Book Excerpts: Tips for Texting Girls

texting tipsThere's a lot of information out there that proposes to teach you how to text a girl, but the great majority of it falls flat. Guys post transcripts that don't measure up; or, tout as effective those conversational styles that produce more reactions than results. Thus, you go searching for texting tips but end up with nothing all that useable.

If you've read the advice on texting women you'll find on this site, you know it's both a lot simpler than what you'll find elsewhere... and a lot more focused on generating results for your dating life. We're a lot less concerned with making women like you than we are with making women actually get together with you.

Hence, these tips for texting and this selection from my eBook How to Make Girls Chase: Every Tactic and Technique You Need to Get the Girl(s) of Your Dreams, focused on reviewing the most important things you'll need to know to be truly effective in your text conversations with women.

Here are the general rules you’ll want to follow for texting:

  • Keep texts short. Particularly for text messaging beginners, there is a great temptation to write long, detailed texts. Avoid this temptation as long texts are bad texts. Keep in mind the Law of Least Effort – your communication should be roughly the same length as what she is giving you in return, and ideally will be slightly shorter. She should be investing more time and effort than you if you are to set the frame that she is chasing after you.
  • Avoid questions as first texts – especially boring questions. “How’s your day going?” “Hey Annie, what’s up with you?” “Feel like doing something today?” These are all examples of some of the worst texts you could possible send to start a text conversation. Don’t send these! Avoid anything similar to them, for that matter. They are weak, boring text questions that are bad for three reasons. The first reason is that they imply the sender has nothing better to do than thinking about the receiver and texting her (his life must be uneventful – and she also knows she has him now, too). The second is if the question goes unanswered, it’s negative precedent for investment, and the third being that it communicates the sender has nothing better to say than, “What’s up with you?” (i.e., no communication skills). Putting a little care into your texts will communicate positively to your recipients.
  • Keep messages fun. Texting isn’t supposed to be serious. Either talk about fun, cool, interesting things going on with you, or tease your girl a little bit. She should enjoy getting texts from you and look forward to it – it should be a high point of her day. But, do not make them over the top fun or silly – you’re not trying to entertain, you’re trying to build a little rapport and set up a date.
  • Keep your eye on the ball. The ball, in this case, being the date you’ll set up with her. You should have a direction you’re moving with your text messages – forward, towards a date. If you’re texting aimlessly or having long text message conversations, you’re doing it wrong – and moving too slow. And remember what happens with girls you move too slow with – they auto-reject. If you take too long texting or spend too much time beating the bush, you’ll lose girls. Get to the point quickly.

Texting needn't be some exercise of frustration and futility, trying desperately to figure out what to text girls and struggling to find the perfect thing to say to get the result you want. If you use these simple texting tips to get your text game in gear, you'll be getting a lot more success with texting in the blink of an eye.

And if you're ready to start texting girls and getting dates, you'll want to grab a copy of my eBook. In it, I put together an unbelievably comprehensive, 406-page how-to guidebook on picking up and getting together with girls. I break the process down step-by-step into the most minute details so you understand everything, and then I sum it all back up again in an easy-to-remember, easy-to-follow and dead simple to use process to get you getting wild success with the girls of your dreams today. If you haven't picked up your copy yet, you owe it to yourself to go here and download it right now:

Speak with you again soon.


Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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Anonymous's picture

So there's this girl right, we've been on a couple dates and never really became intimate. We've know each other for over 9 years and she literally could be the one.
I know that your into bedding girls as fast as you can, but she is at a point right now where doing that would destroy our relationship, and that would basically ruin her life. So that can wait for awhile.

The main reason why I wanted to post this was to say how impressed I way by all these columns. I had a falling out with this girl about 5 days ago and kinda messed things up, her attraction level had already been falling and I thought I buried it completely. But by following your advice and not talking to her at all (which I had foolishly been doing almost every day) she has just texted me wanting attention and called me twice both of which I ignored.

I can see that your on to something with all this, but I'm not sure what I should do now.

Thanks for the help

Tony Jamie's picture

hey! Its really amaizing and it really work,still on working to me,how to text a woman n she is in to me thanks alot.She's in good to me and honnoring.Thanks Chase Amante.But what do i do next?

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