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Things That Lead to an Emotional Affair

emotional affairIn terms of relationships, a topic that is often discussed is cheating. Men talk about the consequences of cheating, times that they were involved with a girl who was cheating on her boyfriend or husband, or methods of preventing their girl from cheating to begin with.

But a potential relationship-destroying force that is often overlooked in the rhetoric of men is the emotional affair.

Emotional affairs can be just as detrimental to your happiness and stability in a relationship as sexual ones can be.

So today I’m going to talk about the events and signs that often lead to an emotional affair and what you can do as a man to try to ensure that you don’t end up in this position.

Colt WilliamsAbout the Author: Colt Williams

Raised in the American Midwest, Colt Williams made a name for himself in dating with a style based on soulful poetic seductions and playful dance floor antics. His style is all about inspiring girls and drawing them into one’s world. You can book phone coaching with him here, or get a copy of his guide to getting laid on Tinder, the product of months of study and experimentation by him on the medium.

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Anonymous's picture

So many good things on this blog - the cardinal rule is do not let go of yourself on a 100% basis - no matter how well things go.

Kinda like the live-like-you-were-dying philosophy with your woman.... keep that lifeboat of "that was great, but remember nothing lasts forever" handy for these situations; and remember with Cellphone/DatingSites/Tinder technology in girls' hands means EVERYONE is in this situation now and in the future (unless you're Amish).

Also I like the Russell Brand philosophy and have to keep remembering that constantly: "One is just a little too close to None"

Zac's picture

I see flaking happening in Asia as well. Up and coming.

It's the bitchAS!!!

:)

Zac

Finite's picture

Question for unprotected sex in say... a relationship. Let's say there there is no chance for any STD and such for the couple, but they have been doing unprotected sex, with absolutely no birth control. Just vaginal sex, nothing else. What are the chances of getting pregnant if they just did the pull-out method? What are the chances of getting pregnant if the guy ejaculates on the outer surface of the vagina? What are the chances of getting pregnant if like, the guy has semen seeping from yesterday's masturbation into today's vagina? What kind of methods can be used to reduce or even eliminate chances of getting pregnant from the practice of unprotected sex? If any, would be very handy and knowledgeable in future references :)

Zac's picture

The chances of getting a girl pregnant when she's fertile at maximum is only 30%. The accurate number is actually 20 to 25%, but i have research various reliable sources.

Methods to reduce conceive? Pretty much use condom, birth control or be measure and estimate her period cycle vigilantly.

Pretty much, you need to be smarter than your girl to calculate this number.

Odds of conceiving:

5 days before O- 0 Percent
4 days before O- 11 percent
3 days before O- 15 percent
2 days before O- 20 percent
1 day before O- 26 percent
Day of O- 15 percent
1 day after O- .09 percent
2 days after O- .05 percent
3 days after O- 0 percent

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qrlU2ysUoqg

Zac

Anon430's picture

I was in this exact situation and I didn't have a name for what was going on. It just didn't feel right. My case was she was already in an emotional affair before and had hidden it for months before I caught on. Maddening is the perfect term because they will deny it all day and you can't pin point it. At the beginning her emotions with me were still strong but was still split between him. It would eventually eat away at what we had.

Colt, Chase...what was your scenario of the break up that she remained emotionally attached. If Chase can write a deeper article on the topic it would be interesting to hear his view point. Because now I see this would be 50% or more of relationship problems today. They are playing with fire and everyone gets burned. Colt great article and keep them coming.

Dennis Menace's picture

Nice! thanks alot for sharing, learned alot!

Anonymous's picture

i think im in the same boot right now (again may i add). i got together with a very nice girl from abroad - she spent a weekend here initially then we decided she came for longer time. she was here for 2,5 weeks eventually.

it just doesnt feel right. while she was here i felt she was on the fence all the time once very sweet once rude. last friday all of a sudden after talking on the phone she told me she needed to go back to london for work - because it was very good money. i said ok, whatever what could i do. now after exactly 1 week of her leaving i just feel the whole story doesnt add up.

first it was just about a few days - then on monday she told me she was going to let me know in the evening when she could come back - probably end of the week. then 2 days ago she didnt know but she would let me know (leaving everything open). as of today she didnt even write for my text. shes probably a goner.

dont have illusions, these girls nowadays especially the beautiful ones are talking to tons of men all the time on whatsapp whether they are in a relationship or not. and yes probably they are sleeping with others discretely, meeting others discreetly and have all kinds of affairs all the time.

what i noticed is that the only way to really get a girl if she is way below your level. WAY below and she clings to you because she knows she cant get better. but maybe even then when somebody nice hits on her she does what her nature dictates. i begin to think that in the 21st century women are not good for relationships. maybe something very casual very open stuff but i wouldnt call it relationship at all.

Zach's picture

This article made my morning.

Just two weeks ago my relationship ended unexpectedly. I was overconfident with my relationship dispite the fact that my girlfriend probably spent more time talking with one of my friends via snap chat and email. I knew he was trying to break us up but being that I couldn't get breathing room from my girlfriend as it was, and he was extremely needy and pitiful on his own, I just never felt threatened. And it was pretty much a joke amongst my other friends. Over the next couple of days I noticed a significant emotional connection between the two of them and I have concluded that a relationship can't have someone else prioritized or it will likely fail. It's too bad that I couldn't have read this article sooner but in today's digital age I consider it a valuable lesson in further significant relationships.

Anonymous's picture

Damn I'm in this situation right now. My current girlfriend came from another country for school here. She was originally going to be here for a year, but now says she might stay. She was already in love with another guy before she came here. Since we got together she says she loves me and I feel like she is committed, but I also know she still loves the other guy. She never talks about him or mentions him to me, but I know they she still chats with him online.

Shes never even changed her Facebook profile pic of him and her together which I'm sure she looks at everyday. It's hard to communicate because her english isn't that good, and she isn't very open emotionally. She rarely shares her true thoughts and feelings. Somewhere down the line I may have to break things off with her. Either that or she will end up doing things behind my back.

Zach's picture

This article made my morning.

Just two weeks ago my relationship ended unexpectedly. I was overconfident with my relationship dispite the fact that my girlfriend probably spent more time talking with one of my friends via snap chat and email. I knew he was trying to break us up but being that I couldn't get breathing room from my girlfriend as it was, and he was extremely needy and pitiful on his own, I just never felt threatened. And it was pretty much a joke amongst my other friends. Over the next couple of days I noticed a significant emotional connection between the two of them and I have concluded that a relationship can't have someone else prioritized or it will likely fail. It's too bad that I couldn't have read this article sooner but in today's digital age I consider it a valuable lesson in further significant relationships.

Mike Jones's picture

Before getting married, I was an artist at this. I wasn't on Chase level, but I was damn good. I felt like I could get any woman in the world, no matter her situation (married, engaged, with boyfriend). I see now that my skills from that time, which have since eroded in marriage, were not on Chase levels and were intermediate at best, but the principles of which this site speaks are sound and true, as I can testify. The sense of true confidence despite your looks, money or surface situation. The knowledge that you KNOW you can get her and that she already wants you. The move fast, move now approach. No beating around the bush and over thinking. The start from the top mentality of going for the hottest woman in the room of hot women. Rejection fear non existent. I could go on and on, but these guys really dig deep and expose a lot of real gems that were hidden to me even while in my prime. My wife and I are on the outs and I'm first looking to get her back. If that fails, the rest of the hot women in the world are then fair game. I'm studying to get the skills back, and then some. Thanks Chase.

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