Book Excerpts: Short and Sweet Tips for Your PUA Openers

When you're new to meeting women and you're just getting started, finding the right PUA openers is consistently the number one thing on your mind. How do you open a girl the right way? Learning opening can feel like this big, daunting challenge.

Today's excerpt on getting down the basics of PUA openers that you might not know comes from my eBook How to Make Girls Chase: Every Tactic and Technique You Need to Get the Girl(s) of Your Dreams. Opening's easy to do, you'll have experienced guys tell you, again and again - you can use anything to open with... so long as you say it right, that is. Problem is, when you're new, you don't really know how to say it right. So, you end up making mistakes, and women don't open well.

So what's the secret to opening well? It mostly revolves around a few key things you do to set the opener up right - so you're coming in warmly welcomed by women, instead of being greeted with suspicion or surprise as a man who plunges in awkwardly is wont to be greeted with. Here's what you need to know to get started...

“A few basics on opening techniques:

  •  Avoid full frontal opening. When a man opens a woman facing directly at her, he comes on very strong, and he can seem overwhelming. Instead, open somewhat across your body or over your shoulder, only turning to face her more fully as she earns your attention. The one time that opening from the front can more or less be considered standard and acceptable is when you are doing street stops – approaching women walking the opposite direction of you by walking straight into their path facing them, holding your hands up, and telling them, “Stop.” Even then, it’s typically more effective to let them pass you, then turn around and catch up to them and open from the side.

  •  Avoid opening from the back. Just as opening from the front can seem overly pushy or forward, opening from the back can be startling. Ever have someone tap you on the back, or worse, suddenly start speaking to you from behind without you knowing who they were? It’s unnerving, and doesn’t make for a very pleasant – or socially savvy – introduction to a new potential lover. Seek to open from the side.

  •  Pre-open her. In other words, get her to look at you before you look at her. This can be done simply by coming into her proximity, but more commonly by first touching her lightly (before looking at her). When women look at you first, and you then look at them, they unconsciously feel as though you are responding to them checking you out. When you look at them first, they feel like the objects of desire, and also feel as if they are being stared and expected to react a certain way. The latter tends not to open as well as when you get them to look at you first. One common way of pre-opening a girl is to position yourself next to her, then lightly tap her on the arm with the backside of your hand, only fully turning your head to face her and locking eyes with her once her eyes are locked on yours.

  •  Drop the apologies. It’s usually never a good idea to say, “Sorry,” or, “Excuse me,” in general, but this is especially true when you’re opening – you don’t want to use these words or phrases. Stay away from apologizing for yourself like the plague – when a man apologizes first, he’s communicating to a woman that he feels like he’s interrupting whatever more important thing she was doing. And if he believes it, there’s a good chance she will, too. What could be more important for a woman than meeting a strong, confident, sexy man like you? The answer, of course, is “nothing.”

  •  Lock in as soon as possible. Locking in is getting into the position of being comfortable and “at home” with a girl or a group. For instance, if three people are talking, and one of them is leaning back against a wall with the other two facing him, the one leaning against the wall is locked in. If two people are speaking, and one is sitting on a stool while the other stands, the one who is seated is locked in. You can instantly lock in by walking up to a group of people and gently moving them to the side that you might move past them and lean against a wall or bar or other structure, or by telling a girl who is sitting down to get up for a second and then take her seat (you can smile and say, “I just stole your seat,” and then tell her, “I’ll give it back in a second, I just wanted to talk to you”).”

Like the more seasoned guys will tell you, opening's not hard. But it does take a little finesse. Just like you appreciate a musician or a dancer who starts his or her performance off with grace and charm far more than one who blunders clumsily into it, so too do women love and become enchanted by those men who open them gracefully and elegantly far more than the men who bumble their way into an opening. Learning the proper delivery for your PUA openers makes a world of difference in whether those openers work, whether they don't work, and whether they get women hooked into you the moment you introduce yourself.

And opening's just the start, of course. If you really want to take your results with women to a higher plane, you need to get a copy of my 406-page how-to guidebook on picking up and getting together with girls. I break the process down step-by-step into the most minute details so you understand everything, and then I sum it all back up again in an easy-to-remember, easy-to-follow and dead simple to use process to get you getting wild success with the girls of your dreams today. If you haven't picked up your copy yet, you owe it to yourself to go here and download it right now:

Talk to you soon.

Yours,
Chase Amante