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Book Excerpts: The Direct Opener

direct openerHow do you say "hi" to a new woman?

One of the most tried and true of the PUA openers around is the direct opener. Direct, or "genuine interest" as it's also called, centers around, well, directly stating your genuine interest in a woman.

For instance, you think she looks breathtaking in the flowing, summery dress... you tell her.

Of course, it helps if you have a standard form you can rely on to place your direct opener in so you have a rough idea what you're going to say everytime you use it. This helps you crowd out anxiety and be able to slide right into opening a new woman pretty much on demand. All you've got to be able to do is say what you already know how to say.

This excerpt from my eBook How to Make Girls Chase: Every Tactic and Technique You Need to Get the Girl(s) of Your Dreams is going to take you straight into the heart of communicating genuine interest in women with a direct opener and give you the basics you'll want to follow... as well as the mindset that comes with.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.

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Big Phil's picture

Hi Chase,
Man your site seriously kicks arse. Its insightful without being condescending and has really helped me understand alot of behavioural patterns in women.
My problem is with interest in topics of conversation. Have you ever encountered a beautiful woman, approach her successfully, she engages well but you found she was absolutely inept/boring to talk to? Is it a defensive thing,not really interested or something else. (BTW-Ive managed to still bed 2 of every 5 of the said scenarios)

Anonymous's picture

Big Phil -

The greatest likelihood is that she IS inept and boring to talk to. If they're especially stunning, they've never had to work at interpersonal skills. People just treat them like celebrities. All good until she gets into her 30s and the looks begin to fade.

Anonymous's picture

Hello Chase,
I notice you most of the time engage the conversation with something like, "I had to tell you you look gorgeous", "I was just stalking you and" etcetera. Don't you feel sometimes it sounds a bit unspontaneous or fake? Could you think of any other ways to 'ground the opener' or do you just not care about it since most people will quickly forget what you said to them?

Blabla's picture

Let's hope Chase see your question, I have been using this kind of opener many times during the last year and I don't feel it spontaneus and genuine anymore (maybe with just 10% of the girls I met) I must really find the girl gorgeus AND unique to feel authentic with it.

Anonymous's picture

Hi,

I had a question on your direct opener and I would be grateful if you could answer this for me please.

A friend of mine went up to a girl and told her " I find you very pretty, would you like to have a cup of coffee with me ?"

This shows the guys interest in her quite blatantly. Its a direct opener.

She turned him down....

What did he do wrong ?

Anonymous's picture

What did he do wrong?

Nothing. She wasn't into him.

Welcome to the real world.

Anonymous's picture

He asked for her "permission". That's not attractive.

Lancelot's picture

Guys, it's a "Book Excerpt" & just part of the topic on direct openers in Chase's eBook. If you don't understand read his eBook, 400+ pages.

Re. Anon.
Tell ur mate never to tell a girl she is just pretty, hot, beautiful. It's superficial, she was born that way, with a good pair of genes (her parents), luck, whatever. She's heard it all before by 100's of blokes.

Do something different, talk about her style, poise, her walk, her choice of clothes, how her shoes match her bag & belt, her intelligence, her personality, how she's kind to some old bum in the street. She wasn't born with those, she had to create them, learn from others, use her brains. That's what she wants to hear. How she has used her knowhow to improve herself beyond her looks which will fade with age. Her style, poise, personality, kindness won't fade it will get better, especially if u feel her.

Re. Others.
Chase said u need to be genuine. If u tell an ordinary girl she's pretty she'll know it's crap. Also note Chase is a smooth operator, he's been working on his game for more than 10yrs, I mean he was nutting it out from early high school.

You need to work on the fundamentals as well, read his other articles, blogs etc. There is more than enough info. to learn how to lance a lot!

Lancelot

PS.
Chase this website is amazing the information, intuitiveness & understanding is phenomenal. I have learnt so much. As an older dude I'm dating a girl 16yrs younger & ready to move on after reading ur articles on how to get younger girls, multiple go's etc. U should be nominated for a Nobel.

PPS.
I have no connection to ChaseGirls.com whatsoever. :-)

Witcher's picture

I very like it after test.
The best thing , it delete any anxiety , cause know everything is clear about you and her.
But how to make her chase you after that? You make the opener and state your interest !
Its a little paradoxale!

Anonymous's picture

Hi Chase, I just wanted to say, even though I'm not entirely sure I agree with ALL your material, its still amazing, and it definitely puts a different perspective on things.

Anyways, my question for this article is: Won't direct openers sometimes come off too strong? Especially if they come out of nowhere (pre-openers might help a little bit, but it still doesn't feel like its enough). Cause a lot of women say that something like this would be a bit flustering. And frankly, if I put myself in their shoes, it kinda makes sense. Some guy just walking up and declaring his interest to me would leave me thinking "Ok great, but wtf is my response to that?" I feel like this would especially be a problem in the daytime (when women don't expect to be approached in the first place!)

In your article, you touch on that a little bit by saying :

"Rather than put her in the position of awkwardly fishing for words, or blurting out a clumsy “thank you,” offer your name instead."

I don't see how this addresses the problem though. I mean, if I'm a women, and some guy comes up to me and pronounces that he thinks I'm really cute or w/e, I'm gonna be focusing on that, and not so much on his name.

Thoughts? Feel free to reply even if you're not Chase.

Troy's picture

Hey Anon,

I thought I would jump in here and help out. I have thought about using the direct opener before and how it might creep out some women.

Honestly, I'm not going to recommend you do anything I have no experience doing myself to success. But...

What I would recommend you do is join the forums if you aren't already apart of it. And look up the answer there. I saw a post where someone asked the same question. Or create a new post and ask your question.

Also, Chase doesn't reply a whole lot to posts, he has Just Dave doing that work. And no one on girls chase replies to comments on way back posts like this one. So next thing would be to comment on recent posts if you want a reply that won't take forever.

Ultimately, just experiment with the direct opener and see what results you get. There are other types of openers too you could try:

Situational Openers
Playful Openers
" Are You Single" Opener by Ricardus
Indirect Direct

Check around the site and you will find articles to them.

Troy

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