Book Excerpts: The Direct Opener
How do you say "hi" to a new woman?
One of the most tried and true of the PUA openers around is the direct opener. Direct, or "genuine interest" as it's also called, centers around, well, directly stating your genuine interest in a woman.
For instance, you think she looks breathtaking in the flowing, summery dress... you tell her.
Of course, it helps if you have a standard form you can rely on to place your direct opener in so you have a rough idea what you're going to say everytime you use it. This helps you crowd out anxiety and be able to slide right into opening a new woman pretty much on demand. All you've got to be able to do is say what you already know how to say.
This excerpt from my eBook How to Make Girls Chase: Every Tactic and Technique You Need to Get the Girl(s) of Your Dreams is going to take you straight into the heart of communicating genuine interest in women with a direct opener and give you the basics you'll want to follow... as well as the mindset that comes with.
“Some ground rules for genuine interest are as follows:
- Ground your opener. Begin with something to ground your opening statement, such as, “I saw you walking here, and I just had to come tell you that…” or, “You know, I saw you sitting here, and I had to come and say that…”
- Compliment her on something genuinely. If she has nice hair, compliment her on her hair. If she has an exquisite sense of style, compliment her on that. If her walk is absolutely killer – tell her. Whatever it is, make sure it’s genuine.
- Use interesting words. A tip that’s also good for improving the attractiveness of your conversation in general, “use interesting words” is a piece of advice that’s particularly of vital importance to a genuine interest opener. Telling a woman her hair looks nice has got nothing on telling her she has striking features or gorgeous hair.
- Follow up your opener with an introduction. After you’ve given a girl a great compliment, even if she likes you right off the bat she may not know what to say. Rather than put her in the position of awkwardly fishing for words, or blurting out a clumsy “thank you,” offer your name instead.
Above all, remember that the object of your opener is to make her feel special. Every woman wants to feel admired and appreciated for something unique and special about her. Your goal with genuine interest is to make her feel that way.”
The direct opener is really about letting a woman know you like her right away, right off the bat, and making no quibbles or bones about it. You exude confidence when you use this means of introducing yourself, but even more than that, you take a "devil may care" approach that women absolutely love in men. Sure, she may turn you down... but hey, that's no big deal. The far worse thing would be for you to never make your interest clear and sit on your hands forever, and that's not you, you're telling her.
Direct openers work best during the daytime and in situations where you clearly and unavoidably are talking to a woman because you're interested and there's no social context readily available... but the work great by night too, even in the most deafening, pulse-pounding nightclubs or alcohol-infused taverns.
While you might be a little afraid to give this one a try at first, you'll soon find it's one of the most versatile openers at your disposal, and the one that gets you the strongest positive beginnings with women.
If you've made up your mind to start using this one and get to bringing new women into your life, you'll want to grab a copy of my eBook. In it, I put together an unbelievably comprehensive, 406-page how-to guidebook on picking up and getting together with girls. I break the process down step-by-step into the most minute details so you understand everything, and then I sum it all back up again in an easy-to-remember, easy-to-follow and dead simple to use process to get you getting wild success with the girls of your dreams today. If you haven't picked up your copy yet, you owe it to yourself to go here and download it right now:
See you next time.