Book Excerpts: The Direct Opener


direct openerHow do you say "hi" to a new woman?

One of the most tried and true of the PUA openers around is the direct opener. Direct, or "genuine interest" as it's also called, centers around, well, directly stating your genuine interest in a woman.

For instance, you think she looks breathtaking in the flowing, summery dress... you tell her.

Of course, it helps if you have a standard form you can rely on to place your direct opener in so you have a rough idea what you're going to say everytime you use it. This helps you crowd out anxiety and be able to slide right into opening a new woman pretty much on demand. All you've got to be able to do is say what you already know how to say.

This excerpt from my eBook How to Make Girls Chase: Every Tactic and Technique You Need to Get the Girl(s) of Your Dreams is going to take you straight into the heart of communicating genuine interest in women with a direct opener and give you the basics you'll want to follow... as well as the mindset that comes with.

Some ground rules for genuine interest are as follows:

  • Ground your opener. Begin with something to ground your opening statement, such as, “I saw you walking here, and I just had to come tell you that…” or, “You know, I saw you sitting here, and I had to come and say that…”
  • Compliment her on something genuinely. If she has nice hair, compliment her on her hair. If she has an exquisite sense of style, compliment her on that. If her walk is absolutely killer – tell her. Whatever it is, make sure it’s genuine.
  • Use interesting words. A tip that’s also good for improving the attractiveness of your conversation in general, “use interesting words” is a piece of advice that’s particularly of vital importance to a genuine interest opener. Telling a woman her hair looks nice has got nothing on telling her she has striking features or gorgeous hair.
  • Follow up your opener with an introduction. After you’ve given a girl a great compliment, even if she likes you right off the bat she may not know what to say. Rather than put her in the position of awkwardly fishing for words, or blurting out a clumsy “thank you,” offer your name instead.

Above all, remember that the object of your opener is to make her feel special. Every woman wants to feel admired and appreciated for something unique and special about her. Your goal with genuine interest is to make her feel that way.

The direct opener is really about letting a woman know you like her right away, right off the bat, and making no quibbles or bones about it. You exude confidence when you use this means of introducing yourself, but even more than that, you take a "devil may care" approach that women absolutely love in men. Sure, she may turn you down... but hey, that's no big deal. The far worse thing would be for you to never make your interest clear and sit on your hands forever, and that's not you, you're telling her.

Direct openers work best during the daytime and in situations where you clearly and unavoidably are talking to a woman because you're interested and there's no social context readily available... but the work great by night too, even in the most deafening, pulse-pounding nightclubs or alcohol-infused taverns.

While you might be a little afraid to give this one a try at first, you'll soon find it's one of the most versatile openers at your disposal, and the one that gets you the strongest positive beginnings with women.

If you've made up your mind to start using this one and get to bringing new women into your life, you'll want to grab a copy of my eBook. In it, I put together an unbelievably comprehensive, 406-page how-to guidebook on picking up and getting together with girls. I break the process down step-by-step into the most minute details so you understand everything, and then I sum it all back up again in an easy-to-remember, easy-to-follow and dead simple to use process to get you getting wild success with the girls of your dreams today. If you haven't picked up your copy yet, you owe it to yourself to go here and download it right now:

See you next time.

Chase Amante

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Comments

Big Phil's picture

Boring conversations


Hi Chase,
Man your site seriously kicks arse. Its insightful without being condescending and has really helped me understand alot of behavioural patterns in women.
My problem is with interest in topics of conversation. Have you ever encountered a beautiful woman, approach her successfully, she engages well but you found she was absolutely inept/boring to talk to? Is it a defensive thing,not really interested or something else. (BTW-Ive managed to still bed 2 of every 5 of the said scenarios)

Anonymous's picture

Big Phil - The greatest


Big Phil -

The greatest likelihood is that she IS inept and boring to talk to. If they're especially stunning, they've never had to work at interpersonal skills. People just treat them like celebrities. All good until she gets into her 30s and the looks begin to fade.

Anonymous's picture

Hello Chase, I notice you


Hello Chase,
I notice you most of the time engage the conversation with something like, "I had to tell you you look gorgeous", "I was just stalking you and" etcetera. Don't you feel sometimes it sounds a bit unspontaneous or fake? Could you think of any other ways to 'ground the opener' or do you just not care about it since most people will quickly forget what you said to them?

Blabla's picture

I feel the same


Let's hope Chase see your question, I have been using this kind of opener many times during the last year and I don't feel it spontaneus and genuine anymore (maybe with just 10% of the girls I met) I must really find the girl gorgeus AND unique to feel authentic with it.

Anonymous's picture

Hi, I had a question on your


Hi,

I had a question on your direct opener and I would be grateful if you could answer this for me please.

A friend of mine went up to a girl and told her " I find you very pretty, would you like to have a cup of coffee with me ?"

This shows the guys interest in her quite blatantly. Its a direct opener.

She turned him down....

What did he do wrong ?

Anonymous's picture

What did he do


What did he do wrong?

Nothing. She wasn't into him.

Welcome to the real world.

Anonymous's picture

He asked for her


He asked for her "permission". That's not attractive.

Witcher's picture

After thedirect opener


I very like it after test.
The best thing , it delete any anxiety , cause know everything is clear about you and her.
But how to make her chase you after that? You make the opener and state your interest !
Its a little paradoxale!

Anonymous's picture

Question about Direct Opener


Hi Chase, I just wanted to say, even though I'm not entirely sure I agree with ALL your material, its still amazing, and it definitely puts a different perspective on things.

Anyways, my question for this article is: Won't direct openers sometimes come off too strong? Especially if they come out of nowhere (pre-openers might help a little bit, but it still doesn't feel like its enough). Cause a lot of women say that something like this would be a bit flustering. And frankly, if I put myself in their shoes, it kinda makes sense. Some guy just walking up and declaring his interest to me would leave me thinking "Ok great, but wtf is my response to that?" I feel like this would especially be a problem in the daytime (when women don't expect to be approached in the first place!)

In your article, you touch on that a little bit by saying :

"Rather than put her in the position of awkwardly fishing for words, or blurting out a clumsy “thank you,” offer your name instead."

I don't see how this addresses the problem though. I mean, if I'm a women, and some guy comes up to me and pronounces that he thinks I'm really cute or w/e, I'm gonna be focusing on that, and not so much on his name.

Thoughts? Feel free to reply even if you're not Chase.

Troy's picture

Re: Question About Direct Opener


Hey Anon,

I thought I would jump in here and help out. I have thought about using the direct opener before and how it might creep out some women.

Honestly, I'm not going to recommend you do anything I have no experience doing myself to success. But...

What I would recommend you do is join the forums if you aren't already apart of it. And look up the answer there. I saw a post where someone asked the same question. Or create a new post and ask your question.

Also, Chase doesn't reply a whole lot to posts, he has Just Dave doing that work. And no one on girls chase replies to comments on way back posts like this one. So next thing would be to comment on recent posts if you want a reply that won't take forever.

Ultimately, just experiment with the direct opener and see what results you get. There are other types of openers too you could try:

Situational Openers
Playful Openers
" Are You Single" Opener by Ricardus
Indirect Direct

Check around the site and you will find articles to them.

Troy

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