Sexuality Game, Part II: Word Wizardry


This is Part II of Drexel Scott’s series on sexuality game. You can read Part I here:

Sexuality Game: Making Her Wet with Words


Before I begin this article, I want to tell you guys about something absolutely fascinating I heard the other day. I was speaking with my coworker Brian, and he told me about this amazing book he was reading online. He was telling me that in the first paragraph, the author of the book wrote,

“As you continue to read, focus on the message and pay close attention to what I'm saying, you may… become aware of the stark contrast between the black letters and the white screen. As this contrast becomes more and more interesting, you may find yourself suddenly able to place your attention on your breathing. When you begin to pay attention to how you're breathing, notice the rise and fall of your chest as you continue to inhale and exhale. And as you notice your breath, you may begin to… feel a slight movement of your head.”

Whether you were able to notice what just happened and think about how I led you through that process, I want to make you aware of how Ericksonian language patterns work. There's a lot to them, and it can often be confusing at first. But if I were to ask you to… imagine yourself, a week from now, suddenly able to understand how they work, and looking back on this article as the beginning of that new understanding, how would it make you feel to know you had learned so much that you could begin to incorporate such patterns into the way you communicate?

weasel phrase

Let's take this chunk-by-chunk. It's the only way to begin to make sense of what can seem like a brand-new way to think about language.

The basic idea is this: you want to capture and lead the imagination of your audience.

In order to do so, as I mentioned in my article on NLP basics, you need to have a goal in mind. You need to know where you want to lead, and want to end up, so that you can take the other person there with you.

Since the goal of being able to capture and lead a person's imagination is to elicit an emotional state, you need to first choose the state you'd like them to be in.


Step 1: Choose a State

In the quoted paragraph at the top of this article, I wanted your close attention. My desired state for you was thus, one of focus.

Having chosen my desired outcome for you, my audience, I needed a way to get you there. Now sure, I could simply have said, “Pay attention! Focus!”

But when you command people directly, while it can certainly have an effect on some, it can also cause a resistance in others - particularly those who do not respond well to direct commands. In order to get my message across to as many of you as possible, I chose to use another tool in the language pattern arsenal.


Step 2: Create and Embed Commands Which Lead to That State

If you were to scroll back to that quoted paragraph, and take a close look at the opening sentence, you might three different commands ambiguously weaved into it: “Continue to read,” “focus on the message,” and “pay close attention.” Since I hammered you with them in quick succession, and they made contextual sense in the nonsense book that my nonexistent coworker Brian never read, I was able to get you to do what I wanted, and follow my lead, without ever letting you know what I was doing.

As that paragraph continued, I led you through several more commands… about noticing a contrast, about breathing, and that Hail Mary at the end about your head moving slightly. Once I had your attention and you were following my lead, having created a state of focus in you, I knew you would continue to follow my commands and I could continue leading you through that little demonstration.

When you create commands, begin them with a “command word” or a “command phrase.” Some examples:

  • Pay attention
  • Begin to
  • Notice
  • Become aware
  • Continue to
  • Create
  • Go
  • Start to
  • Feel

When you look back at that list, can you notice how commanding such words and phrases are? Quite direct… are they not? As I mentioned, these can build a high chance of resistance in your intended audience. Which is why, to soften them and lower the resistance of your audience, you need to use…


Step 3: Weasel Phrases Before the Commands

When you put one of these in front of a command, it softens the blow, so to speak, and allows the command to “slip into” the sentence without coming across as forceful.

Some examples:

  • As you
  • If you can
  • If I were to ask you to
  • It's not necessary to
  • If you were to
  • What's it like when you
  • Would you

So there's your formula thus far: knowing your desired outcome state, create commands that lead to it, front-loading them with a weasel phrase.

If I were to ask you to read this sentence twice, to look for weasel phrases and commands… you might do that right now, or maybe you'll finish this sentence first and then read it again.

