A lot of guys want to be the cool, suave guy. They want to be the stoic James Bond type who smoothly and aloofly maneuvers his way through an interaction and ends up with a girl in his bed.
But a lot of guys neglect the fact that even Bond had to go through a whole lot of BS to get to that point. And even though he’s suave, Bond is always having a great time when he’s seducing a woman.
The fact is: seduction should be fun. And the fact is: most people won’t be like James Bond. You have to have a very particular kind of personality to be that way. However, a lot of guys can learn how to have fun and greatly boost their results with women.
So let’s look at the importance of having fun in your interactions, and how it affects your success and satisfaction.
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Escalation
Hey Colt,
I know you're pretty young, so you are probably best qualified to answer this question. I'm in high school and recently met this cute virgin. What's the best way to escalate on a girl that has no sexual experience. I want this to be special for both of us, so I want to do this right. Any thoughts?
Enjoying the process while satisfying your desires
Colt,
How can you have fun with women, while also keeping an eye for satisfying your desires with her?
How can you trick your male, outcome-driven brain to take some distance from its deepest desire (i.e. sex)? Maybe the idea that "If I don't have sex with this girl, I will do have sex with another?"
Power of Story Telling
Colt,
Thanks for focusing on this. I had the same thoughts when my percentages went from bad to nonexistent. I also analyze every interaction I have with women. One thing was- I was thinking so much about process(doing the right things) that I came across as boring and chasing. I started thinking about how story telling is opposite of being analytical. If you do it right, you can hold their attention, increase their attraction, and reveal details about yourself without seeming too eager. You can be enthusiastic without using effort. Do I rehearse these stories? Absolutely! I write notes and rehearse the stories out loud to myself. The more I tell them the more fluid they get. I would suggest not starting by telling random stories. You have to probe and dovetail it into the flow of the evening. I have a loooong way to go, but by telling stories I've had the most fun with women.
Having Fun Is Paramount
Great article, Colt! I've been trying to learn and apply many of the things here for months. I've yet to go on a single date for nearly a year. But it's been challenging since I work two jobs but one has cut back to one weekend a month now. Hopefully, things will change now with more times on my hands, LOL!
Anyway, I think that what you've touched on here in this article about keeping a positive attitude and keeping it fun is paramount. Sometimes I think I get information overload here at Girls Chase--all great information though. And it's easy to lose sight of the bigger picture--having fun and keeping it interesting. Thanks again....
Confused
Ok first off to explain the situation I am in:
I am 20,at college,and I see this girl 4 days per week,we are in the same group of friends but we are not actually communicative to each other like with the rest of the group,reason being i approached her year ago and she rejected me(another story and doesnt bother me now,she had boyfriend,or lied or whatever but she kindly rejected me and i accepted it and we continued our so called "friendship",she is a bit shy when meeting strangers and probably not experienced with these things outside clubs and bars,which suprises me cause she is really beautiful)...but recently when new semester started i noticed i like her again and from time to time she caught me looking at her and i gave her a note with those looks that im kinda interested again,and to mention it seems she is acting different than first time when i approached her(directly it was out of blue and bad!!)...sometimes i sense in my pheripheral view her giving fast looks at me and looking away ,but when we are in the group of friends she tends not to look at me while i speak/she speaks aka aloof towards me(lots of ppl know about our little drama year ago and some of them tend to make jokes about us often when we are close to each other,kinda making it harder for me to focus on her)...and sometimes when there is 2-3 of us she tends to ask me something showing interest about it but conversation dies ubnormally...this was quite long shitt,but i wanna know is there a possibility already that she might be interested...i hope u will answer,anyways thanks :)
Fun with a woman is underrated
I often wonder how some stoic guys are able to pull good looking women. I've tried that before after reading articles about building attraction by being mysterious and keeping her guessing about your attraction towards her and it never once worked for me. In my experiences relaxing and having fun almost always builds a connection with a woman. I think it helps her to relax and enjoy your company. Once she feels this way she will allow her inner urges to surface. I've looked on the internet for articles about this and wad surprised to find little. Makes me question the credibility of these so called experts that are trying to teach men to be dominant, mysterious, alphas. Seems like a lot less work to just relax and enjoy the moment.
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