Why Do Women Test? To Find Dominant Males


If you’re like most men, I’ll bet you’ve grown up hearkening all the mainstream dating advice that’s thrown around, such as opening doors for women, pulling out their chairs when they sit down, and bringing them flowers. However, if you’ve been reading the content on this website for even a short amount of time, you know that all of that white knighting and chivalry just doesn’t do much in terms of creating attraction.

Society, and mostly in Western culture, over the years has hammered it into women’s skulls that they must play hard-to-get, all the while conditioning men to play along and win these women over with the most grandiose of gestures.

When in reality, subconsciously even, what she really wants you to do is nothing.

why women test

Bruce Lee, the famous martial artist and action film actor, once said: “The less effort, the faster and more powerful you will be.”

That quote fits perfectly for what I’m about to show you today. The tests women present to you should be met with the most minimal amount of effort and energy needed to pass them. It’s just what powerful, dominant males do; they get more done whilst putting in less work.


Effort, Dominance, and Prancer

As if you needed another reason to train yourself to pass women’s screens and be a masterful, dominant man who gets what he wants without a lot of trial and struggle, let’s take a quick look at a scientific study that was performed at Kyoto University in Japan in 1993 regarding reproductive success in male reindeer.

The abstract is as follows:

Relationships between dominance rank, copulatory behavior and reproductive success within a single mating season were examined in 13 male reindeer, Rangifer tarandus, in a semi-free-ranging population. A linear dominance hierarchy existed only among the top six ranking males. The top-ranking male monopolized access to the oestrous females. Frequency of copulation and estimates of reproductive success increased significantly with increasing dominance rank. Reproductive success estimated from the frequency of copulation did not differ from that predicted by a priority of access model but it was less than expected for the top three ranking males and the other males were more successful than expected. Mate choice by females and pair interference by males would have skewed reproductive success in favor of higher ranking males. On the other hand, chasing activity and vocal display indicated that male mating efforts were costly. With these behavioral costs and reduced forage intake, high-ranking males eventually became exhausted. The ratio of actual to expected reproductive success of the top-ranking male decreased from 0-98 (11-17 October) to 0-57 (18-24 October). Consequently, mating opportunities for the low-ranking males increased during the second half of the mating season.

I see some very interesting things there. Mainly,

  1. The dominance hierarchy only consisted of the six top ranking males. In other words, the seven other lower ranking males were not even viewed as competition for mates.

  2. The top ranking male monopolized the access to the female reindeer.

  3. The more effort that the male reindeer made in their mating efforts, the less successful they became over time due to fatigue.

In addition to placing yourself into the upper tier of the dominance hierarchy by passing women’s tests, there’s another great reason for you to focus on expending less effort in the process of passing those tests: you’ll have more mental (and probably physical too) energy for her when it’s time to really get down to business… if you know what I mean.


Are You Man Enough For Her?

why women testEven if it is not a conscious thought, this is the question running through her mind:

“Is he man enough for me?”

A woman presents the men who show interest in her with a myriad of tests to screen for the best man she can get. One who can give her the best genes to pass on to her children, and one who is an able protector and provider. She wants to know where exactly you stand in the dominance hierarchy.

There are many reasons why these roles are defined this way. It might seem a bit archaic, now that in this day and age women also seem to like to be aggressive and dominant to some extent also. You know all the chick-flicks that portray the warm but strong, protective man and the woman as delicate and submissive? You seldom really see that in real life anymore like you would 50 or 60 years ago. With the current times and society being the way it is, being dominant and powerful is even more imperative if you want to be attractive to women.

Another thing to be pointed out is that a stable relationship requires one partner to be submissive and the other to be aggressive. If you get two aggressive personalities together, they’ll just argue and fight one another until they cannot cohabitate or even spend time together anymore. On the other hand, when you get two submissive figures together, neither one of them is comfortable taking the lead in most activities or endeavors in life and the relationship eventually stalls and becomes dull.

The important part of all that is that while many women these days have highly intrusive personalities, they still want a dominant man. She might be aggressive herself, so what she needs is a man who is more aggressive than she is.

Additionally, when interacting with women, you must display status and demonstrate a high level of value in order to be the man she’s been searching for. Women really do dig male power, and power is a catch-all that encompasses a wide-reaching variety of traits and skills that can be used to attract women.

Examples of powerful men could include:

  • Large men who can beat other men in a fight
  • Artists and musicians that wow people and win accolades
  • Preachers and speakers that captivate entire audiences
  • High-ranking businessmen who delegate tasks to many other men

…and the list goes on.