Okay, I'll stop.

weasel phrase

At this point, you may find yourself able to have a better grasp on what language patterns are made of than you did before you read this article. And that's great! You may also be wondering, “What was up with Brian and that book he read? Why did you mention that stuff?”


Step 4: Quotes

Before I continue, I want you to think back to a time when you were young and really angry at your parents. I'm talking about really angry… maybe you didn't get what you wanted, or maybe they treated you totally unfairly. Either way, you may have been so furious that you just wanted to shout “Fuck You!” at them.

But you didn't, because you knew doing so might well get you in trouble. If you were a sneaky child, and wanted to curse at your parents and still get away with it, you might have said something like,

“Hey Mom and Dad! You won't believe what Bobby down the street just said. I was riding my bike past him, and he yelled… FUCK YOU!“

See what happened? You still cursed at them, but it “wasn't really you saying it.” You were quoting someone else (though you may have made it up at the time, as I did with the opening paragraph of this article). You “said it without saying it”; you were indirect and ambiguous… and yet your audience still heard the message loud and clear, in a way that preserved your plausible deniability.

That's the whole point of speaking in multilayered language! You get your message across while reserving the possible defense that you didn't really send it in the first place.

Here are some examples of quotes you can use:

  • Something another person said to you
  • Something an author wrote in a book
  • Something you saw on TV
  • Something that happened in a dream

Now by this point, some of you may be thinking about all these little language parts and tools and realize that a female friend of yours, or your mother, or a girlfriend, has done something like this to you in the past.

You're right! Women are absolute masters of indirect communication, and they use this stuff ALL THE TIME.

Have you ever had an experience, where a woman threw a bunch of words at you, which may or may not have made logical sense… but you still found yourself doing what she wanted you to do? And then afterwards, thought to yourself, “Wait a second… how did she get me to do that?”

Guys… this is how! They are experts at multilayered, plausible deniability language and effortlessly use the tools I've described to you here!

weasel phrase

So now that I've shared some of most important tools with you, so that you can begin to create your own language patterns based on this information, let's go through an example from start to finish. Let's say you want a woman to feel attracted to you… not only have you come to the right part of the Internet, but I'm also going to show you a way to create this feeling of attraction out of thin air that probably never occurred to you.

So we have our chosen state, right? Attraction. Since we've chosen the state of attraction, we'll need to describe what it's like, using quotes, weasel phrases, and embedded commands to create the state.

Let's start with a command. Feel. We want her to feel attraction for us, so we go with “feel attraction for me” as the command. Now, if you can imagine yourself saying to a woman, “Feel attraction for me!” If that image was ridiculous to you, well… I agree. That would never work, because that's not how emotions operate.

So let's add a weasel phrase, from my earlier list. Weasel Phrase + Embedded Command. Maybe that looks like, “If you were to feel attraction for me.” Can you notice both the weasel phrase and the embedded commands in that sentence?

Now we add our quote… let's say it was “a dream we had last night.” So we're going to create a character from that dream, who used the sentence fragment “if you were to feel attraction from me.”

Once that's all done, we'll need to describe the state as well, which is to say, we need to explain the various parts that make up an emotional state (visual, kinesthetic, auditory).

With all that in mind, we might create something like…

“You won't believe the kind of dream I had last night. Out of nowhere, this beautiful woman walked up to me, wearing a midnight-blue dress, with long, flowing blonde hair. She walked right over to where I was standing and asked me the oddest thing, in the most pleasantly soothing voice. She said, 'If you were to feel attracted to me, what's the first thing you'd notice beginning to change in your body? As you look at me and feel this attraction, you may notice that your breath is becoming more rapid… or perhaps you can feel the blood beginning to pump harder through your veins, as your vision narrows it's almost like the world around you becomes more and more blurred, as my face in front of you comes more into focus, until I'm all you can see in the picture. And as you continue to focus on my face and experience these exciting feelings, maybe you begin to get certain thoughts, images and feelings that just make you go… ..mmmmm.'”

