After so many complicated and theoretical posts, I will now write a post that’s suitable for you all – even beginners. I will share very simple stuff that you can use right away. But keep in mind: just because something is simple doesn’t make it bad.
I will share in this post a bunch of tips on how to prepare for a good night out clubbing (this also goes for bars). When I say “good night out”, I am of course talking about having a flourishing night when it comes to picking up women. These are just some small tips that I have gathered from meeting women since I was 17.
None of the things I will share in this post will be hard to pull off. Again, it will all just be a grab bag of small tips that you can apply this next weekend (or tonight if you go out).
I will split this post into two sections. The first one being the preparations – what you can do before heading out, while the second will cover things that are valuable for when you actually are out there.
Keep in mind that it is almost impossible to cross every point off this checklist. So if there is advice you can’t follow the day (or night?) you are supposed to head out, do not panic. You can still have an awesome night. I rarely do all these things before I head out. But do your best on the preparations – they will increase the chances of you having a great night.
Feel Fresh and Healthy
Don’t go out if you haven’t slept the night before. 80% of the time I have done that, the night turns out bad. Get a decent night’s sleep before the day you are going out. Going out tired will affect your mood and is very unhealthy in the long run.
Also, do your best to eat healthy (or as healthy as possible) before heading out. This all will effect your level of energy and mood. Keep in mind that you are planning to be up all night (especially if you get laid) so you better have some energy.
Clean up your room/flat/apartment. Not only is this a smart thing to do but it will also make you more relaxed when you head out – there is something psychological about it. Also keep in mind that it will help you tremendously if you bring a girl over!
Also, do not have too many problems on your mind when you head out. Try to solve them before going out. Going out and worrying is not fun and can ruin your mood.
Do Something During the Day
Being active and actually doing something productive during the day before you go out can help a lot. Do something productive so that you can feel good about going out. Or even better, do something social so that you get some social momentum. If the weather is good, go outside. Sunlight will do wonders to your mood.
Shower, groom, and brush your teeth – obviously.
Dress up as nicely as possible, but keep in mind to follow the dress code of the venue you plan on visiting. If you don’t have any plans (and I usually don’t), dress up in something that is more universal (I did not say casual), but avoid wearing a suit and a shirt in an indie rock bar.
A friend of mine told me once that he usually dresses up stylish while adding certain details that make him stand out.
I could write a long post on fashion so I won’t go too much into detail, but here are my small tips for dressing up.
Black rather slim jeans are awesome when you go out at night!
Classy leather shoes (brown or black) are nice, but I prefer black Chelsea’s! Chelsea boots are awesome and they make you look really masculine.
Wear shirts, V-necks, or Scoop necks (I prefer the latter). They look great if you wear a cool dress jacket over them.
Use a cool jean shirt, leather jacket, or a cool dress jacket over the shirt/t-shirt
Simple classic leather belt. Must match the shoes!
Add accessories: a tie, discreet necklace, wrist watch, a scarf (I like using cool scarves), other jewellery (don’t overdo it).
Basically, the key in my opinion is to have some shocking elements in your clothing that make you stand out. I don’t recommend having more than two fancy elements in your clothing (excluding the accessories).
For example, you can use very fancy jeans with some crazy designs on them, but then wear a simple white/grey/black shirt and a classic dress jacket or a simple leather jacket. Or you can have a fancy dress jacket (my favorite) and have a white scoop-necked T-shirt under it and a pair of black jeans.
And of course, if I wear a fancy T-shirt or shirt, the rest of my outside is conservative. Ask me in the comment section if you want me to set up an outfit for you (with links from cheap online stores).
I highly recommend you wash your hair at least one hour before you style your hair. Let it dry naturally. This way you avoid what is typically referred to as “bad hair days”. Apply wax or clay (who uses gel, really?) only after the hair is dry, else your hair will end up being greasy. You will find good waxes from Goldwell (Roughman) and Fudge (Matte head). You can find them on eBay!