The dominance hierarchy has the exact same makeup as the bureaucratic organizational structures that you see at work. There’s one or a couple of really powerful people at the top, and then a few guys in upper-management and a few more in middle-management, and then a litter of people who do most of the work at the very bottom. Now, how much do each of these groups of people get paid?

Makes it all seem so simple and overt, doesn’t it?

However, you don’t need to be president of a company or a rock star to be an attractive, dominant man. Any man who is mentally fit with the social savvy to make people like him and win over friends, and influence others to do things, may be considered powerful.

In fact, a man can be a wealthy CEO and still be completely clueless when it comes to women. So you see there is a bit of a gap there. Your status alone is not good enough; you’ll need to couple that with other dominant traits such as social calibration and (most importantly) being able to pass women’s screens with little to no effort.

So now that we understand why women are constantly throwing hurdles at us, let’s take a look at how to jump over those hurdles and be an aggressive, leading man that women fawn over.


Passing Her Tests

So how do you get around these roadblocks women throw at you?

The answer is that there are a handful of ways to tackle these, and you’ll want to know when to use which approach to handling women’s tests.

You may have your fundamentals and attitude down tight, and know all the moves… but how do you handle the twists and turns? It’s not what the obstacle is, it’s how you get around it that matters.

What do you do when a woman asks you how many women you’ve been with, tells you to buy her a drink, or says you have a weird shirt on? Do you get nervous and freak out, or maybe shrink your shoulders and bow your head?

That’s what I used to do. I also used to drink breast milk and crap into a diaper. Doesn’t mean I still have to.

Women just want to see if that stone cold, confident look you’re wearing is real or not. They will use an endless array of tests and screens to see if they can knock that face right off your head. And, the more attractive the woman, the better she probably is at delivering tests. She’s had men approaching her and trying to seduce her since grade school.

Don’t get thrown, and recognize the difficult and combative things that women might say or do as tests; and don’t let these break your stride or shatter your confidence.

Although there are numerous ways to deal with women’s tests, there’re basically two attitudes that you will want to have when you are presented with a challenge. You want to approach tests with either a:

  • Bored or disinterested demeanor, or;
  • A playfully sarcastic tone.

why women test Sometimes a woman’s challenge may come in the form as a dig or an insult. This is when you want to give off a bored or disinterested feel to her. For example, if she gives you an order, such as to buy her a drink or go fetch her coat from the other side of the room, you usually, with very few exceptions, will not want to play along with this type of behavior. Basically, you’re just letting her know that she can be an annoying brat all she wants. Just not around you.

The playful, sarcastic tone is pretty much used as a teasing or flirting mechanism in addition to showing her your worth as a man. It’s the one I like to use the most, because not only do I qualify myself as a dominant male, but it’s also fun for the both of us.

Let’s look at the playful way to handle tests first, since that’s what you’ll be doing the most. Here are the tools at your disposal to use this one:

  • Flip it on her: Accuse her of flirting with you or feeling you out for a relationship. She will probably laugh, and be taken off guard by your accusation, which is also good because then she will probably cease with the tests for now, allowing the two of you to make more progress toward the bedroom.

  • Misinterpret: Similar to the above tactic, this one comes off really smooth when done correctly. Intentionally misinterpret her actions as something positive and coy in trying to lure you in. As one example, if a woman deflects an initial attempt to get her contact information, you might say (again, playful sarcasm here): “Oh, okay. No time for games, huh? So you just want to grab our stuff and go somewhere more quiet/private then?” That’s sure to get a laugh and maybe even a little push in the right direction.

  • Play along: A good way to catch her napping while keeping things light is to simply make the comment fun by playing along and adding a little humor to it. Instead of intentionally misinterpreting her comment or changing the subject, you might say “I have a better question!” and then give her a little taste of her own medicine, for example: “How many boys have YOU seduced while working here in this shop?” This acknowledges her reluctance to engage you and will more than likely transform any confrontation into a playful conversation that can go anywhere.

Now let’s cover a couple of good ways to handle tests when a woman is being somewhat rude or insulting. But before we do, I just want to add the disclaimer that I will usually not go to the bored and disinterested look until she’s persisted with commands or orders or other ridiculous things. With that said, when she does cross the line:

  • Redirect: Don’t take offense to her statement or actions, because it’s just a game to her. If she starts ordering you around, just throw on a stiff look and move on to something else. She’ll get the hint.