Using some of the tools I've described in this article, I just typed that off the top of my head. I don't necessarily encourage you to use this pattern, so keep in mind it's just ONE EXAMPLE of what you COULD say. This is true for every pattern you've ever read… it's an EXAMPLE!

The real trick and test of your skill is to practice doing this so much that, like me, it becomes second-nature to you and you can just riff like this with almost anything. By the time you're done with something like this, anyone following your lead is going be tranced-out and staring at you as your commands sink deep into the unconscious, the seeds plant and practically water themselves.

I do encourage you to read this article - over and over again - because I understand that this is a TON of new information, and you've probably never thought about language quite like this before. As you re-read the article and begin to practice coming up with your own patterns, use this as a reference tool and for bonus points, post some examples in the comment section below for myself and others to comment on. Start small, and work your way up - just like learning the scales of music, or building the foundation of a house.

Notice to Bad Guys: this doesn't work the way some of you are probably thinking it might. The intention of using this type of language in seduction is to use ambiguity and linguistic skill in order to create desirable, wonderful feelings in women. They LOVE to feel good, just like we do, and this is just one option for making women feel great in a way that they will appreciate as especially skillful. This is NOT about getting people to do things they don't want to do, and again… doesn't work that way. It's not mind-control; it's leading the imagination of people who WANT and LOVE to have their imaginations stimulated in such a way.

And remember the most important rule of NLP: You go first. What you create in others, you experience in yourself. So make sure to be ethical, and you can continue to feel good while spreading that vibe to other people in a way that benefits everyone.

Have fun,

Drexel

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Franklin's picture

NLP


Hey Drexel,

I studied SS a while back and I got pretty good at doing exactly what you just described. I was even creating my own patterns, but the problem for me was getting live women in the field to pay attention to me long enough to spit this stuff out. I had voice tone, body language, and everything pretty good, but it was like the women couldn't focus long enough for me to finish. Sometimes they would interrupt and walk off and sometimes they appeared as if they didn't want to think enough to follow the process..

I think maybe the person you're talking to needs to already have somewhat of an interest in you before you start doing this stuff so that they will focus and go through the process with you. It was this one guy on the SS List one time that kept posting videos of him doing this with women and it was soooo cheesy because he would just walk up on women and dive right into the incredible connection pattern and sometimes the Discovery Channel one. He really didnt have his fundamentals down either though, but most SS users dont. Plus non needy energy is a must also.

And I also think that if you are going to do this type of stuff you need some serious fractionation going on maybe between this and a playful vibe with a shitload of kino. Plus you still have to be able to close. I remember I had a few women that became good friends with me using this stuff on them but i was still afraid to lead and close at the time so it didnt end up happening. The girls had boyfriends and I at the time thought they would never cheat because I put them on a moral pedestal.. lol

So my question to you would be what do you think would be the best way to transition into this type of language patterning on a female that you see walking randomly outside in the real world outside of your social circle that you are meeting for the first time?

Drexel Scott's picture

Speed Seduction, or

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Speed Seduction, or conversational hypnosis, is an absolutely massive topic. Language patterns are a very small part...I'd put them at the bottom of the hierarchy, actually.

At the top is energy and vibe. Some call it "state." As in, a language pattern performed from a place of desperation or neediness is not going to have the intended effect.

I may go more into the whole topic; this is just a brief introduction.

For them to work, you still need to open, still need to lead the interaction, and still need to have her attention. The best way to bring them up is "innocuously," in the middle of a conversation about something related.

As in, transition to them when you guys are talking about something like romance, dating, sex, attraction, men and women, etc.

There are ways to do them almost right off the bat, but it takes a lot of understanding and practice to get there. If you can recognize the signs that a girl is paying attention to you and slightly interested, you could launch into one quickly.

The best video I've seen which exemplifies this is if you go to Youtube and enter "Louis Theroux Hypnotic Dating." To my knowledge, it's the only in-field footage of Ross Jeffries showing off his skills on a woman he just met.

Anonymous's picture

Practice


Drexel, another great article!

