicle, or on the bench in the park by the local kindergarten.

Girls Chase Podcast Interviews Ep. 4: Joseph W. South

In today’s podcast, Joseph W. South discusses how he got his start, plus why any power over a woman is fleeting, what “sensitive man” really means, and more.
Female Mind

Today we’re serving up our fourth fantastic podcast interview, this time with Varoon Raja interviewing Girls Chase author Joseph W. South.

In today’s podcast, Joseph and Varoon discuss:


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