  • Ignore: Just continue with whatever the plan was before she started spouting off, and pretend she didn’t even say it. She’ll then know that you’re not phased or scared away by things like this, and furthermore that you don’t permit the behavior and won’t deal with it.

When you approach tests with confidence and a little humor and playfulness, you’ll instantly disarm difficult women... and they will love you for it. I know how easy it is to just react and feel a sense of frustration or even deflation set in when a woman starts testing you. You just have to realize that’s what it is: a test. It’s not necessarily her telling you she isn’t interested. Most of the time she just wants to see if you’ll plow through it.

Finally, when you respond to tests, you need to do it as effortlessly as possible. That is the way to really pass with flying colors. Limit your response to a smirk and a short, jagged comment, and then let her drive the interaction back somewhere more positive.

That’s how powerful, dominant men handle tests. They’re quick on their feet and don’t put too much thought or work into them. It’s there one second, and gone the next. My hope is that you will take away from this the tools you need to really ramp up attraction by passing women’s screens, while avoiding the gut-check reactions and surprised looks that will make a girl disappear as fast as possible the instant you get distracted.


Putting It All Together

At this point, it should be crystal clear how you can train yourself to move up the dominance hierarchy by passing women’s tests adroitly and demonstrating higher value.

After reading this, you now know that:

  • The more you move up in the perceived dominance hierarchy, the more attractive you are to women.

  • Women test and screen you because they want to know if you’re man enough for them.

  • You don’t need to be a movie star or a CEO to be an attractive, dominant male.

  • You need to pass women’s screens and tests to show her your power and status.

  • Use either a bored or playful approach depending on the context of the test.

  • The more effortless you are in passing a woman’s tests, the better the result.

So, proven is the theory that one percent of us are leaders of men, and ninety-nine percent of us are merely followers of women.

You want to be as close to that one percent as you can possibly get, if not right square in it. And when you do get to that level, it’s all smooth sailing from there.

Enjoy,

J.J.

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Anonymous's picture

Status and Hierarchy


Great tips on how to deal with tests women give. Haven't tried the misinterpret or the flip it on her. I usually stick with the play along or ignore, but I'll have to see if those work any better.

Sometimes after a big insult, and it always seems like there's one big one, I like to grin, look them dead in the eyes, open up my body language, approach them smoothly, and playfully say "is that all you got?"

That gets them to swoon. It's funny how well it works.

I think that the theory you propose as to the reason why women test might need some further consideration.

"She wants to know where exactly you stand in the dominance hierarchy"

It's tricky when you are comparing the mating patterns of any other animal to humans. Mating systems vary greatly even among different species of primates, so when the human mating system is compared to the reindeer's mating system it's harder to make an accurate comparison. I won't deny that "having" a high-status man is desirable to women, I just think that it is different than being sexually attractive.

I think that Alek Rolstad's article

  • Social Order, Sexual Restriction, and the Secret Society
    • presents a very accurate reflection of our mating system. If you consider Chase's very adamant suggestion that you disqualify yourself as a boyfriend so that you can become her lover, you can see that announcing that you have no status whatsoever can actually help you immensely.

Personally I think that attractive males are hated among men in society, and so are less likely to have status among males. Case is point. About a year ago, I was seeing this girl an ex introduced me to, and one night my ex asked me over to help move some furniture, she had just had a male roommate move in, who was not attractive. He knew I was seeing another girl and I still hooked up with my ex later the next night. Of course he, now living there, knew it happened. The next day I was over and he was telling me about one of his frat bothers who didn't have to do a damn thing and women just wanted to have sex with him, and he looks like right at me and says, "I hate guys like that". I knew the comment was directed at me, but also at every other attractive guy out there.

Attractive men don't have to have a high status, and I think it's better that they participate in society as little as possible. I've even had male friends, that I've given generously to, come to despise me when they see how women swoon and lust over me for no reason apparent to them.

There's a term for this. Player Haters. ;)

I really think there is this confusion with men about the terms dominance and alpha. Please weigh in here and correct me if I'm wrong in any of this. I'd especially like to get Chase's insight on this, I know he must be a busy man though.

Consider the terms confident male, attractive male, dominant male, and alpha male. They all have different meanings. And I hardly think that being alpha necessitates attractiveness. All the way from natural alpha males, think older males, in positions of power directing and managing people, politicians, CEO's, and coaches; to the fake AMOG's using gorilla tactics, being loud, waving their arms, bossing people around, as if anyone listens to them, and just generally disrespecting people, using any little power they have to tool people around. I think women see through AMOG tactics, I see through them, so I know women must too. It just instantly reads pathetic and most of all insecure and feeling inferior.