The part about noticing the great contrast of the white background and black text was like the ice pick that broke through my imagination. I'd love to hear more stories of this sort that can entrance you. Being a writer myself, this type of writing is amazing for sweet poetic imagery that you can taste on your tongue right next to the saliva you feel.

Here's a practice run.

The deep ocean waters were beginning to sharpen. Like the clear space between your eyes and the world- areas of little salt knives began to take up space. The water that would normally caress your bare arms, as you swam, began to claw as if it was trying to hang on a little longer. Any movement or even no movement at all due to the currents, brings about slow, slicing, deep cat scratches.

Okay so my attempt to get you to feel these cat scratches while swimming through the ocean. I took a hard approach to this I know, but any analyzation of this would be appreciated.

Drexel Scott's picture

Hey, it is absolutely AWESOME

Author

Hey, it is absolutely AWESOME that you've decided to learn more and practice this type of languaging. I encourage you to look up some example patterns online to get more of the "rhythm," remembering to look for weasel phrases, commands, and how they're structured.

My feedback is two-fold:

1. Make sure you're trying to elicit a GOOD feeling, and
2. Remember that this is about FEELINGS. What you are trying to elicit is a very physical sensation. Unless the person is deeply hypnotized, this probably will not work. Instead, try to elicit an EMOTIONAL sensation.

Keep trying, you'll get better and better the more you practice!

Hector Castillo's picture

Let's see if I understand...


If you can indulge me in my quick preamble, I want to ensure I understand this evocative technique via references to other techniques.

I see this imagination seduction as a subset of deep diving and, if suggestive enough, a good segue into compliance. If you're asking a girl about her dreams and aspirations, how much she feels that you genuinely understand and relate to her desires determines the close warmth she feels with you, thus her attraction to you. Say I employ this linguistic method when asking her something like

"Why do you continue to work in accounting if you find it boring?"

In response she reveals her true dreams; to capitalize on her confession and embellish it, I might ask her to picture herself in that dream profession and tell her to express how she'd live her life then, whereas following a less imagination focused technique I would just inspire her to follow the dream path.

Allow me to be concrete:

Imagine that you just opened a beautiful girl in a bar, got her compliance to sit down alone with you, and now, 10 minutes into an intimate discussion, you ask the same question above, and she responds

"I don't know...it's safe and pays well..."

You - "Do you just want to live a secure life? You'll encounter less strife and adversity, but you might miss out on the chance to do something you can reflect on and smile at...listen, tell me what you would be doing right now if there were no limits."

Her - "Hmm...I'd like to open up my own beauty parlor...I know, it's silly, isn't it?"

You - "Alright, let us imagine this together. You walk into your beauty parlor. The smell, the decor, the employees, the happy customers...all of them are there because one day you decided to follow your dreams. You could choose to style someone's hair yourself, or chat with a customer while your employee takes excellent care of her, all the while you smile because you feel complete freedom - you've made it. Now, how does that sound compared to walking into your stuffy accounting firm every morning at 8 a.m.? I like the first option better, especially since I might get a free haircut ;)"

There's the deep dive and then after this, I'm curious about a more tentative application.

Let's suppose we continue our conversation and then I try the linguistic technique again, but this time to set up her thinking about us together, even more intimately than in the previous example.

Can I follow the question, "So, what do you think of me?"(I love asking this), with a "Imagine this..." but about me and her? I'm uncertain of how to approach this, but I feel like if executed properly, I could immediately follow the illustration with an invitation home or to "go for a walk" (something I also really like doing).
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Okay, so obviously this comment was multi-layered. The first layer draws in visitors to read and, hopefully, you, Drexel. I incorporated the phrases "If you can indulge me," "I want to ensure" (build relation with you by showing that I want to understand your article), "Say I...", "allow me to be concrete," and "imagine.."

I hope these phrases worked like sweet PUA nectar.

As for the second-layer, the story layer, I feel like the story itself, a hypothetical field-report, relates well to the visitors to this site, as they are familiar with the conversation reports.