Start off by applying the hair product to the back your head, this way avoiding getting white chunks of wax on your forehead. To get a nice hairstyle, go see a hairdresser (a good one). I highly recommend you have shorter hair on the sides…. It makes you look masculine (The sides of my head are shaved!).
Use a bit of good hairspray to finish. This way your haircut will last all night long. Redken makes good hairsprays.
Green tea is my magic bullet. I drink a cup of green tea before I head out. Why? Because it contains theanine, which gives you energy while making you relaxed in social situations – good for your mood, but it for some reason also reduces the chances of getting a hangover and makes you feel great the next day.
Try it out. I drink Sencha green tea. I like to buy leaves, but I have also had good experiences with cheaper options from, for example, Lipton.
Green tea has also a lot of other positive health benefits!
Do Something Fun Before Heading Out
Go see a friend and have a few drinks while chatting. It will increase your mood. Or even better, go to a social gathering with many friends and have some drinks. When you finally head out you will be in a good mood.
I also head to a smaller venue at first (like a bar) and start off my night there before I go out to clubs. Sometimes I might just stick to that bar or head to a bigger bar! This goes especially for nights when I don’t feel like dancing!
When You Are Out There
I will now cover different tips that you can follow once you have reached the bar/club area.
Let us start with the one million dollar question!
Should you drink when you head out? Well if you feel like drinking and it is a pleasurable experience for you, then it is up to you. However, if your plan is to meet women and get better with women, you should not drink (or drink a maximum of two glasses).
Yes, alcohol gives you the guts you need to chat up a girl. However, if you start approaching women while drunk (or tipsy) you start making it a habit. You want to learn how to chat up girls sober because hopefully that’s what you are most of the time. It is better to learn how to pick up women in the condition you are in the majority of the time.
Also, picking up women after having a few drinks can have a negative effect on your confidence. Believe me, I know a few cases. The problem is that you won’t feel as good about your success once you manage to seduce a women while drunk, because it is not the true “you” who managed to get success, it was the drunk you.
Keep in mind also that once drunk, you will be far less calibrated. Even I, who have been into this for a while, am not calibrated after having a few too many drinks, and believe me, I have lost a few good leads because of this.
Women don’t find drunk men attractive! That should be the best reason for not drinking while out.
Pick The Right Venues
Most important of all, go to venue you are comfortable in, that plays the music you like, and that has the right clientele for you. This will only affect your mood positively. I personally avoid venues with cover charges, as this allows me to switch venues easily if one of them sucks.
Don’t visit a venue just because of the hype. A venue that is logistically good is key. For example, is it easy to interact with women there? Can you talk to them? Is there a peaceful area? Is the dance floor nice? Are there enough girls there (obviously, avoid sausage-fests). Such things matter a lot!
When you enter a venue you should socialize as fast as you can in order to create some momentum. Talk to people, and not necessarily female targets. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a cool dude or an ugly girl, just talk. Befriend people. This will get you into the right mood.
Take baby steps. Start chatting with the bartender (if you get there early) and then talk to some guys and have a chat. Then talk to some girls who you are not really interested in. Then once you get into the mood, start picking up women. It’s like doing sports really – you need to warm up.
Fact is, you will most likely not pull a girl before 1-2 hours before closing time (this rule doesn’t apply to places like Germany where clubs never close). So all the time before that can be used to warm up.
Have Some Spare Cash
Finally… have some spare cash. Once you find a girl, you should extract her away into a cab as fast you can. It doesn’t matter who pays, just get it done.
It really sucks when none of you have cash for a cab. It also helps to have some cash if you need to buy booze on the way, but I highly recommend having some ready before you head out.
And please… don’t lose your keys!
In this post I have given you some small simple tips that you can apply when you plan to head out meeting women in clubs.
Start your night by feeling good. Eat healthy and get your beauty sleep. It helps doing something during the daytime prior to heading out too.
Take a shower and groom and dress as well as you can. Fix your hair and get ready to go.
Once you are out there, talk to people and get in the mood. Avoid drinking too much, as this can have detrimental effects on your game.
When you are ready, meet some hot chicks and bring one home. Enjoy.
Hope these tips have been helpful to you.