A good question to ask: who do you think women would prefer to sleep with? The hot quarterback, who is beta, or the coach, who is alpha.

Honestly, I don't want to be alpha. That comes with a lot of responsibility and constant supervision. It's really a big chore. Personally, I'm in my mid 20's, and I like knowing that there are other natural alpha males in my life that care about my well-being and will tell me what to do if I'm unsure or don't know what to do. Having someone look out for me and sometimes make good decisions for me is a relief from me constantly having to look out for and make decisions for myself.

Being alpha is about having power in a group usually with men, but I think being dominant and having power with women is different. I think you can be dominant with women because you have so much power. You have so much power because you are so attractive to women. Your value is your attractiveness. I have noticed that when someone wants to give you something of value, a gift or maybe oral sex for example, it is usually preceded by a directive like "come here" or "unzip your pants". There is no please and you're the one saying thank you. Being dominant with women communicates to them that I am the powerful one because I am so attractive to women, I am in high demand out there. I have something of value, my attractiveness with women, that I'm giving to you, via genetics, and I know that most other men pale in comparison to me, so I have the power. Being confident with women implies the same thing, that I am very attractive with women. I think a woman is testing your actual attractiveness and success with women, because it's hard to fake the confidence that comes with success.

In your list of powerful men you did not include successful seducers, but I think these are the most powerful men of all, because at the end of the day being a human is about winning in the mating game, so having power with women is the only power the really matters.

I think the seducer is the like the Ace in a deck of cards. Usually existing outside of society and cultural norms he is considered as being lower than a deuce. But he can bed more women than a king, and unlike a king, he has no responsibility, and has no obligation to anyone, he is completely free, so although he is considered to be the lowest of the low, he is also the most powerful.

I think your tips were spot on, and it was a good article, but there's always a difference between practice and theory. Theory is a bit more theoretical. ;)

And of course results matter more than theory.

Mename's picture

seducer


im a seducer i think, but i dont speak to many women actually.

but i see what you mean in the power part of it as many has deeply respect of me even tho i stand still as a mouse in the corner.i am a very calm person but many have told me i have a special glimse in the eyes!

Doctor's picture

Just Experienced a Test


So this article is just brilliantly timed for me!

I just had a girl provide me with her first test. I phoned her to see what her schedule was like for next week and she told me she would check and text me when she is free. 2 mins later she texts asking if Monday is any good. We agree on a time and date and then when I ask her if she is OK to meet at the station she stops texting back.

Pretty obvious test right?

I am 99% sure she is just testing to see if I get wound up because I am not sure she will be there or not. Anyway, after reading this article I decided to mostly ignore it and just assume she will. It is my intention to just text her shortly before the date to let her know I will be running 10 mins late so she knows I will be there. Pretty sure she will be back on board after that as I didn't throw the toys out of the pram so to speak!

Cheers for the advice J.J., certainly helped me handle this one!

-Doctor

PeterE's picture

It is so true that trying too


It is so true that trying too hard can come off wrong. A balance between opening the doors, just because that's the polite thing to do, while being

 
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Pablo's picture

Tip


You can also overexaggerate, for example:
Girl: You're getting a little fat.
You: Yeah I know right, I'm fat as Fuck. Hahaha. (say it confidently and jokingly, not in a depressive "I know I'm fat as fuck..- tone) you really shouldn't take girls seriously when they're giving you these shit tests. Think of girls as silly little children, you wouldn't get upset if a 4 year old child criticized you right? (at least I hope so).

Great article by the way, keep up the good work.

Anonymous's picture

Tests don't go well late night when you're on mushrooms


I had a girl over a week ago that I ran into after a concert. We had been out a couple times and she actually walked out on me on a date over a stupid argument but I managed to flip the situation so that when I did see her, she would be really friendly and interested.

Anyway I was pretty drunk and had taken some mushrooms. I saw her after the concert and we split from a party and went back to my place. I don't remember everything she was saying but she was totally testing me.

She hit on a couple things that bothered me, primarily around drinking and unhappiness, as well as the size of my bed and that I needed to clip my dogs toenails.

For whatever reason, I freaked and kicked her out at about 4am. She told me to never contact her again.

Moral of the story: mushrooms, booze and tests are a destructive combination.

Anonymous's picture

lol good one


lol good one

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