And in the third layer, the specific conversation with the girl, I utilized challenges "do you just want to..." as well as an inspirational phrase to lead into the imagination linguistics "you might miss out on..." For exploring her dream with her I used "let us" to solidify her and I together in this dream; I used scents (since women are more receptive to olfaction), decor (fashion), employees (her control), and happy customers (her affect on people), all because she "decided to follow her dreams" (inspiration, initiative, and a reference to my earlier suggestion that she should do something she could reflect on with joy). I juxtapose the freedom of this dream to the boring and sterile life as an accountant, and then for fun measure, I lighten the seriousness of the illustration by joking that I'd get something out of it (but also I put myself in her dreams).

Thoughts?

Anonymous's picture

All I can say is: "this


All I can say is: "this article and addition to your comment just made me feel high. Like I smoked pot or something." It's incredible what GC is coming up with these days.

Thanks guys.

Drexel Scott's picture

What would it be like to

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What would it be like to imagine yourself, 6 months or maybe a year from now, feeling completely fulfilled by the most incredible man you've ever met (self-point), looking back on today as the beginning of an incredible ride?

You've typed great stuff, and I love how you elicited her values, then utilized them in your languaging process. That is exactly how this works. Never do more work than you have to (law of least effort), so if there's something important to them, and you figure it out by asking questions, using their responses is the fastest and more effective way to move forward.

Also, helping someone imagine a successful future for themselves is, in my opinion, the single best way to motivate someone to take action towards that future.

I hope that helps!

Bolt's picture

Quickly Improving Vocabulary


Great article series, my question is how to improve your vocabulary and how to paint pictures with your words. What I've done in the past was just read books and would look up the words that were unfamiliar to me. However, the way you describe things in your articles are almost poetic. I know women love this and I want to know how to quickly improve my vocabulary in a way that is almost poetic as well. Any tips are greatly appreciated.

Drexel Scott's picture

Hey Bolt! That is literally

Author

Hey Bolt! That is literally exactly what I did when I was younger in order to improve my vocabulary; I never read a book without a dictionary nearby.

In order to take it to the next level, I encourage you to start paying attention to more detail. Of everything, all around you. When you train your mind to focus on smells, sights, sounds, feelings and sensations, you will begin to think of things in terms of their various parts, which will then come out in the way you speak and type!

Adverbs are highly important as well for describing things.

For example:

1. Normal way--"I have a blanket."

2. With adverbs--"I have the most incredible blanket."

3. With adverbs and sensory detail--"I have the most incredible blanket...it fits my body perfectly, falling exactly where it should, with a texture that makes my skin feel completely relaxed and alive whenever it brushes past."

Details!

Wes's picture

Interesting


Drexel, this was so interesting to read while high. I was like: "what is this guy doing to me?!"
This is amazing what you have shown us.

Pablo's picture

Haha awesome


Awesome article, I really was amazed that your commando effected me while reading. Can't imagine the effect of this with body language and voice tonality.

Would you give me feel back on this practice situation?

Imagine I were to see someone that is feeling sad because he/she feels stuck in his life. Would the process be like this:
I had a dream last night, if you were to listen to me I think it would help you with your problem. It was a really intense dream. Imagine walking through a forest, leave falling slowly from the trees. When you look at the trees you notice that it's full of birds, all just sitting there. "Even though they could fly any where in the world they choose to just sit there on a stupid tree" I was thinking in my dream. Then I suddenly woke up and asked myself the same thing.

Just wrote this real quick but what do you think? In the beginning I tried to tap into the persons imagination and then I wanted to inspire them to travel the world. To let them realise they are the birds.

Really nice article and thanks!

Sincerely,
Pablo

Ryan's picture

Is This for Real


So this stuff actually works?

If women are masters at this aren't they going to know what you are doing?

As a guy it's difficult for me to think this actually works. I think this only works when someone is submissive to you.

Where did you learn this stuff? Do you have any recommended books/resources you're willing to share?

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